Nice guys vs Bad boys
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Personally, I am grateful for all the women that put me in the "friend zone" because I was a "nice guy." They saved me for the love of my life. The women who accepted me as I am, who loved being treated well and knew she didn't need a bad boy to enjoy life and be thrilled by life.
This month will be out 19th wedding anniversary. We've been together for almost 24 years.
A friend and I used to say it is true that nice guys sleep alone. But we can sleep with a clear conscience.0 -
yeah, that's what "nice guys" want to hear:
Guess what, while some women are "enjoying" bad boys, other women are scooping up the good guys early!! Then other women complain that men are awful. Do not blame us!!
In all fairness, many men say the same thing; some women are for hooking up with and others are marriage material, and the same thing happens - guys complain the same as women.
People want to have their cake and eat it too, but timing is critical.0 -
Guess what, while some women are "enjoying" bad boys, other women are scooping up the good guys early!! Then other women complain that men are awful. Do not blame us!!
In all fairness, many men say the same thing; some women are for hooking up with and others are marriage material, and the same thing happens - guys complain the same as women.
People want to have their cake and eat it too, but timing is critical.
yeah, that's what "nice girls" want to hear.0 -
"nice guys finish last . .. " I think some people assume that if you are "nice," you are a "push over," the guy who walks around with a "kick me," sign on his back, or who is easily taken advantage of at work (particularly in a highly competitive industry) and in his personal life. However, men whom I consider "nice," are confident, sexy, and centered (not SELF-centered, but grounded about who they are).
When I started dating my husband, hehad a reputation at work as being a "bad" boy. However, I think much of it was based upon a stereotype of Latin males (he is Puerto Rican). His reputation was that of a "ladies' man," a "love'em and leave em," type. He even seem to walk with a swagger (always impeccably dressed, shoes spit shine). What I found was a man who genuinely enjoyed the company of women, being "nice," was natural and not forced, and he was "nice" to men as well.0 -
Personally, I am grateful for all the women that put me in the "friend zone" because I was a "nice guy." They saved me for the love of my life. The women who accepted me as I am, who loved being treated well and knew she didn't need a bad boy to enjoy life and be thrilled by life.
This month will be out 19th wedding anniversary. We've been together for almost 24 years.
A friend and I used to say it is true that nice guys sleep alone. But we can sleep with a clear conscience.
Agree.
I got put in the friend zone by a lot of women in part because I was too nice. I dated plenty but women would often move on when I was too boring. I didn't like going out to the bar every week, didn't ride a motorcycle, wasn't covered in tats, not tall, dressed sort of white and nerdy...ect.
However, all those women passing on me allowed me to be on the market when I met my wife and there is no doubt that I've found the only woman that I need.0 -
Good men are more successful in dating, love and relationships than "nice guys" or "bad boys".
You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!0 -
yeah, that's what "nice girls" want to hear.
It's worth noting that this is based on observation and not personal behavior. It is a cycle and a theme that continually repeats itself.0 -
Good men are more successful in dating, love and relationships than "nice guys" or "bad boys".
You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!
Isn't good men and nice guys one and the same thing?0 -
My first husband was a bad boy. Huge mistake!
My girlfriend talked me into dating a nice guy, and seven years later we are happily married. Wow, what a difference! I will never get tired of being treated right and respecting my hubby!0 -
There are not just Nice Guys and Bad Boys, there are many types if guys. Trying to fit them all into two categories doesn't work. Which of these types I "belong" to largely depends on when you see mr and who I am interacting with.0
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Meh, OP asked a question...we answered. Don't know why there seems to be some anomosity about it. I'm not perfect and I have enough emotional baggage to start my own company....I can only say that people are attracted to what they are attracted to...for me, I don't seem to have much control over it. I've dated some wonderful men in my life, and I wish to god I had felt that spark for them. I even married a man that I THOUGHT was a nice guy...my bad for marrying without being in love, and for being fooled by an *kitten*....
So now I ask my own question guys. Would you really want a woman to pick you if she didn't have that blazing passion for you?0 -
There are not just Nice Guys and Bad Boys, there are many types if guys. Trying to fit them all into two categories doesn't work. Which of these types I "belong" to largely depends on when you see mr and who I am interacting with.
Gotta agree. Sometime I behave in ways that make me come across as a bad boy and other times (most times in fact) I'm just a good boy. Probably why I've been single for almost a decade. Yep, there you have it. Just revealed why I posted this topic!0 -
There are not just Nice Guys and Bad Boys, there are many types if guys. Trying to fit them all into two categories doesn't work. Which of these types I "belong" to largely depends on when you see mr and who I am interacting with.
Yeah, people tend to put others in a box with a label when in the real world we're all very different.
There was a time in my life where I fit the "bad boy" profile, I drank too much, got into fights and had an attitude. I was overly blunt with people and cocky. These days I've sort of moved more toward my inner geek, but still have a little edge. However, since becoming a dad it's really softened me quite a bit...:laugh:0 -
Isn't good men and nice guys one and the same thing?
In an ideal world: yes.
In the real world "nice guy" seems to be a euphemism for "I would really like to get into your pants but I'm a little scared of rejection so I will keep my desires on the down low in the hope that if I hang around with you enough and act really, really sensitive you will one day blow me..."0 -
By "nice guy" do you mean somebody who is genuinely nice? Or the guys who expect something in return for their "niceness" and then complain about this imaginary "friend zone" crap?0
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By "nice guy" do you mean somebody who is genuinely nice? Or the guys who expect something in return for their "niceness" and then complain about this imaginary "friend zone" crap?
It can be either one depending on how you view the topic, but I'm mostly talking about the genuinely nice guys who just wanna love and be loved. As for this friend zone thing, I honestly don't know what that's even suppose to be or who came up with it. I've never been in the friend zone, or at least I don't think I have been. I'm friends or have been friends with quite a few women over the years who I had feelings for at the beginning, but I've never thought of it as being in this so-called "friend zone". It's just a case of it didn't work out and now we're just friends. The "friend zone"? Honestly, what the hell is that? Please, somebody school me!0 -
Meh... I honestly find that there is no clear line to be drawn on this one. Nice guys can lie, and bad boys can have a heart of gold!
I tended more to the typical bad boy when I was young, but now I find myself much more attracted to the man that, at the very least, respects me.0 -
It doesn't really matter in my opinion. Even nice guys can break your heart. Guess it depends what kind of a ride you want up to that point.0
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In an ideal world: yes.
In the real world "nice guy" seems to be a euphemism for "I would really like to get into your pants but I'm a little scared of rejection so I will keep my desires on the down low in the hope that if I hang around with you enough and act really, really sensitive you will one day blow me..."
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You're my relationship guru, you know!0 -
I would probably choose bad boy, but not the bad that blows off your date and treats you like crap... think Charlie Hunnam in SOA lol0
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"Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed." - Albert Einstein.0
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sweet innocent girls can have a naughty side as well !! ;-)Bad boys can be nice guys too. I mean, it really depends on what you mean by bad boys. I've never been interested in a man that didn't treat me the way I feel I deserve to be treated or one who doesn't treat me just as well as I treat him. I've always loved the nice guys, but the nice guys can have a naughty side
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I've not gotten serious with a handful of guys because they were just too nice. Call it self esteem issues, daddy issues, what have you, but I couldn't stand it. The guy I'm with isn't a nice guy. He's really just an *kitten* lol, but he takes care of me and our children. He's a good man, but definitely a bad boy.0
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It can be either one depending on how you view the topic, but I'm mostly talking about the genuinely nice guys who just wanna love and be loved. As for this friend zone thing, I honestly don't know what that's even suppose to be or who came up with it. I've never been in the friend zone, or at least I don't think I have been. I'm friends or have been friends with quite a few women over the years who I had feelings for at the beginning, but I've never thought of it as being in this so-called "friend zone". It's just a case of it didn't work out and now we're just friends. The "friend zone"? Honestly, what the hell is that? Please, somebody school me!
Here's a simple explanation of "The Friend Zone".
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wow!!!
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my post has been covered. Carry on...0
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In an ideal world: yes.
In the real world "nice guy" seems to be a euphemism for "I would really like to get into your pants but I'm a little scared of rejection so I will keep my desires on the down low in the hope that if I hang around with you enough and act really, really sensitive you will one day blow me..."
bwahahahahha...yeah..I think you are right, my friend. You nailed it. I like a guy with confidence who will ask for what he wants. THAT is what attracts me. I don't do needy...
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and how you know that !!! You got proof !! Lol0
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