MFP has changed

Still waiting for people to tell me what they have actually done to help people on the forums.


I'm waiting.


(No one ever answers this, which is telling.)

Tim I help people. I try to point out flawed thinking, and mistakes in logic, and misinformation. I may have been called "mean" in the past. However, even I have to admit there is some underlying truth to these complaints and I'm more than a little bothered that some people who play this game too often, too zealously and too passionately and sloppily are only pretending to not know exactly what is meant by these repeated complaints.

Just because the description is elusive and diffficult to pin down or usmsc is not here today to spell it out clearly again, does not mean it is not happening.

OP did not even mention misinformation or helping along bad ideas and that's what it's been diverted to. She was clear in what her complaint was about but it's just being turned into something else so some people can feel better about their tactics.

There may be an "army" of people trying to dispel misinformation, but there are also some mercenaries just bent on using smoke and mirrors to activate people to be completely hurtful and personal to some others who they have decided are just worthy of public humiliation.

It's happening too much. People are aware and they are trying to make themselves understood. I for one want to understand the difference.

Most are just being a cheerleader and congratulating folks...not tearing them down, boo.

So most of 23 posts in almost three years?

Are you just pacing yourself?

Seriously, if you feel so strongly about the proper way to interact in the forums, you're not going to make a difference with one post every six weeks. Get in there...show them how it's done...be the change you want to see in others.

Or continue lecturing others on what you think they're doing wrong under the mistaken belief that it will make a difference.

Personally, I think you'll make more progress with the former...

...but that's just my opinion.

Everyone is allowed an opinion, you know what they say. I'm sure it will make no difference to anyone other than to the OP. Thank you and goodnight.

I'm kind of in for hearing the opinions of people who don't post often, especially after noticing in recent days some people saying out loud that they are deciding to become "lurkers" for fear of being made to feel stupid for asking questions.

Most are just being a cheerleader and congratulating folks...not tearing them down, boo.

So most of 23 posts in almost three years?

Are you just pacing yourself?

Seriously, if you feel so strongly about the proper way to interact in the forums, you're not going to make a difference with one post every six weeks. Get in there...show them how it's done...be the change you want to see in others.

Or continue lecturing others on what you think they're doing wrong under the mistaken belief that it will make a difference.

Personally, I think you'll make more progress with the former...

...but that's just my opinion.

Everyone is allowed an opinion, you know what they say. I'm sure it will make no difference to anyone other than to the OP. Thank you and goodnight.

I'm kind of in for hearing the opinions of people who don't post often, especially after noticing in recent days some people saying out loud that they are deciding to become "lurkers" for fear of being made to feel stupid for asking questions.

I can say that I've read mfp forum posts before I even joined. I'm a listener, so I like reading other people's thoughts. I decided to get back on mfp about a month ago. This time around I thought I'd try to use the community feature more because apparently this aids in weight loss - having a support group.

Within days, I made the mistake of getting into it with a senior member that I believe was rude. Some people may not agree.
Anyhow, I had someone inbox me and tell me they too felt the same, but was not sure if they should call this member out in fear of being attacked.

I completely understand this is the internet, but I think some of the words people hurl at each other is really unecessary.
And I say hurl because sometimes the content is good, but the delivery is terrible.
When people say "toughen up, there are big bad people in the world," that is completely true. But let us not forget the really sensitive people that cannot mentally handle people like that, and turn to acts like suicide.

I'm just saying, we don't know who's behind the computer screen and how they will receive our message, so we must TRY to at least have a little tact.

Still waiting for people to tell me what they have actually done to help people on the forums.


I'm waiting.


(No one ever answers this, which is telling.)

"If you are lonely and need a friend that does not judge you, get a dog or cat. "

I totally agree and whilst you are at it toughen yourself up. Its a cruel world outside of your home.

It just bad manners.
If you can't be nice or helpful, don't write anything.

Even if nice or helpful means supporting something dangerous or inaccurate?

"If you are lonely and need a friend that does not judge you, get a dog or cat. "

I totally agree and whilst you are at it toughen yourself up. Its a cruel world outside of your home.

So MFP can't be different? Does everything need to be horrid?

It just bad manners.
If you can't be nice or helpful, don't write anything.

Even if nice or helpful means supporting something dangerous or inaccurate?

There are nice ways of communicating even if the message isn't particularly nice. Education works a lot better than a smackdown. Not too long ago, some people were smug and happy about chasing away another newbie through utterly horrible posts. I believe in honesty, sometimes extremely blunt honesty, but such nastiness is just sad.

Ignore the jerks. You know, just like real life.

It just bad manners.
If you can't be nice or helpful, don't write anything.

I find it very nice and helpful when bad information is corrected so that I am not duped into derailing my progress or giving up foods I love unnecessarily.