my hubby paying me to lose weight

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  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?

    Well, yes. I lift. Bulking doesn't work very well otherwise. (Also, you might want to tweak your sarcasm meter just a wee bit :P)

    i wasnt being sarcastic, i was asking you a question since I never saw you mention it. if you are working out and eating a deficit or even maintenance then yes, you will put on muscle.

    but your little argument stating the following:

    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    doe not mention anyone doing any exercising.

    So before you tweek your sarcasm meter i might suggest you include all your relevant facts before being all snippy

    CLEARLY she lifts.


    clicked her profile in case to be sure.


    yep


    whole write up on it.

    Also

    <---guns.
  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    I for one appreciate a carefully crafted thread turn

    Shhhh, we're not quite at derail status yet. Wait for it....wait for it

    The anticipation is killing me...
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?

    Well, yes. I lift. Bulking doesn't work very well otherwise. (Also, you might want to tweak your sarcasm meter just a wee bit :P)

    i wasnt being sarcastic, i was asking you a question since I never saw you mention it. if you are working out and eating a deficit or even maintenance then yes, you will put on muscle.

    but your little argument stating the following:

    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    doe not mention anyone doing any exercising.

    So before you tweek your sarcasm meter i might suggest you include all your relevant facts before being all snippy

    CLEARLY she lifts.


    clicked her profile in case to be sure.


    yep


    whole write up on it.

    Also

    <---guns.

    Dem guns! :love: :love: :love:


    I'm such a sucker for nice arms/shoulders.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,909 Member
    My hubby gave me a great incentive to lose weight. He said he would pay me for every pound i lost. 1-10 pounds $10 a pound. 11-20 pounds $15 a pound..21-30 pounds $20 a pound. Anything over 30 pounds $25 a pound. I need to lose 42 pounds. Gained the majority of the weight when i quit smoking. I can do this !!!'
    He knows you better than anyone here, so if that works to keep you in the game, then good luck. Different things inspire people to try to achieve a goal. For some it's money, for some it's new clothes, for some it's being able to physically keep playing sports (me).

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness industry for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I for one appreciate a carefully crafted thread turn

    Shhhh, we're not quite at derail status yet. Wait for it....wait for it

    The anticipation is killing me...

    Damnit, niner ruined it. Might be out of luck.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    I for one appreciate a carefully crafted thread turn

    Shhhh, we're not quite at derail status yet. Wait for it....wait for it

    The anticipation is killing me...

    Damnit, niner ruined it. Might be out of luck.

    *rage quits*
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    Awesome incentive, you can use it to buy the new wardrobe you'll surely need! Good luck!
  • in4nomz
    in4nomz Posts: 230
    So if you lose 42 lbs, you get over $1000??? Get at it girl.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    My guess is Jerry is eating at a deficit and is clinging on to the hope that he actually is gaining muscle while on said deficit. All the while, the reason why he believes this is because his muscles are becoming easier to SEE because he is losing FAT on the DEFICIT.

    i do see where i quoted the wrong person and for that i apologize but she did still say

    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    but no mention if she was doing any exercise. sorry i dont profile creep on every single person on this site. i have more important things like misquoting people.

    and no, i do not believe anything you attributed to me. im eating a deficit to lose weight. im a fairly big guy as it is (broad shoulders and all). could care less about how much i bench or how my muscles look
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    My guess is Jerry is eating at a deficit and is clinging on to the hope that he actually is gaining muscle while on said deficit. All the while, the reason why he believes this is because his muscles are becoming easier to SEE because he is losing FAT on the DEFICIT.

    i do see where i quoted the wrong person and for that i apologize but she did still say

    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    but no mention if she was doing any exercise. sorry i dont profile creep on every single person on this site. i have more important things like misquoting people.

    and no, i do not believe anything you attributed to me. im eating a deficit to lose weight. im a fairly big guy as it is (broad shoulders and all). could care less about how much i bench or how my muscles look

    That's fine, I would still appreciate if you would stop spreading misinformation about muscle gain and calorie deficit. Clearly we have put more thought into building muscle than you have, and as such we know the reality of it.

    yes, clearly you have (note sarcasm)
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    if you could see me youd see me doing a golf clap
  • asimmons221
    asimmons221 Posts: 294 Member
    Whatever happened to the good ole fashion way of yelling at your partner and threatening to leave if they don't lose weight?
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
    who in the hell is anyone to judge how to motivate someone. everyone is different in what they respond to. if she feels she will be motivated more to keep on track by a promise her husband made then so be it. and while most marriages the money is equal im getting the feeling the money he pays her is hers to do with as she wishes, not something that they have to sit down and figure out finances to see if it is feasible.

    and for the record, all men pay for sex. just not all transactions are of the monetary persuasion
    umm...NO

    Ummm, yes men do pay for sex. You go out on dates and the man pays, he is paying for what he is going to get at some point later.

    Marriage is the oldest form of prostitution.
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
    If my husband made me this offer I would think he was implying rescinding the regular cash flow he provides me with and would feel like I was being grounded for being fat. And then having to earn back a fraction of my regular spends? Heck no.

    This is very irrational and immature thinking.

    I am glad my husband and I have our own bank accounts and only a joint account for household bills and necessities.

    Good grief, the level of sensitivity shown by women is immature and rather pathetic.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    who in the hell is anyone to judge how to motivate someone. everyone is different in what they respond to. if she feels she will be motivated more to keep on track by a promise her husband made then so be it. and while most marriages the money is equal im getting the feeling the money he pays her is hers to do with as she wishes, not something that they have to sit down and figure out finances to see if it is feasible.

    and for the record, all men pay for sex. just not all transactions are of the monetary persuasion
    umm...NO

    Ummm, yes men do pay for sex. You go out on dates and the man pays, he is paying for what he is going to get at some point later.

    Marriage is the oldest form of prostitution.
    Come, join us in 2014 where women often pay for dates and adding a teabag to hot water doesn't change the water's chemistry.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    using the word teabag may take this in a WHOLE nother direction :)
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    using the word teabag may take this in a WHOLE nother direction :)
    Maybe that's what men are paying for ...
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    who in the hell is anyone to judge how to motivate someone. everyone is different in what they respond to. if she feels she will be motivated more to keep on track by a promise her husband made then so be it. and while most marriages the money is equal im getting the feeling the money he pays her is hers to do with as she wishes, not something that they have to sit down and figure out finances to see if it is feasible.

    and for the record, all men pay for sex. just not all transactions are of the monetary persuasion
    umm...NO

    Ummm, yes men do pay for sex. You go out on dates and the man pays, he is paying for what he is going to get at some point later.

    Marriage is the oldest form of prostitution.

    So if I make more money than my husband that means HE's the prostitute, right?
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    who in the hell is anyone to judge how to motivate someone. everyone is different in what they respond to. if she feels she will be motivated more to keep on track by a promise her husband made then so be it. and while most marriages the money is equal im getting the feeling the money he pays her is hers to do with as she wishes, not something that they have to sit down and figure out finances to see if it is feasible.

    and for the record, all men pay for sex. just not all transactions are of the monetary persuasion
    umm...NO

    Ummm, yes men do pay for sex. You go out on dates and the man pays, he is paying for what he is going to get at some point later.

    Marriage is the oldest form of prostitution.

    :noway:

    just because he is paying for the meal, does not mean he is paying for sex.
    you do all men a discredit when you make a statement like that.

    When I treat my kids to dairy queen... am I paying them to behave? no - I'm paying for a treat for them to show them that I care for them and am appreciating them right now. I am showing them that I love spending time with them. I'm not buying their affection.

    If I go out on a date, and I pay, I'm not paying for future sex. I'm saying "hey, I like you and I value the time we spend together... here, you take it easy and let me treat". I am assuming that the reverse would be true.

    If sex happens, it's because we both want it. Not because it's an owed responsibility because he 'paid for it'.

    Jeeze.
  • sloth3toes
    sloth3toes Posts: 2,212 Member
    using the word teabag may take this in a WHOLE nother direction :)

    I was going to Google Image Teabag, and post some kind of image. Then, I thought better of it.

    Would be nice to see this thread derail in some direction, and stick to it. Anything but the original intent.

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