How to tell her she's gaining weight...

She knows she is gaining weight.

Why would you tell her? She already knows.

Obviously,she knows.

Don't tell her. There is such thing as justifiable homicide, you know.

Nope. I have toldy husband to tell me if he thinks I am getting chunky and he did. Sometimes people need a wake up call and if you are going to get upset because the person you married is telling you you are not the same person they fell in love with because you've put on some pounds then you have issues. There is no need to get upset when honesty is involved. My husband did. It marry a fat woman therefore I would expect him to be upset and tell me when I am putting on weight.

Whether or not she "already knows it" if she is not doing anything about it and it clearly bothers her SO why should t something be said?

I am sure she knows. Telling her will ultimately piss her off and you will get a major attitude. Maybe try encouraging her to do activities with you or go for walks.

This is the best way to approach it...she probably already knows and is probably already unhappy about it. Encourage the physical activities like this and then see if she starts conversation about things during/after these walks and go from there.

She knows she is gaining weight.

You could tell her how much you like MFP and suggest that she join you by getting her own account. I wouldn't go much further than that unless you know she is the kind of person to take it well.

If I got obese I would want him to whip me into shape... But if its a couple pounds (like what happened in the winter.. almost 30lbs+) He kept his mouth shut lol...

This came up on another weight loss board I am on.

I personally didn't notice I was gaining weight until I had gained *a lot* of weight. I do believe there is a small percentage of people who are like me. I was actually annoyed that no one told me when I started to gain weight, everyone mentioned it when I had gained a lot and then it was hard to do anything about.

My husband has now gained a lot of weight. From my experience with that I find that the easiest thing to do is to actually help with meals, activity choices, etc., rather than focusing on the weight issue or discussing it.

Talking about health is good too, like going and getting your blood pressure, cholesterol checked and encouraging her to do that too. Not sure if there are kids in the picture, but talking about having a health house for kids, having activity and good food choices can also be helpful for everyone in the household.

You can also ask her for help with your weight loss or training if that is possible (i.e. ask her to go to the gym with you to help motivate you/keep you from being bored).

I have found people respond much better to that sort of thing than they do to a weight loss conversation.

Only if you would like to completely give up sex and never see her naked again.

Oh boy - living life dangerously if you do that! Let us know which ER you end up in. She knows if she's been putting on the pounds.

Like others have said - she already knows. It's about how you approach her on the topic. I pesonally would accept if my guy suggested we work out together or plan better meals together. If you just say hey, you're gettin' chunky then that doesn't work. Volunteer yourself to join her on the journey for motivation. Or support her in some way instead of coming at her and telling her she's gettin' big.

Take it from a great-grandma, she already knows she is gaining weight. Perhaps you could could (in as nice a way as possible) try and encourage her to work out with you. Most woman are (over) sensitive about their weight and can tell right away if you are being insensitive about it. So be very careful in your approach.

It TRULY depends on delivery. My BF told me once that "we should both get in better shape". (Not that he had much to work on, lucky *kitten*) He joined in for a bit, then stopped. But, he never fusses about the healthy meals, makes sure to tell me things that he sees moving around and tightening up, tells me my *kitten* is looking good. He came at it in a "we" way, and even though he chose to drop out, has been very supportive and uplifting.

Nope. I have toldy husband to tell me if he thinks I am getting chunky and he did. Sometimes people need a wake up call and if you are going to get upset because the person you married is telling you you are not the same person they fell in love with because you've put on some pounds then you have issues. There is no need to get upset when honesty is involved. My husband did. It marry a fat woman therefore I would expect him to be upset and tell me when I am putting on weight.

Whether or not she "already knows it" if she is not doing anything about it and it clearly bothers her SO why should t something be said?

I agree with this. I prefer honesty from my spouse. If I ask him a question about my weight, I want and expect an honest answer.

As for "she knows it", honestly you don't know that. Some women can be in serious denial. I was. I wish my husband had told me I was putting weight on a few months ago. I could have nipped this in the bud before it got worse.