what do you hate about being "fat"

NO wonder why girls have no confidence today, the clothes keep getting smaller and the sizes keep getting bigger on the tag I think it's because these stores want us to feel like fat *kitten* and we are all suppose to look like coked up supermodels. I recently just got into a 12 jeans damn it's no 2 but it feels great, f*** what people think.

Do you think there might be a chance that people keep getting fatter, instead?

I think the opposite is happening to sizes. I work in retail and some brands are making bigger sizes with smaller numbers. like a normal size 3 in juniors they'll label as a 1 a size 1 as a 0 etc. thats just some brands though. they want you to feel skinnier so you'll buy their brand of jeans.

what you said
and what most other people are saying.

I hated being unable to shop in 'normal' stores. I hated being looked at while I ate in public.


Now I hate being so cold all the time & MISS my fat to keep me warm...even in summer. I hate being looked at while I eat still, I can eat in public & have people look at me like I SHOULD be eating something more than just sushi.

I LOVE shopping in any store I like & not having to try on before I buy.... I can walk in...pick up a size 12 & buy it knowing it WILL fit..... and it does... today I walked in, grabbed 2 skinny jeans & a skinny crop jean & when I got home put them on.... fit like a glove. Not bad for someone who was a size 22 & needed jeans with elastic waists.

I love the fact I am no longer the person I was on the outside...instead I am now the person I always thought of on the inside.... I was always a skinny girl trapped in a fat body. Not anymore.

I didn't work hard to get fat, but I worked hard to get out of it. Totally worth it.

For all my big chested-girls, having to go to XL in a shirt or dress when the rest of your torso is a M or L. Just makes things so much worse.

I hear ya, I'm having the same problem with the local clothes sizes here (I live in Asia) even though my bust is just 33 but my chest and shoulders are a bit wider than the vast majority of the people here. I'm US 0-2 or an XXS but here even if my torso can fit into a S but I have to wear either a M or L coz of my "wide" chest and shoulders brought by the crazy fitting of the garments here :grumble:

Walking into clothing stores not knowing if they carry curvy sizes.

Ladies, there are guys out there that like us curvy girls. My bf loves me the way I am. He loved me at my heaviest. And he will love me when I'm thin. He asked me out based on my appearance, including my curves. Poor guy...he took me by such surprise he got a maybe and it took me about 3 days to e-mail him a yes.

The insecurities that come along with it, dating is put on ice because lack of confidence just makes things difficult.
Life feels like it's been put on hold, making all sorts of plans for when that goal weight is finally reached. Almost using that as an excuse not to do things because I'm too embarrassed to try things while overweight.

I have many cute clothes, but not all of them look cute ON. I want that to change so I can feel confident wearing my clothes!

OMG I was that friend too! I hated everything about it, but mostly how I was treated when I was obese. I was either invisible or looked at with disgust. And this was in the 80s when everybody was thin! And I was in Jr High and High school lol

My lack of self confidence! :-/
Also knowing that I've messed up a couple of really good relationships due to my low self esteem and insecurities pushing the girls away! You need to learn to love yourself before you can anyone else! And that's what I'm trying to do!

Sooo well said ..I am 5ft 4.5in..there is at least 6 inches of material on the floor when I try on pants. Yet, the short are just a bit too short.

Awww thanks! I'm feeling all philosophical at this time of the year! Haha Awww bless ya. I have that problem too I'm only like 5'7ish!

NO wonder why girls have no confidence today, the clothes keep getting smaller and the sizes keep getting bigger on the tag I think it's because these stores want us to feel like fat *kitten* and we are all suppose to look like coked up supermodels. I recently just got into a 12 jeans damn it's no 2 but it feels great, f*** what people think.

Do you think there might be a chance that people keep getting fatter, instead?

I think the opposite is happening to sizes. I work in retail and some brands are making bigger sizes with smaller numbers. like a normal size 3 in juniors they'll label as a 1 a size 1 as a 0 etc. thats just some brands though. they want you to feel skinnier so you'll buy their brand of jeans.

Yeah, I think it depends a lot on where you live and shop. My clothes from a couple years ago all still fit me, except for the jeans and a suede miniskirt which is now too short and a little too tight. But everything else still goes on just fine. Yet if I try to buy those sizes now it's a nightmare.

A lot of it's the cuts (which depend on trends) and the fabrics (which seem to depend on the recession), though. Clothes made in cheaper synthetic fabrics - which is what's mostly available around here now - are always going to hang more poorly than well-made ones, even if you're only a couple pounds overweight. And the fashions that have taken over England for the last two years, which all seem to involve blousy things that cover up to the neck and bulge out at the waist, bulge in the wrong places. Tailored clothes fit me well enough, but they're hard to find unless I go to specialty stores that I can't afford.

A lot of it is people getting fatter, though.

Everything that everyone has mentioned.

Also:

~ People buying me clothes and buying them five or six sizes larger than I actually wear, because they don't know what size I wear. Apparently once you get past a certain size (I'm currently in a UK 16 (US 12) btw, which seems to be the tipping point) everyone looks the same. Somewhat amusingly, my niece - who usually wears the same size as I do, although she likes her clothes baggy and I like mine tailored so I actually tend to wear a size smaller - is the worst culprit for this. Last year I was wearing a 14 (10) and she was buying me things in a 24 (20), "just in case you want to be comfy". The shoulders hung half way to my elbows. I'm not sure if she's just oblivious, or if it just makes her feel good to think that I'm that many sizes larger than her. *shrug*

~ Not feeling like a productive member of society. I always felt like I should be climbing mountains for charity or something, but my health has held me back.

~ Not being able to fight. I've always been interested in martial arts, swordfighting and the like, but the training is intense. Ditto for the military. While I'm past the phase where I really wanted to serve, I date a lot of ex-military guys and there's always that little bit of a pang when they talk about laying their lives on the line to help people. I dunno, I don't feel like I'm doing good unless I'm throwing myself into the breach, but at my current fitness level I'd be a liability. (This is something I need to bring up with my therapist, I know.)

~ Probably the worst thing, though, is not knowing myself. Not knowing my own mind. Specifically, not knowing if I do things because I want to, or out of default - if I wear the clothes I wear because that's my style or because it suits my body shape, if I date the types of guys I date because I'm genuinely attracted or because they're the ones who ask me out. I'm not saying that I settle for things that I don't like, more that I (maybe) settle for things that I *kind of* like because they're safe and sure and I haven't pushed myself to explore other options.

For example, I've always got asked out by a lot of urban, hip-hop-style guys (of all races) - basically guys whose tastes often run to girls with big tatas and a big booty, and who aren't afraid to let you know. So that's who I went out with. I had no idea until the last year or two that I also really liked creative emo guys with tattoos and eyeliner, because those guys never ask me out. Although they don't seem to mind if I make the first move. I don't think it's that emo guys don't like chubby girls and urban guys do, more that the creative sensitive artistic ones are less likely to make the first move, and because of my weight I rarely do either. So I missed out on a lot, and didn't even know what I was missing. If I meet a guy who's forward and shows interest in me (and I'm interested in him), then great. I like all sorts. But I'd like to be able to also meet guys, and if they're shy and don't make the first move, then I won't feel like I have to hold back.

I guess that's a really longwinded way of saying that I don't like the feeling that my fat self has to never ask for anything more than whatever's offered to me outright.

Not being able to eat and drink whatever I want.

I use to hate those shirts that were wider than they were long, and what was up with all the "fat shirts" having horizontal stripes! LOL:noway: