Age difference in relationships

arrawyn79

Edited to add that we have 2 children (ages 6 & 3) and are celebrating our 10 year anniversary tomorrow.

@35andrunning - congrats on your 10yr anniversary tomorrow! my husband and I will be celebrating our 10th on Hallowe'en!

xcmtnracer

I don't believe age itself should matter, it is how you feel and somewhat how other perceive the relationship, I would look completely silly dating an 18 year old, sick perhaps, so I wouldn't, if I'm with a girl that appears to be near my perceived age, then I'd be fine even if it were a 20 year difference, I thought Demi Moore and Ashton looked good together as an example.

Oldest I dated, 36 when I was 22, didn't last long, we mutually agreed to end it on friendly terms, she was on a rebound from being hurt by divorce and I was in her life then as a tutor for her son.

msafunk

My boyfriend has been 30 since April. I'm turning 25 in a few weeks. Not much of a difference. The only other major difference was also about 5 years.

I'm not really comfortable dating anyone much older. I don't want kids until my late 20s, and I also don't want my childrens' father to be too old to be active with them when they're a bit older.

mrtoaster

9 years difference for me, she was 25 I was 34. But I've never had a problem with a significant age difference either way. It all depends on compatibility, sharing common interests and who you just click with.

And I'm lovin' the amount of cougars on this thread *straightens tie*

Ocarina

I date within 5 years.

My dad though checks out girls my age. Which is nasty!!

childofArtemis24

When I was 19, I had a huge crush on a guy who was 38! He came into Wendy's a lot,( I worked there at the time). He was my type all around, built like a tank, blue eyes, and the sweetest personality. We talked on the phone for hours. We started to fall for each other. And No he wasn't out to sleep with a younger woman! I was very grown up for my age, all my friends told me that. I wanted to date him, but I didn't know how to explain my new bf age to my parents. So, we just hung out and what not.

Then when I was 23 I fell for a guy who was 19. He grew up in a strict military family. He was was soooo mature for his age as well, Unlike most men around here. We hit off extremely well, like potential marriage after college well. And we were great lovers as well. I could talk about anything with him, and vice versa. Even though he came from a rich and powerful family ( dad is a lawyer, mom is the commissioner for the state) he never acted like a rich kid. He hated rich ppl, and the fact that his life was always under a microscope . And girls who only wanted to get with him for his money . We were great , till his mom took a new job in Nashville TN. Now he is like 4 to 5 hours away. So I blame her for destroying the relationship.

In the end" age is just a number baby " Jacob Black - New Moon. If the relationship is great, then go with it. Life is to short for numbers ( as long as both ppl are of legal age) Enjoy each other!

Rielyn

Within 4 or 5 years either way is fine with me, if you have chemistry age isn't really a big factor.

Frozen300

I'm not going through all the replies, but in case it hasn't been said, the formula for age difference for guys is half your age plus seven. As long as she's legal, of course. Do the math and and you'll see that I'm right.

denezy

My ex was 43 (when I was 29) and I am now 33 and am somehow involved with guys far you get than me now. Assuming it is because I am not looking for nothing serious, but I am actually more attracted to older men.

Oh god, am I going to become a cougar?

caldon4523

I've only date one woman who was older then me, by 2 years. She was also the prettiest. However, most of the women I've dated have been a few years younger then me. I've thought of looking for a trophy wife, a young, good looking girl. The problem is not necessarily the age difference but the maturity and intelligence involved. I just don't want to get involved with someone who likes to play games on their iPhone.

sabolfitwife

I'm 21, my boyfriend is 31. He has the mentality of about a 14 year old though, and I love that about him. Age is but a number when you love someone :-)

dr2k12

I've gone 10 years ahead of me and 10 years behind me and had a blast on both outings...

bridgelene

The oldest was 28 when I was 21. Currently I'm with the youngest person that I've ever been with (3 months older than me, to the day)

DamnImASexyBitch

My husband and I are almost 10 years apart ( currently I'm 32, he's 41 ). It's perfect. I dated someone 18 years older than myself when I was 27 ( making him 45 ) and that wasn't the right fit but it likely had more to do with who he was as a person vs his age. I also dated someone who was 5 years younger than me ( again I was 27, he was 22 ) and I didn't like that at all. That was extremely short term.

needernt

What do yu ladies think If the partner is at your age or some monthes diferences?

LovingLisa2012

when I was 18 I dated a guy who was 37 (19 years difference) and today he is one of my bestest friends (I am now 33)
hubby is 11 years old than me

heidimaggott78

My husband is 43, and I am 34.

SWilkins75

Youngest was 14 and I was 18. He told me he was 16 and I ended up in jail. Long story.

My husband was 21 and I was 31 when we met. He's more mature than me and an awesome father.

SeaRunner26

I'm 38 and my partner is 32. At this age, the six years don't seem to make much difference.

Kebby83

I date within 5 years.

My dad though checks out girls my age. Which is nasty!!

My ex husband has a kid that is one year older than me.
And he is nasty.

ningggsm

Wow, these responses are amazing being that I've never dated anyone younger than myself or more than five years older. So nice to see that a lot of your relationships are working well. Best wishes to you all.

hbrittingham

I've never dated a guy that was younger than me. The closest to my age was 1 year older than me, I was 18 and he was 19. All of my serious relationships were with men at least 6 years older than me. Probably because I have older brothers and I would sometimes date their friends. My husband is 7 years older than me. We started dating when I was 23 and he was 30.

DaivaSimone

I dated a guy who was 45 when I was 20 years old. Eight years later, it's still awckward when he says something about his daughters on Facebook, because the oldest one is now two years older then I was. But we're still in good terms, it was not a really serious thing.

I had a boyfriend who was two years younger then me. He's one of my best friend now, and I sometimes forgot he is younger, and it surprises me when it comes in the conversation.

Current boyfriend is one year younger. But we've been together for seven years now, so I don't think it was an issue between us.

Italianyc84

I'll be 28 next month, my partner is 43. When we started dating I was 22. It actually was a bit rough in the very beginning because I had only been in one real relationship prior, and I think I just expected a fairy tale and everything to be perfect. Truth is, her mother lived with us, in the house that my partner grew up in (she bought the house from her mother when her father passed). Because they had lived there so long, everything was already decorated and finished...I moved in and wanted to do all those things girls want to do like decorate, pick out dishes and stuff, etc. So, it was rough, but I was immature. I was jealous that she had already done all these things with someone else, you know? Things are MUCH much better, almost perfect actually (we now live in a different state! :-) and I realize how much I've grown up since then. The only thing that sucks is we likely won't be able to grow old together. When I retire at 65, she'll be 80. That kind of stinks.

Kerri_is_so_very

I've had 10 years younger up to 20 years older. I ended up marrying a man my age. From experience I can say that I prefer the older ones :bigsmile:

eatcleanNtraindirty

I really didn't expect such a large response. It is really cool to see the diversity of age groups and differences of ages of various partners. Different strokes for different folks :laugh: :flowerforyou:

needernt

Sometimes I see girls marry at the age of 18 or 19.
I mean an 18 years old girl is a kid. How can they marry. and I don't know why a man can marry a kid.!!!!!!!

chemalurgy

You're right about the maturity level being unequal. Both of my husbands were immature.

martincrca

Age is a state of mind ... if both parties are adults and consenting then there is nothing wrong with it. Some of the longest lasting relationships I know of have a large age difference. Personally I have dated 10 years younger (she was 26 at the time) and 8 years older. Depends on the people.

blakejohn

when I was 18 I dated a 40 year old

when I was 40 I dated an 18 year old