How do you feel about stay-at-home parents?

Yes im envious he gets to escape and glad to go back to work next year.

I hate staying home

I was for four years. Sometimes I miss it a lot.

I would not negatively judge one who was a stay at home mom. Just like I wouldn't judge a mother who has a family but is very career orientated.
I doubt I could do it again. I need to work.

I'm a SAHM. I don't really get jealous of my hubby "escaping." I was a working mom up until last January (my DS was 19 months old when I quit working). I do miss talking to adults and having lunch breaks to do whatever I want, but being a working mom with all of my son's health issues was stressful and I was missing a lot of work to be home with him. I like staying at home now and I hope I am lucky enough to continue to stay at home until my son is at least in high school.

I'm a stay at home mom. (4 kids, ages 17, 12, 3 and 1) There are days I love it... and days I want to cry and ask myself why in the hell and I'm staying at home when I could be back to work, friends, adults! lol But I love knowing I'm raising my kids, and with them always

My husband makes enough money to where we aren't suffering by me being home... And he WANTS his children raised by me. He wont even let our daughter go to the free childcare offered by the hospital for our doctor visits! lol So, for us it works, and we don't fight about stuff like that.

I can tell you... Being a SAHM is WAYYYYYYYYYYY harder than any other job I've EVER had. Mentally and Physically.

I really enjoy staying home, my son is so important to me and I love that I will be there for him and I know he is getting the attention and learning experiences that he deserves. Sometimes I get a little stir crazy but that's what girl nights are for, and talking to your spouse about it definitely helps. He is great at giving me a break and helping out when he gets home after work. I contribute to the household income by having two extra babies with my son and I also did passion parties for a while which helps a lot. The only thing I ever hated about staying home was the lack of income but that can be easily fixed as I have stated earlier.

You can just talk freely or use the following questions to guide you! Thanks for sharing your perspective!


If you're the SAHP (stay at home parent) ...are your envious that your spouse gets to "escape" ...even if it is for work?

Do you like staying at home?

If you're the off-to-work parent...are you resentful that your spouse stays at home? Do you care that your spouse isn't contributing to the household income?

What would the ideal arrangement look like for you?

I am the working parent while my husband stays at home. I know he envies me a little bit, because he's told me so. He gets stir crazy here, which is why date nights and him going and hanging out with friends is so important. He needs to get out of the house, and I understand that.

I have no problems supporting our entire family, so long as he is taking care of the day to day household stuff. I generally have to leave him a list of things I would like accomplished during the day, but if I do, he's good about doing most, if not all of them.

For our family, this works out well. He is having to go and look for a job now, though. Insurance up at my work just sky-rocketed, and I can't afford it if he doesn't have an income. Even with another baby on the way, I can make it with what I make at my job, except for the insurance. And I don't make boat loads of money, either. I just haven't accumulated tons of debt like alot of people my own age. I don't own a credit card, and my car is paid off. That helps alot.

Did it for a short while, its not for me I like working..But if they like it and can afford it more power to them.

Some days I miss working outside the home and miss my job but I figure I have the rest of my life to do that, my kids are only going to be young once. I don't think staying home works for everyone or is right for everyone.

I actually think HE envies ME because I get to do things with the kids he doesn't get to do very often, like help them with homework, go have lunch with them at school, spend afternoons at the pool during summer vacation. They're small things but things that SAHP often take for granted.

I don't envy him for getting away... he works very hard so that I can be with the kids.

I'm not the sahp type. I work 25 hours a week outside of the home. It's a perfect compromise. I get to take care of the household and all my children's needs, plus I get the adult interaction. It's amazing though the amount of grief I get from either direction. You have the people who are like oh, you only work 25 hours, what do you do with all that free time? Ummm wtf is free time? I certainly don't have that. Then you get the sahms who think I'm doing some huge injustice to my kids by not being there for them 24/7. You can't win, so I don't even try. I do what works for my family.

I'm currently at home with my kids while my husband works in the mining industry. He can be gone for up to 4 weeks at a time so a full on SAHM. It's busy looking after my 2 but I also don't envy him he works long hours and does a tough job to provide for us.

Our roles were reversed previously he stayed at home with the 2 kids while I worked so we both understand just how hard each others role is and really appreciate each other. Honestly think it has made us much stronger as a couple