The Science Behind "Nice" People
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What your "study" shows is it's better for everyone to be nice. Better for them (you've helped in some way) and better for you, as you're likely to get something in return, even it's just goodwill for the gesture.
I don't see how you find this to be an argument for being a ****. Most people aren't intentionally nice to get things out of others. It's simply a happy side effect.
I'm the kinda girl that assumes the best in people until they show me otherwise. This doesn't mean I'm a doormat. Common sense must prevail and if you're suspicious about someone, always use caution (I'm not buying any bridges). But I've tried the other way too. You get more flies from honey. And I'd rather think good things about people.0 -
I think this is true to a point, but I also think things like "empathy" can play a part.0
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This. Sure, taking care of each other helps society as a whole, providing a better environment for all of us (can you tell I'm not a republican)? But to say that's the ONLY reason someone would be nice is pretty narrow-focused and discounts all the other motivations driving people.
I don't argue that the human being is largely motivated by survival, of the individual, the clan, and the species. But when survival isn't at risk, there's plenty of room for other motivations (I.e., Maslow).0 -
I'd say it's more correlated than proven.
Leave it to some libtard to turn this into something political. Keep telling yourself that democrats are all about peace and love and that republicans are evil. This is just what you are meant to believe, this means that the propaganda mill is working! Then you don't think for yourself. It's better that way...0 -
Even if you accept the premise that there are larger motives for "being nice", you've drawn the wrong conclusion.
"Being nice" benefits the ENTIRE GROUP, not simply the person performing "nice behavior". If it didn't, we wouldn't continue as a social species.0 -
I'd say it's more correlated than proven.
Leave it to some libtard to turn this into something political. Keep telling yourself that democrats are all about peace and love and that republicans are evil. This is just what you are meant to believe, this means that the propaganda mill is working! Then you don't think for yourself. It's better that way...0 -
Wow, that must be a very miserable world you live in where you a) will not trust anybody and b) you have to break down niceness into a equation that proves that everyone you meet is a self-serving pr*ck.
B. It's not my equation. It was published before I was born.I'd rather appreciate it when somebody's nice to me and accept, yes there are horrible people out there but it us up to me how I allow that to influence my view of the world. You give horrible people a LOT of power if you allow them make you so cynical.
Works for me.0 -
Maybe true for some but not for all!
I'm nice because I treat people how I want to be treated. Because I was brought up to be nice and considerate.
I don't expect to get anything from anyone except equal treatment0 -
This. Sure, taking care of each other helps society as a whole, providing a better environment for all of us (can you tell I'm not a republican)? But to say that's the ONLY reason someone would be nice is pretty narrow-focused and discounts all the other motivations driving people.
What exactly is the notion of "humanity"? Anyone who looks around for a bit would realize that humans are not perfect creatures whose every act is one of selfless compassion. I'm not quite sure why the idea of a biological basis of behavior is so disappointing.0 -
Wow, that must be a very miserable world you live in where you a) will not trust anybody and b) you have to break down niceness into a equation that proves that everyone you meet is a self-serving pr*ck.
B. It's not my equation. It was published before I was born.I'd rather appreciate it when somebody's nice to me and accept, yes there are horrible people out there but it us up to me how I allow that to influence my view of the world. You give horrible people a LOT of power if you allow them make you so cynical.
Works for me.0 -
I'd say it's more correlated than proven.
I actually agree with you and I *am* a Republican. But ridiculous, unfounded mud slinging is always fun, right?
LOL I am starting to think that ridiculous, unfounded mud slinging is part of the democrats platform...0 -
I volunteered on a suicide hotline for nearly 5 years (after surviving a few years of awful depression myself). I did it to give something to others who were suffering. When I helped people and they finished the call feeling more positive/more hopeful/even laughing, yes it did indeed make me feel great and it put a spring in my step. I still have cards and letters that callers had sent to me thanking me for helping them and some even say I saved their lives that day/night. When I'm having a bad day, I read those and they lift me so much.
I don't know, but if that's "self-serving" then so be it.0 -
OP, you might find this series interesting -
http://www.radiolab.org/2010/dec/14/
http://www.radiolab.org/2010/dec/14/equation-good/0 -
"Being nice" benefits the ENTIRE GROUP, not simply the person performing "nice behavior". If it didn't, we wouldn't continue as a social species.0
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I'd say it's more correlated than proven.
Leave it to some libtard to turn this into something political. Keep telling yourself that democrats are all about peace and love and that republicans are evil. This is just what you are meant to believe, this means that the propaganda mill is working! Then you don't think for yourself. It's better that way...
Then I guess you don't have that excuse for your narrow mind...0 -
I'm not quite sure why the idea of a biological basis of behavior is so disappointing.
I don't get it either. :shrug:
It's a shame Mr. Price found this to be so troubling (clearly he had some issues going on) but I don't understand how this is seen as a negative thing. It's simply an explanation. We do good to benefit everyone, including ourselves. So?0 -
Is anyone else reminded of Vizzini in "Princess Bride"?0
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Maybe true for some but not for all!
I'm nice because I treat people how I want to be treated. Because I was brought up to be nice and considerate.
I don't expect to get anything from anyone except equal treatment
You're nice... because you want people to be nice to you, in return.
I love epiphany moments.0 -
Wow, that must be a very miserable world you live in where you a) will not trust anybody and b) you have to break down niceness into a equation that proves that everyone you meet is a self-serving pr*ck.
B. It's not my equation. It was published before I was born.I'd rather appreciate it when somebody's nice to me and accept, yes there are horrible people out there but it us up to me how I allow that to influence my view of the world. You give horrible people a LOT of power if you allow them make you so cynical.
Works for me.
I agree, in the OP he came off as implying that being less nice was somehow better because you aren't conforming to your genetically programmed ways. Of course there's always going to be a wide spectrum of variations on the niceness scale on an individual basis. I think he's just trying to get a response. Interesting discussion though.0 -
While there is a lot of evidence that altruism does serve an adaptive purpose in both animals and humans (which has led to a debate about how altruistic altruism actually is) I think you've massively overstated the amount of evidence for, and the overall impact of, Price's work specifically. Price was not the first person to propose that altruistic behavior had a very real adaptive advantage, nor was he the last. Moreover, just because you can write down an equation about how you think two things are related, does not make it true. This type of model, or theorem is known to be overly reductionist, as Box and Draper wrote "remember that all models are wrong; the practical question is how wrong do they have to be to not be useful." Price's model undoubtedly provided food for thought, and may even be useful scientifically, but that does not make it absolutely true, or the final word on the subject of either altruism or humanity. Finally, I'd like to contest the use of the word "proven" used in the context of any scientific discussion, as "proof" is not the project of science, rather, the goal of science is to provide evidence against some explanations in order to provide indirect support for others.0
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