"Lost 100lbs & found out what the world thinks of fat ppl"

Beautifully written!

Really great article...I agree that people who have never been in the 'fat' situation don't understand what its like...and will never understand what it is like until they are in that position.

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This was great!

Thank you for sharing, very interesting read.

What a BEAUTIFUL article!! I love it

This is very interesting to me, especially since I was once thin and gradually became fat. My mother used to tell me about this kind of thing, she was a chubby little girl and then become overweight with her pregnancies and just kept getting bigger. It now makes me wonder if people didn't pass me over on promotions because of my weight. I always blamed favortism, but who knows?

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Love it.

I dunno... I started around 220lbs, and I am now around 120, at 5' 7". To be perfectly honest, people are mean to me, so much more now than when I was overweight. Case in point, I actually got hired to work as receptionist at a day spa where all of the therapists were morbidly obese, and at the end of the day, I was told that I was not a good fit for the the culture of the place, that at 160 lbs, I was too thin, and that just looking at me made other people uncomfortable and sick. Could you imagine saying to somebody who is heavy "You know, you can't work here. Looking at you makes me sick. Everyone here is uncomfortable just seeing you here." People would say that it's unkind, cruel, and all kinds of very true things about how inappropriate it is. But say these things to a skinny girl? A-ok!

And I hate that people would rather look at me than listen to me. Yes, guys ask me out, telling me I am smart, funny, creative, and exciting to be with. But then they text me nonstop asking for pictures, and if I dare say that I am not in a rush to get physical, I get the door, and fast! And I am ok with that, because that door is the kindest favor they can offer me, if that's really all they're after. I didn't like it when chubby chasers would go after me either, or when guys would come right out and say "Hey, I don't mind that you're a big girl. You look good for your size!" But that has nothing to do with me. That foot-in-mouth disease is THEIR issue, and not mine. And once I got to be under a size ten, people really started losing interest. At 120 lbs, I still have 38" hips and a D cup, so it's not like I'm all sharp and pointy everywhere. It's just... I dunno. Maybe people feel threatened? My husband of eight years left me for a significantly heavier woman, even though I was a medically healthy weight when we met, but we were kids, and before I moved away from the neighborhood where we had both lived, he pulled me aside and said "Hon, I know you've worked hard for this, but you've always looked better with a little more weight on you." Nobody ever says "Hon, I know you're a really good cook, but you've always looked better with a trimmer waistline."

I mean, I am glad that I have lost this much weight. Before, I was tired all the time, and any time I had a medical issue, doctors would ignore my complaints, insisting that every symptom was "normal" for a fat person, but that if I just lost the weight, it would all go away. It takes a lot p!ss and vinegar to look somebody in the eye and say "You told me it was because I was fat. Now that I have lost a hundred pounds, will you at least run some blood tests?" So I get medical attention when I need it now, but now that I am slender, everything is anxiety. "Clearly it's anxiety, because look at you! You don't even EAT!" I assure you that I eat all day, but eat in such a way that I maintain a healthy BMI now, and have been holding a healthy range for four years. (I actually have a degree in health and wellness, so please no assumptions about disordered eating or body dysmorphic thinking, thank you.)

And at work, clients tease me... "Oh, is the little girl going to take care of me now? Do you need me to lift that clip board for you? Let me sit down before you get too close. I don't want to make any quick movements that might cause a draft and blow you away." Ha effing ha. It wouldn't be funny if they said "Oh is the big girl going to take care of me? Let me sit down before you walk in, because I would hate for the earthquake of your steps to knock me over."

The bottom line is that people are people. You can't say that all fat people are one way, and all skinny people are another, and all in between people are such and such. I tire of the whole "This is what a REAL woman looks like!" meme. What? Are other women imaginary? I'm not imaginary at 120 lbs any more than I was at 220. Mean is mean, whether you are fat or thin. People who will judge on appearances will think that you are stuck up and fake if you look good at any size, or disgraceful and laughable if you look bad at any size. People who want to judge will judge.

Losing weight only solves one problem-- the weight problem. If you are insecure, you will find other things to be insecure about. If you love yourself, and know how to put your best side forward, you will do that at any size. There is a great video on YouTube called "A Fat Rant." I recommend it to anybody who wants a nice seven minutes and forty six seconds of friendly but well considered straight talk.

Best of luck to all of you. Breathing more easily, feeling more energetic, and being able to keep up with my son have been the best part of this. I can actually stand on my head now. I'm working on my hand stand now. I want to learn to ride a bike next. I have been skydiving (in a custom made super hero outfit), snorkeling, kayaking... all things I was either too afraid or too short of breath to do. I still can't find clothes that fit at most stores, and if I drop one more size, no more Old Navy for me. But getting there is such a sense of accomplishment. Feeling better. Being younger all of a sudden. Knowing that the judgmental things people have said aren't true. It's all gold.

But speaking of judgmental... we've all been on the receiving end. Stop the cycle of exchange. Don't assume that it's us and them. We're just one, big, diverse "us." Fat, skinny... we're all just people.