The Side of Weight Loss No One Talks About
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I am kinda old, but still I didn't think this would happen to me because I wasn't that fat-- This morning I notice that the slab of fat that was covering my abdonen is less, but now the skin is unpleasantly wrinkled and I don't think that will go away. So my bikini years are over, even if I get to my goal weight.
No worry, there are a lot of sexy options for bottoms! Boy short style or even retro that covers the whole belly! You can still rock that bikini!0 -
didnt get all the way through these posts yet, but am going to yet.....thank you everybody for sharing...has helped me in a way, thought i was weird for some of these thoughts...especially the mindset...i dont feel or see myself as different somedays but do in pics and other peoples comments...oh n never expected mixed responses between positive and negative from those around me...but hey...i'm still doin me!0
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Things that are still difficult on days are . . .
Looking in the mirror and not seeing the changes you've made. I hate those days but they are becoming less frequent and I make it a point to not hover in front of a mirror for longer than I need to.
Buying clothes during weight loss is annoying, aggravating, but nice all at once.
Lack of support from those closest is painful at times. Stupidly you might assume they'll be there for me in those moments I want to just quit or in the moments when you just rocked out an awesome workout. It's not always the case but I've had to learn to not get bogged down by it.
Just keep pressing on.
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That even if you reach a goal, you'll still find somewhere on your body that you need to lose fat from. Even thinner people go through this.
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Oh and the one thing I dont think anyones mentioned yet, my girls are shrinking
Not that there was much before, now theres less..
Honest to god, that's what I'm really hoping for.0 -
I would say my thing is, now I am the 'small girl' at work and I am NOT small! I still want to lose 25-30 more pounds and they keep saying' you don't need to lose it' or just roll their eyes when I wont eat something they have at the desk. I wanna scream at them... 'Do you know I used to be a heifer!'0
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Losing a ton of weight and still not being happy with the way I look, busting my *kitten* just to maintain, and bruised buttocks from doing situps!
This. It's easy to get into shape physically, but mentally it's hard. When I was fat I was a skinny girl in my mind and that never let me see how big I had gotten. Now I'm a skinny chick on the outside & my mind still sees the fatty I was. I keep getting told how skinny I am, but I still don't see it.0 -
I love having to buy new clothes - granted I work from home so my new "wardrobe" costs me like $50 max. I would dread having to replace suits, ect.
I understand comments of success stories. That's tough for me as well. I am happy for them, but it makes me feel more of a failure that I can't figure this out. I feel like my body has a hard code to crack. If I eat too little my weight doesn't budge, but if I eat the slightest amt too much I gain 2 pounds. It's like there's some super secret combination to weight loss success and I'm not privy to that info... like I'm not cool enough to join the club. Weight loss is so individual. Nobody ever told me that in advance.0 -
I've not hit my goal yet, but you notice that you attract more women. Better sex. The drive multiplies and affects other areas of your life. My voice is lower, this means testosterone levels up and better breathing. There is alot.0
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Feeling fat "Mentally" even though you lost alot of weight and ALL the people around you are noticing. Like they said weight loss is a mental challenge before it's physical challenge.0
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Oh, man! This, too!I love having to buy new clothes - granted I work from home so my new "wardrobe" costs me like $50 max. I would dread having to replace suits, ect.
I understand comments of success stories. That's tough for me as well. I am happy for them, but it makes me feel more of a failure that I can't figure this out. I feel like my body has a hard code to crack. If I eat too little my weight doesn't budge, but if I eat the slightest amt too much I gain 2 pounds. It's like there's some super secret combination to weight loss success and I'm not privy to that info... like I'm not cool enough to join the club. Weight loss is so individual. Nobody ever told me that in advance.0 -
I am losing weight to look good, but I really only want to look good for me. I know a lot of people want to be able to show off their bikini bodies, but I don't want that. I am very shy about my body and was that way even when I was small, which people don't understand. I am not suddenly going to go out and buy tight, form fitting clothes because I have lost some weight. I never have and my personality isn't going to change now.0
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Lastly, nobody tells you how awful it feels when your body gets more efficient. I mean, how you mentally feel. When I first started, I could do a half-effort workout for 30 minutes, burn an easy 300 calories, and feel accomplished. Now it takes almost an hour of true effort to burn 300 calories... and I'm still fat!! I always thought my heart would not be efficient until I was in the mid-150's or so.0
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My rings are so loose now....need to size them down!
Yes! I stopped wearing my wedding ring, because it literally just falls off now. I want till I get to my GW before sizing it down
I'm wearing mine on a chain as a necklace until resizing or getting a new one.0 -
your sex drive gets bigger0
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For me the biggest thing is always thinking I'm fat!
I've never been huge,
Just a little chubby,
Last year I lost just over a stone and still thought I was fat as I was still around a stone from goal weight
I'm hoping when I get to my goal weight which is 140, I'll stop having that fat mentality!0 -
That it would be a long learning experience. That at the beginning I would know pretty much nothing. Small lifestyle changes I was aware of but not all the other stuff like what was really good for you, e.g. protein is not just for gluttons.
That I would not want to go back to my old lifestyle. That I would become someone I used to dislike - someone who enjoyed healthy eating and exercise. That my tastes would change and that I would choose my life now over my old one because I prefer it.
That my focus would shift from doing it to lose weight, to health and fitness with weight loss as a nice bonus.0 -
I just bought a pair of jeans two weeks ago. Today I had them on and kept pulling them up so I know in the next week or two, they will be too big thus I went out and bought the same jeans but a size smaller. Total waste of money for only wearing jeans for about three weeks. Thing is, this will happen usually every 15 lbs. I have wasted sooo much money on clothes. Had to keep buying bigger and bigger "fat clothes" for a while. Now I am buying smaller clothes which are not going to be worn long. Expensive!
I am also scared what my tummy is going to look like if I lose. Right now the skin looks good, but it is stretched out. what happens when the fat goes and the skin gets baggy? Or will it?I don't even know.0 -
I never thought I would enjoy being so disciplined about what I put in my mouth and the regularity of exercise.
I think I have finally learned that eating is not the "be all and end all"0 -
1. I cannot visually notice any of my weight loss.
2. As I do not have a lot to lose I generally find that my friends are not supportive. Often hear: 'if you lose anymore you will waste away'
3. Can get into old work clothes
4. Feel so much healthier)))) 0 -
That bones stick out much more and sometimes you hurt yourself during strangest moments (Bow Asana, hipbones hit the mat so hard I folded"
That you learn tailoring super fast if you dont want to ruin your finances in clothing.
That you see yourself super fat for super long, but when you finnaly stop its amazing.
That if done conciously healthy weightloss is mind opening experience .
The last one suprised me most.
The secret is in the road not the destination ITS, IN THE ROAD
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You are a little naive if you think that fitness models are not chosen with a certain body type in mind, just like any model. Some people will never attain that 'perfect' shape because their bodies are simply not shaped that way. Even buff and at an ideal weight, I will never look like Jillian Michaels (for example, I know she's not a model), because she has a different body type than I. I will look like a fit me. Short, with short skinny-ish legs, unusually short arms, and somewhat thick around the middle with a rather flat behind. Even at my most fit, this is what I looked like. Not unattractive, but certainly not 'cover of Fitness Magazine' attractive.Not mine, but the belief that you can completely change your body shape through weight loss and exercise and that everyone who works hard will end up looking like a fitness model. The idea that your fat distribution pattern and goals have no bearing on how you work out, especially if you are close to your goal.
huh?
There is no reason anyone who works hard enough shouldn't look like a fitness model. Provided you are doing the right kind of exercise and have the right nutrition.
Thank you. Just because no one wants to pay you to model fitness outfits does not mean you're ugly or that all the work is meaningless. But ridiculous expectations can lead to disappointment and recidivism.
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Thank you for all these comments. I found them very helpful - I've been at my goal weight before but gained it all back and am now starting again.
Okay, so some of them were negative, but those were often the things I hadn't considered before and may have led to my downfall - not really feeling my new size and, particularly, not having some excellent plan for maintaining my goal weight.
I once gave up smoking for 15 years and then started again (stopped now) but it shows that old habits still lurk in the back of the mind - sorting out the reasons for overeating is an important strategy for me to get there and stay there this time.
With stopping smoking, there's that 'not smoked for a week', 'not smoked for a year' encouragement. Maybe a goal of maintaining a week, a month etc will help me. But thinking about it and planning in advance is really useful!0 -
That, unless your problems really are caused by weight, they'll still be there whether you're fat or thin.
Also, having yo-yoed in the past, I'm f'king pissed that I didn't see myself as thin when I actually was.
^^^^ This. There is one picture that I have that I look at from time to time and I can't believe I didn't realize I was so small when I was actually that size. Depressing.0 -
I knew that there would be loose skin, I knew my body would chose to lose where it wanted to first, not where I wanted it, but I never knew how unimportant the scale can become at determining weight loss when you are strength training. So many people rely so heavily on the scale for a true projection of weight loss, and while the scale decreasing is import we can oftentimes neglect to notice how our clothes fit, inches lost, and consider what strength training actually does to our bodies. Usually when we start weight loss we become so scale focused that it is actually off putting, and may cause us to give up when we don't see the lbs melting away quick enough.
I've also realized that for many with eating disorders, we don't realized how much we are dealing with our own emotional baggage as much as we are weight loss. Many of us don't expect to enter this journey and deal with life issues from the past, or present. Sometimes we forget that as a person we have to deal with us as a whole and not just our bodies, even if we don't wan to, weight loss causes us to deal w/ more than just our weight.0 -
What i dislike.... Is when people post their success stories. They just seem to be so positive(ik that they should be very happy with themselves though!) Anyways... its insipiring to see someones success, but for the person that hasnt reached their goals yet, its a little discourageing, because they dnt seem to explain how hard it was to stick with or that they had their time of doubts and dissapointment....
This was hard to explain for some reason, ha... So idk if it makes much sense!
In America, people are conditioned to give the smooth, inspirational lecture ready success story. That's why so many sound the same and they aren't that helpful. It's also painful for some people to relive their experience warts and all.0 -
I've discovered that you can get addicted to the feeling of success when you lose weight. So when you get to a weight where you shouldn't lose any more weight, it can be hard to stop wanting to do it. At first I felt skinny, but after a while I started feeling fat again, even though my measurements were all the same.
Having that exact feeling right now and ive only just reached goal this week. You get addicted to weight loss and now I feel in some kind of limbo!
One thing that nobody hardly talks about is, even if you exercise, lose weight, you look great but deep down, there are areas where skin is a little looser, like bingo wings lol, tummy from having children. I am only 27 and this is my biggest bug bear about losing my weight....0 -
I have lost 30lbs to date (well, this time around anyway), but, when I look in the mirror, I don't "see" the difference. I still "see" myself at my heaviest. Sure, others comment about how good I'm looking, how happy they are for my success, and so on... But "I" don't see it. I have a closet full of smaller clothes, and I have been weary of putting them on for fear they wouldn't fit... Love my husband though. When I resort to my comfy jeans, he tells me to try the "smaller" ones - especially when the comfy ones don't stay up any longer.
It is an emotional roller coaster... Losing weight is only PART of the process. Dealing with how we feel ABOUT ourselves, what we see in the mirror, and actually addressing the issues that got us to where we are/were at - those are not the things you read about with success stories or are told that you would also need to deal with.0 -
Having to be cautious about everything you eat because you feel like you are one brownie from doom.
I love this. I have been up and down my whole life. Even though I genuinely believe that this moderation approach is a long term forever lifestyle, not a diet, i am so afraid of the backslide that it can be hard to just enjoy a treat from time to time. Working on that, but the fear factor thing surprised me.0 -
The emotional side effects that come when you stop allowing yourself to eat as a coping mechanism.... Unpleasant feelings and issues come out And you have to face them
This. ^0
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