Nice guys vs Bad boys

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  • Beckboo0912
    Beckboo0912 Posts: 447 Member
    I used to think you could have the best of noth worlds, you can't. I don't think nice guys always finish last but if a bad boy is a true bad boy he knows what to say to get what he wants, so girls being blind/dumb sometimes fall for it. I know what I want and I would say I would much rather a nice guy but not a doormat.
  • runner2runner
    runner2runner Posts: 1,937 Member
    I speak for just my self but I have realized after dating 'Bad Boys' that women don't generally know they are about to embark on a Bad Boy ride. Most bad boys tend to have more confidence, which is very attractive to women. A woman won't usually initiate a move and usually relies on a man to do so. And the chances of the bad boy making the first move, as opposed to the nice guy who is over-thinking his move waaaay too much are much higher. But once the woman finds out what the bad boy is all about, she'll go looking for that nice guy.

    True. Bad boys generally tend to have more confidence (which could also be arrogance) that good boys. But a lot of good boys have confidence too and are able to make their moves on a women confidently and with great charm. However, and this is from my own personal experience, it tends to be the other way around. In other words, the moment she realises that she's with a good guy, she dumps him and before you know, she's traded him for a bad boy. I'm seriously not making this up. I've seen it happen so many times. From my own experience, it really does seem like for whatever mysterious reason, women, or at least most of them, are just not attracted to good boys. Obviously I'm probably wrong in more ways than one, but that's what I see a lot.
  • Curleycue0314
    Curleycue0314 Posts: 245 Member
    A nice guy who's a bad boy in bed. :laugh:
    THIS
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    I don't do bad boys. Nice guys all the way.
    And not the ones who SAY they're nice guys but aren't.
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member

    I speak for just my self but I have realized after dating 'Bad Boys' that women don't generally know they are about to embark on a Bad Boy ride. Most bad boys tend to have more confidence, which is very attractive to women. A woman won't usually initiate a move and usually relies on a man to do so. And the chances of the bad boy making the first move, as opposed to the nice guy who is over-thinking his move waaaay too much are much higher. But once the woman finds out what the bad boy is all about, she'll go looking for that nice guy.

    Nice people are required to assert their desires and needs too. The difference is that nice people don't lie to get what they want. Someone who won't make a move when he or she wants to express interest in another person is cowardly, not nice.
  • CarolElaine25
    CarolElaine25 Posts: 102 Member
    I speak for just my self but I have realized after dating 'Bad Boys' that women don't generally know they are about to embark on a Bad Boy ride. Most bad boys tend to have more confidence, which is very attractive to women. A woman won't usually initiate a move and usually relies on a man to do so. And the chances of the bad boy making the first move, as opposed to the nice guy who is over-thinking his move waaaay too much are much higher. But once the woman finds out what the bad boy is all about, she'll go looking for that nice guy.

    Nice people are required to assert their desires and needs too. The difference is that nice people don't lie to get what they want. Someone who won't make a move when he or she wants to express interest in another person is cowardly, not nice.

    Or maybe they're just super shy. My boyfriend (a naturally nice guy with a naughty edge) is also very shy. He doesn't feel comfortable in most social situations and doesn't like to take the risk of offending those he might be interested in, as he knows he's not the most socially adjusted person. As a result, I ended up being the one to make all the first moves in our relationship. As someone who has been painfully shy in the past and who still feels some discomfort in social situations (though no where near as bad as I used to), I knew where he was coming from. I didn't take his reticence as cowardly at all.
  • ohmelgosh79
    ohmelgosh79 Posts: 118 Member
    The bad boy that turns out to be a nice guy..

    this.
  • chesq77
    chesq77 Posts: 270 Member
    bad boys aint no good
    good boys aint no fun
    .....
    bad girls aint no good
    good girls aint no fun
  • absurdic
    absurdic Posts: 62 Member
    How about neither? I like real men.
  • MsJulielicious
    MsJulielicious Posts: 708 Member
    Oh I got this one!
    Sit down boys, lemme tell you a story.
    Being a "bad boy", and yelling sexually aggressive **** at me from across the parking lot make me RUN. **** is scary, Knock it off. Be sweet, shy smile from across the room. That's how it's done.
    You are welcome
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    Don't worry Nick Carter, some girls like nice guys.
  • Nightterror218
    Nightterror218 Posts: 375 Member
    Oh I got this one!
    Sit down boys, lemme tell you a story.
    Being a "bad boy", and yelling sexually aggressive **** at me from across the parking lot make me RUN. **** is scary, Knock it off. Be sweet, shy smile from across the room. That's how it's done.
    You are welcome


    hmmmmm

    so i must have it all wrong then lol. I am not shy, i fail.
  • MsJulielicious
    MsJulielicious Posts: 708 Member
    Oh I got this one!
    Sit down boys, lemme tell you a story.
    Being a "bad boy", and yelling sexually aggressive **** at me from across the parking lot make me RUN. **** is scary, Knock it off. Be sweet, shy smile from across the room. That's how it's done.
    You are welcome


    hmmmmm

    so i must have it all wrong then lol. I am not shy, i fail.

    I can hardly see you chasing me down with a crazy face, saying crazy things.
    or would you... Lol
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    My Mr is my nice guy :) not over nice or a *kitten* :) been together 3 years so its weren't just in the 'honeymoon' period. Been out with *kitten* and super nice guys but just in the middle is perfect ...... I do like the 'bad boy' look but manly bad boy
    Look not the guys who use more product than me :L
  • Nightterror218
    Nightterror218 Posts: 375 Member
    Oh I got this one!
    Sit down boys, lemme tell you a story.
    Being a "bad boy", and yelling sexually aggressive **** at me from across the parking lot make me RUN. **** is scary, Knock it off. Be sweet, shy smile from across the room. That's how it's done.
    You are welcome


    hmmmmm

    so i must have it all wrong then lol. I am not shy, i fail.

    I can hardly see you chasing me down with a crazy face, saying crazy things.
    or would you... Lol

    you know me lol

    depends on how much you made me drink
  • andyisandy
    andyisandy Posts: 433 Member
    A nice guy who's a bad boy in bed. :laugh:
    yup!
  • EricMurano
    EricMurano Posts: 825 Member
    You all are letting your brains get in front of your biology ...
  • dysonspacz
    dysonspacz Posts: 76 Member
    I tried to be nice all of the time. Always got overlooked. I was always "like a brother". I started speaking my mind more and not worrying about trying to have everyone like me. I stopped trying to be "nice" all of the time. I was nice. Just not all of the time. I wasn't worried about offending anyone. The number of friends i had decreased but the quality of those that remained, increased dramatically.

    Yeah i scared off more girls this way. The ones that stayed around were actually worth my time though so it worked out.
  • MagentaChallenger
    MagentaChallenger Posts: 11
    I tend to find my self attracted to the guy who is rough & cold on the outside but on the inside is caring and sweet; you just got to work your way to break through the shell to get to know who he really is.
  • Dubble81
    Dubble81 Posts: 90
    I find that a balance between the two is money in the bank. You know, the bad boy who throws off subtle hints that I might just be willing to change my naughty ways... for you.
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member
    I find that a balance between the two is money in the bank. You know, the bad boy who throws off subtle hints that I might just be willing to change my naughty ways... for you.
    ding ding ding... Right answer xD
  • usmc01462
    usmc01462 Posts: 1,944 Member
    Interesting conversation...I have been called both.. And the comment about the crotch rocket..I got that to tried the Harley I got bored with it..as far as having to be in the clink (jail) been there to..but as an officer and that was body slamming the "bad boys" and now I am a cop and still doing the same And as well as being a Marine to seek out and destroy!

    As far as a big teddy bear been called that to...To see a woman break down into tears is all it takes for me

    Now ask my kids and they will tell you im the bad boy as I have chased many boys out of the back door of my house and they have yet to return..

    I have one boy and 3 attitudes
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    I've always liked bad boys but I cannot tell you why. It just always happened that way. When I was younger the excitement of it all was probably the key factor, as I hit mid 20's I thought "enough of this bad boy *kitten*" & about 7 months later I met a very nice guy who was the complete opposite to what I normally went for & for a few weeks I thought "he's too nice" but nearly 8 years later we are still together & I love the fact that he is a nice guy. He treats his family well, never has a bad word to say about anyone, doesn't get drunk every weekend with the blokes.

    I think there comes a time when women work out what they really want & if its the bad boys then they are probably in for years of heartache & being treated like crap. I didn't want that & I wanted my future children to have a good role model.
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    I find that a balance between the two is money in the bank. You know, the bad boy who throws off subtle hints that I might just be willing to change my naughty ways... for you.

    :drinker:
  • onlythetancan
    onlythetancan Posts: 66
    I like both, but you would bang the bad boy and marry the nice one :)
  • chantelp89
    chantelp89 Posts: 590 Member
    I find that a balance between the two is money in the bank. You know, the bad boy who throws off subtle hints that I might just be willing to change my naughty ways... for you.
    It'll getcha every time
  • Minerva624
    Minerva624 Posts: 577 Member
    I tend to find my self attracted to the guy who is rough & cold on the outside but on the inside is caring and sweet; you just got to work your way to break through the shell to get to know who he really is.

    Same.
  • mommylifter
    mommylifter Posts: 123
    I find that a balance between the two is money in the bank. You know, the bad boy who throws off subtle hints that I might just be willing to change my naughty ways... for you.

    Bingo. What every woman wants.
  • runner2runner
    runner2runner Posts: 1,937 Member

    I speak for just my self but I have realized after dating 'Bad Boys' that women don't generally know they are about to embark on a Bad Boy ride. Most bad boys tend to have more confidence, which is very attractive to women. A woman won't usually initiate a move and usually relies on a man to do so. And the chances of the bad boy making the first move, as opposed to the nice guy who is over-thinking his move waaaay too much are much higher. But once the woman finds out what the bad boy is all about, she'll go looking for that nice guy.

    Nice people are required to assert their desires and needs too. The difference is that nice people don't lie to get what they want. Someone who won't make a move when he or she wants to express interest in another person is cowardly, not nice.

    I think you're confusing cowardice with shyness. Most guys or girls (mostly guys) who're reluctant to make a move on a person they're interested are usually reluctant because they're shy. Being shy doesn't make one a coward. A coward won't make a move, no matter how much they're pushed or how good an opportunity is because they're scared of being embarrassed or humiliated. A shy person is not necessarily scared but just needs the a push the right direction or just the right moment to get enough courage to make a move. A lot of bad boys are actually shy too. They just know how to overcome it when the moment is right.

    In a nutshell, cowards have no courage at all. Shy people on the one hand do have the courage, they just need a bit of prodding to get it out.
  • gettinfitaus
    gettinfitaus Posts: 161 Member
    Definitely the good man, I married a bad boy the first time and knew it was over when he reassured me that it was ok because he was going to teach our baby how to take illicit drugs responsibly.:explode: :noway:

    DP is a GOOD man, he works hard for our family and teaches our kids the right way. His family have taken on my oldest DS as their own, and so has he.:love: doesn't hurt that he has just a touch of the bad boy in the right places!

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