Nice guys vs Bad boys

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  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    The bad boy that turns out to be a nice guy.. Fairytale maybe?

    At first sight always the bad boys to be honest. Just something about them. However, I always end up with the nice guys!

    i have been known to run around with scissors in my hand


    but do so with the safety blade on

    OMFG!! I love a guy who runs with scissors!!!

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  • Drunken_WarHero
    Drunken_WarHero Posts: 306
    Hey girl.
    Why don't I fix you a tasty bowl of granola while you tell me all about your day?
    I love your stories about office politics.
  • jamielr84
    jamielr84 Posts: 545
    I like the bad boy looks with a nice guy attitude.
  • SabrinaLC
    SabrinaLC Posts: 133 Member
    Can't I have both???
  • Drunken_WarHero
    Drunken_WarHero Posts: 306
    Can't I have both???

    oh yes. yes you can.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    don't get hung up on language.

    'bad boy' because you like to drink and cause fights and break stuff end up in jail? call me names, disrespect me? disrespect your mama, your baby mama, your kids? blow off your job, your responsibilities? yeah, that's 'bad'. i'm not interetsed.

    'bad boy' because you like to drink and party and swear and mix it up and don't give a fk? live your life the way you wanna and will tell anyone whatever you think straight up? as long as it doesn't involve punching ppl i think we're good there...

    'bad' because you're a little sloppy? imperfect? rough around the edges? 'sokay. we're all that way, one way or another.

    'bad' because you don't take care of yourself? irresponsible to the point of serious life detriment? don't give a fk about things that matter? get lost.

    conversely:

    'nice guy' because you're considerate of the feelings of youself, me, and others? i'm in.

    'nice guy' because you're so totally in to me that you're always trying to win my approval with how good you are to me? always asking me if i like/don't like/what i want? always letting me choose? always putting me first? eh, get a life/personality of your own.

    you're not interesting to me if you are all about me. you're not interesting to me if you're all about you, either. i need to see that you are confident enough to be into yourself (don't give a fk, tell it like it is attitude) and into others enough to show respect and consideration and these two positions should blend and flow with as little turbulence as possible.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I'm a nice guy.
    Most the time.
  • draccy
    draccy Posts: 9 Member
    The only "bad boy" that's ever done it for me is Dean Winchester, and he's a fictional character.
  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,534 Member
    Okay, I'll be a bit more specific. By bad boy I don't necessarily mean someone who's disrespectful or abusive, although those do fit the bill. I'm mostly referring to the player type guys. You know, those guys who are mostly good looking and very charming but are habitual heart breakers. Hope that's specific enough!

    By this definition, I would be turned off immediately.
  • endoftheside
    endoftheside Posts: 568 Member
    Dated bad, learned my lesson, married nice.
  • rob1976
    rob1976 Posts: 1,328 Member
    Just about every guy that I've ever met has told me that my experience is true.

    Women tend to sleep with the bad boys and then complain about them to the nice guys that they don't sleep with.
  • wolfpack77
    wolfpack77 Posts: 655
    I think every guy has a little of both, but what shows is what you as a woman brings out in him.
  • ApocalypticFae
    ApocalypticFae Posts: 217 Member
    The dream is a guy that is nice and only *looks* bad.

    Favorite qualities: strong, sense of humor, super sexual yet loyal, adventurous, cool and collected, not cocky but confident, driven
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I like nice guys in general and for the long haul. Bad boys only have a fleeting appeal. Kind of like how you men feel about sluts, I think.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Just about every guy that I've ever met has told me that my experience is true.

    Women tend to sleep with the bad boys and then complain about them to the nice guys that they don't sleep with.

    Its the sleeping with them that makes them bad. Because then that gives them the opportunity not to call back after. The one's we haven't slept with are still calling, obviously because they haven't hit it yet. Really, I think they are all the same guy, it's just a matter of timing.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I think every guy has a little of both, but what shows is what you as a woman brings out in him.

    :flowerforyou: :drinker:

    I like this!
  • tcoupe27
    tcoupe27 Posts: 199
    Im deff a bad boy !!
  • brillmer
    brillmer Posts: 1,268 Member
    Nice guys finish last. I promise. I know from about ~10 years+ of experience.

    But - nice is who I am.. Can't change it. It sucks being brought up with proper morals and values :P
  • d9123
    d9123 Posts: 531 Member
    Can't I have both???


    at the same time?
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    I think every guy has a little of both, but what shows is what you as a woman brings out in him.

    :flowerforyou: :drinker:

    I like this!

    I 3rd this :flowerforyou:
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    I think that any guy who refers to himself as a 'nice guy' most likely isn't.

    False. My husband knows he's a nice guy, and he's pretty much a saint. Yes, I'm biased, but my parents and sisters all say he's the nicest guy they've ever known, too.
  • mikkijane1
    mikkijane1 Posts: 50 Member
    I dated a "bad guy" for a few years. He treated me horribly, never had a job, used his family for money, etc etc. I was young when I dated him, and I guess I thought I could fix him. I wised up and left the jerk, and am now happily married to a man who treats me like a princess!
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    once you have the bad boys for awhile,,, you realize that you really want the nice boys.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    head, meet desk.

    What is a good guy and a bad boy? I date humans. They are diverse.
  • operation_cute
    operation_cute Posts: 588 Member
    definitley Nice guys :) As long as they still act like men lol. My boyfriend is a perfect balance <3
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    Just about every guy that I've ever met has told me that my experience is true.

    Women tend to sleep with the bad boys and then complain about them to the nice guys that they don't sleep with.

    I’m pretty sure everyone knows at least one Nice Guy. You know, those guys who think women only want to date *kitten* and just want be friends with the nice guys. These guys are plagued with what those of us who don’t suck call Nice Guy Syndrome.

    Jeff Fecke of Shakesville.com explained Nice Guy Syndrome well here:


    All right. Seriously. A Nice Guy® is a guy who tells you, in a bitter, resentful tone, that women don’t date “nice guys,” they only date “bad boys,” and because he’s “too nice,” women only view him as a friend.

    Um… that doesn’t sound very nice.

    One big thing I hate about Nice Guys is their implication that women who don’t want to date them, for whatever reason, are *****es, sluts, ugly, or whatever other nasty insult they can come up with. But the thing I hate most? The Friend Zone.

    Even Superman is a Nice GuyThe Friend Zone is a bull****, misogynistic, make-believe land Nice Guys have come up with to demonize women for not wanting to date them. They use it as an excuse to ignore the fact that there are Actual Reasons behind their decision to not pursue a relationship or have sex with this guy. You know, like not being physically attracted to them. Or not being able to connect with them. Or seeing through their crap and realizing that the only reason these guys are even friends with them in the first place is so they can get laid.

    It’s honestly one of the biggest loads of crap I’ve ever heard. Nice Guys are arrogant, egotistical, selfish douche bags who run around telling the world about how they’re the perfect boyfriend and they’re just so nice. But you know what? If these guys were genuinely nice, they wouldn’t be saying things like “the ***** stuck me in the friend zone because she only likes *kitten*.” Guess what? If she actually only liked *kitten*, then she would likely be super attracted to you because you are one.

    Honestly. Is it really that unbearable to be friends with a person? Women don’t only exist to date or have sex with you. We are living, thinking creatures who maybe—just maybe—want to date and sex people we’re attracted to. And that doesn’t make any of us *****es. It makes us human.

    Just Friends, the early beginnings of the Friend ZoneI feel like Nice Guy Syndrome and the existence of the Friend Zone really exploded in 2005 when the movie Just Friends came out. The main character, portrayed by Ryan Reynolds, was always just a friend to the love of his life… until, of course, the end, when she magically fell in love with him.

    Movies like this are really kind of poisonous. It puts the idea into people’s heads that if they wait out the Friend Zone, the woman responsible for their distress will just wake up one day and realize they’re in love with them. And they’ll tell themselves (and everyone else) they deserve it, over and over again. But you know what? You don’t deserve the dirt on my shoe if you don’t treat me with respect. Actual respect, not the kind you feign in an attempt to get me into bed with you.

    This is my message to all the Nice Guys out there: if you call a woman a *****, a slut, a skank, a *kitten*, ugly, whatever, because she doesn’t want you, you are not nice. If you’re only nice to a woman because you want to be with her, you are not nice. And if you whine about constantly being Friend Zoned, it’s probably because you are not nice. End of story.

    Written by Alisse Desrosiers
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    summary:

    women are not vending machines that you put nice into until the sex falls out.

    Also, men aren't A or B. They are human. Abusive *kitten* come off as nice sometimes. And nice guys are ****s sometimes. And any guy I date, regardless of who he is, is gonna be someone I complain about because relationships are complicated and loving sometimes hurts.
  • Ninachka87
    Ninachka87 Posts: 2
    So True! :)
  • fit_spired_vicky
    fit_spired_vicky Posts: 152
    Who cares, if you can make my inner slut come out Im all yours.
  • coolraul07
    coolraul07 Posts: 1,606 Member
    I'll share my experience, which is by no means meant to be interpreted as the universal truth.

    In high school, the majority of girls (e.g. 80-90%) went for the 'bad boys' (e.g. delinquents, playas/dawgs, or all-purpose dumb@$$es), but to be fair, you'd be hard-pressed to throw a stick in the air and not hit one! I was one of the few "nice guys" and of course was "friend-zoned" by all my female friends.
    Fast-forward 10-20 years, most of these same girls are tired of all the 'bad boys' and want a 'nice guy', but many of the 'nice guys' have... ummm... (trying to keep it P.C.)... expanded their horizons and found that they were a valued commodity outside of the neighborhoods in which they grew up. Now these same girls who 'friend-zoned' the 'nice guys' back in the day are verbally bashing the 'nice guys' at every turn because the 'nice guys' didn't wait around for them and went out into the world got someone on their arm that doesn't look like the 'girls back home'! Oh well, you snooze, you lose!

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