Girls- Getting sexually frusterated?

Really, men get tired too. They aren't just walking penises.
They aren't vibrators, they are human too.

Wow, that is a problem..you may want to just work him up for it without asking...just start and see what happens. My wife is 25 years younger then me, al she has to do is smile the right way and it's on.. but she more direct most of the time. She just goes upstairs and send me a text.. "I'M NAKED" I break the land speed record getting there.:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Wow, that is a problem..you may want to just work him up for it without asking...just start and see what happens. My wife is 25 years younger then me, al she has to do is smile the right way and it's on.. but she more direct most of the time. She just goes upstairs and send me a text.. "I'M NAKED" I break the land speed record getting there.:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Please don`t jump on me (no pun intended) but am curious about something and just want to put this out for discussion.

How many of the ladies here are not satisfied with the outcome of having sex...by that I mean has the guy never learned that sex is not about just him getting finished rather then desiring to please the lady first and foremost.
If that is the case I suspect that there are signals of frustration sent and the guy gets frustrated in turn and eventually shuts down.

Just a possibility and only asking it in the sense of making a suggestion that the lady makes it clear what she wants and enjoys so the whole thing can be better for both.
I really don`t think a lot of guys ever learn how to give as good as to receive maybe.

Please don`t jump on me (no pun intended) but am curious about something and just want to put this out for discussion.

How many of the ladies here are not satisfied with the outcome of having sex...by that I mean has the guy never learned that sex is not about just him getting finished rather then desiring to please the lady first and foremost.
If that is the case I suspect that there are signals of frustration sent and the guy gets frustrated in turn and eventually shuts down.

Just a possibility and only asking it in the sense of making a suggestion that the lady makes it clear what she wants and enjoys so the whole thing can be better for both.
I really don`t think a lot of guys ever learn how to give as good as to receive maybe.

What?? She always told me it was the best 30 seconds of her life!!!

Please don`t jump on me (no pun intended) but am curious about something and just want to put this out for discussion.

How many of the ladies here are not satisfied with the outcome of having sex...by that I mean has the guy never learned that sex is not about just him getting finished rather then desiring to please the lady first and foremost.
If that is the case I suspect that there are signals of frustration sent and the guy gets frustrated in turn and eventually shuts down.

Just a possibility and only asking it in the sense of making a suggestion that the lady makes it clear what she wants and enjoys so the whole thing can be better for both.
I really don`t think a lot of guys ever learn how to give as good as to receive maybe.

My ex was ALWAYS too tired...not interested...could care less. It's not that he was getting it elsewhere, it just was't a priority for him. And honestly it didn't matter what I did, he just wasn't interested in sex. My husband now....he is 44, works 60-80hrs a week and has NEVER been too tired or not interested. We have been together 7 years and still it's almost every night.

That's how it is with my fiance....we've been together 7 1/2 years and have 2 kids. Even in the beginning it was about once every 1-2 weeks, and then maybe twice every 1-2 months.....now it's.....I can't even remember -- i think something like 3 times since August. He never initiates, wants me to -- but I can't tell you how many times he has turned me down flat no matter what I did. Now, I just can't initiate anymore -- it's too dejecting. We've been over and over, and around and around about this. He'd rather watch porn on his pc and *kitten* in the shower. Whatever.......not sure how long I'll be able to stay in this sexless "marriage."

wow, i'm not sure how much longer you can live like that either. seems like it won't get better. have u tried going to couples therapy or something to tap into why he is acting this way and why he doesnt enjoy intimacy?

No, and I don't think it would work anyway, even if I managed by some miracle to get him to go. He admits his sex drive is lower than the normal guy, but he doesn't think it's a problem. He has low testosterone, so sex is non-existent when he's not using his patches, and barely existent even when he is. He doesn't believe sex is the most important thing -- and I disagree -- I feel it's as equally important as other elements of a relationship. He knows how I feel because I've told him. I don't talk to him about it anymore because if I do, he accuses me of keeping track. He also knows how I feel about porn.....again, he doesn't think he has a problem with this and doesn't understand why I do. I don't have a problem w/porn in general -- I like it, in small amounts, and I understand most guys do. I've had boyfriends before who would look at a magazine, watch a video here and there......but never every single day. I've never had a boyfriend who would refuse to make love to me, but then watch porn and go jerk off in the shower. I told him this, too -- but he still thinks I'm making a big deal of it.

Anyway....for now I'm taking care of me -- my weight I mean, and getting healthy. I'm giving it two more years for when my son graduates high school, and then I can afford a 2 bedroom apartment for me and my daughter. If things haven't gotten better, I'm moving on. I want a man who wants me and has no problem showing me that he does.

It's been almost 3 yrs since intercourse for me, and the only reason he agreed that night was because I agreed to have another baby. Unfortunately for me I got pregnant on the first try.

Before that it'd been 2 yrs.

I've just come to the conclusion my husband will never find me attractive again because I "cut him off" of the swinging scene once I got pregnant with our daughter 10 yrs ago. He's always been addicted to online p0rn but it wasn't until my first pregnancy that he just completely shut me out.

So I feel for you gals -- massive libido here -- but after the first few years you get numb to it. And that's why I threw out my romance novels, too...out of sight, out of mind, right?

It's been almost 3 yrs since intercourse for me, and the only reason he agreed that night was because I agreed to have another baby. Unfortunately for me I got pregnant on the first try.

Before that it'd been 2 yrs.

I've just come to the conclusion my husband will never find me attractive again because I "cut him off" of the swinging scene once I got pregnant with our daughter 10 yrs ago. He's always been addicted to online p0rn but it wasn't until my first pregnancy that he just completely shut me out.

So I feel for you gals -- massive libido here -- but after the first few years you get numb to it. And that's why I threw out my romance novels, too...out of sight, out of mind, right?

Honey, don't want to be harsh on you, but your man is gay or has smb else. 3 years no sex? i'd had a lover by now, or divorced.

Not gay. He's addicted to online p0rn so he gets his "kicks" that way. He did get into an "emotional" affair with a woman from the UK (nothing physical) which lasted a few years and I think he resents that I made him give it up.

And frankly, if it weren't for my health issues and that he's a good dad (tho lousy husband) I would be divorced. As for the lover part, let's see what happens after I lose this weight! :devil: