Would you date someone overweight?
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I agree with one of the first answerers that said she'd rather date an overweight guy that treats her right than a fit guy that treats her like crap. Of course! Those aren't the only two choices we have, though. My husband is naturally slim, currently bulking, and has a metabolism I would kill for, and he also treats me great. However, if he were to pack on some fat, I'd still love him and stay with him.
I think personality trumps looks, always, but I can't say I'd be instantly attracted to an overweight person. I've never seen an overweight guy and thought, "wow, he's cute!" So, if I were to date a bigger guy, it would probably be a friendship turned into a romantic relationship after I got to know him. Attraction matters in relationships no matter what anyone says - you've got to be attracted to them in some way, but personality can make a so-so person absolutely beautiful.0 -
I see a lot of false choices presented in this thread. "I would rather date an overweight person that treats me well than a fit person that treats me bad." No crap. But I would bet the pecking order would be:
fit person that treats you well > overweight person that treats you well > fit person that treats you bad > overweight person that treats you bad
It is a false choice. You don't have to choose between fit that treats you bad and overweight that treats you well. And the whole "active lifestyle" excuse is totally bogus. There are overweight people that lead a more active lifestyle than I do, and I would probably be considered rather fit by most (even though I still have some pudge to lose around the midsection, as is shown in my pic).
Just call it like it is. I am not attracted to overweight people. It is not something that I find aesthetically apealing, and I am not going to date someone to whom I am not attracted. That does not mean I am going to date an attractive b****. If I don't like someones personality, I am also not going to date them. But this thread didn't ask about personality.
So in conclusion, no. I will not date someone overweight. I find it unattractive and won't date someone to whom I am not physically attracted.0 -
I find it interesting that people say they wouldn't, and the few comments I had time to read were from men... Men who were probably well into the "overweight" category by BMI standards because if their muscle mass (which is how assuming y'all are standardizing overweight.)
You DO know there are plenty of men AND women who would be considered overweight AND have low body fat and lots of muscle. I guess that's just as bad as over fat huh... Smh. :grumble:
And here come this post out of left field nowhere. What planet were you on when you came up with this?
Are you seriously that ignorant?!? You do know that most bodybuilders (I won't even go into strongmen and powerlifters) are considered overweight by BMI standards, right????
Weight= mass... Lean mass and total fat.
Weight does NOT simply equal fat.
We know you lift, we can see your picture and profile. No need to make asanine comments on threads to show everyone. You were the FIRST person in here to mention BMI and not one person I know uses BMI to determine if someone is overweight, especially for athletes or anyone that lifts. That is why I said your comment came out of left field nowhere, because it did.0 -
In all honesty, I'd prefer the person I am with to be fit and healthy, but I have been attracted those who were considered overweight. Yes, you must be attracted to the person you are with - personality is huge for me, but whether it's the crinkle next to the eye, gleaming smile, or sarcasm - doesn't matter, as long as the attraction and chemistry is there.0
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Fell desperately in love with the guy I'm nuts about when he was probably 30-40 pounds overweight. He started slimming down and really took me by surprise one day - I was so in love with his laugh and his smile and the focus in his eyes and the passion in his voice that I was genuinely startled to find him as slim as he became. I just... didn't notice. And there wasn't like a "OH NO HE'S HOT" moment, because my heart has been beating for him since the moment we met. Honestly, he could be 400 pounds and purple and I'd still want him every second of every day.
I just don't think it matters that much.0 -
Fitness is one part of a broader criteria. There are levels at which it would be a deal breaker but if they had a few extra pounds but the other things about them more than compensated for their extra weight (and they were healthy), I wouldn't rule them out.0
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Yes, just like i would date someone who is fit it all depends on if Im drawn to them in that way to really want to date them, and if our personalities clicked well.
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I was fit and lean back in my highschool days coz i used to play basketball and volleyball. Ladies dig that and finding a date was as simple as 1-2-3. Then i gained ALOT of weight !!! from 120 lbs to 246 lbs highest. While alot of girls/ladies/women here claim its shallow when people say " NO to dating Overweight guys ", I'm sorry but that's the true reality. When you are overweight, u turn unattractive and you get automatically FRIENDZONED, specially with attractive ladies.0
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Most people would, few would opt for an overweight individual over a healthy/fit individual if both had completely identical personality traits, status, wealth, etc.0
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To answer the original question YES.
I find myself attracted to bigger dudes... I am NOT attracted to skinny men, or really fat men for that matter.
I am fat and do not like men that are skinnier than me, because it makes me feel like i would break them in the bedroom (if you know what I mean LOL) But also, I don't like a really, really fat guy because I'm not attracted to it.
I like what I like, and yes, that includes overweight men- as long as they have a sense of humor, aren't a pushover and likes to be social and go for long walks so I can get my steps in. 0 -
Hmm, this is a really loaded question. Anyone who says no, for whatever reason will no doubt be ridiculed for being "shallow", but really anyone faced with the choice of dating a great person with a hot body and an equally great person with a not-so-hot body would most likely choose the hot person. Human nature. We're literally wired to choose a healthy-looking mate. But anything can happen. I once thought I'd never date a bald guy (wasn't attracted to bald guys), and now I'm married to one, so things could change if someone's awesome enough.
Me? Yes, I'd date an overweight person, but it depends on how overweight. I have a hard time seeing past morbid obesity, but I'd still give the guy a shot, as long as he was at least cool/funny.0 -
Why would someone post this question on a site full of overweight and awesomely fit people and expect the answers to be exactly what they want? I'm overweight and very active and I'm trying to be the healthiest me i can be. Even when I get down to my goal weight the men I'm going to be attracted to are going to be "husky" "never miss a meal" "meat and potatos" country boys. The fact that I've never been attracted to skinny or overly muscle-y guys is not my fault so you shouldn't put down people who are only attracted to body builders or stick thin women who can't gain any wait.0
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Why is this even being discussed :noway:
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Hell Yeah!!0
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NOPE!0
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+1Why is this even being discussed :noway:0 -
Would I date somebody obese? No, and that's because of an obvious incompatibility in lifestyle, not appearance. I've been there before and ended up fat and miserable for it. Oh, and in before "well my friend is 4ft 10, 350, can run marathons in less than an hour and can press a Hummer, so you ARE shallow!" Obvious shame-trolls are obvious.
But, the term 'overweight' is VERY vague and people can still look sexy as hell with a few extra pounds and I'd be a liar if I said I didn't like the extra boobs and bum!
My taste in women is extremely random, I either like a woman or I don't. I've NEVER been with somebody just because I thought that they were 'hot.'0 -
nvm0
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In all honesty, I'd prefer the person I am with to be fit and healthy, but I have been attracted those who were considered overweight. Yes, you must be attracted to the person you are with - personality is huge for me, but whether it's the crinkle next to the eye, gleaming smile, or sarcasm - doesn't matter, as long as the attraction and chemistry is there.
Same..Overweight or not, I don't really bother much. I had been obese before.
The most important thing for me is his true self,being with me. Attractive personality, great sense of humour, thoughful and smart 0 -
Ya, sure. as long as they are tryin to life a healthy lifestyle and value living healthy.
looks are notoriously overrated imho when it comes to long term relationships0 -
Defo- I am not shallow!0
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No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
I didn't know people really used the phrase 'active lifestyle' outside of hair replacement commercials.
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This is a bit of a loaded question.. I think "most" and I'm using that word lightly here.. Would date ANYONE they were attracted to despite their body type. This is not to say that some people don't only find thinner or more fit people attractive but that I'd be willing to bet they would still do so if they had feeling for the larger person.
But if you are asking people if they "like" the way a larger person looks and feel attracted to them on the reg then yes, lots and lots and troves of people out there do! lol
Now as for myself, I am mostly attracted to men with a bit of a belly on them and women that are thinner and more manly..
My life partner however ended up being someone I did not find attractive AT ALL when we met.. But after knowing them a while I feel in love with them anyway. After I fell in love with them I found their body to be beautiful just the way it was.
Anyway, TL;DR - Yes, but I don't find them necessarily more attractive than thinner people.0 -
Yes I have multiple times and am actually going to marry a man with a little extra pounds on him in November. Besides I do not like the term overweight, I am considered overweight by doctors.0
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Someone overweight has as much chance of getting a set of dates out of me as someone who is exceptionally fit. Fact of the matter is I don't date. Ever. I hate dating. Friends or gtfo0
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Because #feelz... and #stuff...Why is this even being discussed :noway:
No idea lol.0 -
Would I date someone overweight? I don't even consider that when I am looking to date. This guy is all about the personality and feeling, not the looks....looks are nice but they change with time its more important someone be happy0
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Overweight, yes. Obese, much less likely...For example, would I date a guy 50 lbs. overweight? Sure.
Would I date a man who is 400 lbs.? No.0 -
It is humanly impossible to run a marathon in less than an hour, for whoever posted that.0
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Depends on the person....0
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