Got called Fatty :(

Something that really helped me, was when I realized the greatest punishment for the their behaviour is having to live between those ears. These are miserable, unhappy, and stupid people. They are going for a reaction from you, so if you give one, it better be great or nothing at all. [recommend ignore, as if you are hurt, they will relish any expression as such]

By great, I mean you need to be able to whither them down to nothing in seconds. As a part time insult comic, I savaged a few men who expected weakness, and didn't expect to be quickly and judiciously lambasted with every observable flaw in front of their friends. It was probably immature on my part, but it felt great. You can't really do that with a drive by, though.

Young women seemed most likely to do this driving by, with mocking cat calls, wolf whistles, laughs, but never in person, and never anyone I knew. It really hurt. I thought, this must be how all women see me, they just don't all say it. And like your situation, most were when I was exercising.

The guys on the other hand were usually people I knew, and somehow thought it appropriate to "bust my balls" and try to embarass me in front of a group or get a laugh from them, maybe at a party while getting some food, or because I was sweating, etc. This didn't hurt, so much, because I usually got the better, and once ripped, they didn't want to continue looking stupid in front of friends. I can only count on one hand how often this happened. But what I learned, was not to give these types of people any power over your life.

Just don the b-ltch face during your walk. Most people are scared by this.

"Will she kill me? Should I say that? Nope."

So, Just came back from a 4.26 Mile walk, fairly brisk pace, think I'm doing pretty well, I've lost over 40 lbs, and while walking a car drove past & someone yelled out the window "WALK FASTER FATTY" Made me feel a little like all my hard work is nothing. Not sure if this makes me feel unmotivated, or more motivated to 'show them' Still trying to sort out my feelings right now and needed to vent!

For some reason, it is still acceptable to treat fat people with naked, open, public contempt.

I totally hear your pain. I've spent decades sucking up that kind of abuse. Hearing the whispers when I walk into a room. Having people look at me with obvious disdain. Shouting insults at me on the street.

Takes a toll. Now I've lost some weight I don't get it anymore. Is that a win? Hard to say. The jerks are just insulting other people.

I don't really have any advice.

Frank

So, Just came back from a 4.26 Mile walk, fairly brisk pace, think I'm doing pretty well, I've lost over 40 lbs, and while walking a car drove past & someone yelled out the window "WALK FASTER FATTY" Made me feel a little like all my hard work is nothing. Not sure if this makes me feel unmotivated, or more motivated to 'show them' Still trying to sort out my feelings right now and needed to vent!

Nobody has walked in your shoes, lived your life or knows what you have accomplished. The only reason people bully and are cruel is because they are insecure. You got this, keep going and don't worry about what others have to say.

Some bloke did almost the exact same thing to me on my 2nd ever run in public. But you're doing this for you, not for him. He's clearly an iijit. Go you for carrying on, regardless of rampant muppetry.

I'm sorry that happened to you. You deserve better. You have ALREADY done something much more difficult than those complete a-holes could ever imagine doing. Remember that and keep moving forward. Also, try to imagine a giant bug flying into their mouth as they are shouting out the window. That might help too. :happy: :happy:

I ditto the advice on listening to something while you walk. I either listen to audiobooks or music when I run. I know that several people have yelled *something* at me from cars while I'm running, but I have no clue what they said because all I hear is muffled yelling.

I pretend like they're yelling encouragement (maybe they are, I don't know).

So, Just came back from a 4.26 Mile walk, fairly brisk pace, think I'm doing pretty well, I've lost over 40 lbs, and while walking a car drove past & someone yelled out the window "WALK FASTER FATTY" Made me feel a little like all my hard work is nothing. Not sure if this makes me feel unmotivated, or more motivated to 'show them' Still trying to sort out my feelings right now and needed to vent!

People yell and throw things at you even if you're thin. It's about them being *kitten*, not your weight.
Don't let them slow you down.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Since that person wants to have an opinion about you, I would like to have an opinion about them:

1) Only cowards yell something out of a moving vehicle. It would take more balls for them to stop the car and say it to your face. It takes incredible courage to face the world every day when in a state of self improvement and self empowerment. You give them the finger next time - courageous woman!

2) The person who said it was likely a child/teenager. By default children are ignorant and really don't understand the ramifications of their actions yet. You're a mature adult setting a healthy and courageous example. Too bad they missed it.

3) This person was bored and looking for something to do. It had nothing to do with you, your amazing lifestyle change or goals. You've got goals - they obviously don't - pity them - not yourself.

4) Their parents are not doing a good enough job of guiding their children - pity them once again for losing out on an important part of life - childhood.

5) Children are not the only ones who are ignorant or immature. For the reasons mentioned in 3 & 4 sometimes we deal with adults stuck in this state - pity them for not being a progressive and evolved being.


And, just because - Authority over your life is yours and yours alone - don't give it away to ignorant, bored, unmotivated, pitiful people. Besides, they aren't going where you are going no matter how fast you are going. The point is You. Are. Going. and You. Will. Get. There.

Go get it!

Just laugh in their faces! They don't know how far you've gotten.
People are dumb and mean and don't realize how much they can hurt with these ****ty comments.
Just keep working hard and your progress will make them swallow their words, you can do it! x

People who try to tear you down aren't worth your time. You're doing great and making good progress - you should be proud of yourself.

Has happened more times than I can remember. I just use it as inspiration to go a little farther.

I -am- unarguably fat. But I won't be soon.

Just keep kicking as*. To hell with the rest.

Keep up the good work and to HECK with the jerks. There will always be mean people in the world. The best thing you can do for yourself is forget it. AND remember we are all here to support you :flowerforyou:

Happened to me today, whilst on way to school to pick my daughter up with my sick 7 month old baby in pram having just been docs to get her medicine. He shouted so loud it made me jump. Wished I hadn't put shorts on today but then thought no f**k you. Ugly c**t!

I hope you smiled, shot them the finger, and kept on walking. People can be such jerks sometimes.