ITS OFFICIAL IM GIVING UP!!!
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First of all - give yourself a BIG pat on the back for realising that you needed to change and for having stuck with it for this long without the motivation of significant weight-loss. Then give yourself a big hug, because you're worth way more than you're giving yourself credit for. Now - ask yourself if quitting will help you, or just reinforce all the negative things you're thinking right now.
OK - now I want you to do a very honest thing. Post here, right now, the answers to the following:
Do you weight your portions?
Do you cheat on what you log?
Do you religiously check on the nutritional info of what you log?
Do you eat any of the following:
cake, biscuits, chocolate, sweeties
cereals
bread
pasta, rice
table sugar, agave syrup, maple syrup, honey
fruit juices, diet soda, other sweet fizzy drinks
alcohol
crisps, fried foods
junk food, fast food, boxed food, packaged meals, processed food
burgers, pizzas, chips
potatoes, sweetcorn??????????????????????
If 'yes' to any of the above, you are on a hiding to nothing. The secret's simple - ditch ALL of these - cold turkey. Eat:
any and all salad stuffs
any and all non-starchy veg
seafood, meat, eggs
cheese
fruit (in moderation)
low-carb bread if you HAVE to eat bread
Keep up your exercise, using MFP ACCURATE logging ensure you're calorie intake is less than you're expenditure every day and you WILL lose weight - almost impossible not to unless you are a biological miracle!
Hang in there. I took 2 years to lose my last 5 kgs. If you are overweight, it's much easier than that!!!
Unless you're a figure competitor 16 weeks 'til show...I don't see why you need to eliminate these foods?0 -
Please don't give up! Your picture of yourself is absolutely amazing. I have not seen before and after but honestly don't care. Its obvious that what you're doing is working im thinking you must be gaining muscle. have you noticed your clothes fitting differently?
My husband just started this 5 X 5 workout which seems to be a really great work out program. one supposedly that you can do for the remainder of your life with only changing the amount of weight you lift. maybe your body has reached a plateau with the workouts your doing? maybe if you try something new like this you might feel motivated again.. The long and short of it is you are a role model to me right now. I am seriously hoping to loose weight and look up to women like yourself that have lost and maintained your weight and continue to work on remaining healthy. So to summarize. don't give up. maybe just a change?
Wendy0 -
Your picture of yourself is absolutely amazing
There's a reason that picture is amazing.
It's a picture of Beyonce.0 -
Beyonce is sexy though :P0
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I had a similar situation a few months ago, and I did give up and you know what I discovered when I quit I gained 15 so though I wasn't losing anything what I was doing was keeping more weight off. I did feel better to mentally at least. Don't give up you are doing great.0
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You need to WEIGH your food. It's far too easy to let your subconscious mind fool you when you go by "eyeball" or volume methods. A "cup of chicken" can vary widely as far as calories go depending on how one packs it. In your diary I see a lot of close-is-good-enough entries. Weigh the various components of a sandwich (for example) and enter them individually. Yes, it's more of a pain in the backside to measure everything and enter everything but calories is arguably the biggest part of the weight loss equation.0
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Gaining muscle, losing fat can put weight ON, due to the extra weight muscle has...0
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Glad you made it official.
Quitters QUIT. Doers DO.
If you want it .... GET AFTER IT. Consistency. Persistence = WIN.0 -
Your picture of yourself is absolutely amazing
There's a reason that picture is amazing.
It's a picture of Beyonce.
*mops coffee off keyboard* :laugh:0 -
9 months doing the same thing with no progress, and instead of asking for help and changing something you're just giving up?
Ok.
I agree, what good can come from giving up? You will not like how quickly the weight piles back on. Hang in there and see all these comments as constructive criticism.
Like I said to one lady, when you feel like this write a list, one side of all the negatives like sad unmotivated fed up....next to each one write the exact opposite happy, motivated, active....... Each day for how many negative items you have focus on one positive for the whole day and make your choices around that positive. Come back to us and let us know how you feel, not what the scales say.0 -
Your picture of yourself is absolutely amazing
There's a reason that picture is amazing.
It's a picture of Beyonce.
Ahhhhhahahhaaa I am at work and laughed so hard to this that everyone is staring:laugh: :happy: :happy: :blushing: at me now0 -
You could be gaining more muscle, it also could be your natural weight so your body doesn't want to change. Though I think it's the first one. Try measuring yourself(I never thought I was going anywhere until I re-measured and found out my calves lost 1/4 of an inch and my thighs 1 inch and my arms 4/10 of an inch. Considering you have been doing 30 minutes a day that is probably strangth training right? I think you're just gaining muscle and getting smaller but not a TON that is extremely noticeable, I've never noticed my clothes feeling any looser but other people have.
The key to any diet is persistence, never have "an off day" or "rule braking days" because you'll just be misarible and won't stick to it, not yourself indulge but not too much!0 -
As most of the other posts here state, you could be putting on muscle. The other thing to understand is that losing 'weight' is often compared against what you want to be versus where you used to be. Example - I (ideally' want to be 174 lbs but used to be 220 lbs. I've hung around 188 for about 2 months because of diet and weight training. I've dropped 4% in fat in this time and put on 2% in muscle but not lost weight and if anything, maybe gained it slightly. If you put on muscle, the mirror is your best friend, not the scales. Sure, use them as a brief monitor ( I used them twice a week) but don't rely on them. They lie, the mirror does not (unless you've got your beer goggles on
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AND she's my Motivation!!0
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AND she's my Motivation!!
To give up?0 -
cake, biscuits, chocolate, sweeties
cereals
bread
pasta, rice
table sugar, agave syrup, maple syrup, honey
fruit juices, diet soda, other sweet fizzy drinks
alcohol
crisps, fried foods
junk food, fast food, boxed food, packaged meals, processed food
burgers, pizzas, chips
potatoes, sweetcorn??????????????????????
If 'yes' to any of the above, you are on a hiding to nothing. The secret's simple - ditch ALL of these - cold turkey.
Teaching food abstinence works about as well as teaching sexual abstinence.
That is, it doesn't.
^this
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cake, biscuits, chocolate, sweeties
cereals
bread
pasta, rice
table sugar, agave syrup, maple syrup, honey
fruit juices, diet soda, other sweet fizzy drinks
alcohol
crisps, fried foods
junk food, fast food, boxed food, packaged meals, processed food
burgers, pizzas, chips
potatoes, sweetcorn??????????????????????
If 'yes' to any of the above, you are on a hiding to nothing. The secret's simple - ditch ALL of these - cold turkey.
Teaching food abstinence works about as well as teaching sexual abstinence.
That is, it doesn't.
This may be the best thing I've ever read about food.
(johnnythan's advice.....not the post about ditching stuff)0 -
cake, biscuits, chocolate, sweeties
cereals
bread
pasta, rice
table sugar, agave syrup, maple syrup, honey
fruit juices, diet soda, other sweet fizzy drinks
alcohol
crisps, fried foods
junk food, fast food, boxed food, packaged meals, processed food
burgers, pizzas, chips
potatoes, sweetcorn??????????????????????
If 'yes' to any of the above, you are on a hiding to nothing. The secret's simple - ditch ALL of these - cold turkey.
Teaching food abstinence works about as well as teaching sexual abstinence.
That is, it doesn't.
This may be the best thing I've ever read about food.
(johnnythan's advice.....not the post about ditching stuff)
I gotta admit, I felt like I was really onto something great when I typed it :laugh:0 -
Your picture of yourself is absolutely amazing
There's a reason that picture is amazing.
It's a picture of Beyonce.
I hear Beyonce eats dirty0 -
You know what grinds my gears about these threads? Over 100 positive, thought out, helpful responses and the OP comes back to yell at someone about being "negative". Not a lick of gratitude for all the posts that did give her the "rah rah" encouragement she was obviously angling for.
...and this is why long-timers on here get fed up with helping newbs ...which leads them to focus more on posting funny gifs ...which offends the easily butthurt ...who then report the humor to the mods ...who then issue strikes reflexively ...and that's how long-timers get banned ...soon to be replaced by the few newbs who took the time to listen to the good advice they got when they posted threads like this.
it's the circle of life, really.
This for sure0 -
Please Please don't ever give up. I understand how you feel. Please vist a nutritionist to see what's the problem. There must be a underlining issue. This is the issue I was facing last year. I would eat 1,500 calories daily and also exercise 1-2 hours daily. The problem was late at nite I would sleep walk in the kitchen and eat about 1,000-1,500 calories that nite. I have always been a bed eater and a nite eater, But when i stopped eating at nite while awake. I started eating in my sleep. My husband recorded me several nites getting out of bed and walking to the friz eating 4 to 5 different foods. Please don't give up. You are worth finding out were the problem is. I'm the blonde in our picture of sisters.
Sharon0 -
Everyone is different, but I lose weight better when I watch carbs. So I count my calories and my carbs per meal. If I just count calories and say "screw carbs" I don't lose weight. You've invested so much time and energy just to throw away your hard work. Hang in there! Sometimes the smallest tweak can prove to be the biggest change.0
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Your picture of yourself is absolutely amazing
There's a reason that picture is amazing.
It's a picture of Beyonce.
I hear Beyonce eats dirty
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Are your clothes fitting differently? I've been training for a triathlon and got a personal trainer. In four months I haven't lost a pound but all my measurements have steadily gone down, meaning I've gained muscle. Talk to a trainer a Planet Fitness and have them take your measurements once a month. Stick to the food diary and be honest with yourself.0
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Im glad I dont accept friends like you on here..WHY ARE YOU EVEN ON A SITE THATS SUPPOSE TO ENCOURAGE PEOPLE??
I thought you were officially giving up?0 -
Gaining muscle, losing fat can put weight ON, due to the extra weight muscle has...
Not completely true. Muscle does not weigh any extra then fat. A pound is a pound. Muscle takes up less space then fat. Also it take a VERY long time to gain 1 pound of muscle. Will not happen in a few week, probably not a month.
Lean muscle helps burn fat so the more msucle you have the more fat you will burn. Fat goes first, muscle comes later.0 -
Well, I guess you might have learned a lesson or two by this point ...
First of all, people on this site are serious about working hard to get to their goals. Not a whole lot of tolerance for "quitters" or "nay-sayers".
Second, losing weight, gaining weight, building muscle, etc. is simple science. (I didn't say it is an easy task to implement, just that it is simple science.) Get a good understanding of the factors that impact the formula, commit to improving those factors in your favor, and you will be successful.
Third, losing weight - or working toward whatever goal you have in life - is hard work, constant work, and takes commitment. If reaching your goal weight was easy, everyone would be doing it ... and the reality is, we have a society suffering from obesity.
So time to put your money where your mouth is ... action speak louder than words. Be clear in your communication. If you are looking for support/help, ask for it instead of being passive-aggressive and expecting on-line strangers to rush to your emotional aid. With that said, create your own support network so that when you feel the need to "vent" you can do it in an emotionally safe place versus an online forum of strangers who are working hard to reach their own goals and don't have the time or tolerance for whiney-babies.
As you are sorting through all these posts and deciding what your next step is going to be, I offer this musical uplift in the event that you need one to get back on track ... Wishing you a day of clarity and peace and rejuvenation. Maybe it is time to close this post and start a new conversation thread about a more positive approach for the remainder of the week .... Better yet, pull the pearls from these posts, start a positive new post that summarizes what you've learned and how you intend to implement it for success moving forward. Be an overcomer ... not a quitter ...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z29olPjFbqg 0 -
That's a fine point. When you come to a community filled with people who have done the months or years of research and hard work to really succeed, and yell that you're giving up because you aren't willing to do the hard work, you can't expect a ton of sympathy.0
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First of all - give yourself a BIG pat on the back for realising that you needed to change and for having stuck with it for this long without the motivation of significant weight-loss. Then give yourself a big hug, because you're worth way more than you're giving yourself credit for. Now - ask yourself if quitting will help you, or just reinforce all the negative things you're thinking right now.
OK - now I want you to do a very honest thing. Post here, right now, the answers to the following:
Do you weight your portions?
Do you cheat on what you log?
Do you religiously check on the nutritional info of what you log?
Do you eat any of the following:
cake, biscuits, chocolate, sweeties
cereals
bread
pasta, rice
table sugar, agave syrup, maple syrup, honey
fruit juices, diet soda, other sweet fizzy drinks
alcohol
crisps, fried foods
junk food, fast food, boxed food, packaged meals, processed food
burgers, pizzas, chips
potatoes, sweetcorn??????????????????????
If 'yes' to any of the above, you are on a hiding to nothing. The secret's simple - ditch ALL of these - cold turkey. Eat:
any and all salad stuffs
any and all non-starchy veg
seafood, meat, eggs
cheese
fruit (in moderation)
low-carb bread if you HAVE to eat bread
Keep up your exercise, using MFP ACCURATE logging ensure you're calorie intake is less than you're expenditure every day and you WILL lose weight - almost impossible not to unless you are a biological miracle!
Hang in there. I took 2 years to lose my last 5 kgs. If you are overweight, it's much easier than that!!!
I was with you until you started listing all the things that she's "not allowed to eat". I've lost 30+ pounds while eating all of the things you've listed.
QFT and add my 312 lbs. to yours and the only food I don't eat is the foods I just don't like which to tell you the truth is next to nothing.... You can eat any foods you like and fit them into your macros and hit your nutrient goals and still lose weight... This is about living a sustainable lifestyle and not practicing abstinence from foods you like... Want a chocolate cupcake, make it fit into your day, want some Pizza? Fit it in, Heck the best part about not cutting out foods is (in my opinion) it makes it alot easier to deal with the craving and binges because you know you are working those things into your days so there is no need to stress over something you think you can't have.... Will it take hard work and dedication to get to that frame of mind? Hell yea!! but it can be done you just have to put forth the effort it will take to get there..... :drinker:0 -
I'm sure this has already said but please get your thyroid checked. My mother works her butt off every time she tries to lose and I understand getting discouraged by not seeing the move in the scale. Keep in mind that is just a number on a scale. How do you feel? Do you feel better? I know it's hard but go see a dr. and let them know you have noticed a hard time losing when you apply yourself(if you look at your diary and really see you did do all you said you did) and see if he can get your thyroid regulated. Even then it may still be hard it is for my mom but when she is now on her meds it helps her to lose much easier than without it. Good luck I hope you don't give up.0
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