What's a "normal" love life?

I'm the oddball. Married 18 years. We get it done 3-5 times a week. At least one is of the epic throwdown variety. My wife is a trooper. :bigsmile:

My drive quite high, much more so than hers though she's likely still higher than average. I get suicidal after 48 hours without.

Edit: oh, and four kids, including a couple of teens.

^THIS! HA!

I have been with my BF for 6 years next week, and we haven't slowed down one bit since we've been dating. We probably average 5-7 days a week, but anything less than 3x a week and I start having issues lol. No kids yet, but I don't think that would slow us down much either lol.......OH! and epic throwdown variety sex is often the best :bigsmile:

Normal is whatever normal is for you. My husband and I have been together for over 15 years and we have 4 children. We ARE madly in love with each other even though our sex life can range from several times a day to once every couple of months. Even though we can go long stretches without sex at times, we do substitute it with other means of intimacy such as cuddling and holding each others' hands. My children joke with my husband and I saying that we "suck each others' faces off" because we just kiss a lot and that is ok if kissing is all we need for intimacy at that time. We are not only partners in the bedroom but we are partners for life, we are best friends and we enjoy spending as much time together as possible and every minute doesn't have to be sexual. It really depends on the couple whether or not you need actual sex all of the time to keep your relationship going. Just because you are having a lot of sex doesn't mean that your relationship will work outside of the bedroom and vice versa. "Normal" is what "normal" is for you and only you.

All the ladies who are saying "multiple times a day", When do you have time for a job (or is your man a two pump chump)??

All the ladies who are saying "multiple times a day", When do you have time for a job (or is your man a two pump chump)??

I enjoy a longer session at night and a quicky (10 minutes give or take) in the morning. I don't watch tv anymore, which frees up my calendar for more enjoyable experiences. Its amazing how much time you have when you reorganize your priorities.

There are basically three stages in the sex life of a married couple:

1st stage is "Everywhere Sex" -- You can't wait to get your hands on each other. On the kitchen counter, the couch, in the backyard, garage. There are no boundaries.

2nd stage is "Bedroom Sex" -- You're iin bed; you're both awake; you figure "What the heck. Let's give it a tumble."

3rd stage is "Hallway Sex" -- You pass each other in the Hall, look at each other and say "*kitten* You".

My wife and I have been together almost 25 years. We're somewhere between 1st and 2nd stage. We still enjoy sex together regularly, but we're not trying to find new yoga positions, so we can bring the weight machine into our repertoire.

Haven't pulled out the "swing" in over a year.

I would have to say I'm in stage 2, possibly creeping up on stage 3 on occassion. :laugh:

I would say as often as you two can fit it in. Only been married 5 yrs it slowed down some from the first year but we have a soon to be 4 year old. It varies some times once every other week if were super busy if not then a couple times a day or at least once a day. You gotta keep it fresh and exciting though or it gets boring.

You all suck.

Yes sucking is a part of it hehehe

As others noted, the time frame can vary and still be normal. However, if he is never or rarely initiating or pursuing you, then that is a major red flag.

Morning, nooners, quickies....anytime

All the ladies who are saying "multiple times a day", When do you have time for a job (or is your man a two pump chump)??

I enjoy a longer session at night and a quicky (10 minutes give or take) in the morning. I don't watch tv anymore, which frees up my calendar for more enjoyable experiences. Its amazing how much time you have when you reorganize your priorities.

I would have had trouble finishing in 10 minutes when I was a teenager, now I am in my 40's. If I don't have 30+ minutes, I don't even bother and even @ 30min I consider it a quicky and feel a little rushed. Everyone is different though. Also, it is amazing how many people on here must not know what the word "foreplay" means since some people are claiming 5 times a day. I'm guessing their love life is more like grope, grab, tug, go, pump pump, done (X 5).

Well, I don't have that problem... I can have 1 (more sometimes) in 10 minutes.... so what if it isn't for you? and I'm good with an hour or more at night. I've been with guys who need more time.. they had no problem with short play and considered it extented foreplay for when we had more time later. I mean you can't exactly take 40 minutes in the dressing room.... O_o

There are basically three stages in the sex life of a married couple:

1st stage is "Everywhere Sex" -- You can't wait to get your hands on each other. On the kitchen counter, the couch, in the backyard, garage. There are no boundaries.

2nd stage is "Bedroom Sex" -- You're iin bed; you're both awake; you figure "What the heck. Let's give it a tumble."

3rd stage is "Hallway Sex" -- You pass each other in the Hall, look at each other and say "*kitten* You".

My wife and I have been together almost 25 years. We're somewhere between 1st and 2nd stage. We still enjoy sex together regularly, but we're not trying to find new yoga positions, so we can bring the weight machine into our repertoire.

Haven't pulled out the "swing" in over a year.

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All the ladies who are saying "multiple times a day", When do you have time for a job (or is your man a two pump chump)??

I enjoy a longer session at night and a quicky (10 minutes give or take) in the morning. I don't watch tv anymore, which frees up my calendar for more enjoyable experiences. Its amazing how much time you have when you reorganize your priorities.

I would have had trouble finishing in 10 minutes when I was a teenager, now I am in my 40's. If I don't have 30+ minutes, I don't even bother and even @ 30min I consider it a quicky and feel a little rushed. Everyone is different though. Also, it is amazing how many people on here must not know what the word "foreplay" means since some people are claiming 5 times a day. I'm guessing their love life is more like grope, grab, tug, go, pump pump, done (X 5).

Well, I don't have that problem... I can have 1 (more sometimes) in 10 minutes.... so what if it isn't for you? and I'm good with an hour or more at night. I've been with guys who need more time.. they had no problem with short play and considered it extented foreplay for when we had more time later. I mean you can't exactly take 40 minutes in the dressing room.... O_o

Wait a second... Something just occurred to me.. Do women count the sessions or the O's? In other words, does 5 times a day mean 5 sessions or 5 O's? That is two COMPLETELY different things.

To your question: No, it is not all about me, however why would the woman I love want to have a regular session where I would never be able to finish? It doesn't matter if it happens here or there, but I don't think either partner should set up the other to feel unsatisfied.

Yeah, you are right, but the dressing room is an excitement thing that sometimes can make things move faster. Oh yeah.. in an elevator too.

Yeah.....we have issues. :ohwell: I've tried to talk to him about it, telling him with my self esteem issues I don't feel wanted or attractive & he gets defensive & it goes nowhere.

He don't wanna hear dat! He wants you to pull his pants down and get busy :bigsmile:

Pretend you have self esteem. Then maybe you will acquire it.

I have such a fear of rejection. I just can't. I know I shouldn't feel that way but he chooses to avoid me so it's hard to suck it up & go for it.

Jump his bones girlfriend...I'm sure he would love it if you did!

Also I would suggest to up your workouts!!! If you are doing just cardio, I strongly suggest adding in some weight lifting. I think working out, especially weight training, increases female and male sex drive....I'm sure there have been scientific studies as to why, but in my opinion when you work out you have more energy and you feel more confident, and that contributes to increased sex drive. At least it does for both of us.....I had some confidence issues when I had packed on a few extra pounds, and it wasn't that I didn't want it, it was that I was self-conscience and had a fear of him rejecting me, though now looking back I now that's just silly.....as I know if I was willing he'd NEVER turn IT down!

Sometimes a few times a weeks, sometimes it might be a few weeks (or more in rare instances) when there is nothing. Some times it is a few times a day. Just depends on what is going on and how crazy life can be. Work to become good at enjoy quickies and save long, romantic times for when you can get time away.

And learn to enjoy *kitten*....a lot. Both of you.

Wow! Im surprised how long some of you are able to go without. I need it at LEAST 3X a week. Id prefer everday but with his work schedule its not always possible lol. But thats me personally. I think its between you and your partner. Decide what works for both of you.