In love with a guy who is engaged!

How would you feel if somebody were doing this kind of thing with your fiancee behind your back? Girls like you make me sick. There are billions of other men out there and you go for one that is taken. Shame on you! He sounds like an absolute loser too. Maybe you two deserve each other. Pathetic.

Edited to say: If you do get your way and you two are together, I hope he does exactly the same thing to you.

He is a complete loser for doing this to his poor fiancee and this... girl is completely wrong for encouraging an engaged man. I'll rephrase that. PEOPLE like that make me sick.

If someone else's business riles you up this strongly you really need to check yourself. That's not healthy at all.

She's free to have feelings. He's free to have feelings. We're all human. Sometimes things happen and life doesn't go the way we were expecting it to.

But I would agree that this guy does sound like bad news. If he had broken off the engagement already it would be one thing. I would be cautious.

They're free to have feelings but if he is still with his fiancee then that's obviously the decision he has made! It riles me up because I think about if some girl was having an emotional relationship with my boyfriend, knowing that he is with me, I'd feel so disrespected and cheated. Obviously the guy is a complete @#$%^&&* and he is an awful person for either flirting with this girl or pursuing somebody else while he is in a committed relationship but she is the one writing a post about it. She knows right from wrong and this is OBVIOUSLY wrong. Ugh.

This...it takes 2. She's not innocent.

It just seems there is some strong attractions and will probably turn into a mess. I think YOU really like him and want to see things a certain way.. NOT Judging just my opinion.

Can't believe the quick judgement being passed here by many. You guys don't know me, or him, OR the entire story, yet you feel like it's okay to call us slurs and judge our whole relationship?

Thanks to the mature people in here who are giving their input but aren't jumping to conclusions.

Don't need to know the whole story to get the picture. Having the attention of another woman makes him feel good so he's stringing you along while keeping his engagement. And you are playing right along with it and acting innocent. Either tell him how you feel, wreck his relationship, and have him cheat on you emotionally and possibly physically after a few years... or move along and find a man worth your time who is SINGLE.

If you end up engaged to him he will just find a "new best friend" and will tell her you "just don't get him".

Move on and be glad he is someone elses problem.

Don't agree you'd be a homewrecker, but do agree with this ^^^

I know what it feels like to fall for someone involved. and It's hard to walk away but it's best for you if you do. He obviously doesn't care about you or his fiancé if he's stringing you along and lying to her. do yourself a favor and walk away. because what happens if he dumps his fiancé and gets involved with you? Who's to say he wont turn and go flirt with another woman and take her to the movies while you're late at work? free yourself from the jerk.

It sounds like he's testing the waters because he's getting cold feet. Don't think your anything special to him. His ego just wants to know he can get it. I can't believe people are saying he's not married yet. There are plenty of people who don't believe in marriage but are committed to each other. A piece of paper shouldn't be the reason why you keep your pants on. Hell we all know if someone wants to cheat they will their title doesn't mean Anything...

Anyone who is engaged is off limits. Period.

If he doesn't treat his fiancé with more respect than to flirt with other girls, why would you think he'd treat you better?

People are giving you blunt advice because this is an extremely simple situation.
He's just not that into you. If he were, he'd be engaged to you.
He's obviously just not that into his fiancé either. If he were, he wouldn't be flirting with other women.

Anyone who is engaged is off limits. Period.

If he doesn't treat his fiancé with more respect than to flirt with other girls, why would you think he'd treat you better?

People are giving you blunt advice because this is an extremely simple situation.
He's just not that into you. If he were, he'd be engaged to you.
He's obviously just not that into his fiancé either. If he were, he wouldn't be flirting with other women.

:drinker: YES

Anyone who is engaged is off limits. Period.

If he doesn't treat his fiancé with more respect than to flirt with other girls, why would you think he'd treat you better?

******People are giving you blunt advice because this is an extremely simple situation.******
He's just not that into you. If he were, he'd be engaged to you.
He's obviously just not that into his fiancé either. If he were, he wouldn't be flirting with other women.

THANK YOU

The fact that you're considering wrecking another couple suggests that you need to get a little distance from this man to clear your head. I think you need to just get away from this guy and this situation. I'm not trying to sound judgmental. I just think you're losing yourself. Ask yourself if you really want to wreck someone else's engagement. And ask yourself how you would feel if someone did that to you. Forget all this talk of missed opportunities and unanswered questions. Don't do it because you're going to loathe yourself for it later.

hes not married.. I say go for it.. just my opinion.. you will regret not telling him . .. even if it does not work out and he does not feel the same way.. you will 100% regret not telling him..

you are not being a home wrecker.. he is not married. and if he does feel this way too, its better he face it now then after hes married.


GO FOR IT!!!

He ain't married yet dear. Do the damn thing!

Hi seajolly!

I would just like to say, woman to woman, I've been in this sitch recently.
I worked with a guy that every part of us was clicking. Problem was... I had someone, he had someone.
He was considering moving in with his GF and did, yet we still texted.
Then things got boring. I never thought they would, as talking to him was so exciting. I think it was a "fling" in my mind, but if I could go back, I would never have given him the time of day. I realized that it's not okay 1) on my part as I had someone and 2) I didnt know HER. What would she do if she read some of those texts? It would have crushed her. And no faithful, loving woman deserves that.

Dont ruin their engagement. She is probably planning their wedding and is thrilled to be doing so. And chances are, he is excited too. Some guys get scared like little dogs trapped in a corner, and they act out. You are who he's acting out on. I'm sorry honey.

You will love yourself so much more for moving on and letting him go. You will find someone someday and the "story of how you met" will be much cuter to tell your kids than "He was engaged to someone else and we talked behind her back..."

Please move on girl. You'll thank yourself later, I promise

Ps. posting stuff on MFP threads is like swimming in a pool of sharks and dolphins... you're going to get a lot of attacks. Be careful when reading some of the other posts... dont let the negativity bring you down

I wouldn't want a relationship with a guy who behaved like that, honestly.

this, over and over.

even if his engagement does end, and hes all yours for the taking....dont think that he wont do the same thing to you.

Can't believe the quick judgement being passed here by many. You guys don't know me, or him, OR the entire story, yet you feel like it's okay to call us slurs and judge our whole relationship?

Thanks to the mature people in here who are giving their input but aren't jumping to conclusions.

I stopped reading here. You posted asking for advice - do not get upset when you get it. Secondly, it sounds like you have made up and your mind and want affirmation. No affirmation from me either. I say get out........wait, I'm sure I'm just jumping to conclusions as well.

/exits thread