Age difference in relationships

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  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    The rule is "half your age, plus 7", so for example a 14 year old has to date a 14 year old(14/2 equals 7, plus 7), and a 30 year old would date as low as 22(30/2 equals 15 plus 7 equals 22).
  • cheerforsteelers
    cheerforsteelers Posts: 686 Member
    Me 24 and him 36. Age wasn't the issue. There were other things that came up where it wasn't going to work.
  • Littlegurl
    Littlegurl Posts: 172 Member
    I'm 43 and my husband is 52. And I don't take offense to u not wanting to have children with a 40 yo woman. At 40 and now at 43 I wouldn't want to have children with anyone. :). I have 2 kids and love them like crazy. But after taking care of my kids for 19 yrs I'm ready for some "ME" time.

    BTW, I love my husband who is 9 yrs older than me. And he's in great shape, and doesn't act his age. ;)
  • Chameleone
    Chameleone Posts: 281 Member
    When once dated a guy that was 13 years older than me. But I tend to go for guys that are about 4-6 years older...my bf now about 5 years older than me
    My dad is 10 years older than my mom.
  • Morningstar93
    Morningstar93 Posts: 161
    My husband is 14 years older than I am , We have been together 12years

    Love to hear this :)
  • elijhasmomma
    elijhasmomma Posts: 270 Member
    8 years between my sons father and i. im 24 he is 32. he'll be 33 in jan our son will be 2 march 4th and ill be 25 march 12th LOL but in instances of maturity, he IS much more mature then what I used to date..which was about 2-4years older then me. Guys in my area are slim pickin if you want someone HALF DECENT....hence the reason I met him in another city 2 hours away lol. i cannot for the life of me see myself dating someone younger then me, the same age as me...possibly maybe, but not younger. I don't do flings and here and there get bys...i do full on meaningful relationships. im not open to giving myself to someone who is just looking for entertainment for the time being!
  • Morningstar93
    Morningstar93 Posts: 161
    So much variety here it is beautiful :) and I found a lot of people similar .. I am 18 (19 in november) he is 32 (33 next week) and He is Perfect :smile: :heart:
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Ladies especially would like your input...

    I just turned 35 and am dating a 48-year old woman. It's not really working and I'm really attracted to somebody that is about 26 or 27. Too young?
  • strawberrytoast
    strawberrytoast Posts: 711 Member
    My partner is 10 years older than me but looks a lot younger

    im 31 hes 41

    at these sort of ages i dont think it matters

    teenagers with old men is a bit creepy i think, but its their choice
  • Derpina7
    Derpina7 Posts: 552 Member
    Biggest age gap for me was 11 years (18 and he was 29), we were together for 2 and a half years and then I realized I wanted to grow up and at his age he wasn't planning to >.>..
    It's different with every couple, I think it depends where both people are 'at' in their points of life. The past couple of guys I've gone on dates with, I find I prefer someone a little bit older, but probably by no more than 5 years.
  • pixtotts
    pixtotts Posts: 552 Member
    my last boyfriend he's 8 years older so 31 to my 23
    pretty similar circumstances as for the op ... only not quite... i moved home from uni 3 hours between us, we lasted another year or so but then he was talking about houses and mortgages, like proper grown up stuff, im soo not old enough for that! and im not so sure i want to leave my life here.I like it here! Iv had it in the back of my mind for a while now what if he decides he wants kids i know i dont, I was starting to feel i was holding him back from having a life. So we split up. When i was in the same city it was perfect though...
    x
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
    For 3 years, I dated a 41 year old man. I was 28 when we met. He ended up being really emotionally immature. And a hoarder. Ew.

    When I was 31, I met my husband. He was 24. It was perfect. He was so responsible and mature. We've been together for almost 5 years and it's awesome. :D
  • Marc713
    Marc713 Posts: 328 Member
    Biggest age gap with someone I dated was 8 years younger. Biggest age gap from not "dating" is 10 years older. Back before Cougars became all the rage, I was seeing a 36 year old lady when I was 26, and she was smoking hot....and had a smoking hot daughter that was on some beauty pageant circuit.....they looked more like sisters than mom/daughter. Now, I prefer to date women younger than myself because I'd like to have some kiddos at some point.
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
    I always go for older! I can't even tell you the last time with someone my age.. Probably middle school.lol.

    Yeah... The oldest and biggest age difference was when i dated a 40 year old..
  • Daizy426
    Daizy426 Posts: 37 Member
    My rule has always been that I wouldn't date anyone younger than my oldest kid. I was engaged to a guy who was one month younger than my oldest daughters husband ... that was interesting, lol.
  • LadyKatarina
    LadyKatarina Posts: 28 Member
    My husband and I are 16 years apart. (I'm 31) In our case, he already has kids, and I have never wanted to have children of my own, so it is different for us...kids are not a factor.

    However, it is really a shame that you would let go of the best relationship you've ever had because you think 40 is too old for someone to have your children. A woman does not stop being of childbearing years when she is over 39. Wouldn't the children be better raised in the home of two people that are deeply in love, compatible and happy together? With over 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, I'd think the "best relationship of your life" would be main thing to focus on, not her age.
  • rebelontherun
    rebelontherun Posts: 192 Member
    My last boyfriend 8 years older than me. I'm 22 and he's 30
  • LegzyK
    LegzyK Posts: 172 Member
    My partner is 12 years older than I...he is 70, I am 58. But the older you get, the less the difference seems to matter.





    This ^ I'm 52, he's 65...love him to death...over 6 years now & going strong....the BEST relationship i've ever had!
  • thedint
    thedint Posts: 4
    I'm 28 and my boyfriend is 46 and we have been together over a year. I've had a few previous relationships, one was same age, one was 3-4 years younger, one was about 7 years older. The relationship I am in now is the best relationship I have ever had. My boyfriend treats me the way a woman should be treated and I am grateful to have met him. I wouldn't give him up for anything or anyone. Neither one of us have children so that helps. Every relationship is different. Every person is different. Focus on your own relationship. If I have learned anything, it is that you cannot compare yourself to anyone else and advice from others about your relationship should NOT be taken. It's about you and the other person, no one else. It should be private. Communication!
  • janesmith1
    janesmith1 Posts: 1,511 Member
    I'm 53, but going to be 54 this month. My husband is 36. We met in 2000 when he was 24 and I was 41. We've been together 12 years, married for 10.

    We don't have children, if that matters. I didn't come into the relationship with children - I was always waiting for "the right man". I've never been married before.

    In every way he is more mature than I am, he is more of the "older grown up" than me.

    If you have any questions please feel free to pm me.

    Personally, I think you should be with this girl OP or go back to her, the one that you obviously love. Children are great but you can always adopt a child or children. It's really difficult to find someone you are really compatible with.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    My husband and I are 8 years apart. I am 38 he is 46. I love it. He has grounded me and helped me evolve so much as a person and I feel I help keep him young and on his toes. :)

    My ex husband is 3 years younger. Ugh I hated that. He was and still is such a child.
  • Dtho5159
    Dtho5159 Posts: 1,054 Member
    Ive only dated 2 people.

    The first one I dated when I was 17 and he was 19. He was 2.5 years older than me.

    The second and last one is my husband. We started dating when I was 18 and he was 23. We are 4.5 years apart. Now Im 28 and he's almost 33 and we've been together almost 10 years!
  • heatherloveslifting
    heatherloveslifting Posts: 1,428 Member
    So when I was 17 I dated a 23 year old and he seemed horribly old! :D

    But my husband is 8 years older than me.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    I dated someone who was 12 years older than I am for while.
  • Litlbeast
    Litlbeast Posts: 340 Member
    My boyfriend is 15 years younger than me. He's the first younger guy I've ever dated, and I'm not sure what the opposite of a cougar is (younger male guy who goes after an older woman), but that would be him in this case. I turned around one minute and he was there sweeping me off my feet.

    It's the most compatible partnership I've ever been in and I'm deeply in love with him, but I occasionally get stressed about the age thing. He never does. Probably cause he's 27 and has no common sense...





    *no offense to any 27 yr olds here who've got common sense. '__'
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    I'm glad to see some of the ladies' responses here. I was worried that a 26/27 year old wouldn't want to data a 35 year old. :)
  • ElizaRoche
    ElizaRoche Posts: 2,005 Member
    I go for older guys (not 80 year olders, just older than me), i dont like youngers, i always say im not a babysitter, older guys will ALWAYS have more experience no matter what 20 year olders say.
    The older I have dated is 46 (im 32)... :blushing: :love: and i would do it all over again!!!!
  • Songbird1104
    Songbird1104 Posts: 210 Member
    I once dated someone who was about 10 years older than me. We worked pretty well together, except that we were in totally different parts of our lives. I was graduating high school and about to embark on an international excursion, and he was ready to settle down and have kids. So we broke it off and found people who were more aligned with our long-term goals.

    Oh, and my mother-in-law had her last baby at 41 years old. It's sometimes tougher to have kids when you are older, but I'm not convinced it's a reason to break off a wonderful relationship. :love: Can you get her back?
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Don't let that stop you....

    I'm 47 and hes 33.

    14 years difference.

    I used to have a dumb rule. The age rule (He has to be my age or older) Sooooo glad I broke my own rule. Because I never, ever in my lifetime, had anyone I loved and was compatible with, like I am with him. Yes we are happily married for 4 years. And together for 7. We both have some health issues, and thats partially why we haven't had children. We have discussed this, and we know that there is some child out there, whos parents have passed away. Either a natural disaster, or War or something. We want that child. Thats the one we want when we are ready. Do you have a dog? Do you have time for a dog? I didn't push out my dogs myself, but I love them just like I did. So the birthing part isn't a issue. : ) Good luck sir. And if its someone in your family or a friend thats influencing you in this direction, please think about this again. They could be leading you wrong way.
  • Iron_Maiden
    Iron_Maiden Posts: 326 Member
    I'm 36 and this age for me makes me realize why a younger man would be perfect. Age doesn't matter - it's compatability & attitude.

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