A fat girl who likes being fat?1?!?
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Hey! Welcome! I read the first page and then skipped to the end and replied. You know ultimately your life is yours. If you want to eat healthier and not use weight loss or body change as your goal, then c'est la vie! I always, my whole life of being overweight, which is a long time I always wanted others to like me, to accept me, to include me, to not make exceptions and fun of me because of my weight, to not say mean things, to enjoy my presence and not be overkind to the fat girl, to not assume I am depressed and miserable and that since I'm fat i'm ugly and so on and so on blah blah blah.
The BIGGEST change has happened when I started to really look at who I am, my life story, my resiliency, that I am a nice person, and I am a good person, who loves to laugh and that I need to reach out rather than hide out. That is on me, to like and love who I am and by doing so i've found acceptance, friendship, care and a world that is really blessed.
Next has come a wonderful marriage to a man who loves me for me too. He doesn't see how overweight I am, just how beautiful I am to him. He loves my body the way it is, but as he said he loves me to be me as long as I don't lose my butt haha
Next has come a natural desire to live longer so I can live longer with him. I want to do what I can to grow and have as long as possible with him. I was getting better before I met him, but he is like whip cream on the pie.
So motivation, a true desire for health and not for any of the reasons I felt ashamed, limited, demoralizing and embaressed about who I was as a person, and now I feel I am really working on making serious changes to my eating habits and putting effort into exercising.
So who knows, I love who I am now, so it won't change how much I love myself to be healthier, but it helps me maintain a goal and desire that I truly wish for to be able to be here and be healthy.
Anyways, I just find myself a little identifying with you in the aspect that loving who you are is amazing and you don't have to be thin to achieve that so I support your decision to be here to be healthier and make the small or big changes you want to make.
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Op - you never actually had to 'stick out like a sore thumb' you put yourself out there and did that.
You could have just posted about wanting support for a more healthy lifestyle, after all that is the crux of your joining here right?
In fact your whole body love thing is irrelevant, you are here for the same reason as each and every one of us - to feel better.
You made yourself a target, why do that? When it was entirely unnecessary?
This ^^ is a valid point IMO.0 -
I'm a bit of a misnomer on this site. I'm a fat girl, heavy into body positivity, who has no intentions of not being fat. What?! Crazy, I know!
Lately I've realized just how physically not-so-great I feel, so I'm trying to honor my body by using intuitive eating and moving more. My goal isn't weight loss or changing the way my body looks. My goal is simply feeling better. If the habits I form cause me to lose weight, so be it, but it's not my intention or my goal.
So just from those two paragraphs alone, you can see why I stick out like a sore thumb on a site like this, something that I'm totally aware of! But I still firmly believe that you do better at reaching your goals when you have support, so I figured I'd say hello and try to make some new friends! Nerds are a plus, but certainly not necessary!
Fat-pride is ruining this world. Being obese is not only unhealthy, but disgusting. Why sign up on a FITNESS site if you're just going to go around making excuses for being a hambeast? Cut calories, start being active and stop making up excuses and justifications for being a fatass. Change or gtfo hambeast.
Right... people who love themselves are TOTALLY the problem.
It's not a matter of loving yourself when projecting a completely unhealthy and disgusting lifestyle in a place where others are attempting to better themselves.
What are you even talking about -- she's talking about watching her diet and moving more so she is more fit. Did you even read the original post before you made your hideous comment?0 -
Some of these replies show no mercy. No mercy, man. :laugh:0
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I respect and honor you for seeking health rather than vanity! It's very encouraging to see women/people of different shapes and sizes loving who they are and not trying to fit into a pinhole size that may or may not be right for them. That being said, of course, always air on the side of health. I'd rather see someone that was 200 lbs that was healthy than someone that was 120 and anorexic or doing unhealthy things to maintain that weight. Of course, consume healthy foods, try to be active daily, and engage in some sort of vigorous workout at least 3 times a week. More importantly, love yourself at every stage of life and NEVER let bullies push or pull you in a direction to which you don't want to go.
Unfortunately for you, this site probably isn't going to give you the exact response you're looking for. Like another poster said, it's more for people who are looking to lose or maintain a socially acceptable and healthy weight. However, I've found a handful of people who are motivational and loving no matter what the goal is. I happen to be one of those people, so I'd be happy to motivate you on your journey of health and happiness.
That doesn't even make any sense. By definition, being overweight by 200lbs isn't healthy.
By what definition? The BMI?
Top 10 Reasons Why The BMI is Bogus by Keith Devlin
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=106268439
People that are 200 lbs can and are healthy, because the operational definitions of health isn't a specific size or weight.
It's not about the BMI, but rather the fat %. Having that much fat around your organs is not healthy and will have consequences sooner than later.0 -
I did not read the last seven pages...
...OP please ignore the haters...
I'm thinking if you had read the 1st 7 pages you may have noticed (as I did) that this thread truly isn't full of "haters". Seems to me most were welcoming and supportive. And some said, as you did (eg, your knees hurting, high blood pressure, fat "killing you", etc), that health may eventually become an issue due to obesity.0 -
being comfortable in your skin doesn't change the fact that you're fat. period.
I got what you meant as I knew what I wrote on page one of this train wreck.
Issue here isn't being comfortable with yourself. A guy with no legs that learns to accept his disability eventually should be applauded.
This woman is happy to be obese and all the encouragement posts have me scratching my head. Why would anyone suggest that if your happy with yourself eat yourself into daily medication and a short life span.
I'm happy with myself by blasting my veins each night with a drug.
I'm happy with myself by drinking and driving each night.
Let's applaud those feelings as well. At least the person feels good about themselves.............
Absolute troll post.
Before I go...The sumo wrestler post. They eat a ton of fish and rice and just pack on calories. They also get their fat *kitten* up each morning and train. The OP is happy to eat dessert each night as long as she is comfortable being fat? Apples and oranges with that example.0 -
Op - you never actually had to 'stick out like a sore thumb' you put yourself out there and did that.
You could have just posted about wanting support for a more healthy lifestyle, after all that is the crux of your joining here right?
In fact your whole body love thing is irrelevant, you are here for the same reason as each and every one of us - to feel better.
You made yourself a target, why do that? When it was entirely unnecessary?
This ^^ is a valid point IMO.
^Have to agree with all of this. And then advertising the tumblr thing? Attention...*coughs*. Well, best of luck to you OP. I hope that being that overweight doesn't catch up with you anytime soon. I know at my heaviest, I began to have health issues - especially back issues and I know that I could never appreciate or love myself at my heaviest knowing that I was hurting myself like that. :flowerforyou:0 -
Welcome to MFP! Some of us are still learning as we go. I'd be happy to join your group of friends. :-)0
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I'm a bit of a misnomer on this site. I'm a fat girl, heavy into body positivity, who has no intentions of not being fat. What?! Crazy, I know!
Lately I've realized just how physically not-so-great I feel, so I'm trying to honor my body by using intuitive eating and moving more. My goal isn't weight loss or changing the way my body looks. My goal is simply feeling better. If the habits I form cause me to lose weight, so be it, but it's not my intention or my goal.
So just from those two paragraphs alone, you can see why I stick out like a sore thumb on a site like this, something that I'm totally aware of! But I still firmly believe that you do better at reaching your goals when you have support, so I figured I'd say hello and try to make some new friends! Nerds are a plus, but certainly not necessary!
Fat-pride is ruining this world. Being obese is not only unhealthy, but disgusting. Why sign up on a FITNESS site if you're just going to go around making excuses for being a fat? Cut calories, eat clean healthy foods, and try being a bit more active. Not only will you feel better, you'll lower your chances of diabetes and heart disease. And best of all, you won't have the label of a fat lazy hambeast anymore. Give it a shot.
Well, I see you edited your initial insulting crap. I would tell you to give being a decent human being a shot, but I don't think you'd know how.0 -
I respect and honor you for seeking health rather than vanity! It's very encouraging to see women/people of different shapes and sizes loving who they are and not trying to fit into a pinhole size that may or may not be right for them. That being said, of course, always air on the side of health. I'd rather see someone that was 200 lbs that was healthy than someone that was 120 and anorexic or doing unhealthy things to maintain that weight. Of course, consume healthy foods, try to be active daily, and engage in some sort of vigorous workout at least 3 times a week. More importantly, love yourself at every stage of life and NEVER let bullies push or pull you in a direction to which you don't want to go.
Unfortunately for you, this site probably isn't going to give you the exact response you're looking for. Like another poster said, it's more for people who are looking to lose or maintain a socially acceptable and healthy weight. However, I've found a handful of people who are motivational and loving no matter what the goal is. I happen to be one of those people, so I'd be happy to motivate you on your journey of health and happiness.
^ My words exactly!
@ OP : I definitely have much respect for you! I love that you are confident in your body, but still looking to improve over-all health over anything else. You can definitely add me and look to me for support (: "Big girls got to stick together", right?
Might I also ask, what's the name of your blog? Is it on tumblr or some other site?0 -
Op - you never actually had to 'stick out like a sore thumb' you put yourself out there and did that.
You could have just posted about wanting support for a more healthy lifestyle, after all that is the crux of your joining here right?
In fact your whole body love thing is irrelevant, you are here for the same reason as each and every one of us - to feel better.
You made yourself a target, why do that? When it was entirely unnecessary?
This ^^ is a valid point IMO.
^Have to agree with all of this. And then advertising the tumblr thing? Attention...*coughs*. Well, best of luck to you OP. I hope that being that overweight doesn't catch up with you anytime soon. I know at my heaviest, I began to have health issues - especially back issues and I know that I could never appreciate or love myself at my heaviest knowing that I was hurting myself like that. :flowerforyou:
You mean the part where she isn't using that same name here as on tumbr and then saying she QUIT two months ago?0 -
OP, I am glad you are happy with your body. That's wonderful, it really is.
However, just as I would not encourage a 5'8'' 90 pounds girl to stay at that weight, I cannot say that I believe it's okay for someone to be severely overweight. You may not have health issues now, but why not decrease the odds that you will experience such issues in the future?
I honestly do not understand how everyone is so encouraging of you staying at this weight. If i start a thread right now about how I want to be 80 pounds I'm going to get (rightfully) hundreds of responses about how that is unhealthy. This is no different.0 -
Yeah, I just want to add that from my perspective: taking care of my health and being fit is self care and appreciating my body (and is very enjoyable). If I did not do those things, that would mean that I was very depressed (but that's just me). On the other hand having more self-acceptance (about all kinds of things) is always a good goal for me to keep in mind through it all.0
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OP, I am glad you are happy with your body. That's wonderful, it really is.
However, just as I would not encourage a 5'8'' 90 pounds girl to stay at that weight, I cannot say that I believe it's okay for someone to be severely overweight. You may not have health issues now, but why not decrease the odds that you will experience such issues in the future?
I honestly do not understand how everyone is so encouraging of you staying at this weight. If i start a thread right now about how I want to be 80 pounds I'm going to get (rightfully) hundreds of responses about how that is unhealthy. This is no different.
Bingo, said it better than I. Guess I took it a little far.0 -
OP, I am glad you are happy with your body. That's wonderful, it really is.
However, just as I would not encourage a 5'8'' 90 pounds girl to stay at that weight, I cannot say that I believe it's okay for someone to be severely overweight. You may not have health issues now, but why not decrease the odds that you will experience such issues in the future?
I honestly do not understand how everyone is so encouraging of you staying at this weight. If i start a thread right now about how I want to be 80 pounds I'm going to get (rightfully) hundreds of responses about how that is unhealthy. This is no different.
Well stated.0 -
I'm still really confused about what people are so upset about? This is a website about changing your lifestyle and getting healthy. OP came on here, said she wanted to change her lifestyle and get healthy. She also said she loves herself the way she is now, even though she's overweight.
So what's the f***ing problem? Here is a girl who is obviously very mentally secure with herself, something very few of us can truly say. Now, she wants to treat her body right by eating better and moving more (like pretty much all of us on this site). That's literally all her post was about. That's it. Nothing else. Nada.
Still so confused over here.
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Next has come a wonderful marriage to a man who loves me for me too. He doesn't see how overweight I am, just how beautiful I am to him. He loves my body the way it is, but as he said he loves me to be me as long as I don't lose my butt haha
Heh. Sounds like my boyfriend. He thinks I'm the sexiest woman he's ever known with my big ol' curvaceous body. Hell, he thinks I'm tiny! (Probably because his ex-wife outweighs me by about 50 lbs and is a major size-acceptance advocate.) He supports my desire to lose a few pounds because it's what I want. All he asks is that I not lose my butt or breasts. I told him that I didn't have much control over that, but that I would do what I could.0 -
OP, I am glad you are happy with your body. That's wonderful, it really is.
However, just as I would not encourage a 5'8'' 90 pounds girl to stay at that weight, I cannot say that I believe it's okay for someone to be severely overweight. You may not have health issues now, but why not decrease the odds that you will experience such issues in the future?
I honestly do not understand how everyone is so encouraging of you staying at this weight. If i start a thread right now about how I want to be 80 pounds I'm going to get (rightfully) hundreds of responses about how that is unhealthy. This is no different.
But it's not for YOU to say anyone else's body is okay or not. She wasn't asking for your support -- she was saying that she felt out of place because she wasn't focused on weight or looking a certain way because she already accepts herself as she is.0 -
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You use your body as a political statement? America has an "obesity epidemic"? (note the use of "" implying it doesn't)
Good luck getting healthier. That's a good thing.
You honestly don't think America has an obesity epidemic? Have you ever walked around a large city and people watched? We do have an obesity epidemic, the children of today are much larger than when I was a child. Our nation is weaker, sicker, and fatter than ever before.0 -
I'm a bit of a misnomer on this site. I'm a fat girl, heavy into body positivity, who has no intentions of not being fat. What?! Crazy, I know!
Lately I've realized just how physically not-so-great I feel, so I'm trying to honor my body by using intuitive eating and moving more. My goal isn't weight loss or changing the way my body looks. My goal is simply feeling better. If the habits I form cause me to lose weight, so be it, but it's not my intention or my goal.
So just from those two paragraphs alone, you can see why I stick out like a sore thumb on a site like this, something that I'm totally aware of! But I still firmly believe that you do better at reaching your goals when you have support, so I figured I'd say hello and try to make some new friends! Nerds are a plus, but certainly not necessary!
I read a great article once in a medial periodical about a study that showed that size did not necessarily correlate to healthy problems or lifespan. When they compared obese to thin, the obese group had more problems. But when they looked at 5 indicators of health (I think it was blood pressure, blood sugar/diabetes, smoking, more than 2 alcoholic drinks a day, and cholesterol), they found that the group of obese who has NONE of those 5 ranked exactly the SAME as the group of thin who had NONE of those 5. So bottom line.... we all have fat cells. The amount of fat cells is ultimately cosmetic and a personal decision. But EVERYONE can and should be healthy. So good for you for working on your health!
I am also a "big girl" -- 5'8" and curvy. I am here for my health. Period. I'm here to lift heavy and get fit in terms of endurance, conditioning, flexibility and strength. I have reversed my diabetes and lowered my cholesterol by eating healthy. Any loss of fat is incidental and not my goal. I just want to be healthy, strong and energetic. In fact, if I start to lean out too much I'll eat more! I'm curvy and I want to stay that way (and my husband loves me best that way too). Kudos to you for doing what is right for you!0 -
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You use your body as a political statement? America has an "obesity epidemic"? (note the use of "" implying it doesn't)
Good luck getting healthier. That's a good thing.
You honestly don't think America has an obesity epidemic? Have you ever walked around a large city and people watched? We do have an obesity epidemic, the children of today are much larger than when I was a child. Our nation is weaker, sicker, and fatter than ever before.
You misread me. I was criticizing the OP for implying that it doesn't exist. You and I actually agree.0 -
I think a drunk monkey would have said it better than you did.
Bingo, said it better than I. Guess I took it a little far.
No need to insult a drunk monkey.0 -
Why would somebody want to be heavy? I'm heavy and i'm doing everything in my power to change it. I hate being heavy. I don't understand why someone would want and enjoy being heavy and unhealthy.0
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Welp, this thread went down the toilet, so I'll leave it with some parting thoughts:
1) this was not meant as a troll post. If a fat person who wants to feel healthier but finds weight loss to be secondary to better physical health is trolling, I've got a lot to learn.
2) Not 'fodder for my blog' or a 'social experiment.' I don't need a thread on MFP to know that most people are biased against fat people. Boring. My blog does not deal attempting to incense people by creating threads on a fitness site.
3) Also, I was not pimping out my tumblr, because uh--if that were the case, wouldn't I have actually linked to it or revealed my username?
4) apparently most of the people in this thread think they're the first person to EVER tell a fat person that fat is correlated (correlation does not equal causation, by the way) with certain diseases. And that THEY'RE going to be the person to make me say OH LORDY I HAVE SEEN THE LIGHT!
5) Body policing is indeed alive and well.
6) There are some really fantastic people here, if you're willing to slog through the not-so-great ones!
Thank you for the supportive people who came out of the woodwork, and the sweet messages I got, and the awesome people who I'm looking forward to the future with as we support each other in our goals! 0 -
Hi there OP. I started off as a happily fat woman too. i was about 230lbs (and 5'2), and was pretty happy with who I was and how I looked. But as the mother of 3 young kids I decided that premature death and sitting on the sidelines as my kids played sports was not the kind of role model I wanted to be. My intention was to get fitter- getting smaller was a side effect of getting fitter.
Roll on 2 1/2 years- I now weigh about 175lbs. I'm still obese. My weight has been stuck here for about a year, which bugs me but it isn't a major issue. What is awesome is that I have run 8 half marathons and 2 full ones. I run with my kids. I eat better because it makes me feel better when I do. My kids see activity as a normal part of life.
And to the person that said you can't be obese and healthy- not that true and made me angry!!!!! I'm obese and can run for 6 hours without stopping. I can squat 70kgs, deadlift 50kgs, and I AM the healthiest version of me I can be at the moment. And I'm far more active than a lot of other people I know. Just because I'm not thin does not mean I'm not healthy (although I do understand the correlations between weight and illness). Thin people are not necessarily more healthy than me, and that's a crappy assumption to make.
ETA i also didn't read all of the responses before, but i do agree that we all only have one life and need to live it as we see fit.
Looking at the weight that the o.p. is, she does not appear to be healthy. Is she running 8 half marathons at her weight? I highly doubt it.0 -
Next has come a wonderful marriage to a man who loves me for me too. He doesn't see how overweight I am, just how beautiful I am to him. He loves my body the way it is, but as he said he loves me to be me as long as I don't lose my butt haha
Heh. Sounds like my boyfriend. He thinks I'm the sexiest woman he's ever known with my big ol' curvaceous body. Hell, he thinks I'm tiny! (Probably because his ex-wife outweighs me by about 50 lbs and is a major size-acceptance advocate.) He supports my desire to lose a few pounds because it's what I want. All he asks is that I not lose my butt or breasts. I told him that I didn't have much control over that, but that I would do what I could.
My husband is going to the gym with me and eats what I cook, so he's participating. He's got pounds to lose too, but overall he is being supportive and it is super awesome to go to gym with him and look for healthier foods.
he is truly dazzling! Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy!!! 0 -
Why would somebody want to be heavy? I'm heavy and i'm doing everything in my power to change it. I hate being heavy. I don't understand why someone would want and enjoy being heavy and unhealthy.
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If YOU are happy with your weight, then that is fine. However, just know that if you make certain changes in diet or activity you may lose the body shape you prefer. I think that when you make good changes to your lifestyle and you do feel a good difference in your health, that is truly the greatest reward. It is possible to be Fit and fat. I don't know if you have regular physicals or not, but I am sure your doctor will let you know if your blood sugar looks like it's going into a bad area, or your blood pressure, or cholesterol. I hope you acheieve what ever it is you set out to do here. May the force be with you.
Thanks doll! The great thing about being so heavily into body acceptance is that no matter what my body looks like, I will ALWAYS adore it, because my body is a part of me and it deserves my love no matter what. I work in health, so I already know I have excellent blood sugar and blood pressure (which surprises many people, but what can you do?) I just want to work on my strength and my stamina and improve my energy level. Especially now that summer's coming!
Thanks for the support, and for the Star Wars nod
that's great that your levels are all healthy. for now. you look younger in your picture so i imagine some time down the road, that may not be the case anymore.
and i hope you don't plan on wearing a bikini this summer
good luck though with whatever your goals are
Since this thread is already at 7 pages or so, I have a feeling this has already been addressed so sorry everyone else for this but how dare you tell someone what they should or shouldn't wear? Who do you think you are? She can wear whatever the eff she wants this summer.
ETA: 10 pages. sorry0 -
I like her attitude and the fact that she loves her body as it is! I wish I had her self esteem!0
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