Age difference in relationships

I'm 41 and my husband is 52 (although he could easily pass for 42). I don't notice a big difference unless he's talking about high school and then I think about how I was in kindergarten. Ew. :laugh:

LMAO supahstar!! As long as you are happy now.

im 28. I have dated 3 years younger and 21 years older.

on reflection, whilst 21 years older was great you do have to think about wanting children etc. a 49 year old woman is probably not looking to have a child, so maybe that one was always doomed from the start. still, the love making was the most intense i've ever experienced.

older women FTW!

~ If I were 2 do it again,....I'd wanna date older.(hubby & I r 4days apart)...

I've always ended up with guys 3-5 years older, including my fiance. Obviously not a huge difference at this point, and it works well for us - I honestly don't think I could imagine dating someone my age or younger. Just never felt right for me.

I have dated 5 years younger, and 2 years older. Never mattered much to me. Its all about the person.

I was 22 and dating a guy that was 39. We were together for 5 years. Mostly it was a good relationship. Sadly though, I wanted kids and he could have anymore (he already has 2 and they are HORRIBLE). We split on good terms and are still friends. Now I am married to a man that is almost 7 years younger than me. We have been married 3 1/2 years and have a 1 1/2 yr old and are expecting our 2nd. I feel that everything happens for a reason and if you are meant to be in a relationship with someone regardless of age, gender, race, ect then it will happen, even if it isn't meant to be forever but for the time being. Maybe to help you learn something or get through a specific time in your life.

Hello, I am Monica, there is nothing wrong with age difference in relationships, I am 15 years older than a guy I just started dating it and have never been happier....... I never thought I would say this but he is understanding, more mature....the whole nine yards....... making me feel like a lil girl again......

Biggest difference...I was 20, he was 52. Didn't last.

My man is 7 years older than I am and I think it's perfect for us. I don't feel the difference at all.

I think in and around 10yrs personally is the max I would consider, but then again if you really click and love the person, and it's legal. Age is just a number.

My husband is 9 years older than me. I was 33 when we met, he was 42. We hit it off, and have been married almost 8 years... at some point, age doesn't make a big difference... he acts like a kid most of the time anyway :-)

I've dated 4 years younger up to 10 years older. I prefer older.

In sociology in college we learned that there is a "rule' persay, about age gaps. Take your age, divide it by two, and then add seven, and that's the youngest person you should consider dating. So a 22 year old should never date someone younger than 18, and a 60 year old could date a 37 year old.

It means that when you're a young 22 you shouldn't be dating people that are that much older or younger than yourself because one year can change a lot of things in a person, but when you're sixty, it's not that much of a different because of relativity of time.

Obviously this isn't a hard and fast rule, but I think that the concepts in general make sense. I'm currently seeing a guy who is 29 while I'm 22, so we're at the end of the spectrum, but I crave maturity, so there you have it.

I have a similar situation....as the woman you speak of. I was 41 when I met my future husband - he was 28 but he never told me. We got along amazingly and our relationship was outstanding and then I found out he was only 28. I nearly lost my mind over that. I didn't want to be with someone so young...yet I already had strong feelings for him. We ended up staying together and some months later I became pregnant with our daughter and gave birth to her at 42.... I am now a happy healthy 53 year old Mom of a 10 year old daughter and he is one proud Papa about to turn 40 .....I can't say that there were all easy times...but It has so been worth it. Married now 10 years and wonder where I would be today if I had rejected the relationship because of his age! My mom and dad were 11 years apart so I grew up with this all of my younger years. My father lived to be 91, my mother is 84 now still living. You have and she has a lot of living to do....Worry never ever got me anywhere .....but you know what did??? Love...it is the greatest thing in life that ever happens to us. I will say a prayer for you....your asking everyone there advice because this is bothering you. I pray God shows you the answer and either opens or shuts the door regarding the relationship!! I send my thoughts and a hug!!

The biggest age difference was 7 years for me. I was 23 and he was 30. We felt the age difference pretty badly. We were both geeks but we were geeky about different things and just couldn't connect very well.

I don't believe that was actually caused by our age difference though. It was definitely more of a maturity level. Sadly, I was vastly more mature than he was.

The man I'm with now is 4 years older than me. We're perfect together.

I don't like dating men younger than me. I've only actually been out on one date with a younger man. It was a disaster. I'm pretty sure it was his first date ever and all I could think was that I would wind up eating him alive.

My boyfriend was 5.5 years older than me. We started dating when I was 19 and he was 24. It worked, but I think the younger you are, the more noticeable an age difference is.