BOYFRIEND HELP!!!!! THINKS ABOUT HIS EX

I only think about my ex-gf when I'm getting busy with my current gf. It speeds things along so I can go back to watching Family Guy.

ok, ok. Surely, he did not just say he was thinking about his ex and that was that. What was he thinking about? Perhaps you were right to be angry?

I'm gonna need details. Reader's Digest version please.

I agree with all the folks here who are saying:

You sound insecure
Being this in love after only two months is not wise
If you got together with this guy just a few months after his break up, you're most likely a rebound

I recommend picking up the book, "How To Avoid Falling In Love With a Jerk" by John Van Epp. You can get it on amazon used for just four bucks.

I'm not saying the guy you're with is a jerk. This book is just basically the Bible of relationship advice and you sound like you might need to learn a few things before getting super serious with anyone.

Here's the text from the back cover:

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*Judge character based on compatibility, relationships skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships.
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*Open your eyes to problems in the relationship and stop giving a jerk too many chances.
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Firstly, you spend every day together? That seems obsessive. I love my boyfriend, but I need my own space, too. I've found that relationships that get too clingy too fast tend to implode in miraculous ways.

Secondly, chill. Of course he thinks about her. Like everyone else has said, you don't let go of past relationships. That's part of what shaped him into who he is.

Third, don't overreact. Not every disagreement is a cause for you to pack your bags. If after two months you're ready to split that fast then there's something else wrong and it's likely with you. Chill.

In all honesty, this sounds like your insecurity issues at play more than anything else.

Everyone that comes into our lives touch us, in some way. Just because they leave or are no longer there, does not mean that you will not ever think about them again. The fact is as human we often learn from our mistakes. Well to learn, you have to remember. If you do not remember then you have not truly learned.

The old Garth Brooks song Unanswered Prayers comes to mind.

I have thought about Exes numerous times, I can even think of things that turned me on or that I liked. It does not mean that I have ANY interest in going down that road again. I do not, but something triggered the memory.

On the other hand, if he's rubbing one out while he's thinking about her that may be a bad sign.

7yrs...do you honestly expect him to just totally forget someone he was with for 7 years in 2 months...I think you have issues and you need to work on yourself because that's unreasonable and ridiculous. Atleast he's being honest...although its obvious he will think about his past 7 years...you're going to run him away if you don't change lol

^^^^ THIS. They broke up for a reason, OP. But he was with her for seven years. Get over yourself. Build your own seven years.

Wait you've had a boyfriend for two months and you're already living together and thinking about getting married?
Woah.
Anyways, it's okay if he thinks about her. They were together for seven long years. I still think about my ex, but it doesn't mean that I want him. Thinking about a memory is different than wanting that person back in your life. If he's telling you that he wants her back, then that's different. I say stay with him, and talk to him about it. Communication is key.

I think about my ex often. Mostly I think about whether I buried him deep enough. Some of my neighbors are kinda nosy.

I think about my ex often. Mostly I think about whether I buried him deep enough. Some of my neighbors are kinda nosy.

And you don't want some animal to come along and dig him up.

First, you should be happy that he was open and honest with you about something. Second, there is nothing wrong with thinking about an ex from time to time. He was with her 7 years, he has been with you for 2 months...when you're with somebody for so long you can't help but think of them bc a lot of things will remind you of that person. It would be a totally different story if he was still communicating with her or hooking up with her and it doesn't sound like that is the case. And third, thinking about an ex doesn't necessarily mean anything, I think about some of my exes from time to time, but it in no way means that I miss them or want to be with them.

I think you need to break it off with him, and focus on yourself. You seem to be moving incredibly fast, and are incredibly insecure.

How long have they been broken up?

This is a very pertinent question no one has asked!

OP! How long have the been broken up?

I know in my situation I need to give him lots of time because I met him a week after their break-up.

He claims they were already broken up, but still living together as "friends" (um hmm) I'm sure the initial shock of being single never set in until he started moving into his apartment in Oklahoma.

Being together 7 years dont imagine he has anyone else to compare with. YOUR AWESOME (im sure ) and most people arent slimey *kitten*