A fat girl who likes being fat?1?!?
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Is depression, self-loathing, hating your body, or suffering from a mental illness any "nicer?" That was my only point. Obviously I'm not saying that I WANT diabetes.
Mental health is an extremely important aspect of someone's overall health. And honestly, I'd take diabetes and self-esteem over perfect blood-work and self-loathing.Its not about being comfortable being fat...Its more about trying to stay alive and not die from diabetes or heart disease. You can feel good about yourself but saying your comfortable being obese and fine with it is frankly a fall back on being lazy.
Trolling or not this site is about motivation and losing or maintaining your fitness goals. Dropping by with "I'm fat and proud" is not something any of us care about. Find a site about being fat, exchange some recipes and sit back and wait to die prematurely. That is the site you're looking for.
I feel like you didn't actually even read my post. Weight loss and better fitness are actually not interchangeable terms, but that's not a can of worms I intend to open in this thread. But more importantly, frankly I'm offended that you think I'm trolling just because I'm happy being fat. As you said, this site is about motivation. And that's what I'm looking for. Motivation to help me feel better physically. If you don't intend to help with that, there probably wasn't a point in replying.
Obesity and poor health are strongly correlated, there is little chance that you will be able to maintain your obese status and not have serious health problems down the road. This is not about psychology or you being ok with yourself, it is about health. Anyone who advises you that it is ok (from a health perspective) to be obese is wrong and you should seek other counsel.
That last sentence,all of that could change when you get older.I didn't have high blood pressure until I was 38 and I was only 40 pounds overweight.In the long run,you CANNOT be obese and healthy.
That last sentence just proves she has no idea what she's taking about.. Don't understand how MFP allows people to post utter nonsense! Diabetis is really not nice, I suggest you go learn about it before writing about it loosely..!!
The OP IS fat and proud, that is evident... If she wants to incur all these health issues while she's nice and happy in her bubble then so be it, Mfp'ers can only try and advise you to ditch the fat so you stay healthy for longer... I really hope you turn it round.. Good Luck!0 -
No one said that you or anyone should not be happy being who you are. We all do what we do to be happy or we would not do it. People do a lot of stuff for happiness but when they "get there or get it" they find that they are STILL NOT happy...what does that tell you? Do you know how many "slim" and Healthy people who are Unhappy or suffer from NON-Clinical Depression...surely Millions, they want what you have. BUT many of them have something you either do not have or will not have when you reach middle age or your fifties...GOOD HEALTH!
I know this from Living Experience...when you have your GOOD HEALTH, EVERYTHING else IS Possible; and if you do NOT have good health. you spend the rest of your Life trying to attain it in order to "move on". You saying this NOW means NOTHING, it's just talk...some "Chubby Admirers" help boost you up for THEIR enjoyment, BUT when you hit 40, 45, 50 y.o. and can not walk a block because of the pain or need a walker to get from your kitchen to bathroom, that ain't cute and they go on to the next "Fat Girl". Talk THIS talk when you are 40+, and if you feel this way and still fat, I will be VERY surprised.0 -
i've decided I'm just going to sit back and let these random internet folk try to psychoanalyze me. Clearly my own commentary isn't needed, because I couldn't possibly know what I want!
Never fails to amaze me how upset people get to see a fat girl who doesn't hate her body.
No one is upset that you don't hate your body. Stop being so melodramatic.0 -
Your response is not okay either. You don't have to bully someone to support someone else. What she said wasn't nice, we all know that, but it doesn't make your reply any more okay.If YOU are happy with your weight, then that is fine. However, just know that if you make certain changes in diet or activity you may lose the body shape you prefer. I think that when you make good changes to your lifestyle and you do feel a good difference in your health, that is truly the greatest reward. It is possible to be Fit and fat. I don't know if you have regular physicals or not, but I am sure your doctor will let you know if your blood sugar looks like it's going into a bad area, or your blood pressure, or cholesterol. I hope you acheieve what ever it is you set out to do here. May the force be with you.
Thanks doll! The great thing about being so heavily into body acceptance is that no matter what my body looks like, I will ALWAYS adore it, because my body is a part of me and it deserves my love no matter what. I work in health, so I already know I have excellent blood sugar and blood pressure (which surprises many people, but what can you do?) I just want to work on my strength and my stamina and improve my energy level. Especially now that summer's coming!
Thanks for the support, and for the Star Wars nod
that's great that your levels are all healthy. for now. you look younger in your picture so i imagine some time down the road, that may not be the case anymore.
and i hope you don't plan on wearing a bikini this summer
good luck though with whatever your goals are
What an absolute awful thing to say. What a snide, arrogant little b**ch you are. This woman is obviously far happier with her life than you are with yours. You're a total *kitten*. This girl will grow older and with her awesome attitude she will adapt and become healthier. You will always be a punk.0 -
Good on you for wanting to be fit and healthy, I hope you achieve your goals :flowerforyou:0
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I personally think its fantastic that you have such a high love for yourself. Many people come on this site, with low self esteems and think loosing weight is going to make it ALL better. It's wonderful that you love yourself, and it's even better that you love yourself enough to know when somethings not right as far as the way you feel.
Good on you (:
Feel free to add me if you'd like, I'd love to have friends like you (:0 -
Ok. Props to you first off on being confident enough to wear bikini because honestly, i don't have that confidence and probably never will.
Secondly, a lot of people will judge you on here. I have been overweight all my life, and hit my heaviest 2 years ago at 243. I am now down to the upper 160's and am still fighting to get to an "acceptable" number. I know I will never be 125 like the standards say I should, but I will happy to reach 142. And most people will say that is bad, but excepting for the asthma that I have that will turn into copd (it runs in my mom's side of the family, and was a secondary cause of my mom's death, other then the massive heart attack she suffered), everything has come back fine.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Good luck.
No-one is judging her or saying she isn't pretty. People have a problem with her coming onto a site dedicated to physical fitness and saying 'hey, I'm really fat and it's great... I don't want to change one bit....'
erm.... being that overweight from a fitness and health point of view is not great at all and just because she is young and not feeling the negative effects of it right now doesn't mean that this will always be the case. Being as overweight as she is will have repercussions for her heart, her joints, her fertility and god knows what else.... and I just don't get the point of the post in the first place unless it was just purely for attention.... it's mental... seriously weird
This pretty much sums it up.OP has a great attitude as far as loving herself.That's fabulous. I admire that.
But the fact is,being obese ( as opposed to overweight) cannot be healthy in the long run.There will be health issues.
And it would really be a shame for somebody who so obviously loves life to cut it short.0 -
I respect and honor you for seeking health rather than vanity! It's very encouraging to see women/people of different shapes and sizes loving who they are and not trying to fit into a pinhole size that may or may not be right for them. That being said, of course, always air on the side of health. I'd rather see someone that was 200 lbs that was healthy than someone that was 120 and anorexic or doing unhealthy things to maintain that weight. Of course, consume healthy foods, try to be active daily, and engage in some sort of vigorous workout at least 3 times a week. More importantly, love yourself at every stage of life and NEVER let bullies push or pull you in a direction to which you don't want to go.
Unfortunately for you, this site probably isn't going to give you the exact response you're looking for. Like another poster said, it's more for people who are looking to lose or maintain a socially acceptable and healthy weight. However, I've found a handful of people who are motivational and loving no matter what the goal is. I happen to be one of those people, so I'd be happy to motivate you on your journey of health and happiness.
That doesn't even make any sense. By definition, being overweight by 200lbs isn't healthy.
By what definition? The BMI?
Top 10 Reasons Why The BMI is Bogus by Keith Devlin
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=106268439
People that are 200 lbs can and are healthy, because the operational definitions of health isn't a specific size or weight.
In looking at that girl, she looks to be around 200 pounds overweight. She is not just 200 pounds. A little overweight can still be healthy if you look at body fat percentage instead of weight. Just looking at her, I'm sure that her body fat percentage is extremely unhealthy. You disagree with this??? If she isn't at an unhealthy body fat percentage, nobody is. This just seems like common sense to me. That list of top 10 reasons why BMI is bogus doesn't negate this fact at all.0 -
i've decided I'm just going to sit back and let these random internet folk try to psychoanalyze me. Clearly my own commentary isn't needed, because I couldn't possibly know what I want!
Never fails to amaze me how upset people get to see a fat girl who doesn't hate her body.
:laugh: Totally. I took a look at the blog post you linked to and I loved this part, I thought it was quite appropriate:
URL: http://adiposeactivist.wordpress.com/2011/07/07/what-is-fat-acceptance/The entire concept of ‘glorifying obesity’ is utter crap. This is usually said when a picture of a happy fat person is seen. No one is glorifying or encouraging anything but refusing to hate your body no matter what it looks like. Even the parts that don’t work, even the parts you’d like to change. It’s realizing that, even if the media would like you to think differently, fat is NOT a death sentence and NOT the worst thing a person can be.
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ALL bodies are good bodies, ALL bodies deserve respect. There is NO WRONG WAY to have a body.0 -
You nailed it, I believe. That's what I extracted as well.She is not saying she doesn't want to ever lose weight, just that its not her main goal. She is saying she wants to eat better and feel better and if she loses weight, she will be okay with it. Is no one capable of reading comprehension?
She's saying she is okay with her body and okay with herself. Loving your body at any size =/= loving and wanting to be unhealthy like so many of you seem to think.
Yeah, that's what I thought she was saying. She said weight loss was not her goal. Getting healthy and feeling better are. And if that leads to weight loss she will be happy with that as well. She said she will love her body whatever it looks like....meaning...even if she loses weight. But, she is not making the weight loss be her goal, just the health and feeling good. Probably she will lose weight and be happy with whatever the outcome of that is. Because that's just the kind of happy, content person that she is. Let her give it a go, and see how she feels. She's just starting out on here. But with that said I am fine about reading everyone's honest thoughts on this. I am a fish out of water reading all of this.0 -
If shame and self loathing where effective motivators for living a healthy lifestyle, far more people would be healthy, in a mental and physical sense.0
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Well don't worry, I'm an expert at tunnel vision when it comes to the internet. People feel more able to say things they would never say in person, and it's something I'm used to. I run a fat acceptance blog and use my body as a political statement, so I'm 100% accustomed to negative feedback.
You said there's only a handful of people who might be into what I'm looking for, and that's just fine with me! I only need a handful. In my experience, anything that the majority tends to think is something I like to run in the opposite direction from. I knew when I posted what I did, on a site like this, that most people would take issue with it. I'm looking for the few who don't! And look at that, you won the prize Thanks for the kind reply!0 -
Are you a BBW?0
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It's great to want to get fit and I wish you success in your journey.
My main motivation is getting fit and being healthier too, although I would like to drop some weight, I know I will never be a size 2 - I'm just looking forward to being a size 12 again - that's perfect for my body type. We're all built differently and we're not all going to look the same when we reach our goal.0 -
If shame and self loathing where effective motivators for living a healthy lifestyle, far more people would be healthy, in a mental and physical sense. I agree. 0
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I think you all were just a part of an experiment, of social response and acceptance of obese people you don't want to lose weight....I'm just saying!!!!! Set up!!!0
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You have my full support! You have such a great attitude and an amazing amount of self esteem! Like you said, you want to feel better and with the changes you'll be making, you'll probably lose some weight even if that isn't you're ultimate goal. I think even with all the negativity you've come up against, you will still find a great amount of wonderful supporters on MFP that won't try to make you feel bad about yourself just because your goals aren't their goals. Stay strong sister!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0
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If it makes you happy-im all for it. if you get health problems, but are happy-so be it. if you gain 100lbs and have no health issues-even better!
welcome and enjoy the psychopaths 0 -
I think you all were just a part of an experiment, of social response and acceptance of obese people you don't want to lose weight....I'm just saying!!!!! Set up!!!
Maybe. It doesn't bother me, though.0 -
I think you all were just a part of an experiment, of social response and acceptance of obese people you don't want to lose weight....I'm just saying!!!!! Set up!!!
Pretty sure that's correct.I said that earlier.Fodder for the blog.0 -
I think you all were just a part of an experiment, of social response and acceptance of obese people you don't want to lose weight....I'm just saying!!!!! Set up!!!
Maybe. It doesn't bother me, though.
Me neither, helpful in keeping my friend's list neat and tidy.0 -
Phews! That was quite a lot to read through these past 10 mins. Any case, feel free to add me. I appreciate positivity in others & am very open-minded about others' views.
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I did not read the last seven pages (I get reminded on a daily basis on this forum how much I hate people in general, especially other women). I did read the OP's first post.
I am also a fat girl who was fine being fat. "Big, Blond, and Beautiful' and 'Fat Bottom Girls' were my theme song. I had more self-confidence in my fat little finger than most people have period. I got hit on every time I went to the grocery store when I weight 320lbs. I have never been afraid to throw my weight around. It is who I have been for most of my life.
Simply put, being obese was the least of my problems. Until a few months ago.
My knees hurt constantly. I have extremely high blood pressure. I had palpitations. Being fat was killing me. I didn't want to believe it, but in the end it's true. I am losing weight now because I have to. For my health. Not because I hated being fat.
As I read in the OP's first post, she realizes that being fat is unhealthy. Hopefully, she has come to this conclusion before she got as bad as I am. I was wrong, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I should have cared more, but for the right reasons.
I'm losing weight because I have to for my health. I still like me and will always like me even if I'm not a big girl. OP please ignore the haters and add me if you like.0 -
Honestly, when the hell did this turn into a brawl?
You people seem to think that just because she said she's happy being overweight, that she doesn't care about her health.
Wrong.
She said that she's here to try and change her eating habits so she feels better. Isn't that what this is all about?
Isn't MFP supposed to be full of supporters who are there to root you on and tell you how good your doing with your diet and how far you're coming. Not how you currently are.
It's seriously ignorant to think that just because she loves herself how she is now, that she doesn't care about her health. That's why she's here, that's why we're all here.
So all you NAY SAYERS, go suck a big one :P0 -
There are four things that I feel are important: Feeling good about yourself, physically feeling good, being healthy, and being on a path that will help you continue to be healthy. If a person meets all of those requirements, it doesn't really matter what they look like.0
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Hi OP. You may add me if you like. 0
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Op - you never actually had to 'stick out like a sore thumb' you put yourself out there and did that.
You could have just posted about wanting support for a more healthy lifestyle, after all that is the crux of your joining here right?
In fact your whole body love thing is irrelevant, you are here for the same reason as each and every one of us - to feel better.
You made yourself a target, why do that? When it was entirely unnecessary?0 -
I hate reading things like that, it's sad really.(I get reminded on a daily basis on this forum how much I hate people in general, especially other women).0 -
I think you all were just a part of an experiment, of social response and acceptance of obese people you don't want to lose weight....I'm just saying!!!!! Set up!!!
Maybe. It doesn't bother me, though.
Doesn't bother me either. I like social experiments.0
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