The downside of being cute...
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So, MFPers, I have an off-the-wall question for you...
As of late, my (27 y/o) SO has been wanting sex less and less. I finally confronted him about it, and he admitted that he thinks I am more adorable in a child-like way than sexy, and he finds it very difficult to be sexually attracted to me because of that.
I kind of get it. I have big eyes, I'm short, we act silly together, and I've gone down 2 pant sizes in the past 45 days to boot. But I've been very thin before and no one else has ever had a problem with it!
I've always had a... voracious sexual appetite, and he's always been more mellow about it, but darn it, one can only go so long!
Do I need to make an extreme effort to "act sexy", or does he need to accept that I'm young looking? Both?
Thank you for ANY input on this matter, I know it's kind of weird.
As of late, my (27 y/o) SO has been wanting sex less and less. I finally confronted him about it, and he admitted that he thinks I am more adorable in a child-like way than sexy, and he finds it very difficult to be sexually attracted to me because of that.
I kind of get it. I have big eyes, I'm short, we act silly together, and I've gone down 2 pant sizes in the past 45 days to boot. But I've been very thin before and no one else has ever had a problem with it!
I've always had a... voracious sexual appetite, and he's always been more mellow about it, but darn it, one can only go so long!
Do I need to make an extreme effort to "act sexy", or does he need to accept that I'm young looking? Both?
Thank you for ANY input on this matter, I know it's kind of weird.
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Hmm I assume you were the same way "not the lack of sex" but the cute and adorable to him when you first met him?
Maybe its just me but I think its a silly excuse.
but then again Im a chinchilla, what do i know about you crazy humans0 -
Well that's different.
I kind of doubt it has anything to do with the way you look, it's probably just that he has a low libido.
Oh and no such thing as "too cute for sex".0 -
I think it might just be a cop out. Get rid of him, work on you. You'll find someone better.0
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Last time I dated a guy and the sex got "less and less" he was cheating.0
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I have the same issue. My husband told me that I'm so cute that I could never be beautiful. It sucks really bad. The smaller I get, the "cuter" I get. SMH!
I wish I had some advice for you.0 -
you look like a young adult to me, maybe he's attracted to older women or he's full of s***0
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So, MFPers, I have an off-the-wall question for you...
I kind of get it. I have big eyes, I'm short, we act silly together, and I've gone down 2 pant sizes in the past 45 days to boot. But I've been very thin before and no one else has ever had a problem with it!
Well, on the good side, you don't have to worry about him showing up as a "guest" on "To Catch a Predator."
I guess I'd ask him what's sexy to him, listen and then decide if that's something you want to do.0 -
I really, really don't think he's cheating. I suggested we have sex with other people because I'm obviously not "sexy" and he's getting chubby anyways. He was very opposed to it, but, you never know.
He has a thing for MILFs. Never lied about that, but, bonus, I have a kid! So I guess that makes me a MIDLTF.....?0 -
So, MFPers, I have an off-the-wall question for you...
As of late, my (27 y/o) SO has been wanting sex less and less. I finally confronted him about it, and he admitted that he thinks I am more adorable in a child-like way than sexy, and he finds it very difficult to be sexually attracted to me because of that.
I kind of get it. I have big eyes, I'm short, we act silly together, and I've gone down 2 pant sizes in the past 45 days to boot. But I've been very thin before and no one else has ever had a problem with it!
I've always had a... voracious sexual appetite, and he's always been more mellow about it, but darn it, one can only go so long!
Do I need to make an extreme effort to "act sexy", or does he need to accept that I'm young looking? Both?
Thank you for ANY input on this matter, I know it's kind of weird.
Find your exit doors ... You're very mature looking for a 22 year old, so it is something else entirely and NOT what you're assuming, despite what he is saying/insinuating.0 -
you look like a young adult to me, maybe he's attracted to older women or he's full of s***0
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Sometimes when the newness of a relationship wears off, the rush of things slows down, and people deprioritize sex. Talk to him about it, tell him it's important, and ask him if there's anything that he's interested in that you guys could do together. Or put him on the spot and call him out for the laziest, lamest, most cowardly break-up attempt ever.0
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you look like a young adult to me, maybe he's attracted to older women or he's full of s***
im a male chinchilla, does that count?0 -
If this guy doesnt find you sexy then the relationship is doomed. Sure there are people that you just are not attracted to that way. Happens to both sexes. People can be better friends then lovers. Thats fine, but dont think there is anything wrong with you. Its his perception. I creeped your profile, saw the pictures and you dont look like a child to me. Far from it in fact....Hell I'd definitely take you home. Dont let his opinion or possible underlying issue affect you. Just carry on do your thing and dont let yourself get caught up trying to save this when some other guy could come along and think you're "sex pot, angel and gift from heaven" rolled into one. Everyone deserves better then that, and you're no exception.0
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I'll share my guy. He puts out enough for 2.0
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I'm pretty sure Cosmo has a quiz for this.0
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Get out now. If he isn't interested in sex he isn't interested in you. You aren't married to this guy you so go find someone who will be attracted to all of you.0
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That's not the downside of being cute. That's the downside of being with someone who's not that into you.
If you were a different body type when you met, that might be his preference and when you changed, his feelings toward you changed. Shallow? Maybe. But we all have a type. I have a preference in what I like in a woman *but I will go way outside of it when I have more than just a physical attraction to that woman*. If it's only physical it ain't gonna last long anyway.
There is a possibility that it has nothing to do with your body and it's just a normal part of a seasoned relationship.
Also: how the hell did I end up in this thread? Get me out of Chit Chat. I don't like it here0 -
I'm pretty sure Cosmo has a quiz for this.
I just took that same quiz.0 -
*kitten* *kitten*
Little blue pill0 -
I don't think there is much left in this relationship of yours. It sounds like you would be great friends though.
If he isn't attracted to you cause you are young looking than he will not be interested in you till you are 60.
Are you willing to wait that long?
Really though, trust me, there are PLENTY of guys that would find you insanely gorgeous.0
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