Nice guys vs Bad boys

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  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    Bad boys can be nice guys too. I mean, it really depends on what you mean by bad boys. I've never been interested in a man that didn't treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated or one who doesn't treat me just as well as I treat him. I've always loved the nice guys, but the nice guys can have a naughty side ;)
    sweet innocent girls can have a naughty side as well !! ;-)

    Really? You have experience with that? :wink:
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    Bad boys can be nice guys too. I mean, it really depends on what you mean by bad boys. I've never been interested in a man that didn't treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated or one who doesn't treat me just as well as I treat him. I've always loved the nice guys, but the nice guys can have a naughty side ;)
    Oh Really !!!! Lol

    You should know Mr. Naughty & Nice :heart:
    and how you know that !!! You got proof !! Lol

    Not as much as you do! LOL
  • Cthodge
    Cthodge Posts: 10
    Bad boys can be nice guys too. I mean, it really depends on what you mean by bad boys. I've never been interested in a man that didn't treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated or one who doesn't treat me just as well as I treat him. I've always loved the nice guys, but the nice guys can have a naughty side ;)
    sweet innocent girls can have a naughty side as well !! ;-)

    Really? You have experience with that? :wink:
    have I ? Oh I do have some stories to tell !! ;-)
  • Z_I_L_L_A
    Z_I_L_L_A Posts: 2,399 Member
    Bad boys are for fun and nice guys are for marriage (not that nice guys aren't fun too but bad boys are NOT for serious relationships/marriage, they like to play too much. HAHA!)

    Nice guys you marry until you get bored with him and cheat with a bad boy. Even a bad boy you marry down the road you get bored cuz he isn't a bad boy anymore you broke him then cheat with another bad boy. lol
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    My husband is a bit of a bad boy..he's got form for GBH, ABH, theft of motor cars, before we got married...and has even been in prison for fraud...yes he's been bad..but now is the most honest kind man I know.


    Ok, here's the puke bucket.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    I never dated a "bad boy"
    Jerks at times yes
    I like a "nice guy" that doesn't kiss my butt, hold his own, and adores me.
  • Cthodge
    Cthodge Posts: 10
    Bad boys can be nice guys too. I mean, it really depends on what you mean by bad boys. I've never been interested in a man that didn't treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated or one who doesn't treat me just as well as I treat him. I've always loved the nice guys, but the nice guys can have a naughty side ;)
    Oh Really !!!! Lol

    You should know Mr. Naughty & Nice :heart:
    and how you know that !!! You got proof !! Lol

    Not as much as you do! LOL
    Lmao very true !! ;-) hehe
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,982 Member
    I kick *kitten* nicely.:laugh:

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • joshuapack
    joshuapack Posts: 55
    This thread is making me depressed
  • tammigee13
    tammigee13 Posts: 18 Member
    ooooh ok let's be honest! Me, personally, I like about an 80/20 mixture... everybody wants a challenge sometimes and I don't wanna feel like I can walk all over u... but from time to time, you may need to put me in my place...cuz I'm a handful.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    First, there's a difference between a "nice guy" and a "good man."

    The stereotypical "nice guy" is the beta male who doesn't have the balls to demand any respect from women. He goes along with whatever a woman says or does and never disagrees with or questions her because he's terrified of the prospect of her walking away when she doesn't get exactly what she wants. That, or he thinks being "nice" is going to get him laid or at least get him extra bases. It's not attractive.

    A good man is one who treats his woman with respect and does whatever he can to make her happy, but he isn't afraid to disagree with her because he knows what he believes and why, and he knows that if she loves and respects him, she wouldn't ask or want him to be less than he is.

    The "bad boy" thing ... I think it's two-fold, where women are concerned. To one extent, women are attracted to men who seem a little rough around the edges because it's masculine. But on the other side of it, you have the real jerks and *kitten* who seem to attract women like moths to a flame, and I am convinced that that comes from some women not having good male role models in their lives. I am really fortunate that I've had several of them. My dad, my older brother, my grandfather ... because of their influence in my life, I know what a good man looks like, and I have no delusions of grandeur about saving a "bad boy" from self-destruction.
  • ^ this right here. If you need to clarify that you are indeed a "nice guy", you probably did something in the past to get you a bad reputation of not being a nice guy.
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
    ^ this right here. If you need to clarify that you are indeed a "nice guy", you probably did something in the past to get you a bad reputation of not being a nice guy.
    Or, alternately, you may be dealing with the fact that "nice guy," "bad boy," and "good man" are subjective terms.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    First, there's a difference between a "nice guy" and a "good man."

    The stereotypical "nice guy" is the beta male who doesn't have the balls to demand any respect from women. He goes along with whatever a woman says or does and never disagrees with or questions her because he's terrified of the prospect of her walking away when she doesn't get exactly what she wants. That, or he thinks being "nice" is going to get him laid or at least get him extra bases. It's not attractive.

    A good man is one who treats his woman with respect and does whatever he can to make her happy, but he isn't afraid to disagree with her because he knows what he believes and why, and he knows that if she loves and respects him, she wouldn't ask or want him to be less than he is.

    The "bad boy" thing ... I think it's two-fold, where women are concerned. To one extent, women are attracted to men who seem a little rough around the edges because it's masculine. But on the other side of it, you have the real jerks and *kitten* who seem to attract women like moths to a flame, and I am convinced that that comes from some women not having good male role models in their lives. I am really fortunate that I've had several of them. My dad, my older brother, my grandfather ... because of their influence in my life, I know what a good man looks like, and I have no delusions of grandeur about saving a "bad boy" from self-destruction.

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  • MNA76
    MNA76 Posts: 1,541
    I found a guy that embodies both. He's confident without arrogance. Has the perfect blend of attitude and sarcasm, but has a heart of gold and is really super sweet and thoughtful. Oh and he's super sexy. In short, he's a keeper. : )
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    I got lucky my husband was a nice guy in a bad boy shell.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    A good man is one who treats his woman with respect and does whatever he can to make her happy, but he isn't afraid to disagree with her because he knows what he believes and why, and he knows that if she loves and respects him, she wouldn't ask or want him to be less than he is.

    Exactly this.

    There is a famous saying "Marriage isn't about finding the right person, it is about being the right person".

    I believe that many interactions are decided before they even begin. If you have a strong sense of self and grounded confidence then people pick up on some level that you have value. It makes life and relationships much easier.
  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    I can't speak for the rest of womankind, but I like when my man is kind, considerate, caring, attentive and sensitive. I like when he pulls out my chair and takes me to dinner for no reason other than wanting to "show me off". I love when I complain about having a "fat" day and he tells me how beautiful I am...

    ON THE OTHER HAND I also love when I get filthy xxx rated text messages while I'm out with my friends, and bossed around in the bedroom.

    I think there is confusion between a "good" man and a "pushover" maybe? If a guy is so nice that he never questions me or demonstrates any kind of backbone at all, that is a HUGE turn off. If a guy is so nice he won't pull a girl's hair when she asks him to... That's TOO nice.

    TL;DR version: Guys? Be a gent in life and a *kitten* in the bedroom. Thanks.
  • CaptainHNNNGGG
    CaptainHNNNGGG Posts: 205 Member
    oh hai

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  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I can't speak for the rest of womankind, but I like when my man is kind, considerate, caring, attentive and sensitive. I like when he pulls out my chair and takes me to dinner for no reason other than wanting to "show me off". I love when I complain about having a "fat" day and he tells me how beautiful I am...

    ON THE OTHER HAND I also love when I get filthy xxx rated text messages while I'm out with my friends, and bossed around in the bedroom.

    I think there is confusion between a "good" man and a "pushover" maybe? If a guy is so nice that he never questions me or demonstrates any kind of backbone at all, that is a HUGE turn off. If a guy is so nice he won't pull a girl's hair when she asks him to... That's TOO nice.

    TL;DR version: Guys? Be a gent in life and a *kitten* in the bedroom. Thanks.

    Well stated! A lot of women perceive my niceness as being a pushover or sexually weak. This is absolutely not the case.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I can't speak for the rest of womankind, but I like when my man is kind, considerate, caring, attentive and sensitive. I like when he pulls out my chair and takes me to dinner for no reason other than wanting to "show me off". I love when I complain about having a "fat" day and he tells me how beautiful I am...

    ON THE OTHER HAND I also love when I get filthy xxx rated text messages while I'm out with my friends, and bossed around in the bedroom.

    I think there is confusion between a "good" man and a "pushover" maybe? If a guy is so nice that he never questions me or demonstrates any kind of backbone at all, that is a HUGE turn off. If a guy is so nice he won't pull a girl's hair when she asks him to... That's TOO nice.

    TL;DR version: Guys? Be a gent in life and a *kitten* in the bedroom. Thanks.

    Well stated! A lot of women perceive my niceness as being a pushover or sexually weak. This is absolutely not the case.

    You're not a pushover, but sexually week. Amirite??
  • I like bad boys that have big hearts.

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  • zombilishious
    zombilishious Posts: 1,250 Member
    The hottest is a bad boy with a private, sweet, soft tender side...best of both worlds... ;-)
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    oh hai

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    ^^THIS.

    This is how you know when a guy is truly 'bad' ladies.

    He buys the shirt to prove it.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I can't speak for the rest of womankind, but I like when my man is kind, considerate, caring, attentive and sensitive. I like when he pulls out my chair and takes me to dinner for no reason other than wanting to "show me off". I love when I complain about having a "fat" day and he tells me how beautiful I am...

    ON THE OTHER HAND I also love when I get filthy xxx rated text messages while I'm out with my friends, and bossed around in the bedroom.

    I think there is confusion between a "good" man and a "pushover" maybe? If a guy is so nice that he never questions me or demonstrates any kind of backbone at all, that is a HUGE turn off. If a guy is so nice he won't pull a girl's hair when she asks him to... That's TOO nice.

    TL;DR version: Guys? Be a gent in life and a *kitten* in the bedroom. Thanks.

    Well stated! A lot of women perceive my niceness as being a pushover or sexually weak. This is absolutely not the case.

    You're not a pushover, but sexually week. Amirite??

    At this point? Probably. My sex muscle has atrophied from not being used.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    Nice guy with a slight edge!!! I've been married to a nice guy for 25 yrs. He has just the right amount of edge and he knows when/how to put me in my place when I need it. He knows how to give it back to me when i dish out the crap and that is a total turn on!!!!



    I've dated a bad boy in my teens and he caused me so much drama and stress I said NEVER AGAIN!!!
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    I stopped classifying men as "bad boys/good boys" once I graduated highschool.
  • Beastmode454
    Beastmode454 Posts: 340 Member
    I think you got to have a lil of each! keeps it interesting.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Now it seems to mean you are immature *kitten* that rides a crorch rocket, have a fohawk and a few cookie cutter tats or a wannabe thug.

    Yeah, and they treat women like crap...and the women think they are somehow amazing. Maybe it is that silly desire to be the girl that changes them. They love the excitement, no matter how bad it is for them.

    Women are silly.
  • LuckyMunky
    LuckyMunky Posts: 200 Member
    I can't speak for the rest of womankind, but I like when my man is kind, considerate, caring, attentive and sensitive. I like when he pulls out my chair and takes me to dinner for no reason other than wanting to "show me off". I love when I complain about having a "fat" day and he tells me how beautiful I am...

    ON THE OTHER HAND I also love when I get filthy xxx rated text messages while I'm out with my friends, and bossed around in the bedroom.

    I think there is confusion between a "good" man and a "pushover" maybe? If a guy is so nice that he never questions me or demonstrates any kind of backbone at all, that is a HUGE turn off. If a guy is so nice he won't pull a girl's hair when she asks him to... That's TOO nice.

    TL;DR version: Guys? Be a gent in life and a *kitten* in the bedroom. Thanks.

    ^ THIS! This was very well said and rings true for me. My husband is a nice guy, he's generous, moral and respects me. He also stands up for himself, is very rational, and can dominate me in the bedroom when I need him to.