Help! my husband wont let me lift heavy weights

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  • laurie41565
    laurie41565 Posts: 64 Member
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    Your husband won't LET you??


    Think about that for a while.... then go lift something heavy.

    ^ THIS!! :happy:
  • Sieden76
    Sieden76 Posts: 127 Member
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    Sometimes just ignoring them and going and lifting anyway can be easier said than done. I would just say okay baby I won't lift heavy and then lift heavy when he's not looking. You have to pick your battles. My boyfriend is getting insecure now that I'm looking better because he's not working out. He tries to sabotage me by sending me to fast food places and stuff. I just ignore him lol. I do understand where you are coming from though, you want to avoid the fight if you can so it's not like he's holding you down and just won't let you, it's just that he would prefer that you did do it. I get it. I just say to agree and do it when he's not looking.
  • iLoveMyAR15
    iLoveMyAR15 Posts: 122 Member
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    Your husband won't LET you??


    Think about that for a while.... then go lift something heavy.

    THIS x1000
  • ehaus443
    ehaus443 Posts: 6 Member
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    I agree, just do it - you don't have to share all your workouts with him. If he wants to be weirdly opinionated, fine, but don't let it break your stride.
  • Danny_Boy13
    Danny_Boy13 Posts: 2,094 Member
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    I say just do it with or without his approval. Once you start sculpting your bod he will like it.
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
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    So what is he going to rip weights out of your hands? Why do so many women on here act like they have to ask for "hubby's permission" to even take a crap? It's annoying.
  • jhc7324
    jhc7324 Posts: 200 Member
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    Please tell me then, as I am intrigued, how exactly do you compromise on the fact that your wife doesn't want you to sleep with other women?

    Me personally? I don't.

    If I did however decide it was that big a deal to me then I would, at a minimum, discuss it with her first rather than do it behind her back. Honesty is the best policy and all that.
    The OPs husbands insecurities are a different problem and need to be resolved seperately. Insecurities does not give someone the right to stop their partner from getting healthy.

    You're right they don't. However neither do they give people the right to simply disregard what their partner is feeling, well, not unless you want a non functioning relationship that is...

    I think the biggest disconnect here is that the husband doesn't necessarily want the OP to not lift heavy, but that he doesn't want her to get "bulky". His main goal seems to be that he doesn't want you to look bulky, which is fine, that's an aesthetic thing and everyone will have different tastes.

    The problem is that he's associating that look with lifting heavy, which won't get 99% of women to that point. You can either have a bunch of discussions about how lifting heavy won't make you a musclebound female bodybuilder with no boobs (probably this is his concern), or you can just do it knowing the results won't be what he's actually afraid of.
  • Shereta5
    Shereta5 Posts: 13
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    Neck punch him.

    yeah that and tell this is what you can do when you lift heavy :laugh:
  • traceytwink
    traceytwink Posts: 538 Member
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    May be he's just worried you'll be stronger than him ????
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
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    Yeay lifted heavy for the first time ever after some youtube research it was amazing i love that feeling
  • c8linmarie
    c8linmarie Posts: 358 Member
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    This is where I would tell him to go pound sand.





    Then go to the gym and lift something heavy.




    Put it down.



    Repeat.
  • assblaster69
    assblaster69 Posts: 47 Member
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    Neck punch him.

    yeah that and tell this is what you can do when you lift heavy :laugh:

    I did this to my girlfriend and got in trouble
  • iggyboo93
    iggyboo93 Posts: 524 Member
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    When he says "Honey I don't want you lifting weights cuz you'll sprout a penis and bulging veins. Then you will taekwando my wimpy *kitten* against the wall."

    Go to the gym and lift something heavy.
  • Kayrb
    Kayrb Posts: 1
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    Muscle burns more fat so adding weights will help you increase your metabolism. Weight lifting also keeps your bones strong. My mom has been lifting weights since she was in her 50's and still lifts 3x a week at age 79 and she's a little thing BUT with a straight spine and in better health than she would have been without her muscle mass. The key is to lift lighter weights at a higher frequency - you won't bulk up but you will add muscle.
  • pcdoctor01
    pcdoctor01 Posts: 389 Member
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    Tell him lifting weights will give you more endurance to do other things longer.
  • JenniCali1000
    JenniCali1000 Posts: 646 Member
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    I'd focus on what I want and what I think looks good, not what my husband wants. Honestly, if he's that worried about it, he's got bigger issues. Put yourself first, lift whatever you want, and don't worry about!
  • IIISpartacusIII
    IIISpartacusIII Posts: 252 Member
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    Dueling pistols at sunrise! Winner take all!
  • run_way
    run_way Posts: 220
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    It sounds like he's being unreasonable. So do it right back and accuse him of wanting you to have to rely only on him when you get old and have no bone density.

    I'm actually not being serious at all, but it does sound fun ;) Your relationship is very important and simply finding ways to avoid a fight is not going to solve the issue. Even if you wanted to bulk up a little, isn't that your prerogative? Granted, I try to look good for my husband because I love him, but he would never tell me how I should look because he loves me.
  • emtbythesea
    emtbythesea Posts: 32 Member
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    I'm going through the same thing. He's afraid I'm going to get bulky like a dude. I'm NOT a fan of blowing off my spouse and doing whatever I like - I'd be mad if he did that to me. What I don't understand is wanting to stop something that isn't even happening yet. And what if I WANTED to be big and huge? Guess what, I do! I used to weigh 98 lbs and looked like death. Now I weigh 115 and actually have some tits and *kitten*. He doesn't even notice it. I get joy and confidence from lifting, but when I get home I feel embarrassed. He likes to refer to people who go to the gym as "meatheads" and makes jokes when I come home pumped about my workout. It's really weird too because he's a professional athlete...who is lucky and never has to set foot in a real gym. Advice before I quit?
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
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    I get joy and confidence from lifting, but when I get home I feel embarrassed. He likes to refer to people who go to the gym as "meatheads" and makes jokes when I come home pumped about my workout. It's really weird too because he's a professional athlete...who is lucky and never has to set foot in a real gym. Advice before I quit?

    Ask yourself some questions, and then decide if you should quit.

    -Does this make you happy?
    -Does this make you feel good about yourself?
    -Does this make you more healthy?
    -Does this negatively impact him or the family in any way that you should consider more important than the above two points? (finances, other?)

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