Dear Abby, Why aren't don't older chicks try to be hotter?

this is obviously apparent,and if you haven't gotten this point then your off track. But this thread did turn more interesting when talking about actually caring or not caring about your appearance when going out into public, and to what degrees.

I kinda feel like anyone else who gets mad at this is the people that show up at Walmart at 3pm on a Saturday afternoon in stained jogging pants and a tweety bird tshirt with their hair in a lopsided banana clip, angry that men always go for hot chicks.

I agree here, but with one caveat.....if you really give a rip about looking put together and super sexy when making a mid Sunday afternoon run to Wally World for some TP you need to rethink your priorities. Just sayin!!

there is a completely acceptable middle ground between dressing up and dressing for public. Dont act like I only gave you two extreme choices. That is simply ridiculous.

The woman in this picture actually has a problem though, she was on starange addictions because she couldn't look at herself without makeup..There's a difference between looking presentable and literally wearing caked on coverup and green eyeshadow everywhere, including bed. That's a major self esteem crisis.

thats actually not true, some women don't know how to put on make up.

For every guy who only looks at hot women there is a great woman who only looks at hot, financially secure men.

Bingo. They're called "standards".

You know why I think this makes a lot of women mad? Because in our experience, dudes that write this tripe look like Jabba the Hutt with a five o'clock shadow. And smell twice as bad.

I see it all the damn time.

If you place that much of a premium on how your partner looks, your relationships will fail, because deep down you're a shallow twit with skewed priorities. First bump in the road and you're done. None of the lasting couples I know are together because they both look hot in a swimsuit, that's for certain. They've stayed together through cancer, through childbirth, depression and any number of other "unnattractive" scenarios because they care deeply for each other on a level that transcend appearance. There's simply no other explanation for their longevity.


I don't think his standards are as simple as "takes a bath and puts on makeup and a nice dress once in a while." If they were, he'd have no shortage. I see these women every single day. He obviously has some prima donna standards to be completely unable to find someone that meets them. Believe this. But then, we've become a horribly shallow society in general, which explains our divorce rate...and the existence of "men" like this in the first place.

... he wouldn't have to ask anyone about where to find them; they're everywhere.

... he wouldn't have to ask anyone about where to find them; they're everywhere.

I would think it quite likely that you know nothing of the demographics of Tucson. Even finding demographics say nothing for what it's actually like living there. Where the hell does a 40+ year old single father pick up women?

You're uniquely unqualified to answer such a question.

Sure, maybe the guy is a douche who's gross and has stupid high standards, but just because he wrote into Abby doesn't confirm that. Maybe he's having social issues due to having been a single father for so long (not a presumption, merely a possibility).

Anyway, I don't know a ton of middle aged single fathers, but of those I do know it does seem hard for them to meet someone who is worth creating a relationship with.