Major Blow to My Confidence Today-Rude People

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  • cebreisch
    cebreisch Posts: 1,340 Member
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    I carry my weight in my belly too and it drives me crazy how heartless people can be - and it's usually because they aren't thinking.

    My dad always paraphrased Lincoln by saying, "Best to keep the mouth shut and be thought a fool than open it and remove all doubt."

    Please don't let the fools of the world derail your effort!!
  • G0julieG0
    G0julieG0 Posts: 5
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    Soooo rude!!!! If they don't know they should just keep their mouth shut..
    Just use that fury as fuel to your calorie burning excercises....!!!!
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
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    Sorry to hear that your feelings were hurt, but by continuing, she was probably just trying to make it sound less insulting. Forgive her, because she was probably really embarrassed, too.
  • jimmyalice1984
    jimmyalice1984 Posts: 171 Member
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    Some women ask other women this question as a way to put them down. I've been reading all the comments here and the women who have been through this are all very pretty to say the least. You may carry a little bit of extra weight, but you still look beautiful and some women do say things like this out of bitterness and spite. Shame to say it but some women never grow out of their school playground mentality, it would be great to be quick witted and have a smart answer without missing a beat, but unfortunately we're not all blessed with this, I know that this type of comment isn't always about jealousy, more often thoughtlessness and ignorance, but whatever context it is made in you can be thankful that your mind doesn't operate on the same wavelength :flowerforyou:
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
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    yeah thats awkward but is it worth throwing away your whole day on the alter of :(
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
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    I have a feeling she was purposely trying to be rude. She knew you weren't pregnant.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
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    You just reminded me of a horrendous thing that happened to me. Back in my young free and single days I took a guy home after a night out, won't go into too much detail, suffice to say , at a pivotal moment, he asked 'have you ever been pregnant'
    Considering I was about 20 at the time, I can't imagine how my physical condition would have prompted this. Shocking!

    Maybe it was a fetish of his.
  • GretchenReine
    GretchenReine Posts: 1,427 Member
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    OMG she kept talking??? I guess it's an NSV that you didn't punch her in the throat!!!
  • xMonroeMisfit
    xMonroeMisfit Posts: 411 Member
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    Happened to me once, Fourth of july cruise with my fiance.

    He was more upset about it than i was because i had already lost so much weight and he was proud of me.

    He simply looked her in the eyes and said "Are you?" and she said "No" put her head down, turned beet red and walked away.

    I don't think people do this to insult or be rude, they do it to make conversation or be nice. Not many people will think hmm this girl looks fat let me go up to her and ask her if she is pregnant, that'll really make an awkward moment and piss her off.

    I believe she went on with the 3 months thing to try to make you feel better, like don't worry you don't look FULL on pregnant you have a little bump.

    Just go about your day and live your life. Contine your weight loss and let it fuel you to want to change your body even more. Don't waste your energy or emotions on it, especially when it's possible this lady really honestly meant no harm.
  • Katbaran
    Katbaran Posts: 605 Member
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    The only time it is socially acceptable to ask a woman if she is pregnant is when the baby is crowning.

    This. Exactly.

    That poor idiot should just have put down the shovel she was digging herself into a hole with and apologized. Sorry this happened to you!
  • fit_librarian
    fit_librarian Posts: 242 Member
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    Wow. That's so rude. :(
  • bizorra
    bizorra Posts: 151 Member
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    This happens to me ALL.THE.TIME. I carry all of my weight in my belly and boobs.
    The worst is when I'm on the subway and little old ladies offer me their seat!! They're so insistent, but I don't want to announce to the whole train "no, I'm not pregnant!"

    Most of the time when I tell the person "no, I'm not pregnant" they're just as embarassed as I am and it ends there. This woman trying to back-pedal just made it worse. Maybe she was deliberately being rude, but more likely she was trying to cover up her embarassment, attempt to make you feel better.

    But on that note, this image speaks to me :P I will never ever ever ever ask a stranger about what I think to be a pregnancy (unless I'm offering a seat, because that's a sticky grey area)
    http://imgur.com/gallery/C4Q2A
  • treineck
    treineck Posts: 103 Member
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    That really stinks, shame on her for being such an *kitten*! Don't let it bring you down though!
    I think you should've turned around (with a big smile and in a really sarcastic voice) and said: "gee that's funny you asked me cause I was actually going to ask you the same question!" then roll your eyes and look away ignoring any other stupid comments that come from her! :happy:
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
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    Wow, people these days are so rude. Don't let it get to you
  • MaryRegs
    MaryRegs Posts: 272 Member
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    people are ignorant...let it go and be the best you can be! don't give anyone the power to do that to you!
  • MsDover
    MsDover Posts: 395 Member
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    I'm assuming she was old...old people have no filters. I know it's hard, but try not to let it get to you. Picture how you'll look in 3 months, 6 months, even 12 months from now. Keep up the good work and learn to ignore rude people!!!

    Yea, being "old" has nothing to do with it, since I've been eligible for AARP for 10 years now and my filters are just fine, thank you! Rudeness and insensitivity are driven by ignorance and stupidity, not age.

    In my youth, back when dinosaurs wandered the streets of Massachusetts, more than one time I had someone assume I was pregnant and say as much. It was mortifying. I wasn't even all that fat, but having had children I never did quite snap back the way I'd hoped. I would say, "No.... I'm just fat.... and no, it's not OK to put your hand on my stomach whether it's inhabited by a baby or not."
  • Narla444
    Narla444 Posts: 41 Member
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    I can't believe she kept trying to dig that hole!

    I did ask that question once to my teacher - who was not pregnant. The only out I'm giving myself is that I was SEVEN! But it left enough of an impression that the question will NEVER leave my lips again.
  • JingleMuffin
    JingleMuffin Posts: 543 Member
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    that sucks when people are so rude. it dosnet hurt to give it right back asfter beeing asked if you are pregnant say
    "no, are you?" even if its a man. or asked them if theyve had a botched nose job because theyre face looks so bad. sorry im just a rude person like you
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
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    Just blatantly horrible. At least she didn't put her hand on your stomach like someone did to me.
  • Ewaldt
    Ewaldt Posts: 106 Member
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    My best friend has been asked if she Pregnant at LEAST 5 times in her life, and she is 19!!! She is also not big in any way, and I am pretty sure it is just because she loves maternity tops, as do I, because they are so flowy and cute, and she is always has a glow about her.

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