Being noticed (attractiveness)

I got crazy hair that changes in colour and shape every couple of months, so I get noticed for my hair a lot and get comments (mainly from weird much older men and no one my own age) apart from that I don't really notice, and if I do get noticed I think it's because of the hair...

I've always been noticed, whether it was negatively or for being attractive. When I was "frumpy" as a pre-teen/early teen, no boys really noticed me, but would notice all of my friends and pick on me for the way I looked. I had frizzy hair, was shy, and didn't know much about style. I learned how to fix my hair and wear cuter outfits. After becoming popular in school, everyone noticed me. That's how I met my 1st husband at 16, and dated him until I was 21 when we got married. He always said men noticed me when we would go out, but I never paid it any mind because I was in love with my hubby.

After I gained more weight, men just didn't seem to look at me like they did when I was slimmer. I noticed that! It never bothered me unless they started making mean comments or laughing at me. I would get pissed off. People can be completely shallow at times!

I could care less if they find me attractive or not, but don't treat others bad because they are overweight.

Nope, completely invisible. Always have been even before kids when I was a total gym bunny.

I would watch people hook up in the gym, make friends, chat etc and just feel invisible. Then after I had my first child it just got worse because I just stopped participating.

Even now I stand on the edges of the group, whether that group be the playground or the school pickup.

I must admit though I would like to be whistled at just once. Or bought a drink, one of our friends was laughing the other night about his wife being bought drinks at a bar while he was in the toilet, which he thought was hilarious because she ordered another beer for him... I just felt a little bit green because I would like to do that... just once.

I'm the most attractive to drunk guys at the club at 2 am who are desperate to get laid.

No, I don't think I am noticed. My husband tries to tell me that some of the men at the gym look at me, but if they have, I've never noticed it.

I think those that you see that aren't all that attractive but still get a lot of attention are people who have a lot of confidence in themselves. People are drawn to people who are confident.

^ I agree with this comment 100%. :flowerforyou:

the bad think with the internet, is that the most people says thinks that NEVER will say at the real life... every secret dark thought comes out here

I get about as much attention as a white crayon. I suppose that means I am super average. I'm not good looking enough for a second look but I'm not trainwreck ugly so that people feel the need to stop and stare.

Rarely... Unless you count your nan telling you that you are a strapping young lad (when i was 10 lol)

My story seems like an ugly duckling swan story on the outside, at first..I did get noticed from time to time. Usually it was because of my lack of coordination or habit of laughing at the wrong time.

When I lost weight, boy was I unprepared. I'm definitely not anywhere near Victoria's Secret Model after but I definitely got a lot of catcalls, more doors opened for me, and landed my first modeling gig.

At first, I was bitter...was I really worth being nicer to just because I was thin? But I realized humans are just a visually driven, and yes unfortunately looks do get you farther. However, in no way does image determine worth.

I realize that I was just as beautiful back then, and no less of a person when I was heavier. Funny thing is, I had to realize my worth and embrace myself before I was able to lose the weight (Cheesy, but true).

I think that a lot of people aren't aware of someone noticing them unless that person then hits on them in some really obvious way ("Hey babe, how YOU doin'?") It doesn't mean you aren't being noticed, it means you don't notice it yourself!

I spent my late teens and early twenties not realising that several of the guys I hung out with probably would have been happy to have been more than friends. It was only many years later, looking back at it, that I realised it.

In general, I would say that I usually fly under the radar until I put some effort into how I look. Usually on a night out with nice clothes, some cleavage, full make-up and hair done nicely. I can't be bothered most of the time, even if I realise my special efforts are other's regular everyday efforts. I'm ok with that. I'd rather be noticed when I want it, once in a while, than all the time, when I often wouldn't be ready to deal with it, good or bad.