Would you date someone overweight?

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  • daw0518
    daw0518 Posts: 459 Member
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    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    very doubtful that you can change a person's dietary habits. nobody changes for no one

    I don't think you should enter a relationship with the intent to change someone. It just won't work unless they want to change.

    Totally agree with this. Your healthy eating and successful losing might inspire them to start on their own and come to you for support and advice, but trying to shove it down someone's throat will never, ever work.
  • Supadoopafly
    Supadoopafly Posts: 248 Member
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    Some of the chaps (& chapesses) who have posted on this thread must be the exception to the rule and I'd like to socialise where you guys do so there is a chance I can sate ..lol.

    I haven't had a boyfriend since 2000 and I have needs ........ lol.

    Despite being told, I'm stunning, very atractive a head turner, pretty, I carry my weight very well and looking nothing like I weigh (I don't believe them btw), my last piece of love and affection was years ago.

    Can't hate people and their preferences. I'll be making up for lost time ... I shall date and look hot!

    For the time being just keep batting off the creepy old men who think I'm fair game/desperate because I am a fattie.
  • bhoelscher
    bhoelscher Posts: 21 Member
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    What if they got overweight after you were together? WHat if she had a hard time getting the baby weight off? Is that a deal breaker? This is an interesting topic.

    Personally, it doesnt matter much to me. Im attracted to intellect and personality above the physical. Being a fat girl myself, I don't know what my husband saw in me, but he valued it and looked past the fact that I'm very overweight.
  • some_betty
    some_betty Posts: 322 Member
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    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    That will go over like a lead balloon! I can see all sorts of bad things coming out of trying to encourage someone to lose weight. It's up to the person if he/she wants to lose weight.

    First off, I don't mean to say that I would force the issue. But I think that most everyone who is overweight might like to reach a healthy weight one day, even if he/she is in denial. A person is so much more than an extra layer of fat. If subtle hints don't work, there is always brain-washing.


    * that last part is a joke

    ** maybe
  • Michelle2W
    Michelle2W Posts: 163 Member
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    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they don't live an active lifestyle.

    What a ridiculous statement and assumption to make.
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    Let me get this right. If you're overweight, it means you don't live an active lifestyle? That's like saying, everyone that has a brain, is smart.
  • Ohmydaze
    Ohmydaze Posts: 403 Member
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    Depends how overweight. I dislike both thin and fat male bodies, but would prefer a thick but healthy male over a thin one. (plenty of rugby players are pretty big lads and I find them attractive) I don't think I'd date an obese man. Ironically, I find larger women much more attractive than larger men, probably because some women seem to carry it very well and are truly *curvy*. In any case, I don't find obesity attractive at all.

    I'm also not really into 6 packs. *shrug*.
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
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    did anybody actually answer no on this?
  • sunshine4040
    sunshine4040 Posts: 29 Member
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    whenever chicks start saying they care about "personality" and "conversation' it just makes me LOL because it is the biggest load of BS ever….

    For some women (and men), it quite possibly is a load of BS, However, if it is a mature person instead of someone looking for eye candy and a good time in bed, conversation is a definite plus. As is personality. I'm pretty sure when I am 80, wrinkled and saggy no one will be looking at me and thinking, "Hey, what a hottie!" SO...that being said...if you are looking for long term...you better be building it on something other than someone's 6 pack abs, and nice booty. ;)
  • MissyMissy18
    MissyMissy18 Posts: 315 Member
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    I have dated dudes of all different sizes and felt equally attracted to each of them. When it comes to physical attraction, I'm more about a guy's face than his body! Of course, there are men I find too overweight or too thin to be attractive, in which case, no I wouldn't date them!
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
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    did anybody actually answer no on this?

    Not directly, but there were some answers that came close
  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
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    I'm happily married but if I were dating...I wouldn't cross off a guy if he had a few extra pounds. If he's a wonderful person to be with, loves to be active and do things together, worships the ground I walk on...yeah, I could overlook some weight. Because right now, he'd have to overlook some weight that's on me.

    Oh wait, that's my husband of 32 years! We're both on this fitness journey together and it's been one of the best things we've done as a couple next to having 3 great kids.
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
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    my husband was overweight when I first met him. He has dropped 50 with my knowledge. My only real issue is water.
  • 1pandabear
    1pandabear Posts: 336 Member
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    whenever chicks start saying they care about "personality" and "conversation' it just makes me LOL because it is the biggest load of BS ever….

    For some women (and men), it quite possibly is a load of BS, However, if it is a mature person instead of someone looking for eye candy and a good time in bed, conversation is a definite plus. As is personality. I'm pretty sure when I am 80, wrinkled and saggy no one will be looking at me and thinking, "Hey, what a hottie!" SO...that being said...if you are looking for long term...you better be building it on something other than someone's 6 pack abs, and nice booty. ;)

    This
  • HungryasFuark
    HungryasFuark Posts: 463 Member
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    If she is overweight and confident yes ..if not then no
  • Azurite27
    Azurite27 Posts: 554 Member
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    I've always preferred thinner guys but it really depends on how someone carries their weight when it comes to physical attraction. I wouldn't automatically say no to someone overweight. Overall though, a guy would need to be supportive of my new lifestyle regardless of size. Someone always wanting to go out to eat at places with only rich food choices and not being very active probably just wouldn't work.
  • Mrsallypants
    Mrsallypants Posts: 887 Member
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    Overweight yes as overweight just implies a BMI of 25 to 30. It also depends on how she distributes her fat, I've dated a girl technically considered obese by BMI standards, but she looked curvy and voluptuous. Her arms weren't fat, her face wasn't fat, and her stomach wasn't huge - and she had an hour glass figure.

    Now if she has a fat face, double chin, huge stomach, and really fat arms i wouldn't date her because I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. I would however probably have sex with her after having a lot of drinks though.
  • darkrose20
    darkrose20 Posts: 1,139 Member
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    Yes. I perfer cuddly teddy bear types...more specifically people who are made of muscle but let go just a bit to be a big, STRONG teddy bear. I'm currently with a thin...ish...guy, and he treats me better than all the big men I've been with combined (well, except my first, but that was my first, ya know???).

    It's not truly body size/looking yummy/whatever that I need. It truly is personality (and...erm....talent with...er...other things:blushing: ).
  • beckyboooo87x
    beckyboooo87x Posts: 173 Member
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    Yeah well im ovee weight myself.. I fall for people for more who they are not there size.
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
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    Now if she has a fat face, double chin, huge stomach, and really fat arms i wouldn't date her because I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. I would however probably have sex with her after having a lot of drinks though.

    How kind of you.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
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    If she is overweight and confident yes ..if not then no

    I love this!

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