Body Envy /rant
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I catch myself doing it. Yes, Comparison is the thief of all joy.
We are all human. Just keep working on it and being the best YOU that you can be. Nothing else matters. Your only competition is you.0 -
I know I am guilty of doing this too. I know this will sound mean but I also look at girls heavier than me and wonder if I am that heavy or if I am smaller than them.
But I am trying to be happy with who I am. There are a lot of things i want to change about myself. Working out and getting healthy is step number 1, but I also want to get a breast reduction, and when I lose this weight I want to get a tummy tuck.0 -
How often do you catch yourself looking at someone else and wishing you looked like them? I've lost 78 out of the 110 pounds I needed to lose and I feel like this feeling is intensifying the closer I get to my goal. I watch some K-pop videos and I feel so envious of the women in them as even when I hit my goal I won't be anywhere near as good-looking as they are. I'd have to lose bone mass to get as thin as they are. I worry that when I hit my goal that I'll still be "fat" in comparison. I know I'm being stupid but I'm just wondering if I'm alone in this. Even my bf has commented that I need to stop comparing myself to other women on TV/online/real life. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so obviously it's a hard habit to drop as I'll never active perfection as it doesn't exist...except in Photoshop. >.<
You dont have to be rail thin to be beautiful and healthy!!!!! This is my goal body shape, prob won't quite get there, but I am ok with that!!
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Anyway I'm logging off for the night. It's football time.
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Probably not but you may be able to Germanically crush one against your forehead if you get too overwhelmed with envy
To be honest I think it's normal to have some level of "envy", let's remove the term with the negative connotations and say it's normal and healthy to be driven toward achievement, we only depart from the healthy part when our own self worth and happiness is contingent on achieving a goal that is forever a few more feet away.
It is true. Envy can be terrible if we make it that way, but it can be some insane motivation for us. It depends on how far we let the envy go.0 -
How often do you catch yourself looking at someone else and wishing you looked like them? I've lost 78 out of the 110 pounds I needed to lose and I feel like this feeling is intensifying the closer I get to my goal. I watch some K-pop videos and I feel so envious of the women in them as even when I hit my goal I won't be anywhere near as good-looking as they are. I'd have to lose bone mass to get as thin as they are. I worry that when I hit my goal that I'll still be "fat" in comparison. I know I'm being stupid but I'm just wondering if I'm alone in this. Even my bf has commented that I need to stop comparing myself to other women on TV/online/real life. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so obviously it's a hard habit to drop as I'll never active perfection as it doesn't exist...except in Photoshop. >.<
Step one: stop comparing yourself to women in k-pop videos
Step two: follow your goal and realize you're good enough for yourself.0 -
How often do you catch yourself looking at someone else and wishing you looked like them? I've lost 78 out of the 110 pounds I needed to lose and I feel like this feeling is intensifying the closer I get to my goal. I watch some K-pop videos and I feel so envious of the women in them as even when I hit my goal I won't be anywhere near as good-looking as they are. I'd have to lose bone mass to get as thin as they are. I worry that when I hit my goal that I'll still be "fat" in comparison. I know I'm being stupid but I'm just wondering if I'm alone in this. Even my bf has commented that I need to stop comparing myself to other women on TV/online/real life. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so obviously it's a hard habit to drop as I'll never active perfection as it doesn't exist...except in Photoshop. >.<
You dont have to be rail thin to be beautiful and healthy!!!!! This is my goal body shape, prob won't quite get there, but I am ok with that!!
I say go for it, girl!
You can do it. That's a beautiful body shape. 0 -
Alright. Have a good night. Add me if you want. I hope you will.0
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I definitely am guilty of doing this. all. the. TIME. In fact, I feel fatter at 145lbs than I ever did at 170 because I keep comparing myself to skinnier girls. At least it's good motivation to stay on track! 0
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I feel the same, especially while watching Asian dramas. I live in a college town too, so you see pretty, thin girls going for runs all the time. I worked at an arts festival this weekend and saw girls so thin that I'd have to go right down to a skeleton to be as thin as they were, it makes me feel thick and godzilla-ish.
Though I'm also jealous of people that don't have body image issues (or not obviously) and are able to eat food and enjoy it, worry-free with no calorie counting. I want to be able to wear shorts and not think about it.0 -
As the song goes, "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with."
Same goes for loving yourself. You've got this one body. Love it. Do right by it and love it.
I'm never going to be tall, blonde, leggy or busty. I'm a short brunette whose hair seems hell bent on looking like Red Foo from LMFAO. I'm practically boobless. My torso is about two inches too short and I have a hard time finding clothes that fit. I have really big thighs. I'm happy with how my arms have slimmed down with weight training, but if I look at Victoria's Secrets models... their legs are about as big around as my arms.
I can't change those things. But I can be the short brunette with a small waist and nice caboose. But really... I'm a lot more than the sum of a bunch of body parts. I'm a kind-hearted person who rescues animals (I've even stopped to fling worms off the sidewalk into the grass). I'm a pretty amazing artist. I'm a fantastic wife. I'm a decent enough cook... and after dinner tonight I think I need to upgrade my status because it was so good I had to take off my shoes to wiggle my toes. I'm strong, physically and emotionally. I'm funny. Damn funny. And I can stretch a dollar further than anyone I know.
So WHAT if I don't look like a model or actress? I'm NOT a model or actress. How I look doesn't really matter.0 -
Can I be younger, much much better looking and not in pain?
Oh, and a bigger......................................................toe would be nice too.
And as Frank said:
Would you like to swing on a star
Carry moonbeams home in a jar
And be better off than you are
Or would you rather be a mule?
A mule is an animal with long funny ears
Kicks up at anything he hears
His back is brawny and his brain is weak
He's just plain stupid with a stubborn streak
And by the way, if you hate to go to school
You may grow up to be a mule
Or would you like to swing on a star
Carry moonbeams home in a jar
And be better off than you are
Or would you rather be a pig?
A pig is an animal with dirt on his face
His shoes are a terrible disgrace
He ain't got no manners when he eats his food
He's fat and lazy and extremely rude
But if you don't care a feather or a fig
You may grow up to be a pig
Or would you like to swing on a star
Carry moonbeams home in a jar
And be better off than you are
Or would you rather be a fish?
A fish won't do anything, but swim in a brook
He can't write his name or read a book
And to fool the people is his only thought
And though he's slippery, he still gets caught
But then if that sort of life is what you wish
You may grow up to be a fish
And all the monkeys aren't in the zoo
Every day you meet quite a few
So you see it's all up to you
You can be better than you are
You could be swingin' on a star0 -
How often do you catch yourself looking at someone else and wishing you looked like them? I've lost 78 out of the 110 pounds I needed to lose and I feel like this feeling is intensifying the closer I get to my goal. I watch some K-pop videos and I feel so envious of the women in them as even when I hit my goal I won't be anywhere near as good-looking as they are. I'd have to lose bone mass to get as thin as they are. I worry that when I hit my goal that I'll still be "fat" in comparison. I know I'm being stupid but I'm just wondering if I'm alone in this. Even my bf has commented that I need to stop comparing myself to other women on TV/online/real life. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so obviously it's a hard habit to drop as I'll never active perfection as it doesn't exist...except in Photoshop. >.<
You dont have to be rail thin to be beautiful and healthy!!!!! This is my goal body shape, prob won't quite get there, but I am ok with that!!
The problem with comparing yourself to people is that we're all different. This is something I forget when I go ab getting depressed when I compare myself to ppl. I could never look like her^ (though she is nothing like what I'm aiming for, just makin a point) My body doesn't distribute fat in such a way & I could never force it too. I have leg quite a bit smaller than hers & smaller hips/butt, but my belly is pooches out, whereas hers is seemingly flat.0 -
I definitely am guilty of doing this. all. the. TIME. In fact, I feel fatter at 145lbs than I ever did at 170 because I keep comparing myself to skinnier girls. At least it's good motivation to stay on track!
SAME! I feel fatter now than I did when I started this!0 -
I do it too <sigh> I guess it's a woman thing!0
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Yup. My ribs stick out weird so when I'm fit, people think I don't weigh enough. I'm hoping my ab exercises will even that out so I can look almost normal wearing a fitted shirt
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Am I the only one here who really doesn't give a rats what anyone else looks like? I'm also not aspiring to be model thin. I just want to be healthy! In body, mind and spirit. And happy, content...with enough energy to do the things I do on a daily basis.0
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I do it. I have teeny-tiny bones (seriously- when I wrap my fingers around my wrist, thumb to middle finger, I completely cover one of my nails). I'm also petite- just under 5'4". I also have a ridiculously high metabolism. Therefore it's a lot harder for me to say "oh, I can never look that thin." I literally have no legitimate excuse. I used to think I have a low metabolism because I'd eat less "real food" than other people, but I realized... I'm fat because of all the candy I used to eat as a child. I realized I was 155 lbs (at my highest) because I was eating like over 1200 kcals in candy alone a day, not because my metabolism sucked.
So now I look at people and realize for the most part, I CAN look like them, which makes it even harder for me to accept where I am now. Oddly enough, I've started gravitating to bodies I can't have - wider hips - probably because I like being able to tell myself it's okay to not look like that. I have a thicker torso- from the side view it looks small, but it's really wide through the waist, and then it pouches out near my belly button... I hate that, but I do feel a bit better knowing it's just in my genetics.0 -
I'm the same way!!! Unfortunately I gave birth to 2 larger babies and my tummy is extra skin so I'll never look like that.
Even though I suffer from being an enviest too I want to remind you that if you don't like who you are and can be content with how you look now (even though you are changing it and that's a good thing too) you will not like who you are or what you look like when you get to your goal weight. You have to start loving yourself and not comparing yourself to others or you won't like you when you get where you want.
Plus, many of those women have personal trainers, personal chefs and it's their job to look like that!!! You can't change your ethnicity but you can become the healthiest you that you can be!!!0 -
"You could be the Moon..........and still be jealous of the Stars"0
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I'm ashamed to admit it but yes. I'm human, after all. I find myself being envious of much younger women. Not celebrities but women on this site who are half my age and in my eyes, drop-dead gorgeous. I find myself mentally comparing body parts and body fat percentages, etc. Sometimes it drives me nuts, lol. For the most part, I'm mostly secure with myself and my progress but I think my envy comes from the fact that I regret not getting healthier when I was a lot younger. I feel like my youth was wasted in a way and that's where the jealousy comes into play. I know logically I shouldn't compare myself to a woman half my age or anyone but every once in awhile, the green-eyed monster comes out . :grumble:0
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I do it too <sigh> I guess it's a woman thing!
i've had a fallopian tubes all my life and have never done this... honestly i think it's more of a cultural thing. generally speaking western white women are raised to dislike their bodies0 -
You have come so far and all you can see is what you don't have. I understand that, but I think that you need to talk to someone about your childhood issues. As long as you feel this way about yourself, you will never be happy. Happy isn't about being thin. Want to know how I know? Because I have been a hell of a lot thinner than I am now. I lost almost all of the weight I have now once. Guess what, it didn't make me happy. I had people tell me I looked pretty damn good. I never felt that way. You are on this journey for a reason. You have done an amazing job so far. Don't sabotage yourself! You will never be happy until you heal. Healing starts with the inside. The beautiful you is in there waiting to come out, and it has nothing to do with how you look at all. We can all tell you how pretty and nice you are. It's like throwing water balloons at a spiked wall. All of the beautiful comments people make cannot penetrate the wall of self loathing you have raised around yourself. Like I said, I know about this because I have been through it. You are young. Don't wait unitl you are 33 to do something about it. Take care of yourself. You are doing fabulous with the exterior, now go fix the interior so you can appreciate all of your hard work!!!! Hugs!0
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YUP!sigh.... the sad truth about modern society and media influence0 -
I used to have that problem, then I quit watching TV, buying women's magazines and pretty much avoided any media that promoted unrealistic body types.
Wanna see what real female bodies look like? Go visit your local strip club. Seriously. There is cellulite and stretch marks and sagging boobs everywhere. And these women are still able to earn a living by simply displaying their bodies. That is the real world!0 -
Girl, You have to learn to love yourself. Gain some self esteem and work with all that you have. It can't be as bad as you think it is. You do have to change the way you think. I agree with the poster that said you need to get a good workout routine going. Jonesing for what others have will always leave you empty and dissatisfied. Become the change that you would like to see.0
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I literally JUST did that before I clicked this looking at picture one of the blogs I follow posted...
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The most attractive women I know look nothing like models or pop stars or what have you. They`re women who figured out their unique appeal and made it work for them. Dress, hair, all of that can go a long way.
There are things that bother me about my body (I just posted about my hated stretch marks), but overall, I think I've worked out how to favour my good features, and generally feel pretty good. I'm not classically pretty, but I know from responses I get that other people think I'm at least ok, even cute (Despite my broad shoulders, etc)
Totally fruitless to try to mimic someone else. But it`s normal for younger people to do that. I tried to go blonde once, inspired by some rock star or other (disaster). Find out what your beauty is and work it.
Actresses who`ve done this:
Uma Thurman
Chloe Sevigny
Sarah Jessica Parker
Christina Ricci
Claire Danes
Kate Winslet
Kirsten Dunst0 -
I'm an Aus size 6 (thats a US 2 and UK 4) and I still sit there and become outrageously envious of VS models and curvy alternative chicks... its just about rocking your look I guess.. I still have to work hard on convincing myself that I'm alright looking. Skinny isn't everything0
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I used to have that problem, then I quit watching TV, buying women's magazines and pretty much avoided any media that promoted unrealistic body types.
Wanna see what real female bodies look like? Go visit your local strip club. Seriously. There is cellulite and stretch marks and sagging boobs everywhere. And these women are still able to earn a living by simply displaying their bodies. That is the real world!
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