I need a girl's advice regarding a man's problem.
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Holy replies in 5 minutes.
Well I guess I got my answer.
To answer a few replies.
I know she does no exercise because she told me she doesnt, and for the year that I have known her, she has never said she has done anything active.
Another question was, why do I wish to know: I want to be able to talk with her about it and let her know there are ways to fix it. She may not know that toning can happen from rapid weight loss when loose skin appears. If she is living with this and is unaware of a way to fix it..I figured I could help. I'm seeing by the replies that this was a bad thought process.
Anyways, Thank you everyone for the replies...I guess I'll just keep it to myself.
Did you say toning?????????
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Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.
^ He knows what he's talking about. I would listen to every piece of this advice.0 -
I admit I'd never heard the term skinny fat used the way people on MFP use it, but this doesn't sound like skinny fat to me. If she were skinny fat, she'd have fat not loose skin.. If she's young she likely lost a lot of weight quickly. You can be muscular and still have loose skin if you lose too quickly.
But unless you want to hurt her, dont' ask about it.0 -
Do NOT ask her about it!
I have loose skin from weight loss, and even though I was doing resistance training and martial arts workouts eight hours a week, the loose skin remained. My doctor told me that the only thing that would get rid of it was surgery. I am very self-conscious about my own loose skin, and I dress accordingly. It would be a Very Bad Idea™ to make her feel self-conscious around you by saying something about it.0 -
I can honestly say...that in the time I have been on this site...I have NEVER seen everyone post almost the EXACT same response and agree with each other....I am too shocked to reply now....0
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Ways to fix it ???? Oh my, I am so glad you asked here first. Great, you decided to just wait - until she mentions it.0
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On another note, not sure if this was mentioned... But if you're going to call us "girl's" call yourself a "boy", not a man. I'm not usually all femi-crazy, but your thread title is relatively silly.0
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Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.
Oh Cliff!
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I think you should first set up a video camera and tape you asking her.
Just be upfront about it and say, "Yo! What up with that baggy skin?"
Then post it here so we can see her kick you in the nuts and then laugh at you.0 -
Holy replies in 5 minutes.
Well I guess I got my answer.
To answer a few replies.
I know she does no exercise because she told me she doesnt, and for the year that I have known her, she has never said she has done anything active.
Another question was, why do I wish to know: I want to be able to talk with her about it and let her know there are ways to fix it. She may not know that toning can happen from rapid weight loss when loose skin appears. If she is living with this and is unaware of a way to fix it..I figured I could help. I'm seeing by the replies that this was a bad thought process.
Anyways, Thank you everyone for the replies...I guess I'll just keep it to myself.
It is sweet of you to be concerned and want to help, but even people who have specifically ASKED me for help with weight loss have got huffy when I tried to give them some because it wasn't what they wanted to hear. I cannot imagine the response I'd have got if I'd just said "hey, that problem you have that probably embarasses you? This is how to fix it!"
Just see if she brings it up ever and then you can talk about it, otherwise maybe encourage her to exercise without ever mentioning your reasons why.0 -
*trying to think of suggestions for OP to brush up on basic social skills*0
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^^THISWhy would you want to talk to her about it?
Mind your own business.0 -
Everything the above posters said. Just mind your own business.0
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If some dude approached me (friend or other wise) about my loose skin I would probably call him douchepants and kick him in the head - not joking.0
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Just grab the skin and play with it. Surely it will come up in conversation then. Hope this helps. :flowerforyou:0
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My advice is don't mention it. Why do you want to know, exactly? Stretch marks and loose skin ARE usually from rapid weight gain/loss. There's your answer, good enough. Please don't comment on her body, though. People can be very self conscious and there is no dire reason why you need to know.0
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yeah there's really no need to ask about it? unless you're a plastic surgeon and want to offer free services? What could you possibly expect to gain from it? considering she wore a two piece in front of everyone she has come to terms with it, so should you0
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Keep your mouth shut and mind your own business.0
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I am baffled by those responders who suggested this should go a different way if he was hoping to have sex with her than if they were just friends. Because his desire for her will fix the stretched-out skin? Because mentioning a woman's loose skin is an awesome way to start the mating ritual? Because she has more of an obligation to deal with the loose skin if he is hoping to hit that? Three strikes.0
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Dude... just walk away. If she is your friend... don't go there. Friends don't make friends feel more insecure.0
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I wouldnt say anything. Unless she asks. Then I still would advise you to change the subject. I feel like no matter what you said, even with the best intentions, it would come out wrong. Just sayin'0
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Don't.0
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Wow. Do NOT, I repeat DO NOT bring this up to her- for both her sake and yours! It probably took her a lot of courage to get in that bikini and to have anyone mention her "imperfections" to her will just hurt her and make you look like an @ss- not saying you are one but that's probably how it would be interpreted. I'm not sure how this is even "a man's problem"- it's not hurting you and if you find it unattractive then I guess she's not a girl you should date.
^^^This^^^ If it took a year for you to see her in a bikini (or anything revealing), she's obviously self-concious about her body. Do not make it worse by bringing it up in conversation.0 -
Don't say **** to her unless you can pay for the excess skin removal surgery. That's the only thing that fixes that problem, she probably just can't afford the surgery yet.0
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I am so confused by this lol. When I first started reading this I thought you were going to go into some reason about why you were "concerned for her health" or something but then you just ended it by saying that you're curious why she has all this loose skin?!
I don't get why you care first of all. Tons of people have stretch marks for various reason and this is no different. I don't think there is any reason why you need to know why she has loose skin and there is NO way to ask her (so you aren't curious about her personal life anymore) without offending her and upsetting her so just don't.
Just because you are curious does not mean you have any right to know why she has loose skin?0 -
Do a little reverse psychology.... Tell her how thin and great she looks, and then just slyly slip in a question about if she's always been so thin, and if she's ever done any sort of exercise regimen. You'll get answers and be complimenting her at the same time. Win-Win.0
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How about this.. Take before pictures of you now, I say go ASK her why (:laugh: :devil: ), and take a bunch of after pictures so we can see what progress yuve made!!! DO IT.... DO IT NOWW!!! :bigsmile: :noway:0
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So my question for you ladies is...how would you want a guy to approach you regarding this topic if this were you? My objective is two fold. I want to figure out what caused this loose skin and I also want to be able to talk to her about it without her getting defensive or depressed about it.
Ha ha ha ha!.... *breathe* ... Ha ha ha ha! Rookie!
Never and I do mean never ever ever, talk to a woman about her personal features you find fault with unless she begs you for advice, and then make sure you have a solid relationship that can take some heat because she'll still get crushed over it.
Women know if they have so much as one hair out of place and have already mentally flogged themselves to death 30 times over the issue. If it's a problem she wants help from you with, she'll ask.
My advice from nearly 20 years of marriage is to just listen and not try to solve problems even if you see the obvious solution to these problems.0 -
Um... keep your mouth shut LOL! I am sure she already knows about the skin and you bringing it up will only make her MORE self conscious about it then she already is (I'm sure).
Unless you are planning to get into a relationship with her, then MAYBE the subject could come up, but otherwise... some things are better left unsaid!
agreed, it's none of your business. and stop objectifying her. she's likely to be more than aware of the issue.0 -
Email the mods and ask this be removed.
You are going to be eaten alive.
Don't say anything to the lady.
Apologize now....throw bacon....before this gets out of hand.
Made my day with this comment!0
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