Friends who don't exercise?
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You know, the attitude in here really rankles.
I didn't say I'm afraid of going to the gym. I didn't even say the OP is afraid of going to the gym. I just said that it is possible to be a decent human being instead of part of an insensitive crowd of bullies who gang up on a newbie to the forum by calling her lazy, wrong, full of excuses, and then taking to task anyone who tries to actually offer her some encouragement or helpful advice.
OP, you took a big step by joining. Welcome! Not everyone here is a jerk, I promise.
I firmly believe in changing habits a few at a time, to make something work for your life. So if you're starting off by changing your eating habits, GREAT. That's more than you did yesterday. Congrats, and that's awesome!
I suspect that, with time, you'll naturally add more exercise -- of some form or another -- to your routine. Not only will you feel better, but you'll want to be able to eat more food, too! And eating back exercise calories will definitely help keep that going.
But please don't be discouraged by the people who imply that you're either a gym rat or a failure. There are LOADS of ways to get exercise into your day, some involving the gym, some not. Over time, you'll find what works best for you.
Congrats on taking the step. Wishing you much luck with your program.-4 -
You know, the attitude in here really rankles.
I didn't say I'm afraid of going to the gym. I didn't even say the OP is afraid of going to the gym. I just said that it is possible to be a decent human being instead of part of an insensitive crowd of bullies who gang up on a newbie to the forum by calling her lazy, wrong, full of excuses, and then taking to task anyone who tries to actually offer her some encouragement or helpful advice.
OP, you took a big step by joining. Welcome! Not everyone here is a jerk, I promise.
I firmly believe in changing habits a few at a time, to make something work for your life. So if you're starting off by changing your eating habits, GREAT. That's more than you did yesterday. Congrats, and that's awesome!
I suspect that, with time, you'll naturally add more exercise -- of some form or another -- to your routine. Not only will you feel better, but you'll want to be able to eat more food, too! And eating back exercise calories will definitely help keep that going.
But please don't be discouraged by the people who imply that you're either a gym rat or a failure. There are LOADS of ways to get exercise into your day, some involving the gym, some not. Over time, you'll find what works best for you.
Congrats on taking the step. Wishing you much luck with your program.
I don't know who flagged you. But thank you so much for your kind words. It's hard to even start, I figured I'd just be fat forever. But since I began and lost 6 pounds I feel a bit better about my own abilities. I'm so looking forward to not being fat anymore!0 -
You know, the attitude in here really rankles.
I didn't say I'm afraid of going to the gym. I didn't even say the OP is afraid of going to the gym. I just said that it is possible to be a decent human being instead of part of an insensitive crowd of bullies who gang up on a newbie to the forum by calling her lazy, wrong, full of excuses, and then taking to task anyone who tries to actually offer her some encouragement or helpful advice.
OP, you took a big step by joining. Welcome! Not everyone here is a jerk, I promise.
I firmly believe in changing habits a few at a time, to make something work for your life. So if you're starting off by changing your eating habits, GREAT. That's more than you did yesterday. Congrats, and that's awesome!
I suspect that, with time, you'll naturally add more exercise -- of some form or another -- to your routine. Not only will you feel better, but you'll want to be able to eat more food, too! And eating back exercise calories will definitely help keep that going.
But please don't be discouraged by the people who imply that you're either a gym rat or a failure. There are LOADS of ways to get exercise into your day, some involving the gym, some not. Over time, you'll find what works best for you.
Congrats on taking the step. Wishing you much luck with your program.
Show me the bullying. Cripes.
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malavika413 wrote: »I don't know who flagged you. But thank you so much for your kind words. It's hard to even start, I figured I'd just be fat forever. But since I began and lost 6 pounds I feel a bit better about my own abilities. I'm so looking forward to not being fat anymore!
One day at a time, one step at a time.
And some folks'll flag anything. Seriously, don't worry about 'em.0 -
Speaking as an older woman, I want to be pretty still. So if you also want to be a young -looking older woman start now. Its like facial cream if you start at 40 it's not as effective as if you started at 23 taking care of your skin.. Exercise is a lot more than working out it also keeps your heart working well so you'll live longer, your skin will look better longer and it reduces stress. It also allows you to eat more and just enjoy life more. During the holidays when everyone else is cutting back I'm going to enjoy myself. Try to find something you enjoy and try it.. you'll thank me 20 years from now.0
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Be my friend i don't want to exercise lol But, for me i have to do it to stay alive. But i love people like you who hate it. Your post cracked me up.0
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My daughter was just like you, lose a few pounds no exercise. She did it....lost a tremendous amount of weight with no exercise. Now she wants to tone...but not with "exercise" she took a few free yoga classes.....then one day decided to try one in the morning before work....she's hooked now. Same with me, I hate exercise. But walking now...that's a whole different matter. Now I can run a bit, a minute here and minute there. And now I'm hooked. Pushing myself to do better. Once you lose some weight ...you may not like or want to exercise, but I bet it will creep up on you slowly and before you know it, it's got you in it's clutches.0
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I am certainly not a die-hard exercise fanatic. In fact, I would much prefer to lie around on the sofa and read books, knit and surf the internet. I also do not enjoy paying bills, fixing crap around the house, and brushing my dog's teeth. But I do all of those things, much to the dismay of my dog. To make my life more enjoyable, I joined Angie's List to keep my home in order, set up on-line bill paying, and found exercises that I do not mind: strength training apps on my iPad that I don't mind, youtube routines on my fitness ball, cruising the Phoenix canals on my bike, and jumping around on my rebounder.
I hope to live a long life, full of energy until the end. Sure you can get away without exercising or doing any of those other things for a good long while, but eventually it will catch up with you. Learn early in life to find meaning in what's good for you.0 -
LyndseyLovesToLift wrote: »But...but....exercise means you get to eat more. Therefore, exercise = awesome. Sure, you can lose weight without exercise, but I don't know who would feel good after sitting on their butt all day.
Considering this is MyFITNESSPal, I'd say most of us exercise. Perhaps on the WeightWatcher or Atkins forums...
Exercising so a person can eat more has never made sense to me, because it still supports that " eat as much as you can " lifestyle. I exercise moderately to improve my health and for me that does not include eating more ( not even my exercise calories ) just because I can and the food is there.
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SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »I don't exercise. I don't believe you have too. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to exercise. We have similar stats. Height: 158cm/5'2 or 5'3, Im not sure how the US system works. SW:60kg/132lb CW:58kg/137.6lb GW:50 kg/110lbmalavika413 wrote: »I'm a 5'3, 145 pound college student looking to be anywhere from 115-125 pounds (whatever looks best). I hate exercise and I don't have the time or energy to work it into my schedule. It seems I'm always surrounded by powerlifters, crossfitters, etc. I'm looking for friends who, like me, don't exercise (for whatever reason).
Unless one is in a vegetative state, one has the "luxury" of being able to exercise...
lol. Me personally I'm sick so its not easy for me to exercise, I also have school and other things to worry about. I do the little exercises my body can handle but I wouldn't call it working out. I used to be a dancer for 10 years and extremely active. My body is no longer able to do those things. I do not think that on my 'health' journey, people should shame me for not working out. At least I am eating healthier than before and doing something really.0 -
I don't exercise as far as the gym junkies are concerned, the whole thought of a sweaty gym grosses me out but I do walk outside in the sunshine 2 or 3 times a day for between 40-60 minutes. I do it as part of getting to/ from work. Get a fitbit or similar, you'd be surprised how many steps you tally up just doing day to day stuff. Aim for 10,000 steps a day. There are others out there who aren't fans of exercise don't give up.0
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I don't exercise. I don't believe you have too. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to exercise. We have similar stats. Height: 158cm/5'2 or 5'3, Im not sure how the US system works. SW:60kg/132lb CW:58kg/137.6lb GW:50 kg/110lbmalavika413 wrote: »I'm a 5'3, 145 pound college student looking to be anywhere from 115-125 pounds (whatever looks best). I hate exercise and I don't have the time or energy to work it into my schedule. It seems I'm always surrounded by powerlifters, crossfitters, etc. I'm looking for friends who, like me, don't exercise (for whatever reason).
Luxury to exercise? What's got you so busy?
I'm busy managing school + a disease. Let me add that I exercise when I can which is rarely. I usually go for a walk/run once a week for 20 minutes and also do some light exercises + stretches in my room This is all I can afford to do with the way things are. I refuse to give up on my weight loss goals simply because people are telling me that my diet is no good without exercise.
I do what I can and right now it is healthy eating.
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Everyone agrees you dont have to, but you should be aware of the benefits it provides to helping you lose weight and wider health benefits before talking yourself out of doing any. The site is called my FITNESS pal. Calling it a luxury is odd, unless ofc you are physically disabled or have other medical reasons. Walking is a popular form of exercise, which requires no equipment or money.
I just don't feel its anybodies position to bully others into exercising period. I didn't come here to defend my position but to better my self. Also, the few times I do exercise I will be doing it for health reasons and not for weight loss as I do not believe exercise to lead to weight loss because I was a very fit dancer before but also a bit overweight.
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malavika413 wrote: »malavika413 wrote: »LiveLaughLoveEat1 wrote: »malavika413 wrote: »SonicDeathMonkey80 wrote: »LiveLaughLoveEat1 wrote: »
Nobody name called. Whoever flagged you for that is abusing the system. I was trying to make a point and get the OP thinking about the implications of connecting with friends who are not striving to become the best version of themselves.Therealobi1 wrote: »The person who resulted to name calling, well forget them, but i think i can understand what @50sfit is saying but for me it could have been worded better.
Can i ask why you dont exercise? you may regret it later. check out the posts of people who lost the weight and still unhappy with their bods afterwards.
Who name called?
Worry not; we all have opinions. I welcome them agree or disagree.
Actually someone did and the post is now faded out. They called the OP an idiot. Now, I wouldn't call her an "idiot"...she just needs to get her priorities straight if she wants a healthy lifestyle. She's still young so there's hope yet (doubtful but I'm optomistic)
I'm not so doubtful. At 19 years old I didn't care about fitness, either. It didn't really hit me until my late 20s. People think they are invincible at 19. Part of growing up.
Ditto. Totally regret not getting onboard in my 20s. Live and learn
I don't think fitness is something I'm going to grow into. My family doesn't exercise at all. I've been brought up to prioritize other things. Kudos to all of you for making the choice to exercise, but it's not for me.
one word...LAZY!
Sure, maybe I'm lazy. I've chosen to challenge myself in different areas, exercise isn't one of them. It's just a different lifestyle.
Just throwing it out there, because you continue to say you challenge yourself in other areas...
So do I. I have a full-time demanding career, I just finished my MBA, I have friends I love and family that live nearby. I have a house to maintain all by myself. I'm dating. I have pets. The list goes on and on. You aren't any busier than anyone else. Trust me.
I'm not saying I'm any busier than anyone else. I know lots of y'all have full time jobs, a brood of kids, etc. I am just not interested in exercise. I find it unpleasant and a drain on my self esteem.
I'm surprised by you saying you find exercise unpleasant and a drain on self esteem. Not trying to psychoanalyze (well, maybe a little) but there may be something deeper at play here. I don't think I've ever heard someone say the regreted exercising. Like, ever. Maybe disappointed that a goal wasn't reached, but never regretful. I think you are really selling yourself short. Being skinny but unhealthy... I don't know, is it worth it? I have some extra pounds, but I guarantee I have a strong heart and body, despite Type 1 diabetes. You will likely very much regret your decision in the future, but by then, it'll be too late. Trust those older than you. We've been there. We're not just blowing smoke. Promise.
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Calliope610 wrote: »OP, Print out this thread, put it in a safe place. Take it out in 30 years and read all the responses. When you are 50ish and bemoaning the fact that you have assorted aches, pains and maladies associated with "getting older", you will rue the day you 'pooh-poohed" the idea of exercise.
Meh,I'm already 50ish and I don't have aches and pains or any maladies and I only do light exercise like walking and dog training.
I don't rue my lack of 'real' excercise and I have no intentions of joining a gym or similar - I don't need excuses, I'm just not doing it because I don't want to and I choose not to.
Same with OP. If she doesn't want to, that's fine. If she is not overweight there is no increased risk of diabetes by not joining gyms.
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Everyone agrees you dont have to, but you should be aware of the benefits it provides to helping you lose weight and wider health benefits before talking yourself out of doing any. The site is called my FITNESS pal. Calling it a luxury is odd, unless ofc you are physically disabled or have other medical reasons. Walking is a popular form of exercise, which requires no equipment or money.
I just don't feel its anybodies position to bully others into exercising period. I didn't come here to defend my position but to better my self. Also, the few times I do exercise I will be doing it for health reasons and not for weight loss as I do not believe exercise to lead to weight loss because I was a very fit dancer before but also a bit overweight.
No one is being bullied here. People are actually trying to help the op.
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paperpudding wrote: »Calliope610 wrote: »OP, Print out this thread, put it in a safe place. Take it out in 30 years and read all the responses. When you are 50ish and bemoaning the fact that you have assorted aches, pains and maladies associated with "getting older", you will rue the day you 'pooh-poohed" the idea of exercise.
Meh,I'm already 50ish and I don't have aches and pains or any maladies and I only do light exercise like walking and dog training.
I don't rue my lack of 'real' excercise and I have no intentions of joining a gym or similar - I don't need excuses, I'm just not doing it because I don't want to and I choose not to.
Same with OP. If she doesn't want to, that's fine. If she is not overweight there is no increased risk of diabetes by not joining gyms.
Walking is exercise and you don't have to join a gym I certainly haven't
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Do you know why I have chosen for years not to exercise? Because of anxiety. Do you know where this anxiety came from? My family laughing at me, cracking jokes at me about how my fat jiggled when I was 8. Have any one of you that have dogged her anxiety ever considered that something like that happened? To this day I still hate exercise. I have numerous back issues. My doc has cleared me to do nothing but ride a stationary bike and I can't start doing that until three days after I have a procedure done on my back. I plan start hard core into this life style change then. Until then ciao!0
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You know, the attitude in here really rankles.
I didn't say I'm afraid of going to the gym. I didn't even say the OP is afraid of going to the gym. I just said that it is possible to be a decent human being instead of part of an insensitive crowd of bullies who gang up on a newbie to the forum by calling her lazy, wrong, full of excuses, and then taking to task anyone who tries to actually offer her some encouragement or helpful advice.
OP, you took a big step by joining. Welcome! Not everyone here is a jerk, I promise.
I firmly believe in changing habits a few at a time, to make something work for your life. So if you're starting off by changing your eating habits, GREAT. That's more than you did yesterday. Congrats, and that's awesome!
I suspect that, with time, you'll naturally add more exercise -- of some form or another -- to your routine. Not only will you feel better, but you'll want to be able to eat more food, too! And eating back exercise calories will definitely help keep that going.
But please don't be discouraged by the people who imply that you're either a gym rat or a failure. There are LOADS of ways to get exercise into your day, some involving the gym, some not. Over time, you'll find what works best for you.
Congrats on taking the step. Wishing you much luck with your program.
Just going to come out and ask what the heck is up with this post? I can't tell why you are treating her like she is a little wet puppy who needs to be dried off and fed. She doesn't need you to be a mother figure defending her from every reality of life. She is an adult and she is getting real advice from people who've gone through exactly what she is experiencing.
What a shame it is how you talk to her.
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tidefan1784 wrote: »Do you know why I have chosen for years not to exercise? Because of anxiety. Do you know where this anxiety came from? My family laughing at me, cracking jokes at me about how my fat jiggled when I was 8. Have any one of you that have dogged her anxiety ever considered that something like that happened? To this day I still hate exercise. I have numerous back issues. My doc has cleared me to do nothing but ride a stationary bike and I can't start doing that until three days after I have a procedure done on my back. I plan start hard core into this life style change then. Until then ciao!
I can understand anxiety as I have a fear of speaking in public. Fear of forgetting what to say and what people think so this is something I need to work on. The thought of face to face presentation makes me feel sick. A colleague said she would help me with that
In terms of people laughing at me doing the wrong moves in zumba or looking a right plonker learning how to ride a bike in a busy lonDon park I honestly couldn't care less as none of them knew me. Really strange considering what I just said above.
Help is what is needed in this situition not avoidance
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Therealobi1 wrote: »tidefan1784 wrote: »Do you know why I have chosen for years not to exercise? Because of anxiety. Do you know where this anxiety came from? My family laughing at me, cracking jokes at me about how my fat jiggled when I was 8. Have any one of you that have dogged her anxiety ever considered that something like that happened? To this day I still hate exercise. I have numerous back issues. My doc has cleared me to do nothing but ride a stationary bike and I can't start doing that until three days after I have a procedure done on my back. I plan start hard core into this life style change then. Until then ciao!
I can understand anxiety as I have a fear of speaking in public. Fear of forgetting what to say and what people think so this is something I need to work on. The thought of face to face presentation makes me feel sick. A colleague said she would help me with that
In terms of people laughing at me doing the wrong moves in zumba or looking a right plonker learning how to ride a bike in a busy lonDon park I honestly couldn't care less as none of them knew me.
Help is what is needed in this situition not avoidance
I have had awful anxiety in my past. I blew potential relationships. I blew academic opportunities. I had the confidence of an overcooked baby carrot.
I threw myself out there when I was in my early 20's and said, "**** it." I tanked with women, I tanked with athletics, I screwed up academically. I put myself in every awkward position possible. I put myself in every challenge possible. I needed to fix my problems.
I used to have my friends sign me up for karaoke in the student union and not tell me what song I would be singing. I'd then have to go up in front of everyone in the building and sing a completely ridiculous song right on the spot. I used to go into the gym with my 250 pound man boobs and play basketball against kids who spent their whole life playing. I would bench press next to D1 football players and look like a complete wimp. I went to parties and I talked to girls that were, "out of my league" and often failed miserably. I did everything possible to put myself in stressful social situations just to see how I could deal with it.
It was a comical mess from an outsiders perspective. But now? I am happy I did it.
Edited fact: You never realize Hotel California is a 7 minute song until you have to sing it in front of people. There is like a 3 minute guitar solo that is honestly the most awkward part of any song ever. I literally just stood there and looked at people...My friends will never forget it. The first song I ever song was this one and it was the funniest disaster of my life:
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Hey! I go to Uni too and I started my weight loss without exercising at all. I literally just watched what I ate and dropped pounds quickly. Soon after I lost, maybe 65% of the weight I wanted, I joined barre classes for toning. I'm so glad I did! My butt looks amazing and I'm so toned I realized that if I had just lost the weight without exercising I would have looked really crappy. I know that school gets in the way but I'm SO happy I decided to exercise. I have a full class of schedule and a part time job, but exercising became a source of stress relief for me too. Have you tried barre classes? They don't make you sweat or anything, and it's pretty girly and fun. If you think about it, an hour of your day isn't that long, and it's so worth it. Trust me, I hated exercising too. I hate running, I hate sweating. Maybe yoga even? But I would stick to just weight loss via diet, that's how I did most of my weight loss to begin with. Track your calories and you'll do great Good luck. Let me know if I can help 0
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I s2g I thought the OP was just here looking for like-minded folks to befriend, and not people who can't seem to catch on that she ain't feeling the exercise flow...
Personally, I hate "exercise." It's totally boring, and I am never gonna join a gym. I mean, I could just buy the equipment to have at home. It's awful trying to work out in public. But, I do like actually being active. I like walking a lot, because I usually end up at some place where I get to do a thing. I noticed around me that some people are so lazy they'd rather waste gas on a distance they could have just walked...and I realized I don't want to ever get THAT bad.
I guess you could call what I do like doing exercise, but I call it having fun. Playing tennis is number one - I haven't done it in ages (nobody to do it with, see aforementioned lazy folks). I like ping pong, tossing/kicking balls, touring places...anything that allows me to get out and enjoy the environment and doesn't have the typical "exercise" feel to it is cool. Even shopping and going to work. And if it's competitive (like tennis), I will probably get a bit crazy about it, lol.
I think it's fine if you don't like exercise and don't want to do it. You're aware of the risks/consequences and you'll deal with them however you see fit. It's not mine or anyone else's job to force you to change your views.0 -
Ditto as porscheMD!!
I lost 30lbs without exercise...since i was working and had a 10 month baby. But then after losing weight, my skin was flabby. So i joined the gym before 3 weeks only. My weight loss is the same (1lbs per week) but i lost inches very quickly!! and my old clothes are fitting now much better!
I took out 1 hour time for gym and that's a good thing i did.. You can do it the fun way by joining a zumba class - dance and workout !0 -
Hi! It still depends on you if you don't want to add exercise on your everyday activity. I'm like that before, but i have to control my weight coz when you get old it'll be hard to lose weight. Also, exercise is beneficial to health as it combats a lot of health conditions and diseases. When it comes to energy, well exercise boost it and it even improves your mood. There's a lot of things you can incorporate with exercise that you can enjoy. Tag a friend along.0
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OP, I'm reading some of the comments on here, and as an "older person", I can tell you that they are right. However, we all have to live our own lives and learn as we go. We've all made mistakes, and tried to correct them later, or regreted a bad decision. That's just human. I wish you well with your weight loss, and hope you have a sucess story for us in the future. 0
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malavika413 wrote: »...Exercise makes me feel so much worse about myself than I feel on any given day. It makes my depression and social anxiety so much worse...
OP this part of your story makes me sad. What have you tried that made you feel worse? In general, exercise releases endorphins - the hormones that make us feel good. That's why so many people say they get a "high" from running, etc. and why doctors recommend people with depression get at least a little physical activity each day. If you're putting yourself in situations where you feel self-conscious, try doing something in the privacy of your own home.
I'll be honest. I don't like exercise just for its own sake, so I kind of see your point of view. Some days I have to make myself get up and move. I know I'll never run a 5K, much less a marathon. But I know that to keep healthy over my lifetime, I need to do some weight-bearing movement each day. The key is to find what you like. I like riding a bicycle, going for a walk, doing yoga and pilates, and dancing in the living room (not all on the same day) 
. I hate gyms. I don't lift weights. Some days I simply take the stairs instead of the elevator. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to do anything, so I just stand up and do 10 jumping jacks so I feel like I wasn't a slug the entire day. 
Don't give up completely on exercise. Keep walking around campus and from time to time, try new things and see what you like. I am sure you'll find something you can add in over time. And do print this thread to save and read 20 years down the road. Probably won't change how you behave today, but you'll be able to look back and see how much you've grown.
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