Are you still together/married now...?

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  • carryingon
    carryingon Posts: 609 Member
    WARNING- I AM VERY JADED!

    I kind of have a different philosophy on life, so please bare with me.

    With my First Husband I knew the day that I met him that I would marry him. It was not love at first sight . I can't explain the feeling other than a knowing. No matter how hard you avoid them you can't. A deep need to be around them (mutual of course) It was this person has been sent in to my life because I need to learn something from them. I was 16 he was 20. I married him when I was 19 and left him when I was 26. I learned that being a punching bag is not fun, how to manipulate someone who is manipulating you, patience, and bravery.

    I met my second husband when I was 28 he was 19. Again I knew the moment he spoke to me that he would be a part of my life. We were married in '09. We divorced January 2012. We are Catholic and technicaly we are still married in the Church. We share four amazingly beautiful children. I learned from him to
    NEVER trust anyone ever again especially with your CHILDREN!

    I love all you're all like: I totally met THE ONE and he screwed me over.
    And then I met the OTHER ONE and he screwed me over too.

    oh no-:smile: never said either was the one. I don't believe in "The One" . It's more like seeing you're about to be in an accident you can't avoid. I think life is what you make from it. You can learn something from everyone. I don't hate either of them. I don't have room in my life for hate just forgiveness.
  • QTRARO
    QTRARO Posts: 75 Member
    I have found best after breaking up with someone, well just based on the last breakup.. No Contact at all is good I haven't emailed, texted him.. he will be hating that right now.. as he wanted to keep me in his life.. as they do. Best thing is to get away far away and heal and move on. Life's too short to share it with idiots.
  • bdj51
    bdj51 Posts: 1 Member
    Yes, my husband and I are still together . We are high school sweet hearts . We started dating in the 10th grade and been loving on each other for the last 36 years. We just celebrate 32 years of marriage on November 8th. If I had to do it again (marry) to the same man I would! :)
  • ahjenny
    ahjenny Posts: 293 Member
    Met online in February, met in person in March, got engaged in July, and married in October. We were supposed to get married in April of the following year, but stuff was going on and we moved it up. We just celebrated 6 years and we're still going strong. :love:
  • mstissa02
    mstissa02 Posts: 83 Member
    Well, we met at a summer job in 2003. Started talking as friends for a few months and dated later that year. Dated for a little over six years and married in 2009. We are approaching our 4th anniversary as a married couple. Almost 10 years totally together!!
  • hijude57
    hijude57 Posts: 97 Member
    First date was Nov 11, 1973. I was 16 he was 18. We dated for 5 years while i finished highschool and college. We got married in
    1978 and are stll together. We've been together a total of 39 years. He started talking about "when we get married" after a few months.
  • queenpushycat
    queenpushycat Posts: 762 Member
    single.
  • joeysox
    joeysox Posts: 195 Member
    met start of 2007 playing online games...long distance thing. he proposed after a month, moved in a month later...cant seem to get rid of him ;) lol x
  • ellenxmariex3
    ellenxmariex3 Posts: 165 Member
    We met when I was 17 and he was 16. When I saw him for the first time I got butterflies - I'd never felt that way before. We dated until the end of high school (16 months) but broke up because I was going to college 1000 miles away. We then got back together 7 weeks later (9/17/11) when I realized I didn't want to be without him. I still go to college 1000 miles away but we live together during school breaks (about 5 months out of the year) in an apartment that we consider "our apartment".
    Overall we've been together a little over 2.5 years. I do believe he is the One but we are waiting until we are a little older to get married. He's my best friend.
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
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  • mrsfurby14
    mrsfurby14 Posts: 181 Member
    I meet my bf at a friends house and didn't really hit it off then but couple months later we hung out and he asked if I wanted to date him and I said yes I'll give it a try and that was 9 yrs ago and we are still together.
  • wholenewme03
    wholenewme03 Posts: 95 Member
    I met my boyfriend on the first class of our first day of undergrad, and we were fast friends. People thought we went to high school together, but we'd only been hanging out for a few weeks. I knew I wanted to marry him when I was thinking "hmm...how in the world am I ever going to marry someone else when HE is my BEST FRIEND?" Then it hit me...duh, I'm spending literally all of my time with my future husband! That was 6 years ago :)

    I'm just still waiting for him to pop the question...
  • RubyDarling
    RubyDarling Posts: 171 Member
    I love this topic!

    I knew for about eight months before we started dating that he was the one. We were best friends for 2ish years beforehand, and all our friends and family assumed we were either already dating, or couldn't believe how blind we both were! We actually realised via SMS that we both liked each other and that we both knew we'd inevitably end up together, so we didn't prolong it any longer!

    We've been together nearly 5 years and getting married in a few months. We would have shacked up sooner if I wasn't living overseas at the time!
  • ktrn0312
    ktrn0312 Posts: 722 Member
    We met at a college party. He asked me to dance a number of times. At the end of the party he requested my number. I refused to give him my number but, he was persistant.. He had no pen or paper & I was ready to leave with my girlfriends. I rattled the numbers so fast & garbled them so he could not possibly understand or get the numbers correctly. I left without looking back. I was truly not interested. The next day it was a Sunday & I received a call from him. I was shocked he was able to get the number when I had no intention of him being able to comprehend what I said. He called everyday for 1 month & I did not want to go out with him. I tried to scare him by saying he had to meet the parents first & he had no problem with it. Every obstacle I placed in front of him, he just knocked them down. By the the 2nd month we started going out. By the 6mth, he was talking marriage & I thought that was silly & we needed to know each other longer. I did like him by then. We were engaged on my 25th birthday which was after 2 yrs of dating. Married 1 yr later. Married 19 years & 1 child later. His persistance won me in the end & also how much he cherished his mom. I believe if a man shows a healthy, deep love & respect to the 1st woman in his life (his mom), he has learned the foundation to build a loving & lasting relationship with his life partner.
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    Yes, my husband and I are still together . We are high school sweet hearts . We started dating in the 10th grade and been loving on each other for the last 36 years. We just celebrate 32 years of marriage on November 8th. If I had to do it again (marry) to the same man I would! :)

    WOOOW!!!!!!
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
    Sounds dumb and impossible, but I think I knew before I even loved him. We just happened to be IMing on Aim and were talking about our lives and trivial teenage things, but whenever I think back, that convo just always is the first thing that pops up.
  • florymonde
    florymonde Posts: 261 Member
    That reminds me; Sunday was the 20th anniversary of our first date! He knew before we ever went out; I took some convincing, but we got engaged after two months, married in another 4 months. So, we need to come up with something fun to do for our 20th anniversary coming up in six months!
  • algebravoodoo
    algebravoodoo Posts: 776 Member
    Hmmm... met my husband when he was 15, I was 12. He and I were great friends in high school despite the fact that we both dayed others. We dated each other for two weeks when he came home on leave. He never actually said the words "Will you marry me?" We just started talking about a shared future one afternoon. (Remember, this was in the early 80's before email and cheap international calls.) He called me a couple of months later and we both blurted out at the same time "Are we getting married?" "Yes, I think so." "JINX!"

    Here we are, 30+ years and six kids later. Together forever. The kids just overlook the hallway sex... :devil:
  • algebravoodoo
    algebravoodoo Posts: 776 Member
    met start of 2007 playing online games...long distance thing. he proposed after a month, moved in a month later...cant seem to get rid of him ;) lol x

    Well, you know what they say about feeding strays...:laugh:
  • JoPress
    JoPress Posts: 4
    I met my husband Bryan in college and he quickly became one of my best friends, we both fell in love with each other long before our first real date. Shortly after we finished school his army unit was deployed to Iraq, we shared an apartment for a few months before he shipped out, it was during that time he says he fell in love with me, however at the time I was with some loser who knocked me up and then wiped out all my saving to buy drugs, I left him before my daughter was even born... when Bryan returned from the war was when I fell in love with him, at that time he was engaged to a girl we went to school with... lol. After things didnt work out with his ex and he left her is when we finally had our first date. we have now been married 3 years. He adopted my daughter and had always treated her as his own, and we also now have a son together :)
  • runboostie
    runboostie Posts: 51 Member
    Ok, ok... So these are two very separate questions. How long until I knew this one was the one I wanted to be with? Ummm.... I have known it off and on for the last 20 years. We have been married 19.
  • Hope1861
    Hope1861 Posts: 13 Member
    He says he knew the first time he saw me. I knew by the end of our first date and yeah, we're still together-30+years later.
  • fittiephd
    fittiephd Posts: 608 Member
    I know I want to be with my man, but we've only been dating 4 years and aren't engaged or anything yet. High hopes for the future <3
  • mgobluetx12
    mgobluetx12 Posts: 1,326 Member
    We met in 1996 and I knew he was the one within 6 months or maybe a little less. We got engaged in 1997 and broke up in 2000 because he didn't want kids and I did. I still knew he was the one and we never stopped being great friends. We got back together in 2008, engaged in 2011 and married in 2012. Still working on the kids thing, but I never changed my mind that he was the one for me.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Met online in July 2006. Were friends for a couple months when I asked him if he had a girlfriend? He told me no and asked if I wanted to be her? I told him of course I would. He asked me to marry him in March 2007 on the phone. We met in person for the first time in July 2007 and he gave me his dog tags because he couldn't afford an engagement ring at that time. I went back home (we lived in different states) and we decided we wanted to be together so we got married in a court house. A few days before our 1 year anniversary he was called to deploy in Iraq for a year. He left a month later. He came back in 2010. We have been married for 5 years (Will be 5 years on the 30th).
  • JustANumber85
    JustANumber85 Posts: 644 Member
    I knew in highschool. We dated in HS and then broke up after for the summer. We got back together and got married in 05 (graduated in 04). Been married since.
  • readanddance
    readanddance Posts: 311 Member
    I love hearing the stories. I replied just so I can track/follow them. Hopeless romantic here! :flowerforyou:
  • mkorich
    mkorich Posts: 29
    The first date, I am hopeless like that, we have been together 6 years now.
  • mikes99mail
    mikes99mail Posts: 318 Member
    met in 94, she was diagnosed with cancer six weeks later. Bummer.

    I chose to stick around, she spent six months in hospital but I moved into her place when she got out, and we got married in 96.

    I still couldnt imagine not being together.
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    It took my husband a while, but I knew pretty quick! Back then I had dropped a hundred pounds the year before so I had great confidence and was loving to have fun. I met my husband at McDs where we both worked. I knew him but it wasn't until one afternoon while I was working and he was off work, he had gotten his hair cut and come in to check his schedule and I glanced at him and literally did a double take to stare at this gorgeous man. I was still in highschool and he was in college.

    I think that timing is really important, not so much how long you have known each other or been together. For example, I had a rough childhood and grew up quickly, not so interested in playing around much... so I had no issue imagining being with him forever.

    When I finally got his number we talked on the phone a couple times and he took me out on a date bowling. I beat him. :)
    He broke up with me via email that sunday (low!!) and we didn't talk for a while. My best friend started working at McD's and he became smitten with her right away. Although I didn't see it then, I see now that she completely led him on. We would all three spend time together and he and I became good friends, he would come over and hang out with my family. Eventually my best friend broke his heart, and I patiently picked up the pieces until he saw me where I always was.. simply being there.

    We began to date around a year after we met, and it progressed quickly. He proposed 6 months later, then we found out a few months after that we were expecting a baby. So we got married and had our wonderful little family and life was good.

    Fast forward a few years later and marital bliss has begun to wear off and realities of life set in. One affair, several drunken nights, and even more nights of not coming home later I filed for divorce and I thought my marriage was over.

    Fortunately my Dad and his wife were smart and told me to attend church while I was living with them again, so I did. My husband and I began to go to counseling (and not in the usual sense but literally being preached to for an hour) which ended up saving our marriage. We did that for a year, but didn't move back in together for another 6 months. It didn't take long for baby number 2 to follow.

    Now we are coming up on 5 years married, 1 year dated, and 1 year friends. I love our story and I love my husband. Sorry that was so long but rock on if you read the whole thing.

    WOW... i am happy for you guys. And yes i read the entire thing. lol

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