My Online BF Dumped Me Because I'm Fat :( :( :(
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I don't understand where you think he broke up with you because you're overweight. That doesn't sound like the case at all. He knew your weight and was willing to meet up with you anyway. It sounds like he has some major issues. Maybe he thought it was great that he had someone waiting for him while he was in the service and realized it wasn't the same when he met up with you. It's nothing you did wrong. I would have walked away right then and there once he started cursing at me and called security. You are better off without him. You will find someone who loves you for you. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, in my opinion.0
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Sounds to me like it wasn't your weight, but the fact that he humiliated himself by getting **** faced and then puking all over you.0
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As a general generalization, men under 5'10 are prone to short man's disease. I knew the story was going downhill when you said he was 5'5.0
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A "man" crying like that is not a man. Sounds like a flippin baby. Emotional nutcase!!!0
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Wait - he's a soldier and he weighs 250+ at 5'5"? did anyone else stop there knowing this was all a BS story?
I did. He would not have been cleared to deploy if he were overweight.
This too.... I got caught up with the vodka margaritas that I forgot this very valid point.
I brought a bottle of vodka with me when I picked him up. We talked about this before he even came here. Then we went to this mexican restaurant to have dinner which also serves bottomless margaritas. We ordered margaritas and drank the vodka I brought with me, at the same time. I'm sorry if that confused you.0 -
Sell the phone and keep the money! If he kicks off, say you don't know him and he's stalking you.0
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It was very kind of you to be so concerned for his health considering how drunk and unstable he was that evening. But if your first time meeting in person was that big of an explosive trainwreck... well, sounds like there's a bullet to be dodged here. You can learn so much more about a person's true nature meeting in-person than from whatever cleaned-up stories / lies they can feed you online.
N'thing that I saw nothing in your story indicating he dumped you over your weight.
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Oops, yeah... fishy story the more I think about this. Oh well, thanks for the entertaining thread!Wait - he's a soldier and he weighs 250+ at 5'5"? did anyone else stop there knowing this was all a BS story?
Like you said maybe he was lying....maybe he was lying about being in the military... what would she have to gain lying about something like this to strangers?
Thank you, Scarlet.0 -
P.S: The story went seriously south at the point where you described he is married but was meeting you for not-so-honorable of purposes.
Note: bottomless margaritas and vodka = no bueno.0 -
I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO0 -
Honey, he prob did do you a favor, I am sure you dont deserve that at all! No one does...Just remember you are beutiful on the outside and the inside...pick yourself up and Love yourself!0
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What did I just read?0
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he difinately has issues i don't think it's you. you say his wife cheated on him, maybe the song brought back bad memories also if he's a soldier that could of messed him up a bit. whatever it is it definately isn't you, you get on with your life and concentrate on your happiness and wellbeing.
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You have a decision to make and it is not to keep him or get rid of him. It is if you are going to be good to yourself and move on or let this have a huge bearing on your life. Love yourself enough to put you first! He obviously is not good for you. I have plenty more to say about him but none of it is fair or good. I don't really know him or what his deal is.
Maybe go talk to someone professionally. Sometimes talking to someone that is impartial and objective helps. Not that we aren't but they could get to the root of the matter.
Good Luck my thoughts are with you. 0 -
Um, the guy threw up on you. //relationship0
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Like others, I am not sure if he was a soldier at that weight, but maybe he was lying to you about being a soldier. Might have been a contractor? Unsure if they are under the same restrictions as active service.
Anyway, run, not walk, away from this guy. He is not worth your time.
Yes, he is a contractor. He does electrical. He was in the US Army. He works in Afghanistan. Some people here are just so mean to think I made this all up. I wouldn't waste my time asking strangers for advice then make up a very long story. It took me a while to even do this because I wasn't sure if this was right. But I am already getting hopeless and helpless and really having a hard time accepting he did what he did to me.
His weight that I mentioned is based on what I saw when I first saw him in person. Because he wasn't that big when I was watching him on Skype. And he looked shorter too in person, maybe because of his weight too.0 -
Then before midnight, he asked me to request a song for the singer at the restaurant to sing. So I did, then I went to the restroom. When I came back, I saw him crying. His tears were falling unstoppably.
What song did you request? This could be important. We need to know exactly what song it was that brought him to tears.
It was probably 'I'll Be' by Edwin McCain.
That song makes me want to cry too.0 -
who knows, maybe the song and alchy brought out his emotions... then the throwing up part... he may have been really super embarrassed and can't stand to look at you again. either way, do yourself a favor and get back in the gym and do things to make yourself feel good.0
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Like others, I am not sure if he was a soldier at that weight, but maybe he was lying to you about being a soldier. Might have been a contractor? Unsure if they are under the same restrictions as active service.
Anyway, run, not walk, away from this guy. He is not worth your time.
Yes, he is a contractor. He does electrical. He was in the US Army. He works in Afghanistan. Some people here are just so mean to think I made this all up. I wouldn't waste my time asking strangers for advice then make up a very long story. It took me a while to even do this because I wasn't sure if this was right. But I am already getting hopeless and helpless and really having a hard time accepting he did what he did to me.
His weight that I mentioned is based on what I saw when I first saw him in person. Because he wasn't that big when I was watching him on Skype. And he looked shorter too in person, maybe because of his weight too.
You're calling people here mean, yet you pine for a guy who treated you like crap, ralphed on you and then said he doesn't want to see you all within the first 12 hours of being in your country. Priorities. Mis-directed anger. He is the mean one. And he sounds like a total loser to boot.
Get your *kitten* together. Get back into shape. Learn to respect yourself, and date decent men.0 -
I think he asked her to bring vodka for the room and then they went down to the bar for the margies. The alcohol is all I really care about here. :drinker:
Oh and if this is real....be glad that whackanoodle is gone!
Yes. Thank you for explaining. Some people here didn't understand my story and just assumed it was made up. I'm sorry for confusing you all. I only needed some advice.0 -
I'm sorry that happened to you. Like others, I am not sure if he was a soldier at that weight, but maybe he was lying to you about being a soldier. Might have been a contractor? Unsure if they are under the same restrictions as active service.
Anyway, run, not walk, away from this guy. He is not worth your time.
Yes, he is a contractor. He does electrical. He was in the US Army. He works in Afghanistan. Some people here are just so mean to think I made this all up. I wouldn't waste my time asking strangers for advice then make up a very long story. It took me a while to even do this because I wasn't sure if this was right. But I am already getting hopeless and helpless and really having a hard time accepting he did what he did to me.
His weight that I mentioned is based on what I saw when I first saw him in person. Because he wasn't that big when I was watching him on Skype. And he looked shorter too in person, maybe because of his weight too.
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You should not feel hopeless over this guy. I know it hurts a lot right now, but I assure you that it will get better with time. The best thing you can do for you is go back to the gym and work out, and make a go of your own life without him. You need to love yourself, this guy would never have been able to love you in the way you need. Over time you will see that he's nothing very special, and you will find another fish in the sea that is the right one for you.0 -
Ok...so.
You had a year long relationship with someone you had never met IRL.
You totally invested yourself in this person that you didn't truly know.
You wanted to continue to invest even though he's married with no intents (for whatever the reason) to divorce.
Your first meeting the two of you plan on getting sloppy drunk. And you do.
Everything falls to pieces and he has a meltdown.
Fact:
He is a whack job and like others have said - now you know and you're better off knowing.
I am going to say this in the nicest way possible....you need to work on YOU. Forget about him, let it all go, and chalk the whole thing up as tuition payment for the school of life. Work on your confidence and self esteem and don't put yourself in a situation like that ever again.0 -
I'd freak out and cry too if my SO chose a Metalica song for us. Not very romantic!! Unless you like old 80s metal songs to "cuddle" too. LMAO still7 pages later, the OP only came back to state that it was a Metallica song.
LMFAO
a mexican restaurant knowing how to sing Metallica?? which song??
Love Metallica..Rock on! lol:smokin:0 -
Sounds to me like it wasn't your weight, but the fact that he humiliated himself by getting **** faced and the puking all over you.
This ^ and he does not sound like the type of man I would want to be in relationship with! RUN!0 -
First of all, is this even real? There are SO many things in this story that don't make sense. He's in the military, but overweight? No... He was running so fast you couldn't catch him? What?? And you brought your own vodka to a restaurant? Ok, maybe that's a real thing, but not where I'm from.
Then there's this:It just kills me that this man I care so much about and love so much is rejecting me because I am overweight. When he himself is overweight. And his entire family is overweight too. It's in their genes. His sisters and mom and dad are all over 300 pounds.
He refused to give explanation as to why he wanted to end things.
If he refused to give you an explanation, how do you know it has anything to do with your weight?
Exactly the reason why I am here ASKING STRANGERS FOR ADVICE. I assumed it was my weight because what else could be the reason? We were happy that night, even when he was crying, he kissed me. Then after a few minutes, he wanted to go and looked like he wanted to go alone, without me. Then he RAN AWAY FAST.0 -
Wait - he's a soldier and he weighs 250+ at 5'5"? did anyone else stop there knowing this was all a BS story?
YES! THANK YOU. and the fact that he asked for wet wipes... What man asks for wet wipes?
like i said my brother in law is in the army...he is a lifer and there is no way this story is true and people are gulliable
Actually, I gotta jump in and say that that's the only part of this story that's remotely believable! My husband is Canadian Infantry and they use baby wipes all the time when they're out in the field. Gotta keep your parts clean some how when there's no water!0 -
You got a gift. Unwrap that baby and RUN THE OTHER WAY.
he probably has a double life or something. pick yourself up and keep going.0 -
First of all, is this even real? There are SO many things in this story that don't make sense. He's in the military, but overweight? No... He was running so fast you couldn't catch him? What?? And you brought your own vodka to a restaurant? Ok, maybe that's a real thing, but not where I'm from.
Then there's this:It just kills me that this man I care so much about and love so much is rejecting me because I am overweight. When he himself is overweight. And his entire family is overweight too. It's in their genes. His sisters and mom and dad are all over 300 pounds.
He refused to give explanation as to why he wanted to end things.
If he refused to give you an explanation, how do you know it has anything to do with your weight?
Exactly the reason why I am here ASKING STRANGERS FOR ADVICE. I assumed it was my weight because what else could be the reason? We were happy that night, even when he was crying, he kissed me. Then after a few minutes, he wanted to go and looked like he wanted to go alone, without me. Then he RAN AWAY FAST.
you cant be rational with an irrational person and this guy is clearly irrational.......0 -
Dude sounds messed up, like PTSD or something. He needs help and, either you can deal with it, or you're better off away. Probably the latter.
This^^ I was thinking the same thing. My brother in law was in the Marines and did a couple of tours overseas; he came back all screwed up and still has nightmares to this day. It's a good thing you found out how he really is before you committed to him completely. Run girl, just run. There are soooo many other guys out there. Good luck to you.0 -
Sounds like a match made in heaven.. I can't figure out how this one didn't work out. :yawn:0
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First of all, is this even real? There are SO many things in this story that don't make sense. He's in the military, but overweight? No... He was running so fast you couldn't catch him? What?? And you brought your own vodka to a restaurant? Ok, maybe that's a real thing, but not where I'm from.
Then there's this:It just kills me that this man I care so much about and love so much is rejecting me because I am overweight. When he himself is overweight. And his entire family is overweight too. It's in their genes. His sisters and mom and dad are all over 300 pounds.
He refused to give explanation as to why he wanted to end things.
If he refused to give you an explanation, how do you know it has anything to do with your weight?
Exactly the reason why I am here ASKING STRANGERS FOR ADVICE. I assumed it was my weight because what else could be the reason? We were happy that night, even when he was crying, he kissed me. Then after a few minutes, he wanted to go and looked like he wanted to go alone, without me. Then he RAN AWAY FAST.
It sounds like he is a drunk and has a lot of issues to work on and did you say he is married? are they separated? divorced?0
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