vent--There are too many skinny people at the gym

I just don't know what to say to this. Really, I don't.

seems like you did, hence your response

i get what your saying OP, and no you're not alone. i think you already know that everyone is just paying attention to their own workouts, just use the fit folks as motivation, thats what i do. as a competitive person, i feel like im pushed more in a gym full of people in better shape than i am compared to if i were in one where i was at the top of the fitness chain

Give her a break people, learning to feel differently about yourself is part of the process!

THIS

I understand the insecurity. Unfortunately, by posting this you are going to receive an enormous amount of unsympathetic, snarky and probably rude replies from those who have already determined you are an inferior "special snowflake." I hope not though.

Move to the midwest.

My gym, OH GOD, I mean my "fitness center" is inhabited by weeble wobbles. We all get along fine.

You're 40. Time to be an adult.

What does feeling insecure have to do with being an adult.. Everyone has them, at least at some point or another.

Let's build people up.. not tear them down.

I don't think you were being rude at all, like basically everyone above me seems to think. I'm sure there are tons of people who think that way as well and just won't admit it like you did. You weren't being rude, just stating an insecurity. I know how it is, you feel that all the skinny people are judging you, but I can't almost promise you that most of them aren't. I thought that way too... until I became really good friends with a super skinny model like girl and my whole idea of skinny and super beautiful people judging me all the time began to change. There are probably a lot of people there who admire you for working towards something, and maybe some of them were where you were once upon a time.

Luckily, the gym that I go to has a really good mix of people. I go the last hour to hour and a half before they close and I see old retired people, I see young people, I see fit people and not so fit people (me being one of those!), so I don't feel as my gym is all full of super fit people like you.

Maybe try talking to them (I haven't conquered the idea of talking to anyone at the gym before, but I guess it's pretty common??) and you'll learn that you aren't being judged all the time?

Good luck! Sorry for all the rude comments before, it wasn't fair of them when you were just stating an insecurity and concern.

So, what's the plan then, if you have to be 25 lbs overweight to join? Do people get kicked out when they reach their goal?

Maybe OP should join planet fitness, as they seem to frown upon being in good shape.

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I know that that sounds stupid but I wish someone would open a gym where you have to be at least 25 pounds overweight to join. I go to a pretty nice one and overall people are pretty nice but when you are currently proud that you know you are exercising because your stomach fat has separated into two distinct groups working out next to Joe Meat head and Trophy wife wearing too much perfume and too little clothing can just make you feel less good about being there.

I know, I know, I am being silly and I should just ignore distractions like this but am I alone? Does anyone else feel just a little more insecure working out amongst the already insanely fit?

You're 40. Time to be an adult.

What does feeling insecure have to do with being an adult.. Everyone has them, at least at some point or another.

Let's build people up.. not tear them down.

Couldn't agree more with this sentiment. Calling people "Joe Meathead" and "Trophy Wife" for existing in the gym... That's pretty despicable, alright.

i never notice slender or athletic people at the gym... or as a rule any people. btw, a gym that only had overweight people would have less customers, which would mean they'd have to charge more, so no thanks.

I understand the insecurity. Unfortunately, by posting this you are going to receive an enormous amount of unsympathetic, snarky and probably rude replies from those who have already determined you are an inferior "special snowflake." I hope not though.

Move to the midwest.

My gym, OH GOD, I mean my "fitness center" is inhabited by weeble wobbles. We all get along fine.

Haha- "weeble wobbles"! My 'fitness center' sounds much the same! Actually, it's a good mix that runs the gammut, with the seniors probably beating all other segments out. Can't blame them though, the facility and the staff are stellar.

But yeah, OP, it's just you being silly and insecure (which you recognize) so you can continue to compare yourself to Joe Meathead and trophy wife, or you can use them as motivation. The latter is probably going to get your closer to your goals.

As others have noted- more likely than not, the aforementioned people have their own insecurities to battle. It's so easy to look at someone smaller than ourselves and think how easy it must be, or to wish we had their body, but the reality is that *everyone* has things about themselves they'd like to change. You do you, and let them worry about themselves.

Cheers! :drinker:

I don't think you were being rude at all, like basically everyone above me seems to think. I'm sure there are tons of people who think that way as well and just won't admit it like you did. You weren't being rude, just stating an insecurity. I know how it is, you feel that all the skinny people are judging you, but I can't almost promise you that most of them aren't. I thought that way too... until I became really good friends with a super skinny model like girl and my whole idea of skinny and super beautiful people judging me all the time began to change. There are probably a lot of people there who admire you for working towards something, and maybe some of them were where you were once upon a time.

Luckily, the gym that I go to has a really good mix of people. I go the last hour to hour and a half before they close and I see old retired people, I see young people, I see fit people and not so fit people (me being one of those!), so I don't feel as my gym is all full of super fit people like you.

Maybe try talking to them (I haven't conquered the idea of talking to anyone at the gym before, but I guess it's pretty common??) and you'll learn that you aren't being judged all the time?

Good luck! Sorry for all the rude comments before, it wasn't fair of them when you were just stating an insecurity and concern.

So it is not rude to refer to people as "Joe Meathead" and "trophy wife"?

I am pretty sure that a lot of us can relate to the insecurity, I know I can. I just don't agree with the insulting others part.

You think you should be allowed to discriminate against people who have bodies that make YOU uncomfortable?? Really?? Really?? Ten to one if you tried to join a gym and they told you you were "too fat" and that watching you work out might make the skinny members of the gym uncomfortable, you'd be alllllll sorts of offended. Do you want skinnny people to have different stores and restaurants and sidewalks and water fountains? Grow up and stop worrying about other people.