Children throwing tantrums in stores! What??

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  • hellonheels88
    hellonheels88 Posts: 262 Member
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    Hitting is only okay between two consenting adults who have agreed in advance upon a safeword.

    *ahem* how you doin :wink:
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,843 Member
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    My daughter threw ONE fit. That's it. One. I don't remember what it was for. But, she threw herself of the floor kicking and screaming. I then threw myself down kicking and screaming. Made a real scene. She was 3. She looked at me like I was nuts...... so did most of the store....... I stood up, looked at her and told her it looked just as stupid when she did it, and if she EVER embarrassed me like that again in public, she would get a spanking. Never did it again.

    OMG I know someone who did the exact same thing and she said it worked like a charm.:laugh:
  • Jpinpoint
    Jpinpoint Posts: 219 Member
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    I don't have any rude little twerps.

    I don't blame the parent, unless they unleash stupid discipline. I don't blame the kid if the parent drags them to a store and doesn't give the rules of store behavior prior to entering the store. "No touching stuff, no asking for stuff, no wanting, needing, begging, crying, whining. We are going in here for this certain thing, we will behave."

    Once upon a time I was in Walmart, in the check out line behind a kid who was freaking out and the mom said, "If you don't knock it off I'm taking you to the car." YOU ARE. CHECKING. OUT. What kind of threat is that?

    Oh and don't be a parent who "counts to three" because if you get to three and you have failed to do what you were going to do, I will CONTINUE to count and your kid and I will humiliate you.

    I have a twerpy 2 yr old nephew. When my sister puts him on time out I make faces at him.

    If a parent at a store gives a kid a dog toy, then OBSCENE squeaking happens, I will take the toy away and put it high on a shelf.

    However, I empathize with the kid sometimes and the parent digs it. Boy at grocery store let his balloon go, WORLD WAS ENDING. Kid was in hysterics. Mom was just trying to make her purchases. Bagging girl kept telling the kid, "It'll be okay, I promise it will." The kid kept saying, "No." I blurted out, "His BALLOON IS GONE. Right now, the world is over. Right kid?" He stopped crying. He needed to commiserate a little.

    Children are not unreasonable, adults are. :tongue:
  • emily356
    emily356 Posts: 318 Member
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    I see there are some people here in favor of spanking their children. If there is anyone here that has a college degree and thinks it is ok to spank children, please step forward. I know they have to exist, but I have never met a person under 75 that has a college degree and thinks it is ok to spank children.

    What bubble do you live in?

    Hahaha, I was thinking the same thing!:smile:
  • stephross88
    stephross88 Posts: 846 Member
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    You obviously don't have kids. I am sure when you do you will be an amazing mother and your kids will never throw tantrums though.

    +1

    ^^ This. As a mother of a 4 year old boy I can tell you that kids throw tantrums all the time. Especially if they are used to getting toy or etc on a regular basis. I am sure the father was trying to quiet his son up so people like you wouldn't make a ridiculous post like this...wow.
  • dolly3186
    dolly3186 Posts: 81 Member
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    I've only read the first two pages of this thread and quickly skimmed the rest, but I know this has been mentioned...

    I, for one, am personally so sick and tired of everyone being so damn judgmental. ESPECIALLY when the ones doing the judging don't have kids.

    My daughter is a typical 3 year old. She's basically a good kid, but when she sees a toy in the store she wants she has thrown tantrums. I agree with most other parents here. I've left the store and not gotten anything and strapped her in her car seat and we went right home. She understands what I say when I tell her she cannot throw tantrums in public and that's definitely not how she's going to get something she wants.

    On the other hand, my son is 2 years old and has autism.

    Did anyone judging ever stop and think about what might be going on when a child is throwing a major tantrum? That child might have special needs (such as autism) like mine does. Even though he is two he doesn't speak, so it's impossible for him to tell me what he wants/needs ever. He also has little to no understanding of receptive language yet so he can't really understand what I'm saying when I tell him, "No, you can't grab that toy off the shelf and take it with you." Also, children with autism are (or at least the ones I've met, maybe not all) extremely sensory sensitive.

    My son is extremely sensitive to certain lights and sounds. Loud crowds (such as in shopping stores or malls) freak him out and can cause major anxiety and a tantrum. The fluorescent lights in stores seem to make him very uncomfortable as well. I try to shop as quickly and as efficiently as I can, but I can't keep my two year old trapped inside my house and never come out with me.

    I'm sorry if children like my son "bother" you while you're shopping, but really, it's probaby 15 minutes out of your day you might hear him scream in a supermarket. Go on with your life, move along.

    Just remember that some children aren't just "being brats"...some might actually have problems that you don't know about because you're so busy being that bi*** person all us moms (and dads!) see on a regular basis. It's sad, really.

    Just my two cents.
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
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    You obviously don't have kids. I am sure when you do you will be an amazing mother and your kids will never throw tantrums though.

    Yup. You should've pointed out that father's shortcomings to his face like a real woman.

    Yes, this. Next time make sure you tell the parent in question how to handle the tantrum. Also, make sure to point out what an expert you are on the subject, being childless and all.
  • Jimaudit
    Jimaudit Posts: 275
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    I am calling BS on this post.

    Who the hell can stay in Michael's for 45 mins? And if you didn't have kids with you, why would YOU stay in Michael's for 45mins?

    I think you should have left the store and let the man get on with his business. He was right in not giving into his child....that is very bad learned behavior. He was right not to leave the store as kids need to learn to behave in public. He was wrong for pleading with his child to stop.

    My 3.5 year old gets 2 warnings and then I simply say one word "OK"...that means she just lost something and is on a slippery slope to more. She knows now to immediately stop her behavior or she is on the verge of losing something else she cherishes (night time snack, books in bed, TV show before bed, gymnastics on the spare bed, whatever it is she truly loves to do. I do not yell, beg or cry.....I simply ask her twice and then start removing things. She is savy enough to know that if she keeps going, the night will go poorly for her.

    I have never, nor will I, take her out of a store or situation where she is acting poorly...she has learned that she needs to behave in public...that is where this man was wrong.

    At the end of the day, it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS though. So take your post and ram it. Yuo don't have kids, so you don't know or get it.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    I see there are some people here in favor of spanking their children. If there is anyone here that has a college degree and thinks it is ok to spank children, please step forward. I know they have to exist, but I have never met a person under 75 that has a college degree and thinks it is ok to spank children.

    <--- 29, about to start PhD, will spank my kid. There is a difference between spanking and being abusive in my humble opinion. I don't want to coddle my kid.

    For the record, I am not a parent. However, my brother, who has a Masters degree spanks his kid, my parents, also educated, spanked me etc.
  • justal313
    justal313 Posts: 1,375 Member
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    I don't have a problem with crying kids, even though when I was little if I cried in public I got one warning and if I continued we left right then and there. Getting denied fun things made me stop that behavior real quick. However, I have lots of younger cousins and I understand children are difficult.

    Reason number 490548 why I'm terrified to have kids. I know one day I'll be the parent people are judging without any knowledge of the situation. Oh man.

    I am going to get my daughter hooked on XBOX which she will get to play after homework is done. If she misbehaves, I'll threaten to delete her save points. She'll straighten right up, that would scare me into giving the microfilm to the soviets.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
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    I am calling BS on this post.

    Who the hell can stay in Michael's for 45 mins? And if you didn't have kids with you, why would YOU stay in Michael's for 45mins?

    Hello?? MICHAELS HAS GLITTER AND SHINY THINGS.
  • Jpinpoint
    Jpinpoint Posts: 219 Member
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    My daughter threw ONE fit. That's it. One. I don't remember what it was for. But, she threw herself of the floor kicking and screaming. I then threw myself down kicking and screaming. Made a real scene. She was 3. She looked at me like I was nuts...... so did most of the store....... I stood up, looked at her and told her it looked just as stupid when she did it, and if she EVER embarrassed me like that again in public, she would get a spanking. Never did it again.

    Thus you are awesome. I like this.
  • MemphisKitten
    MemphisKitten Posts: 878 Member
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    My kids throw fits in the store and I NEVER get them what they want. They still do it, and it's very embarrassing because we know it bothers people like you and it isn't fun for us either.
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
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    I'm saying I didn't throw tantrums. If I did, I'd get it bad with a leather belt. And it worked on me. I was spanked for backtalking, pouting, and crying (if I was warned and didn't stop). When i was older (6-9) I was spanked for getting grades below a B. I was raised right, and disciplined well. I grew up fine, had good grades, wasn't rude, was thankful for what I got, and respected my parents...who chose to discipline me.

    I worked with kids a lot when I was in HS (daycare). This was when i decided I would never have them. I don't hate kids, but I don't ever want one.

    Your parents sound like complete bullies with serious anger and control issues.

    I am relieved you don't ever want children, if you believe that what your parents did was right.
  • Masterdo
    Masterdo Posts: 331 Member
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    I am not a parent and feel their pain. They really are in a tough spot in this situation.. But, I'm Asian and we don't really deal with the tantrums like they do in US. We just get a slap and that is the end usually.

    However, our parents realize that the people around them don't really give a crap about their situation and just want this to be over. I mean, going to a mall or store is not really a big deal but imagine going to a nice restaurant and having to put up with somebodys elses child. Once again, I understand that you're in a tough spot however don't make your problem my problem. I am trying to enjoy a meal. Be kind to me too and take the kid out. Discipline or console him anyway you wish but at least take him out so the others don't have to suffer...

    ETA: There are a few restaurants in US now who have a zero tolerance for crying babies. They flat out ask you to leave if your kid doesn't stop and/or you don't take the kid outside to deal with it

    That post wins. Being a parent must be tough, fine, but that's your problem, not the entire world's :p

    Not having children has nothing to do with this either. People act all entitled when they get kids, but the only thing they ever did to get one in the first place is have sex... There is absolutely no other requirements to have a kid, so I don't think that by itself, having one makes you that much wiser and even capable of judging such situations... They are just stuck with the problem though, while everyone else can just armchair judge it. Doesn't make their solution better though.
  • ashmorgstraws
    ashmorgstraws Posts: 157
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    I'm not a parent, but I watch my cousin's 4 kids (ages 5,5,3,7 months). They sometimes throw tantrums. Their parents discipline well and they are taught the right way. BUT KIDS THROW TANTRUMS. It's a part of life.

    I remember throwing tantrums when I was little. I didn't get away with it and my parents would spank me - never ever with a belt, but with their bare hand. I deserved it, and when I have kids of my own, they'll get spanked when they deserve it too.

    Here's the deal...the guy should have left with his kid when the tantrum started....he shouldn't have stayed in the store for 45 minutes letting him scream. He DEFINITELY shouldn't have let him lay on the ground & thrash and kick. BUT...kids are kids and sometimes they do that kind-of stuff.

    Tolerance is key.
  • oneworkoutatatime
    oneworkoutatatime Posts: 312
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    Maybe because you don't have children you don't understand the emotions of a child. My two year old is an angel 99% of the time. But imagine that every disappointing event in life felt like the worst thing that has ever happened to you. No matter how slight. That is what is happening to children. Not getting a toy feels like you whole family just died in some tragic accident. Children don't know how to deal with all of those overwhelming feelings. Just think, someone else's crying kid sent you to a message board to rant to a bunch of strangers on the internet. Honestly its not much different. You are just lucky that none of us can beat you with a belt for it. And from what I have read there seem to be a few volunteers already.


    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • Sicler
    Sicler Posts: 18
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    Wait till you have kids. I never understood till I had mine own. My son is two and we have our days he does this. Sometimes it happens.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
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    Please do not EVER change your mind about not having children. You have chosen wisely.
  • 3Athlete
    3Athlete Posts: 7
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    My mom would have left the store immediately and there would have been hell to pay when we got home. When my daughter was younger, if she started crying, we just left as well. I don't like listening to someone's kid cry and scream and I refuse to subject others to my kids doing it.

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