Deleting YourFitnessPals

Have you ever deleted one or more of YourFitnessPals, and, excepting cases of harassment and/or credible threats to physical safety, why? I find myself rather charmingly befuddled by my unusually high FitnessPal attrition rate as an otherwise well-mannered, respectful and moderately active member (159 days) though never to the point of flooding others' feeds… in one richly ironic instance a member who took to this very forum seeking accountabilibuddies who *wouldn't* delete her nonetheless did the very same to me in less than a fortnight!

The most common justification I've come across is an extended period of inactivity on the part of the deleted: if that is indeed the case;

(1) An inactive FitnessPal, by definition, would not be clogging your feed or otherwise hindering your MFP experience… "What difference — at this point — does it make?";

(2) Is not MyFitnessPal's very raison d'être that of mutual accountability? Rather than delete, would not a polite nudge in the form of a message or wall post be more appropriate and consistent with the spirit of MFP? My experience has been that MyFitnessPals who've returned following an extended absence usually have compelling reasons for their inactivity, to say nothing of genuine contrition for their absence.

PS Please feel free to add me as your accountabilibuddy: No explanation needed, I've never deleted anyone, nor have I the intention absent the aforementioned exceptions.

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keobooks

OK, my FL friends.. you are NOT stirring up enough drama! You guys all seem to be eating healthy diets and are not spamming my feed. What's wrong with you? Get interesting, dammit!

I delete inactive people. I figure if they want to be my friend when they come back they can find me. So far, I haven't gotten very personal with anyone on my feed. There are a few people I'd miss if they deleted me, but I am guessing I wouldn't notice for a while and I'd just wonder why they stopped posting.

My FB friends are 99% people I know irl or from online sources where I've known them for years. So yes, I do feel like my FB friends are real.

thesupremeforce

I delete people who disappear for months. The amount of leeway depends on how much I interacted with that person prior to the disappearance. I also delete people who are REALLY obnoxious about whatever lifestyle they're living (this only happened once) or anyone who thinks 600 calories per day qualifies as eating a lot.

CoveOps

I just delete myself. But I keep coming back!

Malcomblh

Shiny!

keobooks

I just saw a familiar face on a post and I realized that I knew it because she was a friend of mine. I haven't seen her active in a while but I didn't think of it. When I clicked on her it asked me to request a friendship or whatever. She DELETED me! I think... Or maybe she was familiar from posting on the boards a lot and I never befriended her.

Would it be totally rude to ask her to be my friend again? Should I mention that I can't remember if we were friends before or I just recognize her face from the boards? It's awkward either way...

ereck44

Who cares its the internet...

It's not FB and these people aren't your "real" friends anyways, and you should be the only one keeping yourself accountable.

/end thread

My MFP friends are more "real" friends than any of my "in real life" friends have ever been.

Qft

Tammer81

I just saw a familiar face on a post and I realized that I knew it because she was a friend of mine. I haven't seen her active in a while but I didn't think of it. When I clicked on her it asked me to request a friendship or whatever. She DELETED me! I think... Or maybe she was familiar from posting on the boards a lot and I never befriended her.

Would it be totally rude to ask her to be my friend again? Should I mention that I can't remember if we were friends before or I just recognize her face from the boards? It's awkward either way...

Just go for it; what's the worst that could possibly happen, that she declines and the two of you resume the status quo ante of oblivion to each other's existence?

It's only the Internet, amirite?

hastingsmassage

I deleted every single one, I am tired of people minding my business..what type of motivation are they? none...You need to find motivation in yourself and treat it as a tool, way of life, life style, call it what you want. I have friends in reality.

Yagisama

Who cares its the internet...

It's not FB and these people aren't your "real" friends anyways, and you should be the only one keeping yourself accountable.

/end thread

says internet friends dont matter.

goes on to say how FB friends are real.

Exactly what I was thinking! :laugh:

tedrickp

To be fair to that poster, most of my Facebook friends are indeed my real life friends. But I guess some people just add anyone on there.

Monkey_Business

Yup 14 days of not logging...unless you have put on your profile you are away...

If your profile is hidden your gone....

If I see what I call drama

sometimes people with closed diaries...but those I have other reason's to delete that just puts the icing on the cake.

I don't have a lot of time or energy to waste on people who aren't serious...

^I agree with the above. Except if you do not log-in for 7 consecutive days (without an excuse (EX: vacation sick emergencey) gone. If in 4 weeks you log in less then 14 days gone. If it is a very one sided relationship gone. If you are a collector gone. And sometimes we just do not interact well. I have a very short freinds list I try to keep it below 40, but I interact with them almost daily or as much as possible. If some one need encoragement I am there for them, but they have to be there.

dym123

I delete due to non-activity of a month or so, but I did have to delete someone who decided to write soft-core porn on her feed. BTW guys, I do not remember her user name so you can friend her.

graci0221

I do delete if you haven't been active in awhile. why do I want them as a friend if they never log in?! I also delete if you lose weight the unhealthy way. who eat less than a 1000 calories in one day and some of it isn't even food, it's those damn weightless shakes or pills. I only have deleted a few people, but I will have to clean up my friends list soon

Myhaloslipped

I delete due to non-activity of a month or so, but I did have to delete someone who decided to write soft-core porn on her feed. BTW guys, I do not remember her user name so you can friend her.

This is hilarious. :laugh:

Myhaloslipped

I delete people who are constantly making negative, "woe is me" posts and never have anything positive or humorous to say. Why would I want to read about that day in and day out? Also, there are a number of benefits to keeping a small FL.

GibbsGirl13072

I delete them if there's a month or more of no activity.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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Been in fitness industry for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

Me too, unless they've said they're going to be taking a break, or vacation, or whatever.

cholepapi

I deleted one after two days. It was a young man who thought he was on a dating website. He started saying, " I miss you" " where you at it's been an hour".....it was so annoying....those are automatic deleted.

DYELB

Have you ever deleted one or more of YourFitnessPals, and, excepting cases of harassment and/or credible threats to physical safety, why? I find myself rather charmingly befuddled by my unusually high FitnessPal attrition rate as an otherwise well-mannered, respectful and moderately active member (159 days) though never to the point of flooding others' feeds… in one richly ironic instance a member who took to this very forum seeking accountabilibuddies who *wouldn't* delete her nonetheless did the very same to me in less than a fortnight!

The most common justification I've come across is an extended period of inactivity on the part of the deleted: if that is indeed the case;

(1) An inactive FitnessPal, by definition, would not be clogging your feed or otherwise hindering your MFP experience… "What difference — at this point — does it make?";

(2) Is not MyFitnessPal's very raison d'être that of mutual accountability? Rather than delete, would not a polite nudge in the form of a message or wall post be more appropriate and consistent with the spirit of MFP? My experience has been that MyFitnessPals who've returned following an extended absence usually have compelling reasons for their inactivity, to say nothing of genuine contrition for their absence.

PS Please feel free to add me as your accountabilibuddy: No explanation needed, I've never deleted anyone, nor have I the intention absent the aforementioned exceptions.

Forty6and2

Reasons I delete people:

1. I want to
2. It's my profile and I use it as I see fit
3. Some sexy combination of both 1&2.

maz504

1) Lots of <1200 net calorie days
2) Obsessing over "clean" eating and/or aspartame and/or cleanses and/or supplements and/or whatever
3) Never interact with them
4) They don't tell me I'm pretty enough.

Cranquistador

hmm?

healthyscratch1978

Have you ever deleted ...justifcation, accounatbility blah blah

hell yes, sometimes you think you would like to read what someone has to say, and then you find out you don't.

JustSomeEm

Question - how do you know you've been deleted. Do you get notified by MFP somehow?

And to answer the question, I delete when 1. I've managed to friend someone who makes me want to chew nails reading their status updates and 2. someone goes inactive. The only inactive friends I have on here are those that I know in RL... I keep them so I can continue supporting if they show back up... If I like them enough.

jwooley13

I've been known to delete loud advocates of VLCD diets. Before deleting, I'll send a message to them and ask them what their goals are and why they're trying to do it - if they don't want to listen to any sort of reason, I just have to pass on the friendship. I've been at points in my life where my relationship with food bordered on unhealthy (though no real history of a true eating disorder), and that sort of thing all over my news feed is really damaging for me.

duplicitous

Have you ever deleted one or more of YourFitnessPals, and, excepting cases of harassment and/or credible threats to physical safety, why? I find myself rather charmingly befuddled by my unusually high FitnessPal attrition rate as an otherwise well-mannered, respectful and moderately active member (159 days) though never to the point of flooding others' feeds… in one richly ironic instance a member who took to this very forum seeking accountabilibuddies who *wouldn't* delete her nonetheless did the very same to me in less than a fortnight!

The most common justification I've come across is an extended period of inactivity on the part of the deleted: if that is indeed the case;

(1) An inactive FitnessPal, by definition, would not be clogging your feed or otherwise hindering your MFP experience… "What difference — at this point — does it make?";

(2) Is not MyFitnessPal's very raison d'être that of mutual accountability? Rather than delete, would not a polite nudge in the form of a message or wall post be more appropriate and consistent with the spirit of MFP? My experience has been that MyFitnessPals who've returned following an extended absence usually have compelling reasons for their inactivity, to say nothing of genuine contrition for their absence.

PS Please feel free to add me as your accountabilibuddy: No explanation needed, I've never deleted anyone, nor have I the intention absent the aforementioned exceptions.

I like this post and completely agree. That said in my experience there are very few rational and reasonable individuals in the world. Now add the fact that most here aren't pleased with their appearance nor do they truly care about anyone other than themselves and their own personal plight. If that isn't enough. Almost 98% of the folks on here are quite hungry. Or as I have learned "hangry".

missjones513

I don't delete anyone. I have better things to do than monitor how long someone is inactive for.

I will delete people who are annoying though.

duplicitous

Plus...I think it gives them a sense of control.

Yagisama

The only one time I have ever deleted someone is that I had noticed that they had deactivated their account. It was purely by chance and I didn't go out of my way to find any deactivated accounts.

I've had some friends who were inactive for 1+ months who came back so I don't really care how long anyone is inactive. And it's not like their inactivity affects me in any manner.

jnord8729

I deleted a couple because of the stuff they posted. One felt the need to post EVERY song he was listening to at any given time, and the other would post 4 or 5 "motivational" quotes every day (They weren't very motivational. They were usually random Dr. Who quotes). Both just got annoying.

k1ttyk1tty

I've only had a problem with one friend being inactive and all it took was a message asking what was up and she's been back on for the past few weeks. I'm not sure if I've been deleted, I most likely have because I count sex as cardio so I kind of have my sex life plastered on my exercise count and now that I'm thinking about it, I haven't seen a guy that was begging for friends in a thread for a bit... but honestly, that doesn't matter much. Unfriending doesn't hurt anyone. The only person that I was hoping it would hurt kept coming on to me when I had said that I am happily living with and loving my fiance....He was also only 5 years younger than both of my parents. And I mean seriously, why on earth would I send "sexy" pics to a guy that knows how much junk food I totally binged on?
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