What is a MILF? Should I be offended or what?

would you be upset if a 90 year old man said hey young lady you're beautiful?
Sorry the times have changed and teens, or younger adults use slang.
All the kid was saying is that she is beautiful.
In his own terms.

Mothers strive harder to look as good as they can, overcoming weight gain, stretch marks, etc.
Yes, MILF is a compliment. Get over it. (:

Quit being rude to the OP. She is a really nice woman, and if you could guess her age, you wouldn't be so rude and misunderstand her question.

would you be upset if a 90 year old man said hey young lady you're beautiful?
Sorry the times have changed and teens, or younger adults use slang.
All the kid was saying is that she is beautiful.
In his own terms.

Mothers strive harder to look as good as they can, overcoming weight gain, stretch marks, etc.
Yes, MILF is a compliment. Get over it. (:

Quit being rude to the OP. She is a really nice woman, and if you could guess her age, you wouldn't be so rude and misunderstand her question.

I have 90 year old guys say that to me all the time.
I'm a nurse and it's kind of cute to me.
Although I'm not quite sure what that says about me if I'm hearing it from old men all the time- lol!!:bigsmile:

It says you're beautiful and they see it and like to tell you.
(:

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

MILF Means Mom I'd Like to F__K. I this it is a little disrespectful however coming from youngsters that don't know any better I would say it is a compliment. I am trying to be a DILF, so at least I know I still have my mojo.

If that's you in the profile pic, mission accomplished.

yup that's me. Trying to keep up on these new slang terms kids use these days. Maybe if I told my husband what a MILF is now that I know, he could say it to me in a way that I would appreciate it He's much older than me so he's even worse with getting these things than I am. lol I"m still trying to figure out all the texting slang.

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

The need to label women based on the sexuality demonstrates discomfort. Men aren't categorized that way. They're treated as fully developed people.

MILF and Cougar are not the compliments they seem to be. They are forms of objectification, judging someone on how she looks -- from the man's point of view. Men are judged on looks, personality, and other traits.

I can't believe I'm going to side with the guys but.. . men are created to be visual...

But FTR: I wouldn't want my sons' friends saying that to me, that's just weird...

I can't believe I'm going to side with the guys but.. . men are created to be visual...

But FTR: I wouldn't want my sons' friends saying that to me, that's just weird...

Yep, the OP's son did the right thing. Friends do not make comments like that in front of friends' sisters, moms or wives.

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed?

****SPOILER ALERT IF YOU HAVE NOT SEEN THE GRADUATE.****







She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

The need to label women based on the sexuality demonstrates discomfort. Men aren't categorized that way. They're treated as fully developed people.

MILF and Cougar are not the compliments they seem to be. They are forms of objectification, judging someone on how she looks -- from the man's point of view. Men are judged on looks, personality, and other traits.

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

its a compliment Mrs. Robinson.

Now thats something I understand :laugh:

Um, yeah...

And how was the character of Mrs. Robinson portrayed? She was an unhappy, sexually dissatisfied predator who went after a young man who really wasn't interested and tried to destroy him (she told her daughter that Benjamin had raped her) when the young man fell in love with her more age-appropriate daughter. Then she was shipped off at the end of the movie to some kind of hospital to "recover."

It's a very misogynistic portrait.

The terms "MILF" and "Cougar" are about the Culture's (men's) discomfort with attractive, sexually active, mature women. It's also another demanding standard for women to try to live up to.

the only discomfort I feel from sexually attractive and mature women is in my pants.

What kind of man doesn't like sexually active and attractive women? I really am having a hard time understanding your negative spin on "milf" and "cougar". I've never once heard any young man, middle aged man or ANY man talk disparagingly about a woman and use these terms. Other terms however... sure.

The need to label women based on the sexuality demonstrates discomfort. Men aren't categorized that way. They're treated as fully developed people.

MILF and Cougar are not the compliments they seem to be. They are forms of objectification, judging someone on how she looks -- from the man's point of view. Men are judged on looks, personality, and other traits.

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

But that doesn't mean that other males using MILF aren't bring crude and only referring to that "act" even if you and other guys use it as you described above, correct?

OP obviously knew what the term meant (indicated by her use of all caps in MILF).

I appreciate your clarification, and I think I can understand your point of view. It seems a little less bizarre to me now, but I still disagree with the extreme at which you seem to be describing all men in what you view as a primarily male societal flaw.

Men are capable of appreciating a woman's physical appearance and state of sexual viability while simultaneously understanding that they are complete people with other desirable traits. Would you describe your loved ones or friends who are male in this way? The existence of terms to describe a persons attributes shouldn't indicate lack of other traits unless the definition includes it.

"Mom I'd like to ****" says something about the person making the statement and the person who the statement is directed towards. It doesn't mean, "Mom who is good only for ****ing."

Edited to add: Cougar, to me, is neither negative or positive - it just means a sexually aggressive woman who likes younger men. MILF is a (crude) compliment. It should probably be used sparingly to avoid insulting someone. Not an easy compliment to wield, but if I were to use it I mean "that mother is sexually attractive to me." No other trait is implied, and it describes me just as much as it describes the woman in question.

But that doesn't mean that other males using MILF aren't bring crude and only referring to that "act" even if you and other guys use it as you described above, correct?

Correct. I wasn't commenting on wether or not it was crude, I was commenting on wether or not the terms MILF and Cougar were compliments. It is, in fact, crude. Some people don't feel complimented by a crude remark, some do.

It's pretty sad that half of you claim she's fishing for compliments.

She didn't ask if she was a milf, she asked what it was.

ignorance....not an attractive quality in anybody.

so, all these threads that are like, name whats cute about the person above you
rate the person above you
would you date the person above you.

Those posters are fishing for compliments. NOT this woman who in all honesty didn't know what a word meant and came to MFP where she is surrounded by people who are SUPPOSED to be like her, and gets accused of fishing for compliments.

wow.

And I still think you're wrong...but that's just my opinion.

And I'm not surprised that you (and others) have an opinion that differs from mine. I'm not sure why you would be shocked that others have opinions that differ from yours.