what do you hate about being "fat"
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Mostly knowing that I am a wonderful person and people do not see it because of my weight0
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lack of confidence.0
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- Seeing any photo of myself. Always knew I was chubby but would feel a billion times worse if it somehow got captured in a photo. Got to a point where I couldn't look in a mirror without wanting to burst into tears.0
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Diabetes. High blood pressure. High cholesterol. High risk of heart disease and stroke. Kidney disease from the diabetes. Eye disease and potential blindness from the diabetes, Risk of neuropathy and amputations from the diabetes. Inability to exercise without pain.
At my highest weight ALL of these things became the biggest issue for me... far more than what it looked and/or felt like. Inside I was falling apart. Never being able to find clothes... having to wear men's t-shirts.... stretchy pants... all sucked but all secondary to what it did to my health. Happy to report the diabetes is 100% under control with diet and exercise alone, no medication! I got it under control early enough to avoid any lasting damage to any of my internal organs or my eyes. I was LUCKY and I know it. It started to creep back up on me again and I nipped it in the bud. I now realize I'll have to be diligent for the rest of my life which will now, hopefully, be a longer and healthier life.0 -
Seeing photos of myself and realizing. "I look like that"
Also hate having no energy.0 -
so true....0
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Having to wear a girdle to make my fat rolls not so noticeable. Being the "fat" friend in a group. Not wanting to shop for clothes with my friends because I knew nothing would fit. Having to suck it in for pictures. Having to stick my neck out farther for pictures so my double chin wouldn't show. Dreading getting on roller coaster rides because I was afraid the buckles wouldn't buckle. Never wearing sleeveless shirts because my arms were fat. Always being the fat sister. Constantly tugging at my shirt so it wouldn't cling to my fat rolls. Being genuinely unhappy and disgusted with the person I saw in the mirror. Crying and getting so angry I slapped my stomach because it was so enormous. Always looking down when men passed me because I knew they would find me disgusting.0
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special occasions and seeing people I don't see often and wishing I was a size 4 because people take so many pictures0
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being the "friend" of guys, also seen a post where someone said at the bar the guys trying to get to her to get to her friends, yea that rings a bell here too. i think everyone has one of those family members whos lil miss or mister perfect. had a family gathering a while back and it had been a WHILE since we had a meeting my cousin is only a year younger than me and everyone kept saying what a beautiful young woman she had grown up to be......not one thing was said to me, ouch..0
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Having second thoughts on wearing sleeveless shirts in warmer weather cause of the arm flab.
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Trying to hide my muffin top when I sit in public
Wearing pjs at home all the time because I cant get comfortable in any of my clothes
Being depressed when shopping because the clothes look awful on me compared to the mannequin
Having the lift my belly to shave my girlie bits
Not being able to cross my legs
Having 2 chins
Being asked if I am pregnant again
Not being able to be on top when being intimate with my boyfriend because I am too out of shape and get leg cramps
Having no libido whatsoever since I gained all this weight0 -
also cellulitis and strech marks every-damn-wear on my body. I wont be able to wear a bikini ever.0
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I cant stand that my towels dont wrap around me comfortably anymore.
Thighs rub together
Feeling self conscious in shorts
Not being able to bend comfortably to shave while in the shower/tub
There are oh so many, but by far the one I cant stand the most is when a friend who has never dealt with weight issues ever in their life try to "help" you with shopping or try to give fashion advice. I understand that they have good intentions but it makes me feel like they think im a dunce. Like I have not already tried on over half of the department trying to feel confident in something, anything!? horrendous! Thank Goodness for MFP! The changes and supports that I truly needed.0 -
Thinking "oh, I will totally fit into these size 10 jeans they look huge!" and not being able to get them past your thighs.
For all my big chested-girls, having to go to XL in a shirt or dress when the rest of your torso is a M or L. Just makes things so much worse.
^^^ The struggle!!0 -
No "middle-of-the-road" clothing options for adults. Apparently fat women come in exactly two flavors: 80 years old or super-sassy diva. I don't like pastel tents (Lane Bryant) OR leopard-print leggings (Torrid), so I've just kind of fallen into a rut of ill-fitting jeans and baggy T-shirts. That was fine for middle and high school, but I'm almost 22. As I've slimmed down, more options have become available to me, but now I have no idea what I'm doing, so I usually just reach for what I know anyway.
Plan A for when I reach my goal weight and have a closet full of things that don't fit is still to try to get on one of those TBS makeover shows, like What Not To Wear, so I can both get new clothes and learn how to dress like a grownup in one fell swoop.
I totally agree with this! Clothing manufacturers/designers seem to think that fat people have no taste, are old or hoochie and that our fat keeps us warm. I often wonder how they expect us to lose weight when it's nearly impossible to find reasonably priced workout clothing! Both my winter jackets are men's because that's all I could find at the time I bought them that were both affordable an warm. Last year I accidentally grabbed the wrong jacket at a church function and it turned out to belong to one of the men who's a few years older than me...so embarrassing!!!
I've found Dress Barn has more middle of the road clothes, but then I'm a 47 y/o who looks 30 something (except for in the eyes of the middle schoolers who guessed I was 55). Have you tried Gordmans? They have fashionable looking younger clothes that I would have worn when younger.0 -
I cant stand that my towels dont wrap around me comfortably anymore.
Thighs rub together
Feeling self conscious in shorts
Not being able to bend comfortably to shave while in the shower/tub
There are oh so many, but by far the one I cant stand the most is when a friend who has never dealt with weight issues ever in their life try to "help" you with shopping or try to give fashion advice. I understand that they have good intentions but it makes me feel like they think im a dunce. Like I have not already tried on over half of the department trying to feel confident in something, anything!? horrendous! Thank Goodness for MFP! The changes and supports that I truly needed.
Towels....yep
Thighs....mine have always rubbed together
Shorts....I rock at denial and tend to imagine I look better in shorts than I actually do.
Shaving...don't have that problem...I just can't see in the shower.
When my brother got married, I was in the wedding. I tried to tell my tallish, always been thin sis-in-law two things about the dresses. A. Longer is better for my size...she insisted on short because she didn't want me and one other gal to look like blueberris...we looked like blueberries on legs B. It's gonna be too low cut unless we raise the neckline...we raised it a bit, but not enough. I caught the bouquet and they took the pics from above...there's one with cleavage and one with the flowers over my chest.0 -
the love handles that slightly hang over my jeans.0
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No "middle-of-the-road" clothing options for adults. Apparently fat women come in exactly two flavors: 80 years old or super-sassy diva. I don't like pastel tents (Lane Bryant) OR leopard-print leggings (Torrid), so I've just kind of fallen into a rut of ill-fitting jeans and baggy T-shirts. That was fine for middle and high school, but I'm almost 22. As I've slimmed down, more options have become available to me, but now I have no idea what I'm doing, so I usually just reach for what I know anyway.
Plan A for when I reach my goal weight and have a closet full of things that don't fit is still to try to get on one of those TBS makeover shows, like What Not To Wear, so I can both get new clothes and learn how to dress like a grownup in one fell swoop.
This is my problem. I have a little fashionishta living inside me but I just can't find anything that fits, if I do find something I find cute or I could work with its a 22-24W and I am a 16-18 I can hardly find that size anywhere!0 -
Pictures.0
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What I hate about being fat: Constantly having to "prove" myself to people who immediately judge a fat person as stupid, lazy, and/or worthless....a total lack of respect for who I am on the INside....and an immediate reaction of people not taking me seriously when they first meet me.0
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Everything!
To name the ones that come to mind...
The lack of confidence
Feeling uncomfortable
being unhealthy
being afraid to go out and do things
not being able to find clothes i like
being judged
being instantly looked over
being ashamed
I've come a long way from who I was just a year ago, and I have so much more to go. I can't wait.
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Having to fix my clothes everytime I stood up or got out of the car, pulling and tugging on my shirt and pants bc I don't want people to see my overhang. Walking to the bathroom in a resturant and looking down the whole time bc I felt like people are staring at me...Passing mirrors and looking away because I just didn't want to see myself.0
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Constantly tugging at my shirt so it wouldn't cling to my fat rolls. Being genuinely unhappy and disgusted with the person I saw in the mirror. Crying and getting so angry I slapped my stomach because it was so enormous. Always looking down when men passed me because I knew they would find me disgusting.
You took the words right out of my mouth. I felt like you were describing me!0 -
Pretty much!0
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No "middle-of-the-road" clothing options for adults. Apparently fat women come in exactly two flavors: 80 years old or super-sassy diva. I don't like pastel tents (Lane Bryant) OR leopard-print leggings (Torrid), so I've just kind of fallen into a rut of ill-fitting jeans and baggy T-shirts. That was fine for middle and high school, but I'm almost 22. As I've slimmed down, more options have become available to me, but now I have no idea what I'm doing, so I usually just reach for what I know anyway.
Plan A for when I reach my goal weight and have a closet full of things that don't fit is still to try to get on one of those TBS makeover shows, like What Not To Wear, so I can both get new clothes and learn how to dress like a grownup in one fell swoop.
THIS times a million0 -
No "middle-of-the-road" clothing options for adults. Apparently fat women come in exactly two flavors: 80 years old or super-sassy diva. I don't like pastel tents (Lane Bryant) OR leopard-print leggings (Torrid), so I've just kind of fallen into a rut of ill-fitting jeans and baggy T-shirts. That was fine for middle and high school, but I'm almost 22. As I've slimmed down, more options have become available to me, but now I have no idea what I'm doing, so I usually just reach for what I know anyway.
Plan A for when I reach my goal weight and have a closet full of things that don't fit is still to try to get on one of those TBS makeover shows, like What Not To Wear, so I can both get new clothes and learn how to dress like a grownup in one fell swoop.
This is my problem. I have a little fashionishta living inside me but I just can't find anything that fits, if I do find something I find cute or I could work with its a 22-24W and I am a 16-18 I can hardly find that size anywhere!
Ohoho, just you wait. There's this bizarre Twilight Zone of women's clothing that exists between plus sizes and straight sizes. I'm a size 12-14. Too big for the straight sizes but too small for the plus. Occasionally I find something that happens to be cut such that it looks all right. I tried on five pairs of jeans today, all 12 Short, all 4 fit differently. Clothes are gonna get harder to find before they get easier, just so you know.0 -
Where do I even start...geez... First off I hate feeling the jiggly fat feeling on my body... and second I hate I can't wear the clothes I would like to wear... can't really express my taste really...have to wear what is provided for bigger people and there are not too many stores. Third ... actually this should be the first- I don't feel confident or comfortable in my own skin!0
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The fact that my thighs rub together. My pants spring holes because of the friction, which costs me money. When fatness costs me money for clothes, and not because I've changed sizes, that is like paying fat tax....0
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I hate not being able to wear the clothes I want to wear because they aren't flattering on my body...
I hate not being desirable as a girlfriend..
I hate how my body jiggles during everything >_<
I also hate being the friend that no one really looks at because all my best friends are tiny, modelesque girls.0
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