my hubby paying me to lose weight

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  • nancybuss
    nancybuss Posts: 1,461 Member
    people will pick on anything.

    You go girl!!!! If you works for you guys - then its good for you!
  • g33kmommy
    g33kmommy Posts: 104 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Nope. I'm kinda sitting here thinking what the heck, too. Her husband is paying her? Isn't money between spouses mutual anyway? I guess I'm just reading into something the wrong way because I watch too much TV.

    Too each their own, who am I to judge?

    Good luck.
  • tempehforever
    tempehforever Posts: 183 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Not to be an internet jerk, but I find it a little creepy, too. Not so much about having a monetary incentive to lose weight, but more so the idea of a spouse "paying" the other--as if the money is all his? Shouldn't it be, like, shared? Or if you both keep your finances separate, shouldn't you have your own money in the first place? Just seems like a weird power dynamic to gift each other money when you're married.

    (I might just be in an online snarky mood, though. Apologies.)
  • sunnshhiine
    sunnshhiine Posts: 727 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Ummmm. No.

    I was wondering if he got tired of paying her to have sex, and that hes moved on to something else?


    My husband has offered sexual favors for every 2lbs I lose.

    So uhhhhhh. If you hit a plateau, then what happens? Sorry, cant touch you, you need to lose more weight? WTF?



    This thread right here is why people need to lose weight for themselves, not other people or things.

    THIS.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?
    No.
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    My husband has offered sexual favors for every 2lbs I lose.

    I offered that to my wife as well. Since the offer she hasn't left the couch.
  • seattle_hd
    seattle_hd Posts: 23 Member
    paying me to lose weight would most likely backfire, as I can't be pushed or even suggested to me - I'm very stubborn that way. But I have a hard time taking compliments too.

    but we are talking about booking a vacation and I suggested we wait until I'm nearer to my goal weight… It's my own incentive. He was frustrated I wanted to wait but I want to feel/look good if we go on a big trip together. Now he sees some weight coming off, I think he's feeling like it might happen.
  • Mother_Warrior
    Mother_Warrior Posts: 44 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    I think it's... odd. I don't know though, different strokes for different folks. I wouldn't want to do this.
  • g33kmommy
    g33kmommy Posts: 104 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Not to be an internet jerk, but I find it a little creepy, too. Not so much about having a monetary incentive to lose weight, but more so the idea of a spouse "paying" the other--as if the money is all his? Shouldn't it be, like, shared? Or if you both keep your finances separate, shouldn't you have your own money in the first place? Just seems like a weird power dynamic to gift each other money when you're married.

    (I might just be in an online snarky mood, though. Apologies.)

    Haha, this.
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    But isn't your husband's money already yours?
    Cause if not.. girl, we need to have a talk!
  • donnadickens
    donnadickens Posts: 19
    My husband thinks I'm crazy to want to lose weight...says, I love you the way you are! 3 beautiful children later, and still by his side is all the return he'll ever want... I'm still losing it for me though! :)
  • Veganniee
    Veganniee Posts: 460 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Nope....
  • Xiaolongbao
    Xiaolongbao Posts: 854 Member
    My husband has offered sexual favors for every 2lbs I lose.

    I offered that to my wife as well. Since the offer she hasn't left the couch.

    Hahahah love it.
  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Not to be an internet jerk, but I find it a little creepy, too. Not so much about having a monetary incentive to lose weight, but more so the idea of a spouse "paying" the other--as if the money is all his? Shouldn't it be, like, shared? Or if you both keep your finances separate, shouldn't you have your own money in the first place? Just seems like a weird power dynamic to gift each other money when you're married.

    (I might just be in an online snarky mood, though. Apologies.)

    Haha, this.

    Definitely this...
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    The scale will go up and down, will you have to pay him every time it goes up?

    It has to work both ways. There needs to be a penalty for non effort.

    If you choose to eat too much or not to exercise you should have to pay the piper for those choices.
  • BekaBooluvsu
    BekaBooluvsu Posts: 470 Member
    My dad is doing almost the same thing. I have 200 pounds to go for my first goal. Down 30 already.
    $20 per pound once I reach my first goal.
    $40 per pound after 2 years maintenance.

    The good thing is if I gain I have to give it back though.
    I told him start saving now I'm not giving up or going back.
    I'm going to spend part of it on a new wardrobe since I have nothing smaller than 2x.
    The rest I will buy a new Piaggio MP3.
  • downinaggieland98
    downinaggieland98 Posts: 224 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Nope!!
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    :indifferent:
  • downinaggieland98
    downinaggieland98 Posts: 224 Member
    But isn't your husband's money already yours?
    Cause if not.. girl, we need to have a talk!

    Right?? Exactly my thought...
  • LunaGreen
    LunaGreen Posts: 118 Member
    I think this is awesome!!!

    As long as he's not encouraging you to be at a weight that is too low for you then get that money girl!!!!
  • Jackson4590
    Jackson4590 Posts: 145 Member
    so you guys don't split money?
  • timberowl
    timberowl Posts: 331 Member
    That's not a bad deal!!!

    My boyfriends getting me a new "rack" when I reach my goal of losing 43 lbs. I'm almost halfway there! =)
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    This thread right here is why people need to lose weight for themselves, not other people or things.

    :huh:

    Thanks. I had no idea I should be losing weight for myself. That helps a ton.



    Of course we are losing weight for ourselves. It's just fun to add another dynamic to it, especially since I'm very close to goal already and weight loss is slow and frustrating. :drinker:
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    ****... I need to get married. does anyone want a cat?
  • Chezzie84
    Chezzie84 Posts: 873 Member
    This is amazing. Think of all the new clothes you can buy ????
  • PBsMommy
    PBsMommy Posts: 1,166 Member
    I find this just a little odd, because his money is my money and I would love for him to tell me any differently.

    However, I think any incentive that works for you, is good.

    My hubby and I agreed on one incentive. I have always had nice boobs. After giving birth to our daughter and nursing, they aren't as perkier, but they are still freaking awesome. I have lost half of the weight I want to lose. If I lose the other half and my boobs aren't as awesome as they once were, I will be getting a boob job. However, I would not view this as him paying me for my effort. That money in our account is our money. Not just his to give to me when he wants or feels I deserve it.
  • cuinboston2014
    cuinboston2014 Posts: 848 Member
    I don't find it creepy at all.

    BTW even some married couples choose to have separate accounts.

    My husband and I have a joint account but since I make a lot less than him AND i entered our relationship with a child from a previous relationship and a stack of debt I'm very conservative with what I spend on myself. So, while he wouldn't tell me what I can and can't spend money on, if he actually paid me for pounds lost, I would take that money and save it up for whatever I wanted. If I wanted a $300 purse without his opinion, I'd do it. I woudln't otherwise do that - if that makes sense. Which maybe it doesn't.

    We did work out that he is taking me on a "super date" when I reach my next mini goal in ten pounds. It's not my main motivation but definitely something to look forward to when I reach it.

    I say good for you, OP for knowing what works for you!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Sometimes I think I'm totally screwed up and wonder if my relationship is healthy.

    Then I read threads like this ... MFP is better than Jerry Springer and Maury for making me feel better about my life.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    ****... I need to get married. does anyone want a cat?

    Girl, your cat is why you ain't married, REMEMBER?
  • acpgee
    acpgee Posts: 7,972 Member
    My mother promised me a diamond tennis bracelet if I lost 10 pounds. That was easy.

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