Nice guys vs Bad boys

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  • MzFyreKitty
    MzFyreKitty Posts: 93
    Married a good guy, dated plenty of frogs prior to meeting this guy and would never go back to being treated like cr@p again:)
  • mego07
    mego07 Posts: 234 Member
    I admit I am attracted to the rugged rough around the edges kind of guy. However, after dating one for 2 years, i'll never do it again. I had the guy who was tatted up all over, who became clean from drugs and was anti establishment and an atheist. He was the sweetest most caring person and loved me more than anything. He even changed somethings and was about to propose. I broke up with him a month today actually... holy crap. a month. I just realized that as i typed it. woa.

    Any who.. He was unreliable and there wasn't ever going to be "future" with him because we didn't have the same paths. His work ethic sucked, and if i wanted house and kids down the road i needed someone who i can always turn to.. that is the downside to the bad guy. He is fun and all, but unless you have that same life style it is unrealistic. I miss him a lot and he is my best friend.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    Tim McGraw said it best
    "I'm a real bad boy
    But I can be a real good man."

    Both. Exciting and daring, yet kind and considerate. You can have the best of both worlds I am practically married to my real bad boy who happens to be a fine man and a great dad :)
  • KeepCalmNGetyaSweatOn
    KeepCalmNGetyaSweatOn Posts: 361 Member
    After years of being Effed over by bad boys when I was young and dumb, I realized what was most important in a man. A kind heart is worth so much more than what some self proclaimed "bad boy" has to offer. (Which most of the time is nothing but trouble, grief, and heart ache.)
  • elishazf
    elishazf Posts: 332 Member
    define bad boy haha
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I've never found A-holes to be the slightest bit attractive. I also can't stand complete wussies and mama's boys either. I prefer a well-rounded guy who respects himself and others.
  • Brebrelynne
    Brebrelynne Posts: 134 Member
    I like nice guys who have bad boy moment...or just naughty moments lol
  • bowmab21
    bowmab21 Posts: 150 Member
    Girls want a guy to buy them flowers, and cook them dinner.......then slap their *kitten* and pull their hair
  • ZealousMissJJ
    ZealousMissJJ Posts: 454 Member
    Girls want a guy to buy them flowers, and cook them dinner.......then slap their *kitten* and pull their hair

    Uhm.. yes.
  • Topsking2010
    Topsking2010 Posts: 2,245 Member
    A nice guy who's a bad boy in bed. :laugh:



    She just describe me!!!
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    my husband is a nice person. I married him because he's nice and I can also sustain an intellectual conversation with, he's very interesting, has a great sense of humour and is also physically attractive. And when I say nice, I mean kind, considerate, caring and all of that. I wouldn't have considered marrying any guy who was "not nice", because I don't want to be in any kind of relationship (or even friends) with someone who's unkind, inconsiderate and uncaring about others.

    Women are not going to drop their knickers and throw themselves at a man for no reason other than the fact that he's nice. Nice is important, it's in there along with "breathing", "has a pulse", "is human", "has good personal hygiene" etc.... but that's just the basics, he needs to be a lot more than just a nice human guy who has a pulse, is breathing and doesn't stink....
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    Girls want a guy to buy them flowers, and cook them dinner.......then slap their *kitten* and pull their hair

    :laugh: there's some truth to this
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    my husband is a nice person. I married him because he's nice and I can also sustain an intellectual conversation with, he's very interesting, has a great sense of humour and is also physically attractive. And when I say nice, I mean kind, considerate, caring and all of that. I wouldn't have considered marrying any guy who was "not nice", because I don't want to be in any kind of relationship (or even friends) with someone who's unkind, inconsiderate and uncaring about others.

    Women are not going to drop their knickers and throw themselves at a man for no reason other than the fact that he's nice. Nice is important, it's in there along with "breathing", "has a pulse", "is human", "has good personal hygiene" etc.... but that's just the basics, he needs to be a lot more than just a nice human guy who has a pulse, is breathing and doesn't stink....

    :flowerforyou:
  • AmberBelandria
    AmberBelandria Posts: 78 Member
    I have dated a ton of bad boys and in my book its defined as Arrogant, all about themselves. No concern for you feelings, emotional, mental and physically abusive. I do not ever care to have a bad boy again. However I am attracted to a confident man who takes pride in his appearance. He beams with pride when his girl is on his arm. He is protective, kind, considerate, christian man. He treats his women like he would want a man to treat his mother with RESPECT!! I think the song goes a lady on the street but a freak in the bed. I think the same goes for men. I believe you treat someone how you want to be treat. Think in your mind if he/she were to do this would I get mad? If the answer is yes then don't do it. Things are so simple but people make them much harder then they need to be.
  • nicole_andan
    nicole_andan Posts: 127
    I dated plenty of bad boys (and not just a bit bad, plain old mean and dangerous!) I also dated some nice ones but got bored as there was no challenge! Then I met my husband who was a bit like me, mostly nice with a bit naughty thrown in and we had a lot of fun and then gradually settled and now we're still both mostly nice with a bit of naughty!

    Best thing to have is a bit of balance, sweet is only nice with a bit of sour!
  • indigo_rose
    indigo_rose Posts: 250
    Girls want a guy to buy them flowers, and cook them dinner.......then slap their *kitten* and pull their hair

    This ^
  • samischell
    samischell Posts: 40
    Nice guy in public .......bad boy under the sheets.... My hubby is a big biker with tatoos and a big ole teddy bear with our kids :) so a bit of both is my preference>
  • Justjamie0418
    Justjamie0418 Posts: 1,065 Member
    Every guy is different. THAT's for sure.

    I thought I had married a 'nice' guy (first husband)... Cheater.

    I was in a serious relationship with a pretty serious 'Bad boy' and I still have a big soft spot for him in my heart... You cant help who you really love. :brokenheart: It's one of those things.. I had to let him go, but if he were to show up at my door, I dont know how I could say no or turn him away. And I know if I ever needed him for anything he'd be right there to help me with one phone call. (If he happened to not be in prison, LOL)

    My husband now is another 'Good' guy, VERY straight and narrow... He hasnt been so 'nice' in the past either and has probably caused me the most emotional grief out of any of my exes.

    A LOT of times things arent what they seem. Though I think I have had the best luck with the bad boys... Cant help it I guess.
  • ThinUpGirl
    ThinUpGirl Posts: 397
    I love bad boys, but they cant be trusted. Bad boys are fun, but I like to be waited on....not waiting around.

    So nice guys that behave badly in bed works for Me.
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    Bad boys are fun to play around with for awhile, but I married the good boy. A choice I'll never regret!
  • coolraul07
    coolraul07 Posts: 1,606 Member
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  • betterthanbefpre
    betterthanbefpre Posts: 168 Member
    Dated the bad boy but married the nice guy. ;) Much happier for it!! The bad boys tend to cheat.
  • samsara18
    samsara18 Posts: 40
    Nice guys - but it all comes down to charisma and chemistry that 'je ne sais quoi!'
  • Natfacestuff
    Natfacestuff Posts: 19 Member
    I only dated bad boys until the last one hurt me far too much. Bad boys are bad for a reason, they are fun, naughty, initimidating and will only really leave a girl hurt. Now dating a nice guy and I feel so secure and better about myself. I wish I could have known earlier you can have fun with nice guys too!