Got called Fatty :(

I remember getting whistled at when I was nine years old. It was really terrifying, and that plus many future catcalls were part of the reason I have always been ambivalent about losing weight. I like my armor you know. I think though your post makes me realize, they are not objective, selective, or even rational these haters. They are just trying to find someone they see as weak: maybe old, maybe fat, maybe young, and they pick on them to make themselves feel better. Some people just aren't worth their air you know. I am so jealous of your forty pounds. You're doing a fabulous job. You better keep striding or I might catch up. ; )

every word you just wrote hit home with me!!!

Paula, you MUST develop a thick skin during this fight to lose weight so as not to be detered by some lamea** motherf***er who doesn't give a sh** about you or your struggles. He's mentally and emotionally stunted as well as cruel and heartless to even for a second feel it's acceptable to behave this way towards another person. Don't waste your time trying to figure him out or how you could have looked differently in order not to have drawn his unwanted attention. It just doesn't matter in the end. He doesn't matter. No one matters, but YOU!!! You are wonderful, strong, brave, determined, and able to be the person you want to be simply by remaining focused on YOU and not others who certainly do not have your best interests at heart. Dig deep to let these unkind words fall off and never penetrate your heart again!!! You can do this, Paula :-)

It happens. Mostly people have been friendly when I'm out there walking, doin' the best I can. But the other day I got honked at and this guy slowed down to literally point and laugh... I was upset at first, but then I thought about it. First, he was fatter than me, so I'm betting I reminded him of what he should be doing. Secondly, yeah, I'm fat. And when I'm working out, I'm sweaty and fat. All my jiggling butt wibble wobbling with every step is out there in yoga pants for the world to see. But I have a good heart, a determined spirit, and I'm making efforts to make myself better than what I am. That guy is drowning in his own garbage. He's so deep in it that's all he sees...and that's sad.

He laughed at me, but I feel bad for him.

And that's how you gotta see anyone who puts you down. You're out there making an effort to improve yourself, but someone who's trying to drag others down can't do that. Pity the jerks, but don't let them deter you.

I'm really sorry that happened to you some people are idiots and what they think don't matter

I'm sorry this happened to you. Keep your chin up and don't let some miserable douchekebab obliterate all your hard work with one lame remark. They suck, not you. Go forth and be awesome.

I have never understood how someone could enjoy hurting someone's feelings for no reason at all. It makes me sick. You have lost 40 pounds? That is fantastic! Keep doing what you are doing, and don't worry about this kind of foolishness. So sorry that happened to you.

I have never understood how someone could enjoy hurting someone's feelings for no reason at all. It makes me sick.

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THIS.

I sometimes feel naïve but I honestly cant understand how someone can be so cruel to another person. I've always believed in raising people up and magnifying their strengths, as appose to bringing them down.

At the beginning of 2012 I was overweight and got a few nasty comments from people. Six months later I was thinner than those people and now get to look down my nose at them. That thought always amuses me.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt

People who matter don't yell mean things out of car windows. Just feel lucky you don't have to be that guy - who is really quite pathetic!

YOU GO GIRL!

Please don't beat yourself up about this.
You do your thing and move on. You've lost weight so it's working. Focus on that.

You don't have to explain yourself to anybody. You don't have apologise for how you are.

The world is wide. If he doesn't like what he sees, he's allowed to look elsewhere.

And, finally, most of the time, those comments come from the jerk's own insecurities. They tell a hell of a lot more about them than about you.

Keep smiling!

When somebody calls you fatty after you've shed 40 lbs, it's only because they're seeing you as you are now, and have NO understanding of how much progress you've really made. That's just how small minds work -- they see you exercising, and don't even take 1 moment to think that maybe this isn't your first time doing it. They just assume you've always been the size you are now and that your current size & shape doesn't represent progress. No big deal, it's just the nature of the beast. Just don't let your mind take their UNINFORMED ASSUMPTION as fact, and don't let it take up more time in your mind than thoughts about your next goal.

Hmmmm ... Interesting they can make a comment as such, considering they were driving. At least you were out walking.

The world can be a very cruel place. As your self esteem grows these comments will just roll right off!:drinker: Remember, these comments are coming from a person who is very insecure and messed up!

You guys are awesome! Such support. I actually hesitated to post it because it was so embarrassing. I haven't even told hubby although I know he'd feel bad for me and pissed at them. too embarrassed. (Maybe I will someday when I'm close to goal weight) Anyway today I have a fresh outlook, & double the motivation. I have been wanting to lift for about 4 months and know I should but have been putting it off for fear of wrong technique, sore muscles, less calorie deficit from less cardio burn, (I do some cardio almost every day) And a whole host of other excuses. I have some equipment I bought months ago & TODAY I'm going to use it. So Thanks to you all,.....And even thanks to the a55hole!

Good for you. Living well is the best revenge!

Seriously does the person in that car have ANY relevance whatsoever in your life? NO they don't so why take anything they say to heart? You know how far you have come, you know what your goals are so keep pushing forward and let that kind of loser go on about their way. Don't let is slow you down!!

^^^This, from my lovely friend!
OP< words are just formed letters...don't give words power. Your action of losing 40lbs already has more power than any words thrown at you. Smile and feel sorry for their pathetic, black hearts. You're the one who's winning.