Ladies . . . how many dates?

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  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    120 days from the first date, at minimum.

    Not even joking.

    Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

    Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem hanging out for four months.

    I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.

    Edit: So yeah, sex is very important. I'm a big fan of it but it's far from the only thing. I'm not, as someone else stated, a vending machine where you put in food/movie tokens and get laid.
  • tavenne323
    tavenne323 Posts: 332 Member
    RIght now it's been so long :blushing: that if I was even remotely attracted to the guy and we had a good time....might happen after one date, but usually 3-4 if everything has been going good.
  • kmartinixx
    kmartinixx Posts: 197
    When it feels right you will know, whether it's the first date, the third, or the 100th. :)
  • ACepero79
    ACepero79 Posts: 711 Member
    I like to cuddle first and build a relationship based on emotional connection, trust, honesty, intimacy, and a deep appreciation of Nicholas Sparks novels.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    with the ex, it was like 3 months before i put out...well him too....

    but, there have been a few times where it was the first or second date. hangs head in shame.

    Same! :bigsmile:
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    120 days from the first date, at minimum.

    Not even joking.

    Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

    Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem handing out for four months.

    I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.




    I like you.
  • lostsanity137
    lostsanity137 Posts: 298 Member
    My fiance and I? We met on vacation and "did it" on night 2, no dates. At the end of vacation, we started going out, and he moved in with me (in another city) 6 months later. 4 years later, we are getting married this year.

    In other words. Put out when you want both want to. If you're feeling it on the first date, I say go for it. Just use protection. ALWAYS.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    120 days from the first date, at minimum.

    Not even joking.

    Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

    Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem handing out for four months.

    I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.


    just curious, no judging, but you would wait 120 days, fall for someone and have them fall for you only to put them to the pasture, if the sex sucks? Am I correct? Again, not judging, just trying to figure out if that's what you are saying.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    Wait!?!!?!?!?!?

    We are supposed to wait?
  • SlimJanette
    SlimJanette Posts: 597 Member
    Depends on the connection that you have. If you feel it and it is intense....go for it!

    If you want to "make" yourself wait, wear granny panties or don't shave your legs.
  • beandawgy
    beandawgy Posts: 92
    Great responses :laugh: thanks, ladies.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    Ehhh...it really depends. Do I like the guy and want to build a relationship? If so, there has to be at least a few dates before I'll put out. Or, do I just want to get laid? If that's the case, whenever I want. :)
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    I'm not having sex until marriage.

    Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!

    I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses

    Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!

    I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.

    And then.

    Oh thats when the magic begins.

    Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.

    BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!

    PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    Wait!?!!?!?!?!?

    We are supposed to wait?

    No sweetie...don't listen to the silly people.
    Now, come back to bed.
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    none I'm a nun.
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    120 days from the first date, at minimum.

    Not even joking.

    Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

    Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem hanging out for four months.

    I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.

    Edit: So yeah, sex is very important. I'm a big fan of it but it's far from the only thing. I'm not, as someone else stated, a vending machine where you put in food/movie tokens and get laid.

    What is it about 6 months? s that how long yu feel it truly takes to get to know a person?

    I would think that I'd like to know if a relationship has legs within the first month or so.
  • PattyJane167
    PattyJane167 Posts: 94 Member
    Hmmm, it all depends on him....if he knows what he is doing, it's on, if not, then he gets to wait..
  • GnomeLove
    GnomeLove Posts: 379
    When I met my future husband it was the first night.

    But before that, it would really depend on the guy.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    When it feels right you will know, whether it's the first date, the third, or the 100th. :)

    You know, you're pretty darn cute, but I wonder if you'd be able to get a guy to go along for 100 dates with no sex.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    If "date" means trips to Wendys for a waffle cone frosty....

    One.
    One "date".

    No, it's a promise of breakfast at Waffle House, that's really a quick trip to Starbucks, and then a "tour" of his house.
  • ShellyBell999
    ShellyBell999 Posts: 1,482 Member
    When it;s monogamous and you know it.

    Clap your hands!
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    I'm not having sex until marriage.

    Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!

    I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses

    Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!

    I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.

    And then.

    Oh thats when the magic begins.

    Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.

    BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!

    PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!

    Back off dude.

    I'm already taking her to Red Lobster.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    When it;s monogamous and you know it.

    Pffft, monogamy only happens after you put out.

    Until then, it's called celibacy.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    120 days from the first date, at minimum.

    Not even joking.

    Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

    Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem hanging out for four months.

    I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.

    Edit: So yeah, sex is very important. I'm a big fan of it but it's far from the only thing. I'm not, as someone else stated, a vending machine where you put in food/movie tokens and get laid.

    I've gotta say I agree with her. I don't have an exact time table or anything, but I am worth getting to know fully clothed, in the light of day. I am also worth waiting for. I know the myth abounds that if a woman won't give it up within 3 or 4 dates, she's not into you, but you guys are smart enough to know whether or not a woman really likes you or is just using you for free meals.
  • Justme030
    Justme030 Posts: 255 Member
    Date??? Who needs a date... Car in front of my house!!! Actually I married the only guy I put out for on the first date. Sometimes when he annoys me I regret this.

    when he annoys me I regret this lol hahaha that's great. :)
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    I'm not having sex until marriage.

    Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!

    I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses

    Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!

    I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.

    And then.

    Oh thats when the magic begins.

    Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.

    BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!

    PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!

    easy there, fella...perhaps you missed my proposal on page 1.
    (i hope she says yes)
    you can be my best man/DJ/justice of the peace!
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening. I worked the closing shift at the Thruway and just want to go home. I am late, the pool matches have already begun. We are facing a team I do not know.
    I see him. He is at the table lining up a shot. His eyes are intense, I can not look away. His movements are fluid and controlled, each stroke hits it's mark. I am lost in his game, my breath is matched with his. My senses are alive with an animal desire that is consuming my reason. I want him! I am now a jaguar on the hunt. He stands no chance for I knew how to peruse this prey.
    His match is over, I congratulate him on his win. I now have his attention. I step up to the table to display my talent. My opponent is of no concern to me. The game I am playing is not on the felt. I lose my match but he is interested.
    We are talking and I learn we share a common pain. His wife of four years has just left him. I easily convince him that a mindless release is the medicine he needs. He says "I have been out of the game for so long that I do not even know how to begin to hit on a woman let alone close the deal." He is making it so easy to seduce him. I tell him the blunt truth, a method that has never failed me, I say "I have been divorced for six months and I want nothing more from you than a night of passion. I just want to satisfy a selfish need. I will make this real easy for you. I will drive you home, when we get there if you ask me in you will get laid. It is just that easy!" He is now mine.
    We are in my car and I can sense he is excited and uncertain. I feel powerful, confident,and in control. We are stopped at a red light. I turn to look at him and say "We should at least kiss before we go any further." He leans in and our mouths meet in a clumsy kiss while I try to pay attention to the traffic light. The light turns green and we are driving again. I turn into his drive way, kill the engine, turn to him and say "This is where you make your decision."
    He quickly invites me in and offers me a drink. I turn to him and smile, saying "I did not come here for a drink!" I now move to the open bedroom door and make my intentions clear one last time. He needs no more encouragement and instantly covers the distance to me. We come together as if we have known each other for a life time. We satisfy our physical needs. Spent we lay in each others arms enjoying the afterglow of intimacy. I fade in and out of sleep for an hour. All of the sudden I realize there is a closeness that I feel in this strangers arms. A contentment I have not felt in a long time. I need to leave now!
    I get up and dress moving brusquely trying to shut out that unwanted feeling. I am at the door ready to leave. I say "It was fun. Thank you." He says " That's it? Can I have your number? Can I see you again?" I am frozen in place. I think to myself: Who is he to change the rules of my game? I want nothing more than this one night. Why am I giving him my number?
    Seven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    There's no set number. It's a case-by-case basis.

    QFT. i've done it on the first date. although, those never really turned into long-term relationships. but it's not like i wait "at least a month but no more than 4.246 months." it's just whenever it feels right.
  • resistance_freak
    resistance_freak Posts: 899
    You're supposed to go on a date first? I thought that's how you GOT dates....My whole life is a LIE!

    @SarahCate79 - Excellent answer! :drinker:
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    I'm not having sex until marriage.

    Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!

    I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses

    Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!

    I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.

    And then.

    Oh thats when the magic begins.

    Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.

    BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!

    PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!

    Back off dude.

    I'm already taking her to Red Lobster.

    GUIZE SRSLY!!!
    we're at olive garden right now enjoying all you can eat soup and breadsticks....
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