Do you post "gym selfies?"
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MakePeasNotWar wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
but therein is the problem.
I have friends that CONSTANTLY talk about struggling with their weight, and having no time, and not knowing what to do. And yet they're posting recipes for these crazy desserts, and food parties and the like.
If i even hint at the fact that I watch my food... or that I go to the gym... or how I manage my life so that I fit that stuff in... it gets reduced to me saying "look at my abs"
That is bullsh!t.
Nothing I said in the quote you placed said I had abs. I talked about progress made. I talked about the results of putting in time and effort. Training and dedication. You are the one who whittled it down to being about abs. Just like most everyone (non fitness minded) on FB does.
So, if I spend hours and hours crocheting a blanket. Is it safe to post a picture of the blanket? Am I bragging about the blanket? About my skill at chrochet? Am I assuming anyone gives a crap about what I did? I shouldn't assume that my crochet skills are interesting to anyone because they're not on par with volunteering or pushing out a baby?
I never once said you shouldn't post them. I never said they were bragging. I never said no one was interested in them.
I just disagreed that they were on par with volunteering or "pushing out a baby", which were the comparisons you and another poster made in the posts I responded to.
And how exactly do you figure I'm "non fitness minded"? I'm holding a kickboxing championship belt in my profile picture.
I didn't say YOU were not fitness minded.
I was referring to the people on facebook who take offense to fitnessy stuff. The "not fitness minded" was a clarification in reference to the segment of FB people that are not fitness minded. This was stated because more of my friends ARE fitness minded, and they DO like to see that stuff on FB.
The not fitness minded people on FB, don't want to see it. The fitness minded often do.
The problem is that FB is a blend of both, so you are forced to go with the lowest common denominator.
I actually agree with you there. I think the whole "fit shaming" thing is pretty ridiculous, and people read wayyy too much into fitness related photos or posts. If you want to get offended by me posting about my workout, do I get to be offended to hear about how you did on a test, because it means you think I'm stupid? TBH I spend almost no time on FB anymore, because I got tired of trying to determine who a particular post might upset and how badly.
We agree!
ps... you look badass in your profile pic. Job well done.0 -
MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
but therein is the problem.
I have friends that CONSTANTLY talk about struggling with their weight, and having no time, and not knowing what to do. And yet they're posting recipes for these crazy desserts, and food parties and the like.
If i even hint at the fact that I watch my food... or that I go to the gym... or how I manage my life so that I fit that stuff in... it gets reduced to me saying "look at my abs"
That is bullsh!t.
Nothing I said in the quote you placed said I had abs. I talked about progress made. I talked about the results of putting in time and effort. Training and dedication. You are the one who whittled it down to being about abs. Just like most everyone (non fitness minded) on FB does.
So, if I spend hours and hours crocheting a blanket. Is it safe to post a picture of the blanket? Am I bragging about the blanket? About my skill at chrochet? Am I assuming anyone gives a crap about what I did? I shouldn't assume that my crochet skills are interesting to anyone because they're not on par with volunteering or pushing out a baby?
I never once said you shouldn't post them. I never said they were bragging. I never said no one was interested in them.
I just disagreed that they were on par with volunteering or "pushing out a baby", which were the comparisons you and another poster made in the posts I responded to.
And how exactly do you figure I'm "non fitness minded"? I'm holding a kickboxing championship belt in my profile picture.
I didn't say YOU were not fitness minded.
I was referring to the people on facebook who take offense to fitnessy stuff. The "not fitness minded" was a clarification in reference to the segment of FB people that are not fitness minded. This was stated because more of my friends ARE fitness minded, and they DO like to see that stuff on FB.
The not fitness minded people on FB, don't want to see it. The fitness minded often do.
The problem is that FB is a blend of both, so you are forced to go with the lowest common denominator.
I actually agree with you there. I think the whole "fit shaming" thing is pretty ridiculous, and people read wayyy too much into fitness related photos or posts. If you want to get offended by me posting about my workout, do I get to be offended to hear about how you did on a test, because it means you think I'm stupid? TBH I spend almost no time on FB anymore, because I got tired of trying to determine who a particular post might upset and how badly.
We agree!
ps... you look badass in your profile pic. Job well done.
Thanks
(Hope your GIF doesn't offend all the people on MFP who can't agree about anything, though.)
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No but I haven't been to the gym in a while. It's 2 miles away and I don't have a car. The person I joined with no longer goes. I've started running again and now do that twice over, so once I get my bike fixed I'll get on it and start going again. Once I'm there I probably won't. Not my thing.0
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asflatasapancake wrote: »I'm offended and I like it because I'm a narsasistic masochist. Not sure that makes sense. Just go with it.
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MireyGal76 wrote: »Angelfire365 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »I made the mistake of posting a pic on FB that revealed abs. I was in a bathing suit and was fishing with my girls. We caught an amazing bass.
I received a private message from a "friend" telling me to cover up, that the person was shocked that I was so obviously calling attention to myself, and they thought I was a better person than that.
I save them for here now.
?!? I'd delete that friend!! Rock them abs girl!
Thank you. I did, but for other reasons. But I also learned quickly to filter what I post there.
Fitness stuff is saved for my locked down wall here.
Select other stuff goes to facebook, ditto instagram because it's a blend of my two worlds.
Doesn't everyone have to filter? Fat people definitely do. Like I said, I can't post any shirtless pictures. Even if I was thin I'm not sure I could. Then the people who don't like hairy chests would flip out. Again, this is the real issue with the selfie/body photo/etc. The narrow definition of what people think is good looking enough to put into a photo. Unless we get rid of that mentality there will always be this kind of backlash in the opposite direction.
You could choose not to care, or you could dump people who respond like that.0 -
Is anyone else playing a drinking game where they do a shot everytime you read "Brunel University"?
No? Just me?0 -
Gym shelfie!
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darrensurrey wrote: »Gym shelfie!
How dare you post a picture of unevenly folded towels?! Have you no shame?0 -
darrensurrey wrote: »Gym shelfie!
My towels are all wrinkled and tossed in a pile. You just posted that to make me feel bad.
Jerk.
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I'm not a big selfie taker....but if you are gonna do please SMILE! I get pretty annoyed by ducked face selfies0
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no.
i mean, if im going to take a selfie, i want it to be a FLATTERING pic. not hot, sweaty, need a shower and a nap debbie.
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darrensurrey wrote: »Gym shelfie!
deeeeeeeem next level
on topic, it's a non issue. post em if you feel like it, who gives a *kitten*0 -
MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
This refers back to the previous question:
If one is already proud of their accomplishment, regardless of what it is, by posting for a public audience to see, does that constitute as 'narcissistic'?
Possibly, yes. Or they're being social.
Are you being narcissistic by posting a study which allows you to showcase your advanced intellect?
Hahah of course not my dear child, I'm a simpleton. It is everyone else here who are the geniuses.0 -
MakePeasNotWar wrote: »darrensurrey wrote: »Gym shelfie!
My towels are all wrinkled and tossed in a pile. You just posted that to make me feel bad.
Jerk.
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thesupremeforce wrote: »darrensurrey wrote: »Gym shelfie!
How dare you post a picture of unevenly folded towels?! Have you no shame?
So nobody accuses me of using Photoshop.
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It's obvious if the original post upsets you or makes you feel like you are being described in the study, than it probably means you are narcissistic and rely on the approval of others.0
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MireyGal76 wrote: »
Sure, but enlighten me if you're going to ask.0 -
Gym selfies annoy the hell out of me; i could walk down to the gym now, stand in front of the mirror then leave. Doesn't say anything about my work out or how dedicated i am.
I think progress pictures are great though; very motivational. But again, i don't see the point on putting them on FB or other social media. Sure, if you're proud and you have made a very obvious difference to yourself and body, then posting one when you reach that point is fantastic. But every week? If you are truly doing this for yourself, then it's unnecessary, and smacks of the need to seek validation from others (and as someone who values their independence highly, those people annoy me too).
On the whole, MOST people annoy me though 0
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