Those Annoying Little Comments

You don't need to lose that *kitten*!" and cue (sp?) in the sexual comments that follow right behind (no pun) it. I've always, always, always had this "curse" and what people don't understand is, it's not beneficial, especially when you're looking for jeans that fit and that are flattering, or you're visiting a tailor for your work uniforms because of a certain problem area isn't cooperating. Not only am I "cursed" with an *kitten*, I come with doublewide hips. It's a constant struggle when you're being taped for weigh ins in the service and you're marked as overweight because of an inch here and there. I do a lot of cardio, eat right and look for ways to lose this *kitten*. According to the Navy PRT standards, the PRT coordinator is directed to tape around the largest portion of your *kitten* and that's how your hips are measured. Yeah, you read that right. I challenged the coordinator many times until one of them finally showed me the instruction. So, yeah, I have an *kitten* that'll feed people for centuries or make another celebutante famous. Hey, I'll take this as motivation to keep on doing cardio, because I need all that I can get. Cardio that is. :laugh:

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Or maybe more people feel more entitled to comment on a woman's body than a man's.

Maybe they've heard this all so many times that they just need to vent without getting further backlash.

Maybe we'd like to display some negativity once in a while without being accused of hysteria.


My father deemed it appropriate to comment on the size of my stomach (it was too big, according to him and his beer belly) while ordering at a restaurant when I was TWELVE. "You've got a bit of stomach there, haven't you? You've got to watch your weight!" (He was later diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes because he is overweight)

People comment on my size all of the time. The first time I met someone, she said "Oh my god, you're so skinny!". Not even a "hi" or "hello".

Start eating protein bars? Quinoa? Avoiding excessive sweets? "You're one of the THOSE people."

So yeah, I'm pretty tired of the comments.

I think men hear just as many comments. The difference is I think women put the pressure on other women. Men say things and we just say things back and that is the end of it.

Now comments from your parents is another story completely. Though maybe your dad didnt know how to communicate with you, but wanted to save you from the same fate he had with his big beer belly.

I think we see more fat men that are successful than fat women. Fat men can be in the media, but fat women can't. And when they are, people comment on it (see that youtube video of an anchorwoman responding to a rude email about her weight). Even aging is an area where women are discriminated against. Men can age--women can't. (See leading men and their ages, vs. leading women)

Now, obviously you don't know the whole story or why it was particularly hurtful, so I aim for concision:

My sister was, at this time, battling undiagnosed anorexia. My parents didn't know, but I was a nosy brat and found her blog that had her counting calories to 500 or less a day. So, he brings up my "fatness" (by the age of 18, I had never been above 135 lbs at 5'7") while we're out dining and comments in front of EVERYONE. It was utterly humiliating and brought me to the edge of the precipice. I could make a choice: I could try doing what my older sister was, or I could just let it go. I wasn't--by any means or stretch of the imagination--a fat kid.

I've tried letting it go 100%, but every so often, that sort of creeps into my head and I have to question: am I getting that stomach? So yeah, those comments get to me. So then, rather than "saving me from his fate", he made me a very insecure, quiet, teenager who became an adult who still struggles with weight and body image.

You don't say that stuff to a kid. You just don't.

my number one pet peeve is when SKINNY GIRLS complain about being "FAT." I know that no one is ever 100% happy with their bodies. but i hate it when i'm sitting there, the heaviest one in the room, and the girls i work with are all talking about going shopping for bathing suits and complaining about how their bikinis don't fit just right. When I've only worn a bikini once in my life and probably never will again. Or when they pull at their microscopic tummy 'roll' and complain about how its getting to look like a 'baby bump.' Those girls have never known the struggle of what it is to shop in only plus sized stores/sections, only be able to wear one piece swimsuits, or how it feels to be the one thats sitting there listening about how they've gained so much weight since high school when theyre still a size 2.

I think for me it is the people that say "oh you can't have X or Y on your diet."
I'm not on a diet. I CAN have X or Y when I feel like it, and when it fits within my macros. I just choose not to sometimes.

my number one pet peeve is when SKINNY GIRLS complain about being "FAT." I know that no one is ever 100% happy with their bodies. but i hate it when i'm sitting there, the heaviest one in the room, and the girls i work with are all talking about going shopping for bathing suits and complaining about how their bikinis don't fit just right. When I've only worn a bikini once in my life and probably never will again. Or when they pull at their microscopic tummy 'roll' and complain about how its getting to look like a 'baby bump.' Those girls have never known the struggle of what it is to shop in only plus sized stores/sections, only be able to wear one piece swimsuits, or how it feels to be the one thats sitting there listening about how they've gained so much weight since high school when theyre still a size 2.

I hear this so much too. When I hear the skinny girls complaining about being fat I'm all "What does that make me? A freaking whale??" Then they try to 'compliment' me and tell me they didn't mean anything by it. Really? You think being a size 0 is fat? Try being a size 22 surrounded by size 0-8

2) Don't ask me what I'm doing and then get huffy when I tell you all I've done is eat less than I want most of the time.

Ha. I find that people just look disappointed when I tell them I just eat less and move more. They want to hear about some cool new diet breakthrough.

Random Guy: How much weight do you need to lose still?
Me: I have 100lbs to go to get to my goal weight
Random Guy: But you can't lose those boobs. I love big boobs


Really? That is what matters? Whether or not I keep the big boobs that literally cause me pain every single day and make it harder to work out because there is no sports bra big enough that I can afford??? I don't think so. If I lose my boobs then HELL YEAH!!

my number one pet peeve is when SKINNY GIRLS complain about being "FAT." I know that no one is ever 100% happy with their bodies. but i hate it when i'm sitting there, the heaviest one in the room, and the girls i work with are all talking about going shopping for bathing suits and complaining about how their bikinis don't fit just right. When I've only worn a bikini once in my life and probably never will again. Or when they pull at their microscopic tummy 'roll' and complain about how its getting to look like a 'baby bump.' Those girls have never known the struggle of what it is to shop in only plus sized stores/sections, only be able to wear one piece swimsuits, or how it feels to be the one thats sitting there listening about how they've gained so much weight since high school when theyre still a size 2.

I hear this so much too. When I hear the skinny girls complaining about being fat I'm all "What does that make me? A freaking whale??" Then they try to 'compliment' me and tell me they didn't mean anything by it. Really? You think being a size 0 is fat? Try being a size 22 surrounded by size 0-8

They DIDN'T mean anything by it. Why are some of you in this thread under the impression that every comment is directed at you? How someone views themselves, at whatever weight or whatever size, does not affect how they view you. We're all our own worst critics, and many people hold themselves to much higher standards than others. They might find you beautiful, attractive and fine at your weight; them finding unhappiness with their appearance does not translate to you.

And, again... how the hell do any of you even know these men or women's sizes? Do you check their pants label when they bend over?

Assumptions about others can never lead to anything productive. Don't worry about comparing yourself to others or projecting insecurities to others. You do you.

When people judge you for eating something unhealthy in public as though that is all you eat all the time at home. They don't see that it is a treat, and how hard you work at home to eat healthily. When they see you with a piece of cake at a cafe that's all they see.

No one wants to see an alcoholic drunk.

No one wants to see drug addict get a fix.

No one wants to see a morbidly obese person chowing down on a 2,000 kcal plate.