So at what weight do women actually respond to a guy?

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  • aStrongerSteph
    aStrongerSteph Posts: 161 Member
    Totally agree with the poster who said "you're walking up to the wrong women". Creeps everywhere but, the good ones will like you for who you are and weight won't play into it :)
  • Dunkelheit666
    Dunkelheit666 Posts: 223 Member
    So when I was 290 the last girl I approached before starting my weight loss back up literally turned around on walked away without acknowledging me. At 245 I guess things have improved in the sense they'll talk to me for 30 seconds until they come up with an excuse to get away but still. So guys who have lost weight or to all the women out there, when does it actually get better? I mean do I need to be a fitness model or something because that's probably a bit out of reach.

    I think your first mistake is trying to understand the female mind. :smile:

    Just do your thing. You'll meet the right person for you. Until then, there's lots of free porn on the internet.
  • Dunkelheit666
    Dunkelheit666 Posts: 223 Member
    well ima t 185 so its obviously below 185

    try taking pictures of yourself in the bathroom w/ your pants off. chics love that *kitten*
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    This. And the confidence part as well. My boyfriend is 260 at 6' tall.
  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
    You could always lower your standards ;) I'd pick a funny guy over a fit guy any day. Have patience :)
  • Ge0rgiana
    Ge0rgiana Posts: 1,649 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    ^^^ Yup. My first crush was on a guy who was about 300lbs, but I'm a rarity. You just have to push through the shallow wenches who think a guy has to have 15% bf and find a person who will appreciate you. It's easier said than done, I know!
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
    Consider it a close call that you were lucky to get away from. If they are rude enough to walk away without even acknowledging you why would you want to go out with them?
    Its not really a cut and dry question as everyone has different preferences as i'm sure you do to.
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
    When you hit your current goal weight and become at least partially satisfied with your body, you will realize that it DOES NOT matter. At all. Actually, I think once you hit the fitness model look and then beyond...it hurts. Girls are turned off. They think you are an elitist jerk.

    A nice body helps on the internet. In real life...it makes almost no difference. Trust me on this one.

    I hit my original goal physique a long time ago. I expected a change. Some magical difference. There was nothing.
  • tugboating
    tugboating Posts: 56
    Obviously its been said over and over, but confidence is key.

    Not having confidence shows in your posture, eye contact, hand shake, tone of voice, choice of words and pretty much through any form of communication you can think of.

    Without it, you're lost. Just have to keep telling yourself that you are the best that you can be in all that you do and anyone who can't see that, is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!

    Good luck man!
  • Ta2dchic20
    Ta2dchic20 Posts: 376 Member
    Personally, I've always like a man who looks like a man. A little bit of fluff just makes him feel better to me when I'm in his arms. My last bf was 5'10, 260. Now that we've broken up, he's down to 180 and I think he looks terrible.
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    Perfect response.

    Try to meet women who are into the same hobbies as you. Try going to meetups or joining some clubs. Trying to pickup random women is not going to go well.
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
  • BrieLP
    BrieLP Posts: 300 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
  • rm830
    rm830 Posts: 531 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    This^^
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
    This.

    My husband is 6'2", 230 lbs. He's got a bit of chunk in his tummy trunk, but he's still a dead sexy beast.


    Oh, and I approached him.

    He's my type of man! Almost the description of what I like to a 't'

    I think women face the same issues, it's ridiculous. I agree alot of self confidence and also the right people
  • hollyjane77
    hollyjane77 Posts: 147
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.


    What she said!
  • Mummyadams
    Mummyadams Posts: 1,125 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
    Yes!
  • Luvmesumkenny
    Luvmesumkenny Posts: 779 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    This!


    EXACTLY THIS.........
  • forsettii
    forsettii Posts: 29
    I started here at 5'11" and 288 pounds. I have a personality where I make "Friends" at the gas station. I have lost 67 pounds. I find people looking at me at odd times. My goal is to still get to 200 pounds. I don't want to look sickly. But This was the first summer at the beach that I took my shirt off.

    Thus get comfortable in your skin and the rest will fall into place.
  • KWake1
    KWake1 Posts: 148 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.

    This. Seriously. I don't know where you're meeting these girls, but if that's the atmosphere I'd try a new place.
  • girllovedcupcakes
    girllovedcupcakes Posts: 109 Member
    I ditto the wrong girls comments. You are attractive to me :) I don't have the conventional girl "type" though!
  • GeekyGirlLyn
    GeekyGirlLyn Posts: 238 Member
    I cant speak for all girls but...290 or 245 or anything higher or lower doesnt matter to me. Personality is the most important to me. Theres plenty of girls like that to, so just have to find them. But it doesnt matter to me.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
    178lb. So much as 1lb more or less and I'm out.
  • Dunkelheit666
    Dunkelheit666 Posts: 223 Member
    I ditto the wrong girls comments. You are attractive to me :) I don't have the conventional girl "type" though!


    awwwwwwwwwwwww!
  • gmallan
    gmallan Posts: 2,099 Member
    You're either approaching the wrong girls, or using the wrong approach. This may sound a little shallow but if you are a little (or a lot) overweight still you are probably going to have to work a bit harder to win a girl over with your personality. Any girl worth your time knows that personality is what matters in the end, so you just need to find a way to make yours shine. It can be a little difficult to break down that barrier in a short amount of time. That's why the situation that you are approaching the women is probably important too. Bars are generally not a great place to meet people of the opposite sex.

    Been said already but confidence and humour are key
  • know_your_worth
    know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
    I don't think weight has anything to do with it. At least not for me. It's all about personality.
  • SaraRhiannon421
    SaraRhiannon421 Posts: 34 Member
    So when I was 290 the last girl I approached before starting my weight loss back up literally turned around on walked away without acknowledging me. At 245 I guess things have improved in the sense they'll talk to me for 30 seconds until they come up with an excuse to get away but still. So guys who have lost weight or to all the women out there, when does it actually get better? I mean do I need to be a fitness model or something because that's probably a bit out of reach.

    you are very handsome. if girls cant see that, its their own self esteem related problem... you should be running away just as fast. i don't see ANY reason for women to be running away from you!
  • My1985Freckles
    My1985Freckles Posts: 1,039 Member
    Yep, wrong girls.

    My hubby was 6'2" 350ish when I met him. He was the sexiest man alive then and still is at 85pounds lighter. (I'm the one who has put on a few LOL)
  • sarahsummers12
    sarahsummers12 Posts: 128 Member
    You're walking up to the wrong girls.
    This^^
  • Dunkelheit666
    Dunkelheit666 Posts: 223 Member
    You're either approaching the wrong girls, or using the wrong approach. This may sound a little shallow but if you are a little (or a lot) overweight still you are probably going to have to work a bit harder to win a girl over with your personality. Any girl worth your time knows that personality is what matters in the end, so you just need to find a way to make yours shine. It can be a little difficult to break down that barrier in a short amount of time. That's why the situation that you are approaching the women is probably important too. Bars are generally not a great place to meet people of the opposite sex.

    Been said already but confidence and humour are key

    The girl in the footsie pajamas likes a good sense of humor...there's a suprise!

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