Age difference in relationships

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  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    Ladies what if your partner is some monthes or at most a year younger than you. How do you feel about it?
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    My husband and I are alittle under 10 years apart, with him being older. It's perfect. Prior to him I dated anywhere from 20 years older, to 5 years younger. I will say I didn't dig the younger at all. I am no cougar...lol
  • onlyrobey1
    onlyrobey1 Posts: 140 Member
    I'm 41 and was just recently dating a 'man' who was 30. We definitely wanted different things in life and he was pretty immature .....but very good looking. Previous to that I have always been with men my age or a few years older. I think between 37 and 41 is a good age for me.
  • Jonesingmucho
    Jonesingmucho Posts: 4,902 Member
    Age doesn't matter to me. :)
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
    Age doesn't matter to me. :)

    great legs for 100 yrs old
  • wanderlust23
    wanderlust23 Posts: 8
    When I was 18 I was with someone 20 years older than me 0_o And then after that relationship I was with someone ten years older than me. I think I like older men haha.
  • amylahminute
    amylahminute Posts: 613 Member
    When single, I dated a couple men 15 years older than me.
    Not at the same time ... er, I think.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    To each his own I suppose. If you are uncomfortable with this, it is best that it is ended. You are right on the children issue... Marriage is a big commitment and you need to think about all those ramifications. Kudos on that. I suppose you really need to always look 10-15 years down the road.. what seems ok now, will it be then? I know a couple that is 25 years apart.. He is like 85 and she is like 60... they have a great relationship and have been great together. Of course, the probability that she will be a widow for quite some time is of course a harsh reality. it works for them. As for me, I married 6.5 years my junior. It worked very well for us.. I was 42 when our daughter was born and she was 35... It works better that way than had it been the other way around.... My dad and mom are 9 years apart... Again, it worked well for them. It really depends on the individuals involved and what their plans are
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    all that being said, keep it legal
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
    all that being said, keep it legal

    legal in what country?
  • atxdee
    atxdee Posts: 613 Member
    when I was 21 I dated a 33 year old, dated him for 4 years.. I guess in retrospect it wasnt a huge age difference but at the time it kinda felt like it because I was younger.. I had fun w him but he couldnt keep up
  • breexbreakdown
    breexbreakdown Posts: 5
    The youngest I've dated was a year or so below me (but not too much younger since I was in High School at the time lol). When I was 18 I was in a three year relationship with a guy who was 4 years older.

    Now I'm in a great relationship with someone who is 6 years older. I'm 22, he's 28 - but he looks about 24 and we have a very similar personality so tend we forget about the age difference a lot lol
  • rozsbluejay
    rozsbluejay Posts: 303 Member
    Oldest person I ever dated was someone that was 8 years older than me. It didn't go so well because he obviously wanted something different.
  • YoungerNextYear59937
    YoungerNextYear59937 Posts: 90 Member
    I can give you a different perspective. Hindsight. When I was 27, I dated a man who was 47 at the time. The relationship didn't last. I am now 54, and that would make him 74. Ewwww!!!!!! I'm now married to a man who is 5 years younger than I am. Good for you for thinking about the future!
  • banks89202
    banks89202 Posts: 270
    I am 23 and my husband will be 30 in Jan. He acts younger than me lol (married 3 years now)


    When I was 18 I wouldn't call it "dating" but I was with a 35 year old for fun :blushing:
  • country91
    country91 Posts: 77 Member
    doesnt matter but prefer olderrrrrrrrrrr
  • dub101
    dub101 Posts: 325
    Wife is younger then me but i act younger then her. Age is just a number
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    How about if the man is younger less than a year.Does it really matter?
    What ems might happen in the future?
  • PapaDunx
    PapaDunx Posts: 243
    I was 34 she was 17 and we were together for nearly 6 years.

    Age is nothing more than a number.
  • kmm7309
    kmm7309 Posts: 802 Member
    My husband is 17 years my elder. We've been married happily for over 7 years. I was 16 and he was 33 when we got married. I do not have children by him yet but I can't wait to. Age is just a number. 60 years ago it was socially acceptable to do it, and I don't know what the big deal is now, but the comments people make are ridiculous.
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    there is a time in life where the age gap does make a difference for both men and women. we mature differently and also the way one is brought up makes a big difference!!!

    If a boy/man is brought up thinking a woman is supposed to do all the stuff around the house and he never has a chance to live on his own, the woman he marries will be disappointed in the amount of support she receives from her husband.

    culture make a difference too.

    My soon to be husband is 54, I am 47. 7 years difference, yet we think quite a bit alike and we look forward to having children ( I have 2 teens - I'm a widow of 10 years).

    my mom and dad were 9 years difference. they had 9 children.
  • Taimarra
    Taimarra Posts: 60
    Everything was perfect except that I can't see myself having kids in 2-4 years when I'm ready with someone who would be potentially 40 years old. I'm sorry if this offends any of you around that age!!

    I am 37 years old .. my boyfriend of almost 2 years is 24. I can't have children due to some complications health-wise eighteen years ago. I can totally understand this line of reasoning. I know my boyfriend wants kids, he adores them (even though he won't admit it) but -- I always feel guilty about being with him, knowing I cannot possibly give him kids.

    That being said, when I was 21 I dated a 44 year old. That man could run circles around me, and I was SERIOUSLY in shape at 21! I've always preferred older men, but my last 3 boyfriends have been getting progressively younger than me, lol (first was 2 years younger, then 4, now 13!) I guess I've kind of dated the whole spectrum.
  • Laddiegirl
    Laddiegirl Posts: 382 Member
    The biggest difference, I was 29 and he was 44. We dated about six months and it ended on good terms. My current guy and I are only a couple of years apart though.

    Big age gaps work for some people though. My dad & stepmom are 20 years apart and a good friend of mine who is 32 is dating a guy who is 52 and they've been together for something like 7 years now. It works for them.
  • gaylynn35
    gaylynn35 Posts: 854 Member
    bump
  • lookingforsomething
    lookingforsomething Posts: 86
    I am 38 and my husband is 29!
    I worry sometimes that he hasn't done things that he might later regret not doing ie travel, live in another state etc whereas I have already done all those things.

    He says that he is happy so who am I to second guess him!

    And if he leaves me I will just hunt him down!!! - only joking :laugh:
  • 2FattyXFatty4
    2FattyXFatty4 Posts: 215 Member
    My love is 2 years, 5 months younger than I am. My ex was seven years younger than I am. I just tend to attract younger men, I don't do this on purpose. LOL!
  • yeowiepower
    yeowiepower Posts: 31 Member
    depends how old they are when they begin dating, and about maturity... for example, a 25+ year old guy and an 18 year old girl or vice versa in my opinion can be a little disturbing... although legally its fine, what if it was 24 and 17? then again 25 year old and 30 year old seems perfectly fine. So end of the day it comes down to how mature both parties are.

    i have dated a girl that was 5 years younger than me (24, 19) and although she was very mature for her age, it was always at the back of my mind and i felt weird about it... i dont think i could do that again.
  • ZeroWoIf
    ZeroWoIf Posts: 588 Member
    I dated a few animals here and there. Age and type of creature doesn't matter.
  • Tsrwalker
    Tsrwalker Posts: 164 Member
    Wow, reading your post was like I was reading about myself. I met my fiance when I was 20 years old he was 38. We were friends first. He was my sisters ex-husbands best friend. We didn't actually start dating till I was almost 21. He has 3 kids and at the time we waited till we had been dating 2 years before I met them because we didn't want them to get attached and then get hurt. His oldest is 23, middle 21, youngest 16. He has always been supportive of me and pushes me to my full potential. We bought a house when I was 25. I am now 29 will be 30 in 2 weeks, he is 48. It is like you said I have thought about many times if I should continue the relationship and I can't see myself with anyone else. We have never fought, we have had disagreements from time to time about his kids, but we have always worked them out. His kids live with us. We plan on getting married next year. I just lost my mom to breast cancer in May and without him I am not sure I would have had the strength to work full time and be her full time caregiver for the last 3 months of her life. I know people will say it is wrong and that there are too many years between us or that they will only date within certain age ranges...but I say please don't limit yourself you could be missing out on the love of your life. And yes, I worry that he will die before me, but anyone can go at anytime and it is best to live life for today while still reaching for your goals.
  • yeowiepower
    yeowiepower Posts: 31 Member
    I was 34 she was 17 and we were together for nearly 6 years.

    Age is nothing more than a number.

    ummmm, not one to judge but i assume this was legal in the country where you are from?

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