Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Haha then I'm not a normal woman!!10ecmuscle wrote: »I think of sex 99.9999% of the day. My confession
This is pretty normal for men, I do to, and it's not so normal for a woman.
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As a man, I don't think about sex all the time, 3-4 hours a week I'm playing Destiny on my Xbox One.0
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Women totally think about sex I think just as much if not more than men, we just don't always verbalize those thoughts!
Confession: I'm confident to the point of cockiness and I have to tone myself down a lot- I enjoy attention and I love talkingb
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really pissed off I only have 7 calories left for the day & I'm hungry as hell, been hungry this whole week, despite working outin treats in the allotted calories. I think it's time for a cheat meal & not the kind that fits into daily, not even weekly calories.
maybe the weekend warrior activities will help, but still. so close to goal weight (1.7 kg) and feeling a defeated and lacking in motivation 
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Justygirl77 wrote: »
Haha then I'm not a normal woman!!10ecmuscle wrote: »I think of sex 99.9999% of the day. My confession
This is pretty normal for men, I do to, and it's not so normal for a woman.
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berlynnwall wrote: »Justygirl77 wrote: »
Haha then I'm not a normal woman!!10ecmuscle wrote: »I think of sex 99.9999% of the day. My confession
This is pretty normal for men, I do to, and it's not so normal for a woman.
See!
Thank you all for making me feel a lot more normal!0 -
VictoryinJesus927 wrote: »My biggest foe with food is the following:
I am an emotional eater.
I went through a really nasty divorce 9 years ago. It started while I was pregnant with my second (and last child). Eventually, through bad circumstances, I had to sign my kids over to my (now) ex-husband. I was too sick to be able to keep fighting for them. Now, I still blame myself. I usually stay in bed on Mother's Day, at Christmas and on their birthdays. I have major guilt feelings, like I should have continued to fight, even though I physically couldn't at the time. A lot of times at night, while my husband is at work, I feel it the most. This is when I tend to give in the most, when I CRAVE the bad foods - because it is going to make me not feel so bad. (Or so I think) I don't give in as much as I used to, but it is more than I want to, by far!
That is a beautiful dress! I'm so sorry to hear about your physical and emotional struggles. I hope you still have contact with your children. Keep in mind that young children cannot understand a lot of "grown up" things until they reach that age, so don't beat yourself up. They will understand why you did what you did when they get older.
I couldn't believe the difference in my kids from the teenage years to their early 20"s. It was like they all became these brand new people: adults I could have adult conversations with. They have all at various times surprised me by saying, "Hey remember X and I was mad at you for it? I get it now.". Of course, this means they too need to go through the emotions of relationships to understand (both good and bad). But that is all part of growing up.0 -
My confession: I live vicariously through the people in this forum, because I have no physical friends. It's like watching the group of cool kids in the playground back when I was at school.
I understand this one too. I have like two friends and then my family. That was why I was so afraid to join in here. I never feel like I fit in anywhere.
Thankfully everyone here has been really nice.
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That's sad - I hope you're able to stay in touch with your kids through phone, letters, email, Skype etc. It will be so important to them that you stay in their lives.VictoryinJesus927 wrote: »My biggest foe with food is the following:
I am an emotional eater.
I went through a really nasty divorce 9 years ago. It started while I was pregnant with my second (and last child). Eventually, through bad circumstances, I had to sign my kids over to my (now) ex-husband. I was too sick to be able to keep fighting for them. Now, I still blame myself. I usually stay in bed on Mother's Day, at Christmas and on their birthdays. I have major guilt feelings, like I should have continued to fight, even though I physically couldn't at the time. A lot of times at night, while my husband is at work, I feel it the most. This is when I tend to give in the most, when I CRAVE the bad foods - because it is going to make me not feel so bad. (Or so I think) I don't give in as much as I used to, but it is more than I want to, by far!
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confession:
(and this ties in to the past 2 or 3 topics in this thread somehow)
I used to be pretty judgmental of people with mental health issues. I'd dismiss it as weakness or attention seeking. Then about 2 years ago I started having panic attacks and anxiety. Fought it for a long time, tried to "fix" it on my own, nothing worked. Finally got help. Very humbling experience to say the least.
Was also drinking quite heavily during this time. Knocking on the door of full-blown alcoholism. I think the anxiety and panic attacks were correlated to the drinking but I'm not which came first. Anyway after getting help the desire to drink really dropped off. Every once in a while I want to have a casual drink like everyone else but I don't trust myself. It might be fine, or I might spiral out of control and right now I'm not willing to take that risk. Drinking heavily, at least for me, was symptomatic of deeper issues I had been harboring.
It all stems back to childhood I really believe that now. I didn't have that bad of childhood but for one aspect and it had a drastic effect on me without my realizing it until recently. I'll confess more on that later don't have the time now...
Oh, and I used to be one of those who thought about sex constantly but after seeking help they put me on an anti-depressant (one more thing I used to not "believe in" doing until it effected me). It has really helped me a lot, but one side effect is it has pretty much killed my libido. I don't necessarily mind it and in fact find it strangely liberating. I can focus my thoughts on more productive things and feel more in control of my mind and body.
Not a confession, but I highly recommend the book "Always the fat kid" - felt like I was reading my own biography and it really helped me understand myself.
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I eat a two spoonfuls of Ben&Jerrys "everything but the" ice cream every night after my workouts0
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My confession: I live vicariously through the people in this forum, because I have no physical friends. It's like watching the group of cool kids in the playground back when I was at school.
I understand this one too. I have like two friends and then my family. That was why I was so afraid to join in here. I never feel like I fit in anywhere.
Thankfully everyone here has been really nice.
Everyone is nice on this thread at least. I've gotten my head nearly chopped off for stating an opinion once. I held my own but those vultures were coming at me. lmao. I found it quite amusing actually. How people can get so crazy and defensive on a message board with complete strangers is quite the laugh.0 -
I couldn't believe the difference in my kids from the teenage years to their early 20"s. It was like they all became these brand new people: adults I could have adult conversations with. They have all at various times surprised me by saying, "Hey remember X and I was mad at you for it? I get it now.". Of course, this means they too need to go through the emotions of relationships to understand (both good and bad). But that is all part of growing up.
I'm 24 and I understand this from their perspective. I'm able to talk with my mom now about those teen years and I see things more clearly about how I've matured since high school.
Confession: I only really have one girl who I consider my friend around here. The rest are all online. Haven't seen her since July. She lives 15 minutes away, but I don't drive and she has a kid and she has a 40-minute commute to her work, so she's always busy. We bought Christmas presents for each other and we haven't had the chance to get together. I feel like we don't really relate to each other anymore. She's most likely moving soon to be closer to her job and I'm pretending to be happy for her, but my only real friendship will basically be ending when it happens. It makes me feel lost. I haven't really had any friends since I was 16. I've let myself miss out on so much.0 -
berlynnwall wrote: »Confession: Back before things got out of hand I bought all of Carmen Electra's Fit to Strip exercise videos. I still have them. I wont do them now though, because I feel ridic. being so big and doing those dancer moves.
I used those dvds to learn how to be a stripper when I moved to san francisco and could not find another job that would let me support myself realistically. That was the only time in my life when I had an amazing body.0 -
Can I just say that I love you people? This thread has been hilarious, and healing, and cathartic.
I've been having a stupid couple of weeks. My toddler has been working through a never ending stomach bug, and it's been all wiping butts and soiled laundry over here. I was sick too. We're driving 5 hours away and back this weekend to visit my husband's sister, and I'm just dreading that much car time after so many poor nights of sleep. My husband has been working a side job, so I haven't seen him all week. I'm just tired, and depressed, and GRUMPY. I hate everything right now.
Except you guys.
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Can I just say that I love you people? This thread has been hilarious, and healing, and cathartic.
I've been having a stupid couple of weeks. My toddler has been working through a never ending stomach bug, and it's been all wiping butts and soiled laundry over here. I was sick too. We're driving 5 hours away and back this weekend to visit my husband's sister, and I'm just dreading that much car time after so many poor nights of sleep. My husband has been working a side job, so I haven't seen him all week. I'm just tired, and depressed, and GRUMPY. I hate everything right now.
Except you guys.
Awwww! I want to come do something nice for you, like babysit for a couple hours or clean your kitchen. What a rough week.
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Phew. It's not just me, lol.My confession: I live vicariously through the people in this forum, because I have no physical friends. It's like watching the group of cool kids in the playground back when I was at school.
I don't really have friends either. There's another mom I get along pretty well with but we only see each other on the rare days she picks up her kids... but I've been so disappointed by friendships in the past, I don't actually care. Well, except when people talk about going out with their friends and post all the pictures and it makes me feel very lonely. But I haven't had a close friend since my first marriage 15 years ago.
I have two close friends, but I only see them every few months because they are always so busy.
I don't have any friends or people in my life with similar interests. My gym partner will workout with me, but only once or twice a week and doesn't take it as seriously as me. I'd like to go hiking/biking and travel to different places to do those things, but if I ask anyone to go for a walk they look at me like I grew a second head. I also suck at making new friends due to my social awkwardness.
My confession: I am scared to date or even try to approach someone I find attractive because I assume their reaction will be "ewwww". And I also feel that I am not attractive or good enough to even deserve to have someone love me. It makes me sad that I feel this way, but I don't know how to change it.
I don't have any tips to try to help you change this thinking, but all I can tell you is that is not at ALL how I perceive you just from your posts here! You seem very confident and like a lot of fun. I hope you can change that mindset because you DO deserve to be loved and appreciated for who you are.
I was actually on my way back to delete this because I felt like I was throwing myself a pity party.
As for seeming confident here, that's the power of anonymity
I have zero self confidence around the opposite sex. I don't know why, I've never been rejected with an "ewww, gross" so I suppose it's just because that's how I can view myself so I think others do too.
And the not deserving part, I was in a relationship last year and this guy was (seemed) amazing. He was so good to me and made me feel really good about myself (no small feat). I found myself thinking "what makes me so special that I would deserve something this good?". And then when he broke up with me it just kind of cemented the thinking that I don't deserve it (even though he had a totally bogus reason for dumping me).
Well that sucks. I know it doesn't seem like it, but you dodged a bullet there! Good thing you didn't waste too much time on him since he obviously turned out to be wrong for you. Do you think he told you the truth as to why he broke up with you or was he trying to cover up or hide something? Totally nosy on my part. I understand if you don't want to disclose any more info. Either way, use this as a learning experience and move on.
Nope, definitely not, since he accused me of cheating on him. And when I tried to talk to him about it he basically thought I was just trying to figure out how I "got caught". I did not cheat, and he had nothing to support his accusations, which is why he wouldn't tell me how he "knew". (In case anyone's wondering, he's the one I sometimes imagine punching & kicking when I work out).
I know I dodged a bullet, but it sucks because things had been amazing up until that point, and we were really great together before his craziness surfaced.0 -
I have eaten everything I packed today and seriously thinking about heading down to the cafeteria for chips and/or chocolate.0
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... double post, MFP blip...
Phew. It's not just me, lol.My confession: I live vicariously through the people in this forum, because I have no physical friends. It's like watching the group of cool kids in the playground back when I was at school.
I don't really have friends either. There's another mom I get along pretty well with but we only see each other on the rare days she picks up her kids... but I've been so disappointed by friendships in the past, I don't actually care. Well, except when people talk about going out with their friends and post all the pictures and it makes me feel very lonely. But I haven't had a close friend since my first marriage 15 years ago.
I have two close friends, but I only see them every few months because they are always so busy.
I don't have any friends or people in my life with similar interests. My gym partner will workout with me, but only once or twice a week and doesn't take it as seriously as me. I'd like to go hiking/biking and travel to different places to do those things, but if I ask anyone to go for a walk they look at me like I grew a second head. I also suck at making new friends due to my social awkwardness.
My confession: I am scared to date or even try to approach someone I find attractive because I assume their reaction will be "ewwww". And I also feel that I am not attractive or good enough to even deserve to have someone love me. It makes me sad that I feel this way, but I don't know how to change it.
I don't have any tips to try to help you change this thinking, but all I can tell you is that is not at ALL how I perceive you just from your posts here! You seem very confident and like a lot of fun. I hope you can change that mindset because you DO deserve to be loved and appreciated for who you are.
I was actually on my way back to delete this because I felt like I was throwing myself a pity party.
As for seeming confident here, that's the power of anonymity I have zero self confidence around the opposite sex. I don't know why, I've never been rejected with an "ewww, gross" so I suppose it's just because that's how I can view myself so I think others do too.
And the not deserving part, I was in a relationship last year and this guy was (seemed) amazing. He was so good to me and made me feel really good about myself (no small feat). I found myself thinking "what makes me so special that I would deserve something this good?". And then when he broke up with me it just kind of cemented the thinking that I don't deserve it (even though he had a totally bogus reason for dumping me).
Well that sucks. I know it doesn't seem like it, but you dodged a bullet there! Good thing you didn't waste too much time on him since he obviously turned out to be wrong for you. Do you think he told you the truth as to why he broke up with you or was he trying to cover up or hide something? Totally nosy on my part. I understand if you don't want to disclose any more info. Either way, use this as a learning experience and move on.
Nope, definitely not, since he accused me of cheating on him. And when I tried to talk to him about it he basically thought I was just trying to figure out how I "got caught". I did not cheat, and he had nothing to support his accusations, which is why he wouldn't tell me how he "knew". (In case anyone's wondering, he's the one I sometimes imagine punching & kicking when I work out).
I know I dodged a bullet, but it sucks because things had been amazing up until that point, and we were really great together before his craziness surfaced.
That makes me think he was projecting his problems onto you and that he was actually the one cheating. Could be wrong...0 -
I'm really impressed by your honesty. I hope you're feeling better about yourself these days. I'm with you about not really understanding much about mental illness when you've always been fine yourself. My 19 year-old daughter has recently been diagnosed with depression, and I'm still struggling with the idea that it may NOT have been caused by her low iron levels, but may actually be a serious condition.fellowtraveler87 wrote: »confession:
(and this ties in to the past 2 or 3 topics in this thread somehow)
I used to be pretty judgmental of people with mental health issues. I'd dismiss it as weakness or attention seeking. Then about 2 years ago I started having panic attacks and anxiety. Fought it for a long time, tried to "fix" it on my own, nothing worked. Finally got help. Very humbling experience to say the least.
Was also drinking quite heavily during this time. Knocking on the door of full-blown alcoholism. I think the anxiety and panic attacks were correlated to the drinking but I'm not which came first. Anyway after getting help the desire to drink really dropped off. Every once in a while I want to have a casual drink like everyone else but I don't trust myself. It might be fine, or I might spiral out of control and right now I'm not willing to take that risk. Drinking heavily, at least for me, was symptomatic of deeper issues I had been harboring.
It all stems back to childhood I really believe that now. I didn't have that bad of childhood but for one aspect and it had a drastic effect on me without my realizing it until recently. I'll confess more on that later don't have the time now...
Oh, and I used to be one of those who thought about sex constantly but after seeking help they put me on an anti-depressant (one more thing I used to not "believe in" doing until it effected me). It has really helped me a lot, but one side effect is it has pretty much killed my libido. I don't necessarily mind it and in fact find it strangely liberating. I can focus my thoughts on more productive things and feel more in control of my mind and body.
Not a confession, but I highly recommend the book "Always the fat kid" - felt like I was reading my own biography and it really helped me understand myself.
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