Men: Oblivious to Flirting.
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I am oblivious, I always assume that woman are being nice. I guess I am brick to the head kind of guy.0
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I don't realize that I was being hit on till we start having sex then I realize that she was hitting on me...who knew?
(Of course I am talking about my wife.....Her: Want some? Me: OK.)0 -
Yes and yes... I recently had a girl repeatedly try catch my boyfriend's eye/smile at him, laugh with him etc etc etc..... he had no clue. But if a guy so much as looks at me he's all over it, lol0
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My fiance is oblivious, too! He is a super smart man who is very polite, but definitely not a flirt by any means. When women check him out or flirt with him, he is not responsive at all and if I mention it later he's incredulous! I think it's pretty funny, especially when it's a young "hot" girl. His actual "type" is very specific - he likes curvy tall girls with dark hair who are Caucasian, Asian, or black. Some petite Southern belle with blonde hair will check out his muscular physique or outright compliment his red beard etc, and he's like "ok, thanks".0
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I was that way for a long time. I think most people have a feeling when someone is flirting with them, but you don't want to be presumptuous and risk being wrong, so you just pretend to be clueless and hope that if they're really interested, they'll be more obvious about it at some point.
These days, I just try being honest. If I find someone attractive or funny or interesting, I tell him that. If he picks up on it and follows through, great. If he doesn't, I assume it's because he's not interested, clueless, or missing a set of testicles. In any case, not that big of a deal, especially if it's someone I just met.
Hey this is well said. I have friends who tell me when a guy is flirting but its usually a guy I wouldn't look twice at. Im also not in that frame of mind, as in Im not looking, so Its easy to shrug flirting off.If I was interested you bet your toosh Id notice. Unfortunately Im not interested in many.
In real life my way of flirting is being quiet and using my eyes, they do the "cartoon" All glossy and shine like Diamonds0 -
Could it be that some women are being over -sensitive to normal, friendly behavior? (Did you SEE how she grabbed his arm when he almost fell? Did you SEE how she looked RIGHT AT HIM when they were talking?!?)
Or, are some women bad at flirting that they think that something like putting Sweet n' Low in your tea for you is some overt display of desire? Or, putting an ice cube in hot coffee to cool it faster.
Or that some guys are oblivious?
Or a combination of the three?
Also, I would think that context would play a part. For example, I am less likely to recognize flirting at work - where flirtation is not expected and not common.0 -
Definitely oblivious most of the time - it's becoming a regular occurrence that friends (and usually female ones) tell me I was being flirted with. I guess inside the skinnier me is still the same old fat me...I'm surprised he still fits0
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I jut show them my boobs.
Works for me.
See, this is where I struggle...since we are on a weight loss sight I would probably assume that this is the start of a before/after set of pics or maybe even and look at my progress. I am here to support people on their journey.
Note: any ladies that would like to give this experiment a try you can PM or kik me... :bigsmile: It might be interesting to see how it plays out...0 -
I think woman believe men are oblivious because time and time again we will think a girl is flirting with us, then when we start flirting we are met with.. "Whoa buddy, I was just being nice".. so now most guys are apprehensive to think woman are flirting with them because we think everything is flirty but try not to cross a line until we are sure.. which in some cases we like CLEAR signs.
Woman hold all the power, why do you hide the flirtiness.. just be open and direct.. guys don't want to scavenger hunt around your meanings.0 -
They say they are oblivious, but they're really banging her behind your back. They lie.0
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Yea, most of us are.0
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I like my boyfriend getting flirted with and hit on by other women, it makes me feel good that he's with me.0
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I'm guilty of being oblivious...0
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I think woman believe men are oblivious because time and time again we will think a girl is flirting with us, then when we start flirting we are met with.. "Whoa buddy, I was just being nice".. so now most guys are apprehensive to think woman are flirting with them because we think everything is flirty but try not to cross a line until we are sure.. which in some cases we like CLEAR signs.
Woman hold all the power, why do you hide the flirtiness.. just be open and direct.. guys don't want to scavenger hunt around your meanings.
This sounds like a reasonable assessment. I may have developed an allergy to subtlety. The other option is to respond in an even more subtle way which tends to annoy the woman, as well.0 -
i joke around with everyone and i think a lot of folks assume im flirty. when it happens to me i am clueless.
so yes i agree, men are stupid and women are crazy0 -
I have always been oblivious to,flirting. My friends would have to point it out and I still didn't,t get it. After I got engaged, I was informed by friends and family about a few other guys who had been flirting and hitting on me. I never saw it.
"Oblivious" isn't just for men.0 -
I think part of it is you don't want to mistake someone 'being nice' for 'flirting'. I think when it get to another level it's more obvious.0
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I actually have a decent radar for it now at least in real life (not online).
The real kicker is I have been hit on by a few gay men and had no idea until they invited me out to a gay bar. I guess I don't still don't have that radar up at all.0 -
I jut show them my boobs.
Works for me.
Thank you for being blunt about it.0 -
I am very oblivious to it. I've had women hitting on me at gigs and it all just went over my head. I have had the guitar players wife have to tell me numerous times that a girl was flirting with me. I haven't been single though in over 20 years, so I really don't recognize the signs at all.0
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